tag:billcoffin.org,2013:/posts Coffin Corner 2017-09-21T22:22:25Z Bill Coffin tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1192933 2017-09-21T22:22:25Z 2017-09-21T22:22:25Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. September 22, 2017

The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy

3. US: House Ways and Means advances legislation to reauthorize home visitation program (Press release)
National Association of Counties (NACO) - September 19, 2017
On September 13, members of the House Ways and Means Committee voted to advance H.R. 2824, the Increasing Opportunity and Success for Children and Parents through Evidence-Based Home Visiting Act. The bill would reauthorize the Maternal, Infant and Early Childhood Home Visiting Program (MIECHV) Program at its current level of $400 million per year for Fiscal Years 2018 - 2022. H.R. 2824 will require a vote on the House floor and consideration in the Senate before becoming law.




Couples weather bickering with a little help from their friends

University of Texas at Austin


7. Women Know Better What Other Women Think and Feel: Gender Effects on Mindreading across the Adult Life Span

Renata Wacker1,2*, Sven Bölte3 and Isabel Dziobek2

EDITED BY Mariska E. Kret Leiden University, Netherlands

8. Americans see men as the financial providers, even as women’s contributions grow


Adina Solomon 


10. Six points on race and culture in America. Camille Busette, Richard V. Reeves, and Eleanor Krause share key takeaways from a recent conversation on race, class, and culture in America with J.D. Vance, author of "Hillbilly Elegy" and William Julius Wilson, author of "The Truly Disadvantaged."

11. Married, Bored, and Confused
An all-too-modern look at monogamy.

Thanks Alysse


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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1191242 2017-09-14T19:06:35Z 2017-09-14T19:06:36Z Candidates for Friday Five
Fathers learn to relate to their children through CA R3 Academy classes


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Why Stinky Socks May Bother Women More Than Men


4. Parents Building Trust Through Emotional Intelligence

5. U.S. Commission on Evidence-Based Policymaking Releases Report

6.      A Manifesto to strengthen Families

More than 50 Tory MPs and peers are calling on the government to create a cabinet-level families minister post to better co-ordinate family policy across departments. The group, of 44 MPs and eight peers, including former Education Secretary Nicky Morgan, ex-Pensions Secretary Iain Duncan Smith and former children's minister Tim Loughton, also wants a senior minister in all government departments to measure how policies impact on families.


The group's Strengthening Families Manifesto wants to see a future Families Secretary's cross-governmental brief added to an existing cabinet post, such as Secretary of State for Work and Pensions, and backed by its own budget and civil service team. ​

State-Led Evaluations of Family Engagement: The Maternal, Infant, and Early Childhood Home Visiting Program

Penn State’s 25th Annual Symposium on Family Issues to be held Oct. 23-24

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New research says this kind of daily prayer can change your marriage
Calah Alexander

How Do Close Relationships Lead to Longer Life?

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Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1189538 2017-09-07T18:43:12Z 2017-09-07T18:43:13Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. Japan Is No Place for Single Mothers


2. Returning to the Rust Belt

3. The March 2017 issue of Journal of Family Theory & Review is free and open to the public in the Wiley Online Library.


Call for Papers: Contemporary Perspectives in Family Research

The Work-Family Interface: Spillover, Complications, and Challenges

4. Dads influence teen daughters’ decisions on sex

5.  The deadline has been extended to Friday, September 15th for the Call for Proposals for the 2018 Research and Evaluation Conference on Self-Sufficiency (RECS)! The next RECS will be held May 30 – June 1, 2018 at the Renaissance Hotel in Washington, DC. The Office of Planning, Research, and Evaluation (OPRE) invites proposals for individual presentations and for entire conference sessions. 

6. Iain Duncan Smith warns government over cuts to relationship counselling

7. The occupations with the highest and lowest divorce rates in the US



Partnership shift. Men are now more likely to marry up

Marc Beaulieu

A Guy Read 50 Years Worth of Relationship Studies. He Came Up With 17 Strategies

9. Long hours and longings

Jennifer Baxter, Lyndall Strazdins and Jianghong Li

10. Marriage rate down, divorce rate up as more Chinese couples say ‘I don’t’ or ‘I won’t any more’


China wants to talk its people into marriage and out of divorce

Echo Huang

11. Committee on Building an Agenda to Reduce the Number of Children in Poverty by Half in 10 Years

Thanks Alysse

Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1187703 2017-08-31T03:27:03Z 2017-08-31T03:27:04Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. To celebrate the first five years of Marriage Foundation, we have produced an easy-reading four-page briefing (click here to download) that summarises what we've achieved, where we are going next, our most important findings (see column right), and a brief outline of the case for marriage. 

National Research Summit on Care, Services, and Supports for Persons with Dementia and Their Caregivers
October 16
17, 2017 
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open to the public

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The Science of Happiness

A free online course exploring the roots of a happy, meaningful life. Next session starts Sept. 5, 2017.

Preventing sexual violence starts with what we teach our boys
Maryjo Oster

Training benefits families of kids with limited speech

 Andy Henion-Michigan State

The 'silent epidemic': When your adult child cuts you out of their life
Zoe Reynolds

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As the national marriage rate continues to decline, a look at some young people’s decisions to tie the knot despite criticisms


Sarah Beth Thompson

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Marriage a Blessing for Heart Attack Patients

Steven Reinberg


The 10 counties with the lowest marriage rates in N.J.

Disha Raychaudhuri | NJ Advance Media for NJ.com

11. ​
Do People Who Marry Late in Life Find Happiness?

​  Thanks Alysse​

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1186359 2017-08-24T22:42:21Z 2017-08-24T22:42:21Z Candidates for Friday Five
Integrating SEL into the 3 R's 

 Vicki Zakrzewski
K-12 teachers offer practical—and fun!—ways that social-emotional learning can be integrated into traditional lessons. 


International Commission on Couple and Family Relations


Poverty and the Family
17 & 18 May 2018, University of Salzburg

3.   Child Poverty Reduction messaging Toolkit

 It is finalized and can be found here on the CPAG website.  We will be utilizing this messaging for activity around the Census poverty data.

Bridging the gap on military spouse unemployment

5. The Surprising Demographic That's More Likely to Cheat in Marriage

 Kimberly Lawson

6. National Association of Welfare Research and Statistics: 2017 Conference Presentations Available

 Christian Jarrett


8. Bullying and internet safety are top health concerns for parents


Ten Emotionally Intelligent Ways to Build Trust as a Parent

9. New research shows one kind of teenage friendship is more likely to result in a happier, healthier adulthood

Jenny Anderson@jandersonQZ

10. Transactional marriages were once as common as marriage based on love


America, Home of the Transactional Marriage


Thanks Alysse

Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1184311 2017-08-17T00:01:58Z 2017-08-17T00:01:58Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. Six Ingredients to an Effective Time-Out




3. How to Talk to Kids About Race: Books and Resources That Can Help

by Olugbemisola Rhuday-Perkovich

4. Digital Tools and Distraction in School

Mary Beth Hertz

5. Independent Women


Military spouses share employment challenges during White House visit

6. Paper examines links between parents’ earnings, gender roles, mental health

Sharita Forrest, Education Editor

7. Women, men report similar levels of work-family conflicts

8. Spouses must row marriage boat together

Ken Potts

9. Dating and Mating in the Age of Ambiguity

Stanley NARME 2017 talk POSTED.pdf 

10. Fatherhood Involvement

11. Marriage Matters: Best friends with benefits?

James and Audora Burg

Thanks Alysse

Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1182877 2017-08-12T00:30:38Z 2017-08-12T00:30:39Z Fwd: Marriage Minute: The power of empathy

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The power of empathy

Brené Brown on Empathy

Empathy is the capacity to identify and share someone else’s emotions and experiences. As Brené Brown explains in the clip above, "empathy is feeling with people." 

It's the key to emotional attunement with your partner and it's essential to the Emotion Coaching style of parenting.

To have empathy is to really understand somebody, what they want, what they believe. And not just in the moment, but in general.

No wonder you're upset. 

That would make me mad, too. 

I understand how you feel. 

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1182462 2017-08-10T17:02:20Z 2017-08-10T17:02:20Z
1. Marriage in America is increasingly the province of the college-educated woman

Dan Kopf

2. The new minority on campus? Men

3. International Youth Day 2017

4. How to Reclaim Your Weekend



I Am the Reason My Husband Infuriates Me


5. ISU study: new type of intervention successful in domestic violence cases

6. Frustrated with your spouse? These scientists suggest a specific kind of prayer

 Thomas Burnett 

7. Is Marriage ‘Evolving?’

Naomi Schaefer Riley

8. Parenting Is Not a “Job,” and Marriage Is Not “Work”


9. For better learning in college lectures, lay down the laptop and pick up a pen

Susan M. Dynarski


Thanks Alysse


Final day in OBX this year. Headed to the beach!

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1182260 2017-08-10T01:07:58Z 2017-08-10T01:07:59Z Fwd: What Can the Brain Reveal about Gratitude?

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Your Brain on Gratitude | Why Sex Is So Good for Your Relationship
August 9, 2017
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By Glenn Fox
New research shows that feeling grateful involves the brain networks associated with social bonding and stress relief. 
By Susan Krauss Whitbourne
Find out what the happiness difference is between couples who have sex once a week vs. less than once a month.
By Tchiki Davis
Are you starting your happiness journey? Here are some tips for how to get off on the right foot.
By Belinda Campos
American society would be stronger and safer if it embraced people of all ethnicities.
By Jenn Director Knudsen
According to a new study, children who live with parents with a sensory disability develop greater emotional skills.
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Fighting and arguing can introduce a lot of negativity into romantic relationship. But there are ways to make arguments emotionally easier and this exercise from Greater Good in Action can help.
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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1180093 2017-08-03T13:46:46Z 2017-08-03T13:46:47Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. Published in Personal Relationships.
Hurt, Tera R., Shears, Jeffrey K., Oconnor, Margaret C. & Hodge, Sharon, B. (2017). "Married Black men's observation of fathers' teachings about husbandhood." Personal Relationships, 2017; doi: 10.1111/pere.12171

2. Surveying the Cultural and Economic Sources of America's Discontent

Jennifer A. Marshall@MarshallJenA

3. Parents’ social media habits are teaching children the wrong lessons

Stacey Steinberg

4. Auburn study: Black Americans sleep less than whites, leading to health problems

William Thornton
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5. Grad Student Research on Unfaithful Millennials Garners National Coverage

6. Talking baseball assists aging adults with dementia

Kenneth Best

7. New rules for Muslim minors who want to wed

Charissa Yong

8. Manatee County offers free course to help improve couples’ relationships


9. Half of those thinking of divorce reconsider a year later: University of Alberta study

10. The places where people put off marriage the longest

Dan Kopf 


You're Doomed to a Love/Hate Relationship With Your Siblings

Thanks Alysee


Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1178314 2017-07-29T12:47:45Z 2017-07-29T12:47:45Z Fwd: Have You Hurt Your Spouse?

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Hi Bill,

Most mistakes will have little to no long term effect on your marriage IF you follow these tips when they occur:

How to Handle Mistakes in Marriage
Don’t stick your head in the sand and hope for the best. 

Acknowledging the mistake is the right thing to do. Take responsibility, apologize, make things right.

Identify the Mistake
To learn from your mistake, identify it and seek to understand the root cause.

Often times, our loving spouse (though it might not seem that way at the time :) brings the mistake to our attention. 

But instead of feeling threatened, challenge yourself to do a bit of soul searching to learn and grow from the experience; become a better spouse.

Admit the Mistake
Tell the truth. Hiding and blaming will only make things worse.

If you’ve ever had someone refuse to admit fault when they so clearly wronged you, you know how hurtful it can be. 

You don’t want your spouse getting stuck on knowing you’re hiding something because this blocks the relationship from healing and moving forward. 

As long as your marriage is built on trust, you should feel safe enough to admit your wrongs to your spouse.

Also, admitting that your wrong goes a long way to defuse your partner’s anger.

Accept the Consequences
Mistakes have consequences. 

Just because you deserve to be forgiven doesn’t necessarily release you from facing the consequences of your actions. 

For instance, if you’ve done something to break your husband’s or wife’s trust, he or she may subject you to greater scrutiny the next time a similar situation arises.

Apologizing effectively is a skill that every spouse must learn for a healthy relationship.

This involves taking full responsibility for your actions without making excuses or making it seem as if the situation was out of your control. 

It also involves making amends and not repeating the same mistake.

Make Amends
Making amends can be as simple as returning to the store for a forgotten item or as complex as having to rebuild broken trust in your marriage. 

If there is anything you can do to make things right, do it. 

Do Not Repeat
All the above steps are critical in the process of ensuring the mistake won’t be repeated. 

You’ll think twice about repeating a mistake for which you have suffered the consequences and had to go out of your way to rectify the situation. 

Remembering the pain and hurt you put your spouse through also helps to prevent the mistake from being repeated. 

The last thing you want after working hard to regain your partner’s trust is to break it and then seeing them hurt all over again. 

When you handle mistakes in your marriage correctly, you’re able to heal and save the most important relationship in your life. 

Until next time, this is Mike Tucker and the Mad About Marriage Crew and we want YOU to be mad about marriage. 

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1177493 2017-07-27T03:06:40Z 2017-07-27T03:06:40Z Candidates for Friday Five 189
1. This One Simple Tool Could Save Your Relationship

Chris Wilson

2. Toumbourou, J., Hartman, D., Field, K., Jeffery, R., Brady, J., Heaton, A., Ghayour-Minaie, M., & Heerde, J. (2017). 

Strengthening prevention and early intervention services for families into the future. 
Deakin University and Family and Relationships Services Australia (FRSA)


3. The importance of the first five years: Katharine Stevens’ testimony on Capitol Hill

4. Prepare couples for ups and downs of married life

David Kan

5. Paid grandparental leave: The future for family-friendly workplaces?


 U.S. ranks highly in new index showing how societies are adapting to aging

6. FUSE:  Relationship & Marriage Education



8. Liberals often blame mass incarceration on the war on drugs. That’s not quite right.

German Lopez

9. Marriage notice books – a new source for family historians

Anna Manthorpe


11. American-Japanese couple juggles marriage with service to their respective nations

12. Framing messages to engage fathers in the first 1000 days

Richard Fletcher, Jennifer StGeorge and Chris May
 11:30 PM (23:30) Previous Day Eastern Daylight

Thanks Alysse.

Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1177474 2017-07-27T01:18:17Z 2017-07-27T01:18:17Z Fwd: CoupleTalk - Universal Version of RE Program now available

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Hi Everyone,

NIRE is excited to announce a new addition to the RE family of programs. Couple Talk - Universal Version, created by Don and Alex Flecky, is a video-based communication skills program for all couples. Subtitled as "A Video Version of Dr. Bernard Guerney's Relationship Enhancement® Program," CoupleTalk Universal does not include faith content and is suitable for use in community and federally-funded programs. It provides skills training in communication and conflict resolution using the research-proven RE skills, with their emphasis on empathy. 

CoupleTalk does not require a trained facilitator - video sessions can be accessed on DVDs or by online streaming. The program can be used in classes, as a supplement in counseling, or by a couple at home. It includes a number of distance learning elements to deepen understanding and enhance behavior change. The 10 video sessions are used with accompanying workbooks, and the entire 15 hour program, including four workbooks, can be purchased by a couple for as little as $150. The online community also includes shorter session options for situations where a 90 minute session is too long. 

CoupleTalk Universal will be debuting this month at NARME (National Association of Relationship and Marriage Education) in Denver. For more info and to order, go to www.coupletalk.com

Rob Scuka, PhD
Executive Director

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1177118 2017-07-26T01:21:19Z 2017-07-26T01:21:19Z Fwd: Better Marriages Bookstore Blowout

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1175485 2017-07-20T16:05:13Z 2017-07-20T16:05:14Z Candidates for Friday Five
Americans are most likely to follow their parents into these 20 professions
Dan Kopf

Read the Summer 2016 of CFLE Network, featuring articles on the topic of Family Fun.

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Research suggests that being compassionate can improve health, well-being, and relationships. Find out more about this key to well-being, and how you can cultivate it in your own life!


By Jaime Kurtz
Just in time for peak summer travel season, tips on using the science of happiness to make your holiday better.

Now is the government’s chance to promote marriage and tackle our social problems

How to Talk to Your Political Other

Skills for talking across the divide

If we want to solve our nation's problems, we need to strengthen families



Number of divorces continues to rise, while fewer tie the knot

Cubby house building in Belair National Park bucks children's 'structured lives'

 Why Young Adults May Embrace Jane Austen’s ‘Happily Ever After’ In Marriage

By Elizabeth Kantor


Making Peace With Jane Austen’s Marriage Plots


Kids in High-Stress Environments May Develop Unique Skills

University Communications and University of Utah

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Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1173199 2017-07-13T17:55:52Z 2017-07-13T17:55:52Z Candidates for Friday Five

Three Innovative Approaches to Serving Low-Income Fathers: The Building Bridges and Bonds Study

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Give me a sign: What Signals Commitment?

Dr. Scott Stanley

Is slowness the essence of knowledge?

Eloise Stark looks at whether ‘slow and steady wins the race’.

Effects of early parenting interventions on parents and infants
Joanne Commerford

What Is Altruism?

National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families Virtual Training Center

7. How to Manage: Let Employees Put Family First. It's Good for Business.

8. ​Hundreds of Orgs Sign On to Call for Expansion of Federal Home Visiting Program

July 20, 2017

The 2017 Index of Culture and Opportunity: The Social and Economic Trends that Shape America


Harry Benson | Director of Research

We’re not ready for the ‘silver tsunami’ of older adults living with cance

Keith M. Bellizzi

Who Gets More Out of Marriage, Women or Men?
Ben Steverman

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1172889 2017-07-12T18:40:30Z 2017-07-12T18:40:30Z Fwd: Louise Guerney's revised edition of Parenting: A Skills Training Manual is available
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Hi Everyone,
The revised 6th edition of Louise Guerney's much acclaimed Parenting: A Skills Training Manual is available for bulk purchase at a discounted rate.
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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1171165 2017-07-06T23:16:25Z 2017-07-06T23:16:25Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. What America’s ‘Baby Bust’ Means for Public Policy

Married People Have More Sex


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Increase Empathy in the Six Seconds Model of EQ

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8 Great Presidential Love Stories
David Breitenbeck

Children object to losing time with dad to 24/7 economy
Lyndall Strazdins

Supporting families helps the bottom line

Frank Young

Milton Friesen

10. The reasons why millennials move less frequently than previous generations
Dan Kopf

The Fracking Boom, a Baby Boom, and the Retreat From Marriage

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1169310 2017-07-01T00:48:11Z 2017-07-01T00:48:11Z Fwd: Positivity is Contagious

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We know that life can be hard sometimes and that it can take a toll on your relationship - but can positivity play a role in your marriage? 

What is your attitude towards your marriage?

Imagine this: It's a Tuesday morning; you forgot to set your alarm last night. You wake up half an hour late and no longer have time to shower before work. Scrambling to get in on time, you forget to grab an orange - which you have every morning for breakfast. Once you get into work, ten minutes late, you find you are scheduled for a morning meeting ... again. Bewildered by the audacity of your supervisor, you reluctantly accept the scheduled meeting on your computer and start to prepare for it.

Ten thirty rolls around and you walk into the meeting. Everyone is laughing, smiling, having a general good time and you roll your eyes to yourself - it's a Tuesday, why is everyone so cheerful. Twenty minutes into the painfully "fun" meeting you sputter out a chuckle.

What. Where did that come from?

It's almost as if your coworkers' positivity had an impact on your mood.

Believe it or not, the people you spend your time with can affect your attitude towards your day, your week, and even your life in general. When you have a positive outlook, it can help your mood which has been shown to affect your health. Here are some things that a positive outlook can do to affect your life:
  • There's more laughter
  • A valuable source of motivation
  • Attracts other happy people
  • Reduces stress
  • Lowers risk for heart-related health problems
If we know that a positive outlook affects your mood and your health - what if we think about it in terms of your relationship? If you have a poor attitude at work, school, or in general about your life you may be projecting that attitude onto your marriage without knowing it. If you know having a positive outlook on life can lower your health risks, think about what having a positive outlook on your relationship could do for your marriage's health.

Take some time each day to remember the good in your relationship, even when you're running late because your spouse couldn't figure out which tie to wear, or bitter that you missed the bus because your partner was having a bad hair day, or stressed that your partner forgot to pick up more milk for the recipe you are making tonight.  What is your marriage attitude?  A little grace, empathy, and thankfulness might give you the boost you need.  Healthy, happy couples have healthy, happy relationships.

And lastly, remember to smile, it actually won't kill ya!
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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1169242 2017-06-30T20:31:24Z 2017-06-30T20:31:24Z Fwd: ACF Family Room Blog: Research Shows Importance of “Success Sequence”

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Research Shows Importance of “Success Sequence”

June 23, 2017

New report on millennials and avoiding poverty

Steven Wagner, ACF Acting Assistant Secretary for Children and Families

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ACF’s programs are designed to help low-income families, while promoting the healthiest and best choices for Americans to succeed in life. Our Temporary Assistance for Needy Families program, for instance, has specific purposes in its statute, including promoting job preparation, work and marriage; preventing out-of-wedlock pregnancies; and encouraging two-parent married families.

new report shows how crucial the “success sequence” is for young adults to avoid poverty. Authored by Brad Wilcox and Wendy Wang of the American Enterprise Institute and the Institute for Family Studies, it states: “Millennials are much more likely to flourish financially if they follow the ‘success sequence’—getting at least a high school degree, working full-time, and marrying before having any children, in that order.”

The statistics are worth looking at. The report shows, for instance, “95 percent of millennials who married first are not poor, compared to 72 percent who had children first.” Additionally, “71 percent who married before having children made it into the middle or higher end of the income distribution by the time they are age 28-34. By comparison, only 41 percent of millennials from lower-income families who had children first made it into the middle or higher end of the distribution when they reached ages 28-34.”

ACF’s programs offer tools to support healthy decisions. Our abstinence education programs – block grants to states, and funding for local grantees – aim to deliver promising approaches to reducing out-of-wedlock pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. And our healthy marriage program offers a range of activities, including premarital education and marriage skills training.

Sometimes individuals, particularly young people, who experience poverty and material or emotional need lose hope that they will ever be able to realize their personal goals in life. The Wilcox-Wang research should give them hope. By choosing to achieve these life goals in their proper order, millennials in this research were virtually certain (97 percent) to have avoided poverty, with a mere three percent of those following this path in poverty. The success sequence should be a model on how to achieve good results.

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1168877 2017-06-29T17:46:33Z 2017-06-29T17:46:33Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. CFLE Network, NCFR


Tips for Family Vacations


Toumbourou, J., Hartman, D., Field, K., Jeffery, R., Brady, J., Heaton, A., Ghayour-Minaie, M., Heerde, J. (2017). 
Strengthening prevention and early intervention services for families into the future. Deakin University and FRSA



Spring 2017

3. Evidence Supporting Three Interventions That Might Slow Cognitive Decline and the Onset of Dementia Is Encouraging but Insufficient to Justify a Public Health Campaign Focused on Their Adoption

4. Want to avoid divorce? Don't marry your childhood sweetheart

Olivia Rudgard

5. Love, Lust and Loneliness campaign

6. Men as Dependents? Marriage and Changes in Health Insurance Coverage among Working-age Adults in the United States, 1988 to 2008
Christine Percheski


A Snapshot of Men, Work and Family Relationships in Canada

7. PTSD and marriage: Advice from someone who’s been there

8. Guide: Marriage, Weddings and Money

Amin Dabit, CFP®

9. What American marriages are really like in 2017


7 secrets to a lasting relationship from the hugely popular 'Marriage 101' class

10. Marriage, fatherhood may cause men to gain weight

 Honor Whiteman

Thanks Alysse

Bill Coffin
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NCFR Webinar: July 20 –Invoke, Evoke, Provoke

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NCFR Weekly Zippy News

June 28, 2017

Happy summer! Zippy will take a break the week of July 3 and will return the week of July 10.

Is there an item you'd like considered for inclusion in Zippy News? Read our submission guidelines, then email the information and/or link to Trip Sullivan.

  1. What Science Can Tell Us About Family Fun
  2. NCFR Webinar: Practical Skills to Invoke, Evoke, and Provoke Cultural Engagement
  3. Register for Preconference Workshop: Strengths-Based Leadership Development in Family Science
  4. NCFR Has Moved to Saint Paul
  5. What Influences Financial Behavior in Young Adults?
  6. Call for Papers: Sustainable Futures
  7. Call for Applications: Early Career Work and Family Fellowships
  8. Zippy's Video: What Kids Really Want From Vacation
  9. Employment Opportunities

What Science Can Tell Us About Family Fun

NCFR member Karen K. Melton, Ph.D., CTRS recently appeared on the Talk of Iowa discussing the topic of family vacations with the show's hosts and callers. Listen to an online recording here.

This got us thinking back to last summer's issue of CFLE Network on the topic of Family Fun. For a limited time, we've unlocked several of the issue's articles to the general public (normally only available for Certified Family Life Educators). 

A common theme in these articles is that leisure time is often healthiest for the family when spent at home doing daily activities (Zabriskie & McCormick, 2001). However, there are also many great benefits to family vacations and activities outside the home, which you can learn about in this issue's articles below:

by Karen K. Melton, Ph.D., CTRS

by David L. Briscoe, Ph.D., CFLE

by Jennifer Newquist, Ph.D., CFLE

Read current and past issues of CFLE Network and NCFR Report on our website

Practical Skills for Family Life Educators to
Invoke, Evoke, and Provoke Cultural Engagement

Thursday, July 20, 2017  | 11 a.m. – 12:30 p.m. CST
Approved for 1.5 CFLE contact hours of continuing education credit.

This NCFR webinar is for family life educators interested in cultural engagement. Presenter Marcy L. Peake, MA, LPC, NCC, CFLE, will help you build awareness of your cultural self and take away activities to help provoke cultural engagement with the families you serve.

Family life educators work in a variety of environments that require knowledge, skills, and dispositions to engage diverse populations and create learning spaces that are anti-oppressive for all families. Since families are unique both within and between cultural groups, family life educators can best prepare by learning practical skills that invoke an understanding of their own cultural selves, evoke awareness of societal and individual biases, and provoke cultural engagement with families served. 

“This is an invaluable resource for teaching family life methodology. It will help students gain more awareness of themselves and the potential families with which they’ll work.”
- Jennifer Crosswhite, Ph.D., CFLE, NCFR Director of Research and Policy Education

An archived webinar recording is available with your registration. Classroom licenses are also available.

learn more and register 

NCFR Annual Conference Spotlight

Join us for the 2017 NCFR Annual Conference, Nov. 15 – 18 in Orlando, Florida.
A preliminary schedule is updated weekly and the full revised schedule will be available late summer. For more details, please visit our conference webpage.

Preconference Workshop: 
Strengths-Based Leadership Development in Family Science

Tuesday, Nov. 14, 2017 | 9 a.m.–5:15 p.m. with coffee beginning at 8:30 a.m.
Cost: $150 | Limited to 40 participants

Open to all current Family Science leaders, this preconference workshop is designed to create opportunities for participants to learn about their personal leadership strengths, as well as how those abilities interact with the strengths of fellow faculty and staff members. We also will discuss how those strengths can be used to tackle problems faced by academic administrators such as managing difficult conversations and working effectively with deans and other upper level administrators.

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NCFR Has Moved to Saint Paul

Unpacked and Ready to Assist You

NCFR headquarters is staying in Minnesota, but we've moved from Minneapolis just across the Mississippi River into Saint Paul.

Please note our new mailing address:
National Council on Family Relations
661 LaSalle Street, Suite 200
Saint Paul, MN 55114

Our phone numbers, email, and website addresses will stay the same.
Main office: 763-781-9331 or toll free at 888-781-9331

What Influences Financial Behavior in Young Adults?

New Research on Family Financial Management  

The June 2017 issue of Journal of Financial Counseling and Planning features topics relevant to family life educators and researchers. Subjects include how young adults' financial behavior relates to their financial satisfaction, and gender differences in adolescent work behavior.

read abstracts 
(You will need to scroll down to see articles)

Call for Papers: Sustainable Futures

The Society for Applied Anthropology (SfAA) invites abstracts (sessions, papers and posters) for the program of the 78th Annual Meeting in Philadelphia, PA, April 3-7, 2018. The theme of the Program is “Sustainable Futures.” The society is a multidisciplinary association that focuses on problem definition and resolution. Papers from all disciplines are welcome. The deadline for abstract submission is Oct. 15, 2017. 

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Call for Applications: Early Career Work and Family Fellowships

The Work and Family Researchers Network (WFRN) is seeking applicants for 2018 Early Career Work and Family Fellowships. The goal of the program is to help promising young scholars establish career successes, as well as integrate them within the WFRN research community. Fifteen scholars will be selected for the program. Fellows receive a one year membership in the WFRN, conference registration, and $500 to help defer expenses to attend a preconference meeting and the 2018 WFRN Conference (to be held June 21-23 in Washington DC). 

learn more and apply

Zippy's Video of the Week

Kid President is here to give parents everywhere some insider information on what kids really want out of a vacation. Roller coasters? Room service? The answer may just surprise you!

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Employment Opportunities

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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1166673 2017-06-23T00:03:03Z 2017-06-23T00:03:03Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. In Sickness and in Health: the quote I mutter like a mantra

Rebecca Armstrong

2. How to help social and behavioral research findings make their way into practice settings

William T. Riley

3. ACF OPRE News Vol. 5 Issue 10 - June 15, 2017


4. Parents as Partners featured in North East newspaper

5. Twitter Chat: Military Experts Answer Your Questions on PTSD, Stress

6. Parenting and Family Studies Alliance

7. Registration now open for 25th annual National Symposium on Family Issues
‘Family and Technology’ to be held Oct. 23-24

Brooke McCord

Newton Daily News

The curriculum consists of 8 modules, which are based on the National Extension Relationship and Marriage Education Model (NERMEM). Brown ...

9. State-Wide Fatherhood Program, The R3 Academy, Launches In July In The Inland Empire

10. Meet the out-of-work

Martha Ross and Natalie Holmes
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Starfield Library

Posted: 16 Jun 2017 04:07 AM PDT

Shinsegae Property has officially opened the large-scale library in Starfield Coex Mall, featuring some 50,000 books placed on towering two-story bookshelves. The 2,800 square meter-sized library is located at the center of the underground shopping mall. Shoppers can freely browse, read and search for books of their choice on kiosks stationed at various points inside the open library area.
Korea Herald

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This Week on Family-Studies

The Institute for Family Studies and AEI released a new report by Wendy Wang and W. Bradford Wilcox, The Millennial Success Sequence: Marriage, Kids, and the "Success Sequence" among Young Adults

Alysse ElHage summarized the report's findings on the link between married parenthood and Millennials' financial well-being. She also interviewed journalist Regina R. Robertson about her new book, He Never Came Home. Amy Zeittlow and Naomi Cahn shared insights from their research on stepfathers, and Nora Sullivan discussed a recent study on how ambitious young women deal with the "trade-off" of career and marriage.

Marriage and Millennial Success

by Alysse ElHage

Millennials who put marriage before parenthood are more likely to be on track to the American Dream, according to a new IFS/AEI report. Getting married before having a first child reduces their odds of being in poverty by 60%.

Daughters, Father Loss, & Longing

an Interview with Regina R. Robertson

"Many women had such vivid memories of their fathers, from the smell of his cologne to his being he the world’s best tickler. It was amazing to hear about how much they loved their dads and all of the beautiful reasons why."

Prioritizing Family Over Career  

by Nora Sullivan

In a recent study, 68% of single female students placed in an all-female group said they'd prefer a higher-paying job with more hours to a lower salary job with fewer hours. But in a mixed group, only 42% chose the higher-earning job. 

Honoring Stepfathers

by Amy Zeittlow & Naomi Cahn

Today, more than 40% of Americans have at least one step-relative in their family. A stepfather faces unique challenges, so he needs to make extra effort to create a positive relationship.

IFS Around the Web

This week, AEI hosted a panel discussion of our new report, The Millennial Success Sequence. Also, Wendy Wang and W. Bradford Wilcox joined Ian Rowe of Public Prep Network to discuss the report on a Banter podcast. The report was also highlighted by Robert VerBruggen in National Review.

Dads, Kids, and Baseball

by Kevin E. Stuart

A recent study finds a connection between father-presence and baseball: Kids are about 25% more likely to play baseball or softball when they live with their dad. [From the Archives]

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Subway library train

Posted: 12 Jun 2017 12:46 AM PDT

For the next six weeks, any member of the public in New York can head to subwaylibrary.com or download the New York Public Library's reader app, SimplyE, to have unlimited access to a wide selection of NYPL-provided e-books. The initiative also aims to promote the free Wi-Fi service at each of the subway's underground stations, which rolled out late last year. When users log onto the service, a link to the Subway Library website will appear, encouraging you to read a book instead of your Facebook feed.

Library Train is designed to look like the iconic Rose Reading Room with the seats and walls on each car made to resemble bookshelves (and a faux–Gilded Age ceiling to boot). The train is scheduled to run on the E and F lines between Brooklyn, Manhattan and Queens.

TimeOut  and New York Public Library
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tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1161629 2017-06-07T21:10:27Z 2017-06-07T21:10:27Z Candidates for Friday Five




AECF: Not enough is being done to help children overcome "toxic stress"


3. Millennials Want More From Love Than Hookups, Study Finds

 Mariana Barillas


4. How parents can find patience and empathy, even in a moment of frustration

Lauren Knight


Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1159758 2017-06-01T20:35:45Z 2017-06-01T20:35:45Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. Penn State Named Site of National Child Abuse Prevention Center

2 Engaging Parents, Developing Leaders
    A Self-Assessment and Planning Tool for Nonprofits and Schools
By the Annie E. Casey Foundation


Cash assistance for child poverty

4. Three Ways to Start the Conversation About Mental Health Treatment


​6. Teenage pregnancies decline as funding for sex education is cut

Oliver Moody, Science Correspondent​


​7.           CARE – briefing on marriage for 2017 Election

CARE have produced a useful briefing paper in preparation for the forthcoming election summarising the recent government actions relating to marriage. 


Free download today! Our "Social and Emotional Learning" issue edited by Stephanie Jones and Emily Doolittle … 


11. When Is Sacrifice Bad for Your Relationship?

 Amie M. Gordon 

Why Kids Need to Learn How to Forgive

 Hank Pellissier

12. ‘Commuter Marriages’ Actually Strengthen Some Relationships, Study Finds

Thanks Alysse

Bill Coffin
tag:billcoffin.org,2013:Post/1157420 2017-05-25T21:57:35Z 2017-05-25T21:57:35Z Candidates for Friday Five
1. Helping Fathers Support Their Children


The future of school-based social and emotional learning programs
A Future of Children event with remarks by Special Olympic Committee President Timothy Shriver

Wednesday, May 31, 2017, 9:00 — 11:00 a.m. EDT
The Brookings Institution, Falk Auditorium, 1775 Massachusetts Avenue, N.W.
Washington, DC 20036

RSVP to Attend in Person
RSVP for the webcast

3. Happy Couples Focus on Each Other’s Strengths

 Kira M. Newman 

4. There are 3 warning signs a couple's relationship could be at risk after having a baby

William Emmons, Lead Economist, and Lowell Ricketts

If you want teens to thrive, teach them to avoid sexual risks

By Valerie Huber

Risk reduction approaches sell them short. 
Read the full article

7. Twenty Ideas on Marriage

8. Millennials and the ‘success sequence’: How do education, work, and marriage affect poverty and financial success among millennials? 

Wednesday, June 14, 2017 | 9:00–11:30 AM

AEI, Auditorium | 1789 Massachusetts Avenue, NW | Washington, DC 20036

Join AEI for a discussion of a new report by W. Bradford Wilcox and Wendy Wang showing how millennials who follow the “success sequence” — completing high school, getting a job, and marrying before having a child — are more likely to steer clear of poverty and into the middle class.

RSVP Watch Live Online    


Dr. Scott Stanley

Thanks Alysse

Bill Coffin
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11. Men aren't able to be the fathers they want to be, according to new research.
David Sharaz

On Wed, May 17, 2017 at 10:01 PM, Bill Coffin <billcoffin68@gmail.com> wrote:
1. What Does 'Mom' Mean Now That They’re Grown?

 Kate Marshall

2. You have free access to this content
Clarifying the Association Between Mother–Father Relationship Aggression and Parenting (pages 161–178)

Kei Nomaguchi, Wendi L. Johnson, Mallory D. Minter and Lindsey Aldrich

Version of Record online: 15 SEP 2016 | DOI: 10.1111/jomf.12354

3. Relationships Alliance Manifesto 2017

4. Society for Prevention Research honors Penn State researchers


4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!: Including the "12-Day Communication Challenge!"



– May 14, 2017

6. Lessons in love: how a Hong Kong marriage school can teach couples to live happily ever after

Kate Whitehead

8. ‘The Bell Curve’, explained: Part IV, living together

Charles Murray@charlesmurray


Male Earnings, Marriageable Men, and Nonmarital Fertility: Evidence from the Fracking Boom

Melissa S. KearneyRiley Wilson

OR WAPO version

10. When it comes to marriage, South Carolina is happy hunting grounds for NC men, women

Thanks Alysse.

Bill Coffin