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Council for Relationships <hsiegel@councilforrelationships.org> Date: Mon, Sep 24, 2012 at 1:01 PM
Subject: Tip of the Week: September 24, 2012
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Tip of the Week: To Do or Not To Do
"Non-doing has nothing to do with being indolent or passive. Quite the contrary. It takes great courage and energy to cultivate non-doing, both in stillness and in activity" - Jon Kabat-Zinn
We humans are problem-solving creatures, capable of sorting through complex problems. We have survived as a species, in part, because of our ability to make quick appraisals of situations and to identify courses of action most likely to lead to positive or desirable outcomes.
 For our ancestors, quick thinking and reacting frequently made the difference between life and death. In our time, we still face situations when our immediate assessment and response help prevent or minimize negative results. Because of it, when difficulties arise in our relationships, we frequently feel compelled to jump into action. Problem-solving is a most useful and necessary skill, but it is not always what is called for in response to all our interactions with others.
When faced with challenges in our relationships, we may feel inclined to "fix" problems right away. But, while taking charge of an issue may initially help us feel more in control, it can also prevent us from getting in touch with our real feelings and needs. Also, our jumping into problem-solving without acknowledging the feelings and needs of others, may leave them feeling frustrated and unheard, even if we are trying to make thoughtful and constructive suggestions.
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Pilar Poal, PhD is a licensed psychologist and Senior Staff Therapist in CFR's Paoli & Exton offices. She can be reached at 610-594-9808 ext. 6.
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| Interesting Blog Post of the Week: Can Men and Women Just Be Friends?
Can men and women just be friends? Maybe not, according to a study from the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire. Researchers found that attraction is common between people in opposite-sex friendships, and these feelings can cause problems, especially if one of the "friends" is in a romantic relationship with someone else. When participants were asked to list pluses and minuses of having opposite-sex friends, 32 percent said feelings of attraction were a drawback, while 6 percent said these feelings were a benefit. Forty-seven percent of the women ages 18 to 23 listed attraction as a negative attribute of an opposite-sex friendship, while 22 percent of men felt the same. To read more about this click through to our blog
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CFR Video of the Week: Raymond McDevitt
Parenting: Taking Vacations Without the Kids
Raymond McDevitt, MSS, LCSW talks to 6 ABC's Amy Buckman to help her answer the question, "Can vacationing without your children actually make you a better parent"
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| Have some time to kill? Check out our blog too! We update the blog almost daily with interesting facts, new articles and media appearances from the CFR staff. |
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