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Would Your Marriage Survive an Affair?
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Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month
Teen Pregnancy in U.S. Hits 40-year Low
May 2012 marks the 11th annual observance of Teen Pregnancy Prevention month, and this year there is good news to share.  According to new research from the Guttmacher Institute, teen pregnancy in the United States has dropped 42 percent from its highest level in 1990.  There has also been a dramatic decrease in teen pregnancy among all racial and ethnic groups since 1990.  While this is a step in the right direction, the U.S. still has the highest rate of teen pregnancy in the western world (nearly 3 in 10 girls get pregnant by age 20).  It is up to parents and concerned adults to continue to reinforce the message to our teens that Sex Has Consequences
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  • Eighty percent of teen moms end up on welfare for the rest of their lives.
  • Children of teen moms are more likely to become teen parents themselves.
  • Teens who complete high school, become employed fulltime and marry before having children are 76 percent more likely to avoid living in poverty. 
 
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National Healthy Marriage Resource Center - May 2012 Newsletter

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Featured this month at the NHMRC

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“Something Important is Going on Here!” Making Connections Between Marriage, Relationship Quality and Health. The health benefits of marriage have been much commented upon in recent years by scholars, public officials, health and human service practitioners, and the media. Married people, we are told, are healthier and live longer, but the significance and practical use of this finding is not clear. Should healthcare professionals and advocates pay attention to this fact? Why is it important to examine the connections between marriage, relationship quality, and health? What can the fields of marriage and relationship education and healthcare contribute to each other? This report summarizes some preliminary answers to these questions reached by healthcare and marriage an relationship experts, brought together for the first time at a conference sponsored by the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center (NHMRC).

Research

May 2012 HHMI Grantee Implementation Evaluation: Marketing, Recruitment and Retention Strategies - As part of the Hispanic Healthy Marriage Initiative (HHMI) Grantee Implementation Evaluation, OPRE published a project brief that describes how grantees craft recruitment messages and strategies and develop and disseminate marketing materials to encourage participation in family strengthening and relationship education services by a broad and diverse Hispanic clientele. HHMI is being conducted for ACF by the Lewin Group and its partners, the University of Houston’s Graduate School of Social Work and Washington University’s Center for Latino Family Research.

March 2012 Supporting Healthy Marriage (SHM) Report - The study found that across the eight programs evaluated, the SHM program produced a consistent pattern of positive effects on multiple aspects of couples’ relationships, including higher levels of marital happiness; fewer negative behaviors and emotions in their interactions with each other; and less psychological and physical abuse from their spouses.

First Marriages in the United States: Data From the 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth - This report shows trends and group differences in current marital status, with a focus on first marriages among women and men aged 15–44 years in the United States. Trends and group differences in the timing and duration of first marriages are also discussed. These data are based on the 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG). National estimates of probabilities of first marriage by age and probabilities of separation and divorce for women and men’s first marriages are presented by a variety of demographic characteristics. Data are compared with similar measures for 1982, 1995, and 2002.

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Data released by Healthy Relationships California (HRC) from the largest study ever conducted on the impact of Marriage Education classes showed that these programs help couples significantly improve their communication and levels of relationship satisfaction. Surveying 17,245 Californians who took one of several programs available for couples, HRC found a statewide average increase of more than 13% in relationship satisfaction immediately after taking a Marriage Education course, and that this improvement increased to 16% after [...] Read more »

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News and Notes

April 2012 

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The National Center for Family & Marriage Research (NCFMR), established in 2007 at Bowling Green State University (BGSU), welcomes you to News and Notes, our monthly electronic newsletter. News and Notes aims to keep you informed about the activities of the NCFMR. We will also announce funding and research opportunities, provide registration details for conferences and workshops, and keep you updated on current research findings.

 

 

Conference and Poster Session Registration Remain Open for the...
Fathers & Fathering in
Contemporary Contexts
2012 Research Conference

The goal of this conference is to move forward our understanding of fathers and fathering in contemporary contexts and examine their linkages to well-being. The panel of interdisciplinary researchers will discuss cutting-edge topics on fatherhood and fathering by sharing new theoretical, empirical, methodological, and measurement insights. Link to Conference Agenda and Webpage.

Register Now!

Limited Conference Seating Remains Available
  • Please email your name, title, and affiliation to ncfmr@bgsu.edu. After registering, you will receive a confirmation email with further details.

Enter Your Research Poster!
Limited Small Poster Session Space Available
  • The second day of the Fathers & Fathering conference will include a poster session featuring a novel format of small posters (40 x 30 inches) on issues related to the theme of the conference, Fathers & Fathering. After registering, you will receive a confirmation email with further details.
 
 
 
Cohabiting Men are Most Likely to be Nonresident Fathers

One in five currently cohabiting men (20%) has a minor, nonresident child. Married and single men are only about half as likely to have a nonresident child. About 12% of married men and 10% of single men (not living in a co-residential union) have a nonresident child. The NCFMR research team explores the prevalence of nonresident fatherhood across other key characteristics such as race/ethnicity and educational attainment in its new family profile titled "Who are Nonresident Fathers? Demographic Characteristics of Nonresident Fathers."

Percentage of Men (15-44) with a Nonresident Child by Current Relationship Status
Nonresident Fathers Bar Chart
Source: NSFG 2006-2010 Male Data File.
 

 

 
What's New at the NCFMR...
 

Family Profiles

Original reports summarizing and analyzing nationally representative data with the goal to provide the latest analysis of U.S. families.


The Data Source

Documents describing newly released data sets used by the family research community.


NCFMR in the News
For a full list of NCFMR in the News items and for media links to each item, visit the NCFMR in the News webpage. 

  • NCFMR Co-Director Susan Brown's Research Addresses New National Trend: "The Gray Divorce Revolution"
  • Wendy Manning, NCFMR Co-Director, Comments on the "Cohabitation Effect"
  • Susan Brown, NCFMR Co-Director, and I-Fen Lin, NCFMR Research Affiliate, Find More Boomers are Choosing to Go it Alone
  • NCFMR External Grantee Michal Grinstein-Weiss and Colleagues' Research Finds Homeownership May Provide Social Benefits
  • BGSU/NCFMR Research Affiliate Karen Benjamin Guzzo Discusses Cohabitation and Children
  • Research Led by BGSU Psychologist and NCFMR Research Affiliate Kenneth Pargament Addresses Mysticism
  • Wendy Manning and Susan Brown, NCFMR Co-Directors, Find Family Life in America is in Flux
  • NCFMR Research Affiliate Peggy Giordano and Her Colleagues' Research Finds Teenage Boys as Emotionally Invested in Their Romantic Relationships as Girls
NCFMR in the News

 

 
 
 

Susan Brown Receives Olscamp Research Award
(L-R) Gary Lee, BGSU Sociology Professor; Susan Brown, NCFMR Co-Director; and Michael Ogawa, VP Research & Economic Development
    

Congratulations to NCFMR Co-Director and BGSU Sociology Professor Susan Brown who was recently awarded with the prestigious Olscamp Research Award. Achievements and contributions of Bowling Green State University faculty are recognized at an annual reception hosted by the Office of the Provost on the BGSU campus.
 
 
 
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U.S. Census Bureau Releases 2010 Census Briefs

The U.S. Census Bureau released a 2010 Census brief April 26. Households and Families: 2010 shows interracial and interethnic opposite-sex married couple households grew by 28% over the decade. Visit the Census Bureau website for details.
 

Upcoming Events 

 

 

May 2012

 

ICPSR Summer Program 

Quantitative Methods of Social Research  

Variety of workshop dates available 

Contact the ICPSR Summer Program for Details 

 

Call for Applications -- NIJ PhD Graduate Research Fellowship Program

Date Due: May 2

Link to U.S. Department of Justice 

 

Call for Applications -- W.E.B. Du Bois Fellowship for Research in Race, Gender, Culture, and Crime

Date Due: May 2

Link to U.S. Department of Justice 

 

New Integrated Fertility Survey Series (IFSS) Data Set Introductory Workshop

To be held at the PAA 2012 Annual Meeting (see PAA below)  

Date: May 2

Link to Population Studies Center (PSC) IFSS Brochure 

 

Population Association of America (PAA) 2012 Annual Meeting

Dates: May 3-5

Link to PAA 

 

Minnesota Gerontological Association Webinar

Nursing Homes and Health

Date: May 8

Link to NCFR Webinar Flyer 

 

Northwest Council on Family Relations Spring Conference

For Better AND Worse: The Revolution in Family Life

Date: May 18

Link to NWCFR 

 

2012 NCFMR Annual Research Conference

Fathers and Fathering in Contemporary Contexts

Dates: May 23-24

Link to NCFMR Conference Website 

 

 

15th Annual Welfare Research and Evaluation Conference

Dates: May 30-June 1

Link to Office of Planning, Research & Evaluation, An Office of the Administration for Children & Families (ACF)   

 

 

June 2012

 

The Center for Research on Families (CRF) -- UMass, Amherst 

Summer 2012 Methodology Workshop Series 

Dates: Varied Dates in June

Link to CRF  

 

Alliance for Children and Families Workshop

Serving Those Who Serve: Providing Military Cultural Competent Services

Dates: June 4-5

Link to Alliance for Children and Families  

 

Work and Family Researchers Network Conference (WFRN) 
Dates: June 14-16

NCFR Report Seeks Family Studies Articles
Open Mic
Date Due: June 21

July 2012

 

International Association for Relationship Research Conference (IARR) 

Dates: July 12-16

Link to IARR 

 

ICPSR Summer Courses on Data Science -- Michigan State University  

Link to Michigan State University 

  • Dyadic Data Analysis Workshop
    Dates: July 23-27
  • Assessing and Mitigating Disclosure Risk: Essentials for Social Science
    Dates: July 30-August 3
  • Providing Social Science Data Services: Strategies for Design and Operation
    Dates: August 6-10 

Add Health 2012 Users Conference

Dates: July 26-27

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Data Training and Users Workshop for the Longitudinal Study of Generations

Dates: July 26-27

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Generosity in Relationships

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How generous are you in your relationship?
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Are you generous with your spouse or do you find yourself withholding instead of giving? We are often generous with the people we care about, like our family, friends and neighbors. We are generous with those in need. But how generous are we with our spouse? 

 

Are you generous...

...with your time-both time together and time apart?
...with your forgiveness-are you quick to forgive?
...in listening when your spouse needs to talk-really listening rather than trying to solve?
...in your physical relationship-do you "give" more than you "receive" and if so, do you give with a joyful heart?
...with your vulnerability and honesty-are you sharing deeply from the heart?
...with your possessions-are your belongings "mine" or "ours"?

 

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Serving

Posted: 21 Apr 2012 09:28 AM PDT

 

The letter “S” provided several options for today’s A to Z Challenge post: sharing, selflessness, sacrifice, support…but I decided to go with Serving, because it encompasses a little of all of those things.

&copy; Mark Aplet Fotolia.com 197402 XS 300x200 Serving“What do you do to serve him?” a friend asked me a few years ago when I was dating a new boyfriend. “Um. What do you mean?” I really had no clue. Should I be making him cookies once a week?

She explained her thoughts about relationships {especially marriage} being about “out-serving” each other. I’d always done nice things for boyfriends like making sentimental gifts, cooking and for some, I even did laundry. But now that I think about it, I probably did those things for ME rather than to serve him. {I mean, what guy really wants a homemade frame decorated with red and pink hearts!}

You see, my focus was all about me and my happiness. That’s how I gauged if a relationship was successful.

Now that I’m married, I think I understand a little better what my friend was trying to communicate. She was focused on the concept of being his “helpmate,” which makes a whole lot more sense to me in marriage than it does in dating. It’s not always about doing a bunch of stuff for him. Even though sometimes that’s what it looks like: cooking, laundry, cleaning {kind of} – but those are daily tasks we try to share so that one person doesn’t always carry the whole load.

Really, what serving looks like today involves asking the question, Am I putting him first? Or am I more concerned about my needs? Do I notice his weariness at the end of the day, when all I want to do is tell him how my day went? Am I aware of his love-language-need for physical touch, and am I responding in a loving, welcoming way? Have we recently had “shoulder-to-shoulder” time engaged in an activity he enjoys? What am I doing to encourage him and affirm all the ways he serves and cares for me?

Serving is not about balance, doing your equal share or even fairness…because that perspective is still self-focused. I think my friend was right. It’s about both of us doing whatever we can every day to care for the other.

How are you serving your spouse?

Photo credit: © Mark Aplet – Fotolia.com


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