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2. Beyond an Apology 





3. The Top 10 Issues That Teenagers Struggle With: How Apps Provide Support And Help






4. Even thinking about marriage gets young people to straighten up














6. Study: Marriage May Improve Odds of Surviving a Heart Attack





7. Revalorizing Fathers as a Marriage Culture Prerequisite

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8. Is Having Married Parents Important?











10. What Men In Senior Leadership Need To Realize About Paternal Leave

Jim Sandman




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Finding God in the Soundtrack of Life

Posted: 27 Jul 2016 03:30 AM PDT

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I once read that the music we listen to becomes the soundtrack of our life. I just love that sentiment! As in a movie with a great soundtrack, music can transport us in time and evoke in us emotions we had thought were long gone. Have you ever noticed how certain songs bring you right back in time?

For me, “The Servant Song” is one of those songs. I remember singing this song in my high school choir, joining in the soulful rendition of our college folk choir, and raising this song with prayer-filled communities as we prepared to go out and serve Christ among us. Every time I hear this song, I am transported back to these times in which my heart was filled with a special awareness of the Holy Spirit at work—present and alive—in the unity and fruits of these communities rooted in Christ’s love.

This song doesn’t just bring me back in time though; it impels me forward too. Every time I hear it, I am reminded that the Christian call to serve is a personal and lifelong call. And it reminds me that those we are called to serve may not always be in a far-off country. It might also be that we are called to “hold the Christ light” that we sing of in this song for our best friend, child, or spouse—whomever is vulnerable at the time. Mother Teresa said, “Never worry about numbers. Help one person at a time and always start with the person nearest you.”

When I hear “The Servant Song,” I remember too that the call to serve requires accompaniment. Serving is never a one-way street if we’re doing it right; it is a special privilege that requires a certain vulnerability on the part of both giver and receiver. Pope Francis reminds us almost daily not just of our call to serve, but also of the need to accompany those whom we serve:

The call to serve involves something special, to which we must be attentive. Serving others chiefly means caring for their vulnerability. Caring for the vulnerable of our families, our society, our people. Theirs are the suffering, fragile and downcast faces which Jesus tells us specifically to look at and which he asks us to love. With a love which takes shape in our actions and decisions. With a love which finds expression in whatever tasks we, as citizens, are called to perform. People of flesh and blood, people with individual lives and stories, and with all their frailty: these are those whom Jesus asks us to protect, to care for, to serve. Being a Christian entails promoting the dignity of our brothers and sisters, fighting for it, living for it. That is why Christians are constantly called to set aside their own wishes and desires, their pursuit of power, and to look instead to those who are most vulnerable. (Homily of Pope Francis in Havana, September 20, 2015)

In the soundtrack of my life, “The Servant Song” is a powerful reminder of God’s presence in my life and my response to God’s presence. What about you? Where do you find God in the soundtrack of your life? What songs in your soundtrack bring to mind those who have held the Christ light for you? What songs remind you of times when you held the Christ light out to others? Whom might you be called to hold the Christ light out to in the future?


We’re in the last week of 31 Days with St. Ignatius. Read today’s selection, In God’s Waiting Room by Loretta Pehanich.

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When Not To Get Married: Some Late-19th-Century Advice
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This fun book, which offered young lovers advice on wise courtship, was one of a series of dime novels printed and sold cheaply in New York City by ...





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Podcast: Welfare Reform, 20 Years Later

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What’s the point of healthy marriage and relationship education skills? What impact could integrating these skills have for the families you serve? In this podcast, Resource Center Project Director Robyn Cenizal has a conversation with Dr. Dave Schramm, Ph.D. Associate Professor at the University of Missouri within the Human Development and Family Studies department, and with Colleen Ellingson, Chief Executive Officer at the Coalition for Children, Youth and Families, about addressing these critical issues.

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A Manifesto Against ‘Parenting’


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The Symphony of Your Day

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 03:30 AM PDT

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There are certain routine sounds in our lives that call us into action simply by reflex. The morning alarm clock jolts us out of bed and into our morning routine. The ring tone on our phone beckons us to drop what we’re doing and respond to the person seeking us out on the line. The familiar beeping of a microwave leaves our taste buds anticipating another delicious meal. Familiar sounds call us into familiar actions.

So what then, of the quieter sounds in our lives that too often get drowned out by the well-practiced symphony of our routine? In a guided audio Examen shared here, the listener is invited during the preparatory phase of the prayer to “Gently listen to all the sounds around you; try to capture each one.” What a fantastic and profound invitation! We are invited to be still and listen for the sounds we’ve been too busy or too distracted to hear through the day. In the profound but fleeting pauses between the movements of the symphony of our lives, we are invited to listen to God’s voice hidden behind the fanfare.

We’re invited then to take one step further. Just as those routine sounds call us into action, we are invited to “capture each one” of those subtle sounds quietly playing in the background of our day. Capture. Not just to observe, not to meditate on it, but to actively chase and seize it! “Capture” is just the sort of militaristic word St. Ignatius would love. It’s very much in keeping with his vision of contemplatives in action. If we but take the time to enter into the stillness and listen to the more subtle voice of God whispering in the quiet moments, we can capture an opportunity to be contemplatives in action. We must seize that moment, for soon the Conductor will start the next movement in the symphony.

When the symphony of your day comes to a pause, what will capture your attention and call you into action?


Think more about the patterns of your day with today’s 31 Days with St. Ignatius entry, The Truth of My Life by Mike Hayes.

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Are We So Busy We Never Listen, Pope Asks at Angelus

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Receiving a guest into our home doesn’t require so many things, says Pope Francis, as only one thing is necessary: listening to the guest, hearing the thoughts of his heart, so that he feels he is truly among family.

This was the Pope’s reflection today before praying the midday Angelus with those gathered in St. Peter’s Square.

Commenting on the Gospel of today from Luke, which recounts the story of Mary and Martha receiving Jesus in their home, the Holy Father spoke about the virtue of hospitality.

“In busying herself and doing things, Martha runs the risk of forgetting — and this is the problem — the presence of her guest, which in this case is Jesus,” the Pope explained. “She forgets the presence of her guest.”

The Holy Father said that a guest — any guest, not just Jesus — doesn’t need only to be served and fed. “Above all it is necessary that he is listened to,” he said.

With listening, a guest is welcomed as “a person, with his history, his heart rich in sentiments and thoughts, so that he might feel truly that he is among family.”

Failing to do this, the Pope said, is like treating the guest like a rock.

“A guest must be listened to,” Francis emphasized, adding, “Certainly, the answer Jesus gives Martha — when he tells her that only one thing is necessary — finds its full meaning in reference to hearing the word of Jesus himself, this word that enlightens and sustains all that we are and all that we do. If we are going to pray, for example, before a crucifix, and we talk and talk and talk and then we leave, we don’t listen to Jesus. We don’t allow him to speak to our hearts.”

Lost virtue

Pope Francis said that in understanding hospitality in this way — with an emphasis on listening so as to respect the personhood of guests — we see that it is a human and Christian virtue, and one that “runs the risk of being left aside.”

There is an increasing number of guest houses and types of accommodations, he said, “but in these places, a true hospitality isn’t always lived out.”

Are the stories of the ill, the marginalized, the refugee, the migrant listened to, he asked.

“Even in one’s own house, among one’s own family, it’s easier to find service and care of various types than listening and welcome,” the Pope lamented.

“Today we are so busy and in such a hurry, with so many problems, some of which are unimportant, that we lack the capacity to listen. We are constantly busy and thus we don’t have time to listen,” he said.

The Pope then turned his reflection to questions: “You, husband, do you have time to listen to your wife? You, wife, do you have time to listen to your husband? You, parents, do you have time, time to lose so as to listen to your children, or your grandparents, the elderly?”

Grandparents, especially, he said, need to be heard.

“I ask you to learn to listen and dedicate more time to this,” the Pope concluded. “In the capacity to listen is the root of peace.”

On ZENIT’s Web page:
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Angelus Address: On the Waning Art of Hospitality

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Here is a ZENIT translation of the address Pope Francis gave this artaorning before praying the midday Angelus with those gathered in St. Peter’s Square.

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CONNIE CLEMENTS









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9. Income inequality leads millennials to start families before marriage





10. Defining Evidence Down

11. Welfare reform to promote work and marriage

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Ethics & Religion

July 14, 2016

Column #1820

 

My Goal In Writing This Column

By Mike McManus

 

            With this column, I complete 35 years of writing Ethics & Religion.  This anniversary might a time to outline to readers what I am trying to do each week, and some of the results of the column.

 

            My pledge to editors is that I would address America’s toughest moral problems - but would always suggest an answer.  The subliminal message: hope!

 

            For example, in recent months I have offered answers to alcoholism, abortion, drunk driving, the federal deficit, pornography and ISIS persecution of Christians.

 

            In 1990 I wrote a column about a question Rev. Richard McGinnis asked his church:

“Are there any couples here whose marriages were once on the rocks, but who have come off of them and restored their marriage? If so, meet with me after the service.”  Out of 180 people in church, 10 couples met with him.

 

            He told them he was overwhelmed trying to save marriages in crisis. Then he thought about how Alcoholics Anonymous got started, with “Bill” and “Dr. Bob,” working together to keep each other sober. They developed the “12 Steps of AA” that have helped millions to stay sober.

 

            Father Dick asserted, “I want to meet with you to see if there is anything of a common nature you had to do for your marriage to be restored.” Seven couples agreed to tell their stories.

 

            At first, their stories seemed wildly dissimilar.  One woman had been in adultery for eight years. A husband was an alcoholic who was out of work for two years. There was a workaholic dentist and a bisexual who had homosexual affairs.

 

            Yet the couples were able to agree on 17 “Action Statements” like the 12 Steps of AA. One was, “Through other Christian testimony and personal example, we found hope for our marriage.”  Each couple decided “to follow Jesus as my Savior and Lord.”  Each husband and wife also “realized the problem was with myself, and began to change with the Lord’s help.”

 

            The result was a “Marriage Ministry” in which those seven couples met with 40 couples in crisis over five years, saving 38 of them!

 

            I provided Pastor McGinnis’ address, sparking 1,500 letters!  No column had such an impact.  But in calling back a sample of those who wrote in, not one created a “Marriage Ministry.” My column appeared to be a failure.

 

            However, in researching my column, I have found other strategies to better prepare couples for a lifelong marriage, to enrich existing ones and save those in crisis. For example, 4 million couples have taken PREPARE-ENRICH, a premarital inventory which asks couples to respond to 150 statements:

 

·         I go out of my way to avoid conflict with my partner.

 

·         Sometimes I wish my partner were more careful about spending money.

 

My wife and I trained couples in our home church to administer the inventory and talk

through the issues it surfaced.  Of 288 couples prepared for marriage in the 1990s, 58 decided not to marry.  But of the 230 who did marry, we know of only 18 divorces in two decades!

 

            Thirty years ago, I suggested that the pastors of Modesto, California consider requiring every couple marrying in the city to take the inventory in a “Community Marriage Policy.” Some 86 pastors signed on.  The result? Modesto’s divorce rate plunged in half!

 

            My wife and I have now helped the pastors of 230 cities create Community Marriage Policies which included the Marriage Ministry described here, plus three other interventions:

 

            “10 Great Dates” is designed to enrich existing marriages.  Couples come to church on 10 Friday nights, watch a brief DVD on a topic such as “Resolving Honest Conflict” and then go on a date to discuss it.  It’s a fun way to reinvigorate marriages.

 

            What if one spouse in a crisis marriage refuses to seek help? The committed spouse can take “Marriage 911,” a 12-week workbook course with a friend of the same gender, designed to help him or her grow so much they win back their errant mate. It usually works.

 

            Seventy percent of couples with stepchildren divorce.  But if a church creates a Stepfamily Support Group, it can save 80% of stepfamilies.

 

            An independent study of Community Marriage Policies reported they cut divorce rates by an average of 17.5% in seven years, saving 100,000 marriages, reduced cohabitation by a third and raised some marriage rates.

 

            Thus, writing this column led to a national ministry that is saving marriages.

 

            Would you like to create a CMP in your city?  Call me 301 978-7105.

 

Copyright © 2016 Michael J. McManus is President of Marriage Savers and a syndicated columnist.  For earlier columns go to www.ethicsandreligion.com and hit Search for any topic.

           

           

           

 

 

 

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The lazy days of summer are a great time to reconnect with your family.No worries about homework for the kids means more relaxation for everyone. Take advantage of the long, light-filled days to revive your marriage. Talk a little more, laugh a little more, kiss a little more.

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FATHER-CHILD
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