Coffin Corner

Remember the way you felt when he proposed? It’s one of those out-of-this-world experiences the moment you realize you are going to spend the rest of your life with the one you love.

Elation bubbles to the surface when you stare at that super-sparkly ring for hours on end. When you remember word-for-word {or try to at least} what he said when he proposed. When you dream about what the wedding will be like, what your dress will look like, and how you’ll be the Princess-For-a-Day.

And it’s not JUST about the wedding day. What about waking up next to him every morning? Sharing your dreams and fears and joys? Going through the ups and downs of daily life…but to know you get to do so together?

I can’t think of a better word to describe what the idea of getting married is like for many who are still waiting on that day.

But what happens when elation turns to frustration? We enter into marriage knowing it’s not going to be perfect. We can’t predict the trials we’ll face or exactly what formerly adorable characteristic of our spouse will eventually start to bug after a month or two under the same roof.

It was one of the most difficult things for me about being newly married. Because I still wanted to be elated! I thought something was wrong with me. Until I started to be honest—with myself and with the Husband. And then with trusted friends who loved me enough to be truthful about their struggles without judging me for mine.

Once we got past “yours and mine”—whether it was about our stuff or the way we did things differently—we were able to work through the frustration to get back to elation. But now I think I’d give it a different word—contentment.

What were you elated about when it came to your thoughts about marriage? 

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