From: First Things First <ftf@firstthings.org>
Date: Thu, May 10, 2012 at 1:05 PM
Subject: Would Your Marriage Survive an Affair? | FTF eNews May Vol. 1
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From: National Healthy Marriage Resource Center [mailto:info@healthymarriageinfo.org]
Sent: Tuesday, May 08, 2012 9:04 AM
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Subject: National Healthy Marriage Resource Center - May 2012 Newsletter
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Research May 2012 HHMI Grantee Implementation Evaluation: Marketing, Recruitment and Retention Strategies - As part of the Hispanic Healthy Marriage Initiative (HHMI) Grantee Implementation Evaluation, OPRE published a project brief that describes how grantees craft recruitment messages and strategies and develop and disseminate marketing materials to encourage participation in family strengthening and relationship education services by a broad and diverse Hispanic clientele. HHMI is being conducted for ACF by the Lewin Group and its partners, the University of Houston’s Graduate School of Social Work and Washington University’s Center for Latino Family Research. March 2012 Supporting Healthy Marriage (SHM) Report - The study found that across the eight programs evaluated, the SHM program produced a consistent pattern of positive effects on multiple aspects of couples’ relationships, including higher levels of marital happiness; fewer negative behaviors and emotions in their interactions with each other; and less psychological and physical abuse from their spouses. First Marriages in the United States: Data From the 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth - This report shows trends and group differences in current marital status, with a focus on first marriages among women and men aged 15–44 years in the United States. Trends and group differences in the timing and duration of first marriages are also discussed. These data are based on the 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG). National estimates of probabilities of first marriage by age and probabilities of separation and divorce for women and men’s first marriages are presented by a variety of demographic characteristics. Data are compared with similar measures for 1982, 1995, and 2002. Upcoming Conferences
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Data released by Healthy Relationships California (HRC) from the largest study ever conducted on the impact of Marriage Education classes showed that these programs help couples significantly improve their communication and levels of relationship satisfaction. Surveying 17,245 Californians who took one of several programs available for couples, HRC found a statewide average increase of more than 13% in relationship satisfaction immediately after taking a Marriage Education course, and that this improvement increased to 16% after [...] Read more »
The M.Guy Tweet « Family Scholars The National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education, NARME, is holding its second annual conference in Baltimore, Maryland on July 19-25, 2012 ... familyscholars.org/2012/04/30/the-m-guy-tweet-42/ |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2012 09:28 AM PDT
The letter “S” provided several options for today’s A to Z Challenge post: sharing, selflessness, sacrifice, support…but I decided to go with Serving, because it encompasses a little of all of those things. “What do you do to serve him?” a friend asked me a few years ago when I was dating a new boyfriend. “Um. What do you mean?” I really had no clue. Should I be making him cookies once a week? She explained her thoughts about relationships {especially marriage} being about “out-serving” each other. I’d always done nice things for boyfriends like making sentimental gifts, cooking and for some, I even did laundry. But now that I think about it, I probably did those things for ME rather than to serve him. {I mean, what guy really wants a homemade frame decorated with red and pink hearts!} You see, my focus was all about me and my happiness. That’s how I gauged if a relationship was successful. Now that I’m married, I think I understand a little better what my friend was trying to communicate. She was focused on the concept of being his “helpmate,” which makes a whole lot more sense to me in marriage than it does in dating. It’s not always about doing a bunch of stuff for him. Even though sometimes that’s what it looks like: cooking, laundry, cleaning {kind of} – but those are daily tasks we try to share so that one person doesn’t always carry the whole load. Really, what serving looks like today involves asking the question, Am I putting him first? Or am I more concerned about my needs? Do I notice his weariness at the end of the day, when all I want to do is tell him how my day went? Am I aware of his love-language-need for physical touch, and am I responding in a loving, welcoming way? Have we recently had “shoulder-to-shoulder” time engaged in an activity he enjoys? What am I doing to encourage him and affirm all the ways he serves and cares for me? Serving is not about balance, doing your equal share or even fairness…because that perspective is still self-focused. I think my friend was right. It’s about both of us doing whatever we can every day to care for the other. How are you serving your spouse?Photo credit: © Mark Aplet – Fotolia.com © Editor for Live Simply Love, 2012. | Permalink | No comment | Add to del.icio.us |
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The M.Guy Tweet « Family Scholars How to Maintain a Healthy Marriage (in Good Times and Bad), heallovebe. A reporter asked the couple, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years? familyscholars.org/2012/04/14/the-m-guy-tweet-40/ |