HM Links & Clips (12/20/10) #155

10) The end of middle America? Working class white families are unraveling before our eyes

And Building families that last | Richmond Times-Dispatch
We believe that a healthy community is the product of loving families. We promote this ideal by offering programs that teach teen relationship skills, encourage marriage enrichment and foster involved parenthood. ...

 

 

9) The Best Christmas Present: A Healthy Marriage
Florida Times-Union (blog)
So, as we think about what the best Christmas present a child can be given, I come to believe is a healthy mom and dad in a healthy, loving marriage. ...

 

 

8) Center for Urban Families
Fatherhood, Marriage, and Families Innovation Fund. ▪ Julia Carson Responsible Fatherhood & Healthy Families Act of 2009 ...
www.ets.org/s/sponsored.../center_for_urban_families.pdf

 

And Responsible Fatherhood Initiative
Welcome to the DMA's new Responsible Fatherhood blog, part of our Responsible Fatherhood Initiative (RFI). This blog is part of our expanded effort to ...

 

And November 2010 - network notes
healthy marriage” programs, many of these feder- ally funded programs focused on couples who were neither married nor engaged. Therefore, we follow ...
www.mnfathers.org/November2010.pdf

 

 

7) For citizen soldiers the needs are greater than ever
Veterans Today Network
The divorce rate for active-duty military personnel has risen from 2.6 percent in 2001 to 3.6 percent in 2009, when there were an estimated 50000 military ...

 

And Soldiers cap off a year in Afghanistan with marriage
Chicago Sun-Times
“I think it makes marriage easier having someone who understands the military — it is a rough life,” the mom said. Ninety family members and guests from as ...

 

 

 

6) Marriage Education/Twogether in Texas
This page is used for displaying all classes for Marriage Education/Twogether in Texas

 

 

5) 'Couple time' keeps marriage fresh, alive
Evansville Courier & Press
Sharing those changes with our spouse is an excellent way to maintain a healthy marriage. Be sure you find adequate time for rest and relaxation. ...

 

 

4) First Things First: Its Really all about our Children
By First Things First
If you are concerned about child well-being we need you to be part of the army of people who are willing to talk about the importance of healthy marriage and its connection to raising healthy children. ...

 

 

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Create a better marriage by keeping things simple. | Simple Marriage

 

 

 

2) If two out of three second marriages end in divorce, and cohabitation is increasingly accepted, why make a relationship official? How do you make a second marriage work? Read about all the sides in the New York Times article, How to Make It Work This Time,

 

 

 

1) http://www.pinboard.com/mp/daycalc and http://www.strongermarriage.org/

 

 

 

 

For previous edition of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org/hm-links-clips-121610-153

 

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

 

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

 

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

 

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 December 2010
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Why Kids Lie

I was recently asked why kids lie.  My answer:  "Because we teach them to," after which I was called a liar.  Point withstanding, we unintentionally teach our kids how to lie. We start off by telling our impressionable kids to tell grandma that her Chinese food is better than take out, or that their sister's dance recital was the best thing ever. Soon enough we allow them to tell friends they can't come out and play because they have homework to do, when the truth is they don't want to play with them or that you as parents don't want your kids playing with those bad influences from down the street. With proper training, any kid can be taught to lie. 
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It's been suggested that 'quality' is more important than 'quantity' when it comes to spending time with our kids. It sounds nice but while it may be technically correct, it's not always practical (In other words, its bunk). The dilemma is that we often skim on the quantity of time spent with our kids while waiting for those brief periods of quality...you know, those perfect "Hallmark" moments you see on television. 

Kids derive a great sense of togetherness when you're just in the same room with them.  My experience has been that watching what they do and how they play means a lot. Why else would they say "Don't go," when there's no obvious reason to stay. Many times quality time will develop out of quantity of time, so don't beat yourself up when it comes to this debate.

I'm not suggesting that you "phone it in" when it comes to time spent with the kids; I'm just telling you that any time you can give to your kids is worth your time and theirs.

Remember- the 4 things you can't recover are a stone after it's been thrown, a word after it's been spoken, an occasion after it's missed and time after it's gone.

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