From: "Sheri & Bob Stritof - About.com Marriage Guide" Date: Aug 9, 2012 8:47:40 AM Subject: About Marriage: 10 Myths That Belong in the Shredder To: billandpatcoffin@VERIZON.NET
Whether it be from watching Cinderella-like happily-ever-after storybook marriage movies, listen to love songs, or read romantic novels, you may have an image of marriage that never existed. These myths about marriage can damage your marriage relationship by giving you unrealistic expectations. P.S. We love romantic movies.
Although Ann Bauer's suggestions on how to repair an empty marriage are very basic and frequently mentioned by marriage experts, she wrote "But the people I meet act as if I'm suggesting they swim with alligators. Most respond with a look of horror, then an embarrassed laugh or a blush or an emphatic headshake or -- in one instance -- the total draining of color from a bearded face." Read some of Bauer's advice.
There are times in every marriage, when an event, a deadline, an illness, a situation, crisis, etc. will take priority over your marriage. This does not mean that your marriage isn't a top priority in your life. It just means that during that particular period of time, you both must have understanding, support, and patience.
"Everyone will someday lose everything they have ever loved or cared for. That's the truth of life itself ... But our grief is not simply about losing a loved one or facing our own mortality. Whether it's losing a job, a marriage, a dream, or our youth, we all have had our hearts broken. Each of has lost our innocence, and made mistakes, and done harm and been harmed along the way. We all have with our individual stories of the when, where, how, what, and who of our heartbreaks.. Each of our stories is tenderly unique and yet all of us have a story ... grief is the human condition; the tie that binds us all together." "Good Grief: Celebrating the Sorrows of Our Lives." PsychologyToday.com. 8/04/12.