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Subject: Subjects Needed / Hall Pass / Gottman Twitter /InScentives / Demographics and the Economy/ Grants - 12/14/11
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From: "Smartmarriages" <smartmarriages@lists101.his.com>
Date: Dec 14, 2011 11:40 AM
Subject: Subjects Needed / Hall Pass / Gottman Twitter /InScentives / Demographics and the Economy/ Grants - 12/14/11
To: "List" <smartmarriages@lists101.his.com>, "Blogs" <cmfce@smartmarriages.com>
- DIVORCE RESEARCH: SUBJECTS NEEDED
- HALL PASS – A MARRIAGE MOVIE?
- SIGN OF THE TIMES: GOTTSEX – GOTTMAN INSTITUTE’S SEX TWITTER & iTUNE LESSONS
- FILLED DIAPER BAGS INCENT COUPLES TO ATTEND
- REPORT: FALLING BIRTH, MARRIAGE RATES EXPLAIN GLOBAL ECONOMIC SLOWDOWN
- MARRIED ADULTS ON BRINK OF BECOMING MINORITY IN U.S.
- GRANT-RELATED OBSERVATIONS
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- DIVORCE RESEARCH: SUBJECTS NEEDED
A graduate student at U of Nebraska is conducting research for her dissertation on communication and divorce outcomes. She is seeking individuals who are, or have been, legally divorced (not currently in process) to complete a 20-minute online survey. You will be asked about interactions during your divorce with your ex-spouse, a family member of your choosing, and a friend of your choosing (you can, but don’t have to be close with any of them). You can remain totally anonymous, or choose enter a drawing for a $15 Visa gift card, and/or to receive the summary results of the study. To access the survey, or to learn more about it, visit https://ssp.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_cHk23dMx8klEt1y
If you can possibly help her, please take time to complete the survey and please, also forward to anyone who might be able to participate. - diane If you have questions contact:
Sarah Wilder, University of Nebraska-Lincoln, sedirks@huskers.unl.edu
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- HALL PASS – A MARRIAGE MOVIE?
Diane,
This one is raunchy – a buddy movie with jokes pitched to 4th-grade-boys level – but none the less, it packs a strong marriage/anti-infidelity message. And, what’s best is it speaks to men. I suggest you check it out (it’s on Netflix which is the only way I see movies, these days). See if you think you might add it to the recommended to your readers and add it to your Recommended Marriage Movies list. It’s by the Farrelly brothers (Something About Marry; Shallow Hal; etc) and has an R rating. Wishing you and your family a happy holiday.
Brenda
I’ll try to fit in time to watch it. Would it be OK for a bunch of teenage grandkids?
Any comments or suggestions from the rest of you? If you want to send a movie, it helps if you include a description/recommendation about the Marriage angle. Here’s the Marriage Movie list: http://tinyurl.com/y9jsp4a
________________________________
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- SIGN OF THE TIMES: GOTTSEX – GOTTMAN INSTITUTE’S SEX TWITTER & iTUNE LESSONS
A good and hopeful sign – Gottman is on twitter and iTunes! John and Julie Gottman now have a twitter account – subscribe: at GottSex
Check iTunes for Gottman Lessons like this one with a $1.99 downloadable app of 102 Sex Questions to Ask Women
http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/sex-questions-to-ask-women/id460855054?mt=8
________________________________
- FILLED DIAPER BAGS INCENT COUPLES TO ATTEND
(I can’t resist. When I read this headline –Filled Diaper Bags– I had to assume they meant inScentives. And, knowing the Ozarks team, I assume they were punning away and if you can’t laugh you’ll cry. Because, all joking aside, they’re dealing with one of the most frustrating of conundrums: Marriage Education is such a good thing, but the challenge is how to get couples to take the classes – even when they’re free! It definitely takes the right inScentive to lead the horses to water and to get them to stay and drink. Great, creative work! - diane) Filled Diaper Bags Incent Expecting Couples to Attend and Complete a Relationship Workshop for Ozarks Marriage Matters
The Challenge: Persuade Disadvantaged Couples to Attend a Lengthy Educational Event
The right promotion can do more than incent event participation; it can also incent event completion. The team at Ozarks Marriage Matters, a non-profit strengthening marriages and reducing the divorce rate in the Ozarks, incented participation for its eight-hour, grant-funded “Hitched (or not) and Hatching” program that equips expecting couples—married or not—with relationship tools. The program was sponsored by the Forest Institute’s Operation Us and the Junior League of Springfield, whose volunteer members also helped run the classes.
The Solution: Give Gender-Neutral Diaper Bags Filled to the Brim with Baby Products
The grant required that couples receive at least eight hours of education, not an easy task when the demographic is economically challenged and has historically had negative schooling experiences. Mindful of their audience, the Ozarks team incented couples to come—and stay—by giving gender-neutral diaper bags overflowing with baby products. The idea was to emblazon pre-class promotional materials with pictures of fully-stocked bags to incent couples to come, but to give the bags at the end of the session to incent them to stay.
The Result: Diaper Bags Fill Workshop to Capacity and Reward Couples for Staying
The Ozarks team reports success, both for their grant-funded organization and for the people of the Ozarks. Pre-promoting the bags filled the workshop to capacity and enticed couples to stay as, during class, they accumulated stickers to exchange for the bags at the end of the day—only couples with full sticker sets were eligible. The team is pleased that the bags overcame participation reluctance and rewarded attending couples, who left feeling good about what they had accomplished for themselves and their children.
_____________________________
- REPORT: FALLING BIRTH, MARRIAGE RATES EXPLAIN GLOBAL ECONOMIC SLOWDOWN
http://tinyurl.com/42eb26w It’s hard to have a recovery when the Boomers have aged out of the procreation and purchasing cycle.
This report The Sustainable Demographic Dividend: What Do Marriage & Fertility Have To Do With the Economy? but bears reading. It details how many of the world's leading economies will soon face major demographic challenges. . . .In much of the developed world, including almost all of East Asia and Europe, social welfare programs are straining to support surging dependent elderly populations, while productive working-age populations stagnate or shrink because fertility rates have fallen well below the replacement rate of 2.1 children per woman – the level needed to sustain the population over time.
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- MARRIED ADULTS ON BRINK OF BECOMING MINORITY IN U.S.
And, this from today’s Washington Post (12/14/11) confirms the decline. . . . A Pew survey last year determined that more than four in 10 Americans younger than 30 consider marriage passe. . . . The slide has worsened with the economy.
. . . -In the 1950s, if you weren’t married, people thought you were mentally ill,- said Andrew Cherlin, a Johns Hopkins University sociologist who studies families. -Marriage was mandatory. Now it’s culturally optional.- http://tinyurl.com/87v9jkz
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- GRANT-RELATED OBSERVATIONS
- Diane, In regards to the Marriage/Fatherhood Grants, Washington State got only one grant and it was to a MARRIAGE group TO DO FATHERHOOD work?!? There used to be 20 small or medium grants for marriage strengthening from various funding sources in HHS . Now that the administration has combined all the smaller pockets, and then gave half to fatherhood, the marriage education effort has taken a big hit across the country. Washington state took a very big hit. Lots of work to do.
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- Diane, Regarding the grants, you might refer people to Bill Coffin’s Blog site. He’s now employed by NARME and has moved his Blog there. Expect he’ll cover the grants awards in depth. It looks like the NARME folks all were funded. Here’s the link: http://scoop.it/t/narme -------------------------------------------
- FOR INFORMATION about how to post to the Smart Marriages® newslist;
subscribe or UNSUBSCRIBE, or an archive of all past posts:
http://www.smartmarriages.com/newslist.info.html
- HALL PASS – A MARRIAGE MOVIE?
- SIGN OF THE TIMES: GOTTSEX – GOTTMAN INSTITUTE’S SEX TWITTER & iTUNE LESSONS
- FILLED DIAPER BAGS INCENT COUPLES TO ATTEND
- REPORT: FALLING BIRTH, MARRIAGE RATES EXPLAIN GLOBAL ECONOMIC SLOWDOWN
- MARRIED ADULTS ON BRINK OF BECOMING MINORITY IN U.S.
- GRANT-RELATED OBSERVATIONS
_____________________________
- DIVORCE RESEARCH: SUBJECTS NEEDED
A graduate student at U of Nebraska is conducting research for her dissertation on communication and divorce outcomes. She is seeking individuals who are, or have been, legally divorced (not currently in process) to complete a 20-minute online survey. You will be asked about interactions during your divorce with your ex-spouse, a family member of your choosing, and a friend of your choosing (you can, but don’t have to be close with any of them). You can remain totally anonymous, or choose enter a drawing for a $15 Visa gift card, and/or to receive the summary results of the study. To access the survey, or to learn more about it, visit https://ssp.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_cHk23dMx8klEt1y
If you can possibly help her, please take time to complete the survey and please, also forward to anyone who might be able to participate. - diane If you have questions contact:
Sarah Wilder, University of Nebraska-Lincoln, sedirks@huskers.unl.edu
__________________________________
- HALL PASS – A MARRIAGE MOVIE?
Diane,
This one is raunchy – a buddy movie with jokes pitched to 4th-grade-boys level – but none the less, it packs a strong marriage/anti-infidelity message. And, what’s best is it speaks to men. I suggest you check it out (it’s on Netflix which is the only way I see movies, these days). See if you think you might add it to the recommended to your readers and add it to your Recommended Marriage Movies list. It’s by the Farrelly brothers (Something About Marry; Shallow Hal; etc) and has an R rating. Wishing you and your family a happy holiday.
Brenda
I’ll try to fit in time to watch it. Would it be OK for a bunch of teenage grandkids?
Any comments or suggestions from the rest of you? If you want to send a movie, it helps if you include a description/recommendation about the Marriage angle. Here’s the Marriage Movie list: http://tinyurl.com/y9jsp4a
________________________________
_____________________________
- SIGN OF THE TIMES: GOTTSEX – GOTTMAN INSTITUTE’S SEX TWITTER & iTUNE LESSONS
A good and hopeful sign – Gottman is on twitter and iTunes! John and Julie Gottman now have a twitter account – subscribe: at GottSex
Check iTunes for Gottman Lessons like this one with a $1.99 downloadable app of 102 Sex Questions to Ask Women
http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/sex-questions-to-ask-women/id460855054?mt=8
________________________________
- FILLED DIAPER BAGS INCENT COUPLES TO ATTEND
(I can’t resist. When I read this headline –Filled Diaper Bags– I had to assume they meant inScentives. And, knowing the Ozarks team, I assume they were punning away and if you can’t laugh you’ll cry. Because, all joking aside, they’re dealing with one of the most frustrating of conundrums: Marriage Education is such a good thing, but the challenge is how to get couples to take the classes – even when they’re free! It definitely takes the right inScentive to lead the horses to water and to get them to stay and drink. Great, creative work! - diane) Filled Diaper Bags Incent Expecting Couples to Attend and Complete a Relationship Workshop for Ozarks Marriage Matters
The Challenge: Persuade Disadvantaged Couples to Attend a Lengthy Educational Event
The right promotion can do more than incent event participation; it can also incent event completion. The team at Ozarks Marriage Matters, a non-profit strengthening marriages and reducing the divorce rate in the Ozarks, incented participation for its eight-hour, grant-funded “Hitched (or not) and Hatching” program that equips expecting couples—married or not—with relationship tools. The program was sponsored by the Forest Institute’s Operation Us and the Junior League of Springfield, whose volunteer members also helped run the classes.
The Solution: Give Gender-Neutral Diaper Bags Filled to the Brim with Baby Products
The grant required that couples receive at least eight hours of education, not an easy task when the demographic is economically challenged and has historically had negative schooling experiences. Mindful of their audience, the Ozarks team incented couples to come—and stay—by giving gender-neutral diaper bags overflowing with baby products. The idea was to emblazon pre-class promotional materials with pictures of fully-stocked bags to incent couples to come, but to give the bags at the end of the session to incent them to stay.
The Result: Diaper Bags Fill Workshop to Capacity and Reward Couples for Staying
The Ozarks team reports success, both for their grant-funded organization and for the people of the Ozarks. Pre-promoting the bags filled the workshop to capacity and enticed couples to stay as, during class, they accumulated stickers to exchange for the bags at the end of the day—only couples with full sticker sets were eligible. The team is pleased that the bags overcame participation reluctance and rewarded attending couples, who left feeling good about what they had accomplished for themselves and their children.
_____________________________
- REPORT: FALLING BIRTH, MARRIAGE RATES EXPLAIN GLOBAL ECONOMIC SLOWDOWN
http://tinyurl.com/42eb26w It’s hard to have a recovery when the Boomers have aged out of the procreation and purchasing cycle.
This report The Sustainable Demographic Dividend: What Do Marriage & Fertility Have To Do With the Economy? but bears reading. It details how many of the world's leading economies will soon face major demographic challenges. . . .In much of the developed world, including almost all of East Asia and Europe, social welfare programs are straining to support surging dependent elderly populations, while productive working-age populations stagnate or shrink because fertility rates have fallen well below the replacement rate of 2.1 children per woman – the level needed to sustain the population over time.
----------------------------------------------------
- MARRIED ADULTS ON BRINK OF BECOMING MINORITY IN U.S.
And, this from today’s Washington Post (12/14/11) confirms the decline. . . . A Pew survey last year determined that more than four in 10 Americans younger than 30 consider marriage passe. . . . The slide has worsened with the economy.
. . . -In the 1950s, if you weren’t married, people thought you were mentally ill,- said Andrew Cherlin, a Johns Hopkins University sociologist who studies families. -Marriage was mandatory. Now it’s culturally optional.- http://tinyurl.com/87v9jkz
________________________________
- GRANT-RELATED OBSERVATIONS
- Diane, In regards to the Marriage/Fatherhood Grants, Washington State got only one grant and it was to a MARRIAGE group TO DO FATHERHOOD work?!? There used to be 20 small or medium grants for marriage strengthening from various funding sources in HHS . Now that the administration has combined all the smaller pockets, and then gave half to fatherhood, the marriage education effort has taken a big hit across the country. Washington state took a very big hit. Lots of work to do.
----
- Diane, Regarding the grants, you might refer people to Bill Coffin’s Blog site. He’s now employed by NARME and has moved his Blog there. Expect he’ll cover the grants awards in depth. It looks like the NARME folks all were funded. Here’s the link: http://scoop.it/t/narme -------------------------------------------
- FOR INFORMATION about how to post to the Smart Marriages® newslist;
subscribe or UNSUBSCRIBE, or an archive of all past posts:
http://www.smartmarriages.com/newslist.info.html
_______________________________________________
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