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  Podcasts from Loyola Conference
Loyola Conf keynotes

The keynote podcasts have been posted from Finding God in Unsettled Times Conference


 

Ignatian Examen YouTube Talk and Podcast

Fr. Jim Martin's talk on the Examen is now available on YouTube. 
 

You can also download a podcast of Fr. Martin leading the Examen
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Ignatian Family Retreat 
in Richmond, VA
 

 An Ignatian Family Retreat was run in Spanish at Sacred Heart Parish in Richmond, Virginia, during the evenings of August 9-11.

 

Tri-Province celebration of Vow Day 
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  The Jesuit Collaborative rejoices with three
Jesuits who recently professed first vows in the Society

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Culture Watch: What’s Driving High Poverty Numbers?

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Culture Watch: Weekly Round-Up on Family, Religion and Civil Society
September 13, 2012

What’s Driving High Poverty Numbers?
by Rachel Sheffield, Research Associate
Richard and Helen DeVos Center for Religion and Civil Society 

Yesterday the U.S. Census Bureau released its annual poverty numbers. It reports that 46.2 million Americans remain poor; the figure was unchanged from last year. The percentage of Americans who were poor remained at a near-record 15 percent.

What we are sure to hear now is a cry from big-government advocates for increased government welfare spending. 

But record poverty is not the result of insufficient welfare spending. Last year, the government spent $927 billion on means-tested welfare aid, which breaks down to about $9,000 per lower-income person in the United States. The Census Bureau counts only about 3 percent of this as income when calculating poverty. This flawed measure is a crucial reason why poverty in the U.S. looks very different from the vision most people have of it.


A more accurate way to think of the official Census poverty measure is a report of “self-sufficiency”: the ability of Americans to sustain an income above poverty without reliance on welfare. The U.S. has record-high poverty (or rather, lack of self-sufficiency) in the short term because of bad policies that have damaged the economy and failed to create jobs. In the long term, the lack of self-sufficiency has been caused by a massive welfare state that discourages work and penalizes marriage.

Welfare policies that support work have a track record of success. The welfare reform of 1996 inserted work requirements for able-bodied individuals into the largest cash-assistance government welfare program. As a result, stagnant welfare rolls began to decline and employment increased.

However, the majority of the roughly 80 welfare programs funded by the government fail to include any type of work requirement. And in July, the Obama Administration issued a directive to gut the 1996 reform law of its work requirement. Taking work out of the equation is in direct contrast to what is necessary to assist those in need. Work requirements should be restored and expanded to other government welfare programs. Food stamps, one of the largest, would be a good place to start.

Marriage is the nation’s greatest weapon against child poverty. As new data reveal, children born to single mothers are nearly six times as likely to be poor than their peers born to married parents. Today’s historically high rate of unwed childbearing—over 40 percent—does not bode well for the economic or overall well-being of children, families, and, ultimately, the nation.

The majority of unwed births in the U.S. are not to teens, as generally thought, but to women in their 20s, and it is a result of the breakdown of marriage in lower-income communities. Tragically, the critical facts about the importance of marriage are rarely if ever communicated to youth at risk for future non-marital births. Most welfare programs, in fact, include marriage penalties. If policies continue to take an indifferent or hostile approach to marriage, high levels of child poverty are bound to continue.

More Americans in poverty—or rather, struggling to attain self-sufficiency—is not good news. Yet if we want to truly improve their lives, rather than ignoring the causes of poverty, policies should address them. Promoting work and healthy marriages are the most important steps in combating poverty and helping the nation’s families to achieve self-sufficiency.

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Healing Requires Forgiveness

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Hurting Marriages Need Forgiveness 

by Dr. Gary Chapman

 

 

Hope for the SeparatedPast failures need not destroy your hope for a better future. If you choose, you can take steps that may well restore your marriage to health. It all begins with forgiving the past.

All of us have failures in the past. We can let them stand as barriers to our future, or we can forgive them and build a new and deeper relationship. As long as we keep bringing up the past, we will be forever bogged down in frustration.

The past cannot be undone. It can only be forgiven.

Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a choice to lift the penalty and let the other person back into your life. It opens up the possibility to building something different in the future.

Forgiveness does not mean forgetting. The memories may return, but when they do, we take them to God and pray this prayer. "Father, You know what I'm remembering, but I thank you that it is history. Now help me to do something positive today."

Forgiving is the first step toward a growing marriage.  

Today's article is based on the book, Hope for the Separated.   For a complete listing of Dr. Chapman's books and resources, click here.

Dying in the Small Stuff 

by David and Lisa Frisbie 

The Soul Mate Marriage


Dying to self is a thousand little choices we make every day. 

 

It is thinking about someone else as you rise and begin your morning. 

 

It is praying for someone throughout the day instead of wondering  whether anyone is praying about you and remembering your challenges. 

 

It is coming home tired from work, but choosing to serve and comfort someone else who is also tired instead of putting your feet up and waiting for a foot massage.

 

Dying to self is about forgetting all those arguments over "whose turn it is."

 

It is changing the diaper or getting up for the feeding, or even carrying out the trash or putting away the dishes.  It's a lot of little choices we make when all we want to do is sit down and relax, maybe read the paper, or maybe watch some television.

 

Dying to self is like that - it is daily, and it's about the small stuff. 

 

 

 


Content taken from Soul-Mate Marriage: The Spiritual Journey of Becoming One by David and Lisa Frisbie, published by Harvest House Publishing. 

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15 Years of Strengthening Families | FTF eNews September Vol. 1

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A Film for the Whole Family

Make plans now to see Unconditional, premiering in theatres on September 21. This amazing film stars Lynn Collins (John Carter, X-Men Origins: Wolverine) and Michael Ealy (Barber Shop, Think Like a Man) in this moving story of renewed friendship and faith.

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Culture Watch: Marriage is the Greatest Weapon Against Child Poverty

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Culture Watch: Weekly Round-Up on Family, Religion and Civil Society
September 6, 2012

Marriage: The Greatest Weapon Against Childhood Poverty
by Ken McIntyre

The collapse of marriage, along with a dramatic rise in births to single women, is the most important cause of childhood poverty—but government policy doesn’t reflect that reality, according to a special report released yesterday by The Heritage Foundation.

Nearly three out of four poor families with children in America are headed by single parents. When a child’s father is married to his mother, however, the probability of the child’s living in poverty drops by 82 percent.

Senior Research Fellow Robert Rector provides a brief overview of each state with unique data and 14 charts per state, while also updating his years of related research in the special report titled “Marriage: America’s Greatest Weapon Against Child Poverty.” Heritage’s study, including a slideshow on national trends, arrives a week before the U.S. Census Bureau’s annual report on poverty, which is expected to show another increase.

“Policymakers on the state and national levels recognize that education reduces poverty, but they’re largely unaware that marriage is an equally strong anti-poverty weapon,” says Rector, a nationally recognized authority on the U.S. welfare system.

In Florida, for example, white families headed by single parents are five times more likely to be poor than those headed by married couples. In Illinois, the poverty rate for a single mother with only a high school diploma is 39.5 percent, compared with 8 percent for a married couple with the same education.

The rate of births to unmarried women—now four out of every 10 babies overall, five out of 10 for Hispanics, and seven out of 10 for blacks—has soared since the mid-1960s, when President Lyndon Johnson launched the War on Poverty. Births outside marriage are mostly to less-educated women—sadly, those with the least ability to support children.

While more Americans grow dependent on welfare, government fails to communicate the benefits of marriage even as it warns young people not to smoke, do drugs, have “unsafe” sex, or drop out of school. Rector calls this “tragic.”

Well over a third of all single-parent families with children (37 percent) were poor in 2009. Only 6.8 percent of married couples with children were poor. Marriage reduces the probability of poverty for all racial groups.

Rector finds a silver lining: Most unmarried moms—and dads, too—do look favorably on marriage. “New policies should be developed that build on these attitudes,” he says. Specifically, government should:
  • Provide facts to at-risk youth about the value of marriage;
  • Connect low-income couples with community resources that teach them the skills they need to build lasting marriages before having children; and
  • Reform the welfare system to encourage rather than discourage and penalize marriage.
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Marriage Matters to Reducing Childhood Poverty

Among all families, nearly one in five is headed by unmarried women, compared to one in two among poor families. One in three families headed by unmarried women is poor, compared to one in 10 of all families. Learn more about the benefits of marriage to children, adults, and civil society at FamilyFacts.org.

 
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Looking to have some fun? Here are some free date ideas!

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Watch the sun set...then go stargazing

How long has it been since you've watched the sun set? Or laid back and peered up at the stars?  Pick a clear evening to snuggle in the grass in your yard or a local park -- or to lie on your roof with blankets and pillows. Google and download a guide to the constellations, and once the sun sets make a game out of identifying them. Keep an eye out for shooting stars!

 

Head to a museum or art gallery

Do a little digging to find out whether any of your local museums or art galleries offer free admission on specific days of the week or month. And many will keep their doors open after-hours on certain nights, so ask about extended hours as well.

 

Let the games begin

You know all those board games you keep on hand for parties? Minimize the competition and amp up the fun factor by having a game night just for you two.

 

Attend a free outdoor concert

In the warmer months, particularly in the summertime, plenty of cities and towns hold free local concerts, usually in a park or in a grassy area that's perfect for an evening picnic. Do a little research, locate a free show, pack up your picnic basket and enjoy the live soundtrack to your super-sweet date night.

 

Make it a movie night

There are plenty of ways to watch a new release without going to the movies or renting. Head over to your local library and rent a recent flick, or log on to Hulu, where plenty of current films are available to stream for free.

 

Pedal through a fancy neighborhood

Sick of the same-old scenery? Hop on your bikes and head over to a neighborhood known for its lovely architecture or gorgeous gardens. You'll break a sweat while taking in the beauty of your surroundings. Don't forget to stop here and there to take in the beauty of your time together too.

 

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September 2012 Knowing More, Loving More

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One of the benefits of your membership in Better Marriages is that you receive a monthly conversation starter from our series Knowing More, Loving More. Use these questions to promote thought and conversation and to lead to new discoveries for each of you about the other.

 

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KNOWING MORE, LOVING MORE
September 2012

 

 

"Dog days of summer"-refers to the hottest, most sultry part of the year. We in the Dog Northern Hemisphere are just coming out of one of our hottest summers ever. Just like the dogs, we are typically inactive and have lower expectations during these days.

 

But soon will come some cooler, crisp days and we can reenergize our lives, activities and relationships!

 

Answer the following questions individually and then share your answers in dialogue fashion. Remember to listen for understanding and ask questions for clarification. Refrain from judging or giving advice.

  1. Emotionally, how were the months of July and August different from other months this year for you?
  2. In what ways did your activity change individually and as a couple?
  3. List three things that you would like to change for this Fall for you and three things that you would like to change for your relationship.

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Marriage Memo: 30 Ways to Start a Conversation WithYour Spouse

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Marriage Memo from FamilyLife

Marriage Memo from FamilyLife

August 27, 2012

30 Ways to Start a Conversation With Your Spouse

by Tracey Eyster

Recently a friend told me she sometimes has trouble talking with her husband. And I thought, Wouldn't it be nice if someone made a list of conversation starters that could be used by a husband and a wife for a whole month?

Which then got me to thinking, Well, I am a writer.

1. My funniest memory of our dating days is when ...

2. Our kids would freak out if they knew we ...

3. Before we are together in heaven, I pray that here on earth we ...

4. I have this memory of you in a certain outfit. Remember ...

5. The most scared you have ever been was ...

6. The happiest you have ever been was ...

7. I remember thinking I was courageous when I was young because I ...

8. I used to always wish I could ...

9. If I could spend a day just talking to any one person, it would be ...

10. I wish I had learned to ...

11. I picture us old, sitting in a rocking chair and you looking over at me and saying, "Daggum it, we never ..."

12. If I could spend 24 hours doing anything in the world with you, it would be ...

13. I like it best when you refer to me as ...

14. The song that always makes me think of you is ...

15. My sweetest memory of us in our youth is when we ...

16. My favorite memory of our wedding day is ...

17. My greatest need right now as a woman is to ...

18. My greatest need right now as a man is to ...

19. If I could have any super power, it would be ...

20. If I could eat anything and it not affect my health, I would feast on ...

21. If I could have lived during a different time period, it would be ...

22. I laugh every time I think of you doing ...

23. I would so enjoy reading out loud together ...

24. If we could be roadies for any musical talent, I would choose ...

25. If I had it to do over, I would propose to you by ...

26. The world's best anniversary trip would be to go to ...

27. My favorite photo of us is the one where ...

28. Did you know that it scares me so much to ...

29. When we fell in love, my favorite thing about you back then was ...

30. I feel you love me the most when you ...

This article originally appeared on MomLife Today, FamilyLife's blog for moms.

Tracey Eyster is managing editor of MomLife Today and author of the new book, Be the Mom. Click here to listen to Tracey on FamilyLife Today®, and here to purchase her book.

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