Coffin Corner

MARRIAGE MATTERS

A Proposal for Michelle Obama's Next Campaign

By Abby W. Schachter / The Wall Street Journal, January 14, 2013

The first lady can help kids by encouraging marriage the way she has helped them by encouraging exercise.

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Watch this quick 4-minute video to learn the latest facts about marriage, what you can do for your own marriage, and how you can impact your community!

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Launch a marriage class or event for National Marriage Week -- the week leading up to Valentine's Day!

One idea: Order the new, entertaining 90-minute DVD,
DATE NIGHT CHALLENGE, and show it at a dessert gathering in your home or a potluck dinner at church!

This entertaining program includes uplifting music by Mark Schultz, hilarious comedy by Michael Jr., inspiring marriage instruction and tips from Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley and more!

Download promotional materials and order here:
www.datenightchallengedvd.com

MARRIAGE TIPS

	Watch this 2-minute video of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of the best-selling book and video conference, Love and Respect.
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Tips about the Power of Love and Respect:
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved. We asked 7,000 people this question: When you are in conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected? 83% of the men said "disrespected." 72% of the women said "unloved."

Though we all need love and respect equally, the felt need differs during conflict. For example, when a woman feels unloved during conflict, her natural reaction is to respond disrespectfully. And when a husband feels disrespected during conflict, his reaction is to respond unlovingly. We call this the Crazy Cycle: "Without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love."

The message the wife is trying to send in her negative reaction (criticism/contempt) is, "I don't feel loved by you right now." The message the husband hears is, "I don't respect you, buster, unless you change immediately." When he reacts either in anger or by stonewalling, the message the wife hears again is, "I don't love you."

Things get crazy because this feeds itself. Her disrespect feeds his lack of love. His unloving reactions feed her disrespect. Round and round it goes.

The good news is that this cycle can be broken. Isn't this exciting? What couples want is love and respect, and the key to long-term marriages is the attitude and action of love and respect. Quoted from www.loveandrespect.com