Fwd: Mate Value / Brian and Tina / Older Relationships Research / Toenails - July 4, 2015

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From: "Smartmarriages" <smartmarriages@lists101.his.com>
Date: Jul 4, 2015 2:45 PM
Subject: Mate Value / Brian and Tina / Older Relationships Research / Toenails - July 4, 2015
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- Love at Gradually Evolving Sight: For Couples, Time Can Upend the Laws of Attraction
- Brian and Tina: Creating Their Own Gramma Week
- Study Seeking Older Adults (62+) to Participate in an Internet-based Relationship Education Program
- Who Will Clip Your Toenails?
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- Love at Gradually Evolving Sight: For Couples, Time Can Upend the Laws of Attraction
Science Times, New York Times, July 30, 2015
We all know of a man or woman who left their marriage for someone who is much less attractive than their spouse. This fascinating research on mate value explains the phenomenon.
http://tinyurl.com/ppw4m9c
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- Brian and Tina: Creating Their Own Gramma Week
Subscribers to this list know all about Gramma Week. I wrote many times about my grandchildren spending a few weeks at my house every summer and about all the benefits that come with this tradition – in addition to  the obvious ones for me. Besides getting this time with them, it gathered them all together where they could spend time with their cousins but it also gave their parents a romantic marriage vacation to which they could look forward, each year. One of my sons told me that this time alone together without the kids convinced him and his wife they would have no problem at all with an empty nest. I figure, that along with marriage education classes, these Gramma Weeks were a great form of marriage insurance for my kids. Many of you, over the years, have told me you established the same tradition for your kids. Others wrote to express envy – said your parents were no longer alive or were not able to take care of your kids for a long getaway. Which is why I am sharing this idea from Brian and Tina. They intentionally and creatively used the week their daughter would be away at summer camp for a very focused marriage vacation. If you have more than one child, it would mean careful planning to find them all a camp during the same week. You can do it. Brian calls it MAM time (he says that stands for Me And Mommy time) and says their week of focus on just the two of them let them know that they are the same people they were back in the day -- exploring and appreciating each other has restored our faith that we made the right decision for our life partners. Go here and scroll down to get ideas for your MAM dates: https://www.facebook.com/watersgolf?fref=ts
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- Study Seeking Older Adults (62+) to Participate in an Internet-based Relationship Education Program
This study just needs a few more participants and help with their work in trying to reduce the rapidly increasing divorce rates in the over 60 population.  Participants get FREE access to an online Relationship Education program plus a $10 gift card for completing a relationship survey.  If you are a fit, please participate. Everyone please forward this to your lists.
http://slidingvsdeciding.blogspot.com/2015/05/study-seeking-older-adults-to.html
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- Who Will Clip Your Toenails?
Speaking of finding ways and means and reasons for keeping our marriages and families together through great research or just observing the world around us, leave it to Scott Stanley to tell it like it is. I can see him doing one of his wonderful keynotes on this, with slides that bring us to laughter and tears.
http://slidingvsdeciding.blogspot.com/2015/06/who-will-clip-your-toenails-when-you.html