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What is "Amoris Laetita" and how does it apply to your life? Learn about the joy of love and more in this edition of Marriage Monthly.
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The Joy of Love   
Amoris Laetitia "Bootcamp"  
Join us in reading through chapter 4 of Pope Francis's post-synodal exhortation "Amoris Laetitia" (The Joy of Love). Each day will have a short section of the text and a suggestion of how to live it in your marriage and family life.      
Understanding Catholicism  
The Vocation of Marriage 

When the Catholic Church teaches that marriage is a Christian vocation it is saying that the couple's relationship is more than simply their choice to enter a union which is a social and legal institution.    
Pope Francis Corner 
"Amoris Laetitia": The Joy of Love 

It's here! Pope Francis's prayerful reflections on marriage and the family will give married couples and families much solid guidance in their vocation of love.
Featured Blog: Created and Called into Love   
Jesus, I Trust in You

What are the chances of meeting your future spouse if they live 1,226 miles away? Katie shares her experience and God's hand in meeting Tommy. Read about their journey to each other through trust in Christ.
Book of the Month 
The Thrill of the Chaste 
By Dawn Eden 

Reviewed by Molly Boland 

Dawn Eden's memoir-style book The Thrill of the Chaste sheds light on the struggles of chastity and provides insight into the daily process of conversion of heart in a narrative manner which is sure to be engaging.    
Marriage in the News  
Divorcing with Adult Children:
The Unacknowledged Suffering 

Jane Gordon Julien delves into the unspoken effects of divorce on adult children and the lasting impact on their lives.    
In This Issue
Amoris Laetitia Bootcamp
Understanding Catholicism: The Vocation of Marriage
Pope Francis: "Amoris Laetitia" - The Joy of Love
Featured Blog: Created and Called into Love
Book Review: The Thrill of the Chaste
Marriage Tip of the Month
May 5, 2016: 
Balancing preferences in marriage can be tough. Never speaking your preference might cause resentment in you, but never yielding can hurt your spouse. Check in with your spouse to make sure each of you feels heard.  
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You don't want to miss this year's NARME Summit!!

In This Issue
"I get paid nothing to do everything," Lance had told me last summer. "I come home every day mentally, physically exhausted from the amount of work I've put in, and my checks are pocket change basically.  Read More 
The U.S. military has sent an astonishing 2.7 million service members to Iraq and Afghanistan since 2001.  Read More 
The Nation's Latino Population Is Defined by Its Youth
Hispanics are the youngest major racial or ethnic group in the United States. About one-third, or 17.9 million, of the nation's Hispanic population is younger than 18, and about a quarter, or 14.6 million, of all Hispanics are Millennials (ages 18 to 33 in 2014), according to a Pew Research Center analysis of U.S. Census Bureau dataRead More
Twelve facts about food insecurity and SNAP
he problem of hunger in America is troubling. One in seven households was food insecure in 2014-meaning that at some time during the year they had difficulty providing enough food for all of their members due to a lack of resources.  Read More 
When you really love someone and they break up with you, it's going to hurt. That can be pretty hard. That's one kind of hard break-up; hard in the emotional sense. In another way, however, it's getting more difficult for break-ups to be hard.  Read More  
Does the Family That Prays Together Really Stay Together?
Closing my three-year-old daughter's door at bedtime, I heard a quiet, "Mommy, will you say one more prayer?" It was a delay tactic that I've heard from other religious parents is a bedtime show-stopper where small children have the upper hand.   Read More
If you work with couples, families, fathers, youth or singles, make plans now to attend this year's National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education (NARME) Summit in Anaheim, CA. We have been hard at work putting together an amazing line up of plenary speakers along with outstanding pre-summit trainings and Summit workshops in addition to excellent exhibitors.  All we are missing at this point is YOU!  
  • Outstanding plenary speakers including: Howard Markman, Sue Johnson, Jill Murray, Obie Clayton, Ron Deal, Kay Hymowitz, Morgan Van Epp Cutlip, Clay Olsen, and we are pleased to announce that Dr. John Townsend will be our closing plenary speaker this year. 
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When Supporting Your Family Means Leaving It Behind
Most of the great American immigration stories are about people who come here to give their kids a better life. But usually, the life they are making is a life in America. We rarely hear about the people who come here, but leave their families behind. Each year they send billions of dollars in remittances back to their home countries, but they remain. Read More
Many Americans don't argue about religion - or even talk about it
According to Miss Manners, polite people do not bring up religion in social conversations. Of course, if Americans stayed away from all the topics the etiquette columnist deems taboo in polite company - including politics, money, sex, illness and what people are wearing - a lot of dinners would pass by in silence.  Read More
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Candidates for Friday Five


2. Steps in the right direction: Stepfamily researchers share personal advice on combining households

Geoff Fallon  

4. Study Finds Most Military Families Are Resilient in Face of Deployment

5. Unmarried births are becoming the norm in Western Europe, share falling in Eastern Europe

6. Porn in the Digital Age: New Research Reveals 10 Trends


8. First marriage rates reach all time low, yet our married policy makers don’t think this matters


9. What men and women wanted in a spouse in 1939 — and how different it is today

10.  Love in the age of living for ever: could your marriage last 80 years?

Moya Sarner

11. Teen birth rates are at an all-time low. We still don't know exactly why.

Updated by Tara Golshan


12. ‘Normal America’ Is Not A Small Town Of White People
Thanks Anna.


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    Different Views of Forgiveness

    Different Views of Forgiveness

    By Geoff Fallon

    By Geoff Fallon -

    The Wall Street Journal is not generally a source of information about positive psychology, but a recent article described forgiveness in some detail. Forgiveness is of course an important tenet of positive psychology. The March 21, 2016 issue contained an article entitled The Healing Power of Forgiveness, Things we’ve done – and things done to us – carry tremendous weight. Let them go.

    The article is largely based upon a recent study done at the University of Missouri College of Human Environmental Science that focused upon older adults. This group was chosen because when people grow older they commonly review their lives, which brings up things they feel good about and things they don’t. As the article states, “In the absence of forgiveness, an offense that was committed against us, or some pain that we caused others, can replay in our minds, causing continuing anger or remorse that is a recipe for bitterness and bad health.”

    Views from Medicine and Clinical Psychology

    Interestingly, the article does not cite the work of any positive psychology researchers per se, but nonetheless quotes authoritative sources like Amit Sood, a Professor of Medicine at the Mayo Clinic. Positive psychologists would likely agree with Prof. Sood’s statements that: “When you forgive, it isn’t saying that the other person is right. It isn’t justifying or condoning what the other person did.” Rather, Sood states that forgiveness “is acknowledging that you have decided to forego anger and resentment, and that any future relationship with the offending party will be on your own terms.”

    On the other hand, the article quotes clinical psychologist Janis Abrahms Spring who says it isn’t always possible to forgive. “If the other person isn’t sorry and hasn’t made meaningful amends, the hurt party often can’t and won’t forgive. They are left not forgiving, and hurting and hating.” In this situation Dr. Spring recommends that the hurt party, often with the help of psychotherapy, try to accept the situation on their own terms and recognize the magnitude of the violation but not let the unfairness become obsessive.

    In contrast to the position of Dr. Spring, many positive psychologists would say that even when the transgressor shows neither remorse nor tries to make amends, forgiveness is both possible and, indeed, beneficial to the hurt party.

    Views from Positive Psychology

    In some ways it is easy to understand the reasons why people are reluctant to forgive. Martin Seligman explained that people don’t forgive because: 1) they feel it is unjust to forgive; 2) forgiving is showing love to the transgressor but not to the victim; and 3) forgiveness blocks revenge, which is an emotion many people hold onto tightly. While these reasons appear to be self-evident and understandable, they stem in part from a misconception of forgiveness.

    It is important to understand that forgiveness does not mean re-establishing a relationship with the transgressor or pardoning them. By no means is it excusing their action or minimizing it by looking to extenuating circumstances that may have prompted their act, and it is not forgetting the wrong. An injured party is not forgiving when they feel they want the transgressor to be hurt or miserable, or when they want to stay as far away as possible from the transgressor.

    Even though the natural tendencies mentioned above make it difficult to forgive, there are real benefits to the hurt party when they forgive. McCullough, Bono, Root, and other researchers at the University of Miami found that people who forgive score lower on measures of anxiety, depression and hostility, and at the same time have more positive emotions and fewer negative emotions. Even victims of crimes benefit from forgiving the criminal. Victims who participated in face-to-face restorative justice conferences with the criminal perpetrator were 23 times more likely to feel they received an apology than those who did not participate in such a conference, and were four times less likely to have a lingering desire for revenge.

    Despite the statements of Dr. Spring that it may be impossible to forgive when the transgressor neither apologizes nor makes amends, it appears to me that the positive psychology approach, which does not require action by the transgressor, is a superior way to deal with the negative emotions the transgressor’s act produced.



    Bono, G., Root, L., & McCullough, M. (2007). Forgiveness, feeling connected to others, and well-being: Two longitudinal studies. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 20(10), 1-14. DOI: 10.1177/0146167207310025

    Cole, D. (2016, March 21). The Healing Power of Forgiveness, Things we’ve done – and things done to us – carry tremendous weight. Let them go. The Wall Street Journal, p. R8.

    Ermer, A.E., Proulx, C.M. (2015) Unforgiveness, Depression, and Health in Later Life: The Protective Factor of Forgivingness, Aging and Mental Health. Abstract.

    Jewell, L. (2011). Forgiveness or revenge? Positive Psychology News. Also appears in Character Strengths Matter.

    Lyubomirsky, S. (2008). The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want. New York: Penguin Books. See page 171.

    McCullough, M. E., Root, L. M., Tabak, B. A., & van Oyen Witvliet, C. (2011). Forgiveness. In S. Lopez & C. R. Snyder, The Oxford Handbook of Positive Psychology (Oxford Library of Psychology). Oxford University Press. See page 430.

    Seligman, Martin (2002). Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment. New York: Free Press. See page 77.

    Tandon, P. (20) Who is forgiveness for?. Positive Psychology News. Also appears in Character Strengths Matter.

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    Letting go of a hope for a better past symphony of love
    Light through the clouds courtesy of John 9:25
    One of the global stones of forgiveness courtesy of kmardahl

    This article first appeared on Positive Psychology News. To see the original article, click here. To comment on this article, click here.

    Geoff Fallon, J.D., LL.M., LL.M., is a retired attorney who has been self-studying positive psychology for three years. He is writing a book entitled 16 Proven Ways to Get Happier at Work: Even When You Can't Change Your Company, Boss, Co-workers or Customers, which is based largely upon positive psychology. Full bio.

    Geoff's articles for PositivePsychologyNews.com are here.


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    Candidates for Friday Five

    1.Losing a parent to death or divorce - which is worse? 

    2. Why do couples keep their real lives a secret from friends?



    3. Distracted Parenting 



    6. “Clear for Takeoff”: Turbulence in Romantic Relationships


    Thanks Anna


    Candidates for Friday Five

    1. Advancing the Power of Economic Evidence to Inform Investments in Children, Youth, and Families

    2. Interventions for parents and families: the evidence for improving social outcomes for children– evidence brief

    By Parenting Research Centre

    Describes the extent to which interventions for parents and families can improve social outcomes for children.

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    3. Connecting Low-Income Families to Good Jobs in Promising Fields



    4. Research Brief: Strengthening Family Ties: How Relationship Education Benefits the Parent-Child Relationship

    5.Quetelet 2016

    The unions, fertility and parenthood from the perspective of men

    6. Pope’s proclamation, like views of U.S. Catholics, indicates openness to nontraditional families


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    Fwd: How Pope Francis thinks we should change marriage prep

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    How Pope Francis thinks we should change marriage prep
    Vatican City, Apr 10, 2016 CNA/EWTN News.- Among the less-noticed passages of Pope Francis’ new exhortation was a lengthy section on marriage preparation, a subject that the pontiff has repeatedly spoken on, calling for additional focus at the diocesan and parish levels.   “Learning ...
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    Integration requires conversion: reflections on Amoris laetitia
    Washington D.C., Apr 9, 2016 CNA/EWTN News.- Reflecting on Pope Francis' apostolic exhortation on love in the family, two professors at the John Paul II Institute have emphasized the close ties between integration and conversion, as well as the importance of the Church's established teaching. Amoris ...
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    Pope urges kidnappers to release captives, including Salesian in Yemen
    VATICAN CITY (CNS) -- Pope Francis appealed for the release of all people being held captive in the world's battle zones, including Salesian Father Thomas Uzhunnalil, who was abducted in Yemen. "I renew my appeal for the liberation of all people kidnapped in areas of armed conflict," the pope said ...
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    Pope to visit Armenia, Georgia, and Azerbaijan
    Vatican City, Apr 9, 2016 CNA/EWTN News.- Pope Francis will journey this summer to Armenia, and will visit Georgia and Azerbaijan later in the year, the Vatican announced Saturday. The visit to Armenia will take place June 24-26, following the invitation of Supreme Patriarch and Catholicos of All Armenians, ...
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    Kathy Mears:  The gift of presence
    In March, our office celebrated National Catholic Sisters Week. We had a small breakfast for the sisters who work at the Pastoral Center and we acknowledged all that they have done for Catholic education in the Archdiocese of Boston. After the breakfast, our sisters joined our current school leaders ...
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    Pope Francis:  Summary of 'Amoris Laetitia: On Love in the Family'
    Below is the Vatican-provided summary of Pope Francis' Apostolic Exhortation 'Amoris Laetitia' (On Love in the Family) released April 9, 2016. To read the full text click
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    Father J. Gustave Miracle:  Lessons from a pilgrimage of faith, hope, and love
    Two months ago, we, the Haitian Catholic communities of Boston, received an invitation which brought joy into our hearts. The Office for Outreach and Cultural Diversity of the archdiocese planned to organize a pilgrimage on April 2, 2016 at the Cathedral of the Holy Cross. We happily participated in ...
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    The Office of Family Assistance posted the Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) Eleventh Report to Congress.  The report provides data through Fiscal Year (FY) 2013 and presents information regarding TANF expenditures and caseloads, work participation and earnings, the characteristics and financial circumstances of TANF recipients, TANF performance measures, interactions between TANF and child support, as well as specific provisions of state TANF programs.  The report also documents current family self-sufficiency and stability-related research, describes federal efforts to promote healthy marriage and responsible fatherhood, provides national data on out-of-wedlock births, and presents child poverty statistics.

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    Candidates for Friday Five

    1. Left or Right, It's All In the Family

    2. Marriage increases likelihood of screening colonoscopy in men

    Kotwal AA, et al.


    Yes, Marry for the Sake of the Children
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    At present in the United States, marriage provides the most reliable arrangement through which children grow up with two committed parents


    What a Marriage Therapist Really Thinks
    Wall Street Journal

    Does your marriage therapist take sides? Think you're a jerk? Secretly know whether you'll make it? William J. Doherty, a marriage and family ...

    5. A Happy Marriage Equals a Happy Heart

    6. “Amoris Laetitia,” Pope Francis’ apostolic exhortation on marriage and the family


    Marriage Matters: Marital storm detection
    Sturgis Journal

    Storms or conflict in marriage are inevitable, but destruction to the relationship does not have to be. The key to storm survival is learning to read signs ...​

    James and Audora Burg

    8. What Are the Keys to Happiness? Lessons from a 75-Year-Long Harvard Study

    9. Why Do Some Poor Kids Thrive?


    10. Introducing At-Risk Youth to Relationship Skills for Love, Life, and Work

    Wednesday, April 13th, 2016, 4:00 pm Eastern/1:00 pm Pacific

    Thanks Anna

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