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3. Couples Relationship Education Program Evaluation Project

4. 12 Tips to Help Your Board Members Raise Funds

 Christopher A. Brown

5. Young fathers show risk of postpartum depression

6. Fatherhood Adventures 

7. OU professor researches marriage, pornography use

Abby Bitterman


Amelia Karraker and Cassandra Dorius

9. Prevention science

10. How Marriage Affects Poverty

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Dear Friends,

This week we highlight new research on fatherhood, violence and marriage education programs.


Father AbsenceFather Absence, Delinquency, and Depression

The later in a child’s life that the father departs from the family, the greater the increase in adolescent delinquency.  This family disruption leads to a decline in parental monitoring and involvement. Father departure affects depressive symptoms less so, but causes subclinical levels of psychological pain, according to Anna Markowitz and Rebecca Ryan of Georgetown University.

Neighborhood ViolenceNeighborhood Violence and Parental Support

Adolescents' ability to control their anger and sadness—skills acquired through parental acceptance, support, openness, and emotion coaching—decreases neighborhood violence. Therefore, low income at-risk youth especially need involved parents to help them navigate their turbulent environment, report Michael Criss and Amanda Morris of Oklahoma State University.

Couple Relationship ClassesCouple Relationship Education Program

Couple Relationship Education (CRE) Programs improve all women’s relationships, but particularly those in more unstable relationships.  Men benefit regardless of relationship vulnerability, says Julianne McGill and Francesca Adler-Baeder of Auburn University.


1) “Effects of Fatherless Families on Crime Rates

2) “Effects of Parental Discipline on Crime Rates

3) “Effectiveness of Marriage Education Programs

With an eye to the future of America,

Pat Fagan
Director of the Marriage and Religion Research Information (MARRI) project at The Catholic University of America

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11. The effect of parental divorce on children’s long-term outcomes

Wolfgang Frimmel, Martin Halla, Rudolf Winter-Ebmer

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1. Do You Have a Negative Attitude about Aging?

 Kate Wheeling 


3. High stress between 5 and 8 is biologically embedded, posing mental health risks decades later into adult life, suggests US brain scans study.

Dr Jamie Hanson

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5. Marriage tips: what a 70-year union and new study can teach couples

Patricia Kozicka


Promoting Child Well Being and Permanency Through Healthy Relationships

The National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families

7. Science Behind a Happy Relationship

8. The Next Generation of Fathers

Matthew Melmed

9. Welfare Reform Turns 20: Looking Back, Going Forward
August 22, 2016
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10. Enrichment Programs

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1. Do You Have a Negative Attitude about Aging?

 Kate Wheeling 


3. High stress between 5 and 8 is biologically embedded, posing mental health risks decades later into adult life, suggests US brain scans study.

Dr Jamie Hanson

4. Pick One...

5. Marriage tips: what a 70-year union and new study can teach couples

Patricia Kozicka


Promoting Child Well Being and Permanency Through Healthy Relationships

The National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families

7. Science Behind a Happy Relationship

8. The Next Generation of Fathers

Matthew Melmed

9. Welfare Reform Turns 20: Looking Back, Going Forward
August 22, 2016
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10. Enrichment Programs

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8 Ways to Date Your Spouse without Breaking the Budget

by Whitney Hopler

Editor's Note: The following is a report on the practical applications of Peter and Heather Larson’s and David and Claudia Arp’s new book $10 Great Dates: Connecting Love, Marriage, and Fun on a Budget (Bethany House, 2014).

Dating your spouse is vital to the health of your marriage, since sharing experiences outside of your normal routines keeps your relationship fresh and strengthens your bond. But traditional dates are often so expensive that couples sometimes neglect dating rather than deal with the stress of paying for pricey dates, like dinner at a fancy restaurant followed by a movie.

The good news is that by using your God-given creativity, you can create big romance on a small budget. Here are 8 types of dates you and your spouse can enjoy together for only about $10:

Adventure dates. Imagine that you and your spouse are tourists visiting your hometown, and enjoy tourist attractions that you haven’t yet visited together. Go shopping together on a mission to buy surprise gifts for each other, spending no more than $5 each on those gifts. Attend a free community workshop or seminar with your spouse to learn something new. Drive some back roads in your area to explore, going as far out and back as you can afford on $10 worth of gas. Visit a local home improvement store together to plan future projects for your home.

Out-on-the-town dates. Eat just desserts at a fancy restaurant, enjoying the atmosphere after you’ve eaten your main course inexpensively at home. Visit a store that sells greeting cards, choose cards to give to each other, and then put them back. Tour homes that are on sale during open house events. Discover interesting books, CDs, and DVDs at your local public library together. Drive to places in your area that are significant to your relationship – places where you all created good memories in the past – and take photos of each other at those places now. Eat breakfast together at home in bed, or out at an inexpensive restaurant. Transform the errands you have to do into a date by doing the errands together. Visit a museum in your area to learn more about art, history, or science through the museum’s collection.

At-home dates. Watch a movie that you had seen during your first year of dating and reminisce about that time in your lives together. Beat the “blahs” by doing something out of each other’s comfort zones or encouraging someone you all know who is going through a difficult time. Play games that you all enjoyed growing up, such as a favorite board game. Search for coupons together that you can use to save money on future fun activities. Cook together, preparing a meal that neither of you has ever created before. Watch the video of your wedding ceremony and reception and reminisce about that special day.

The Great Outdoors dates. Take a hike together, enjoying the scenery and conversation. Enjoy a campfire or fireplace with your spouse. Stream a movie through a mobile device at an outdoor location. Go to a local youth sporting event (like a baseball, soccer, or football game) together. Walk, jog, or run together and practice adjusting your pace to be in sync with each other as you do. Go to a local playground and enjoy playing together like children there. Take a walk outside either during the morning, when you can see the sunrise, or at night, when you can see the moon and stars.

Marriage pick-me-up dates. Research each other’s family history (through genealogy websites, family Bible records, family interviews, etc.) during a date. Order something inexpensive at a fast food restaurant’s drive-through window and observe the importance of checking the accuracy of the order so you can strengthen your listening skills with each other. Go someplace you all can talk privately and conduct a marriage checkup, talking about the current health of your relationship. Volunteer your time and energy to work together on a project or helping someone in need. Compile a “bucket list” of places you both would like to travel to during your lifetimes. Identify people who have helped you all as a couple and spend time on a date expressing your gratitude to at least one of them.

Romantic dates. Prepare an elegant dinner that you serve to your spouse as a picnic under the evening stars. Enjoy a spa experience at home, with a romantic bath and massages that you give each other. Take dancing lessons at home through free online videos. Meet your spouse at the door when he or she returns home in the evening and offer to grant three of his or her romantic wishes. Visit a hotel lobby to watch the people and enjoy the atmosphere there together. Surprise each other with inexpensive objects in a place that will help you communicate a significant message of love.

Seasonal special dates. Celebrate the arrival of spring by attending a local festival together. Choose some seeds – for vegetables, fruits, herbs, or flowers – and plant them in your yard or in a pot together. Have fun with your spouse in water, such as by swimming, boating, or fishing. Visit a farmer’s market to buy some fresh and inexpensive food. Pick your own fruit (such as apples or strawberries) at a local orchard. Take a hike together in the snow if you live in a place that’s cold enough for snow. Work out together during the holidays to make up for the extra calories you’re eating then. Drive around nearby neighborhoods to see Christmas lights and decorations.

Unique and unusual dates. Have a gold scavenger hunt in your house and sell any gold you find that you no longer need. See what food you can find in your pantry and freezer, and prepare it together for dinner at home. Test drive a vehicle at a local dealership just to enjoy the experience together. Play with a pet at home together, or visit your local shelter or pet store to play with the animals there. Plan landscaping for your yard. Look for bargains under $10 at estate sales in your area.

Adapted from $10 Great Dates: Connecting Love, Marriage, and Fun on a Budget, copyright 2014 by Peter and Heather Larson and David and Claudia Arp. Published by Bethany House, a division of Baker Publishing Group, Bloomington, Mn.,      

Peter and Heather Larson and David and Claudia Arp help couples of all ages and stages build great marriages. Peter is a licensed clinical psychologist and Heather is a Christian relationship coach. David and Claudia, founders of Marriage Alive, created the many 10 Great Dates seminars and resources now popular across the United States and internationally.

Whitney Hopler, who has served as a contributing writer for many years, is author of the Christian novel Dream Factory, which is set during Hollywood's golden age. She produced a site about angels and miracles for Now she writes about the power of thoughts on her “Renewing Your Mind” blog.

Publication date: October 20, 2014

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Candidates for Friday Five

1. Funding opportunities: culture of health, fatherhood research

2. Americans think more than half of vets have mental problems, survey says

Patricia Kime, Military Times

3. New AF violence prevention specialists training begins

Staff Sgt. Daniel Phelp

4. Primary Health Care: Potential Home for Family-Focused Preventive Interventions

6. Rural poverty: 'A way of life' for numerous Oklahomans


7. State ends Marriage Initiative as part of budget cuts

8. Bowen named dean of UNC-Chapel Hill School of Social Work

9. It’s Not Just About Consent


10. Teaching kids empathy: In Danish schools, it’s … well, it’s a piece of cake

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Chaplain Justin David Roberts served 6 years active duty as an Army Chaplain. Before he left the Army in 2015 he found that beneath the collar of ministry he was struggling with depression and PTSD. Wondering what kind of father he would be if he did not face his issues, he set out on a journey to meet up with members of his old unit. Along the way, they recall their tour of duty. In total, 17 soldiers were killed in action (KIA) and over 200 were wounded during the deployment. Almost all of the men were who died were killed while either trying to save someone or protect others. The common thread in every one of these stories of valor is love.

No Greater Love layers the footage Roberts shot while on missions in Afghanistan, with heartfelt interviews of the men he served with, as well as surviving family members. Through telling these stories, the soldiers that deployed with the legendary No Slack battalion are finding healing and purpose after combat.

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Ethics & Religion

August 10, 2016

Column #1,824

Children Are Hurt by Marriage Failure

By Mike McManus


            We all know that half of America’s marriages fail – and have for decades.  What’s less well known is that America’s marriage rate has plunged in half and unwed births soared 8-fold.


            Who is most wounded by divorce and non-marriage? Children - innocent victims of their parents’ selfishness.   Only 46% of American kids are being raised by their married parents, reports Patrick Fagan of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute (MARRI).


More than half of America’s kids are hurt and confused by their own parents! They give children the one event that is disastrously life-changing.


            This is not news.  According to an eight decade study begun in 1921 by Dr. Lewis Terman, children of divorced parents are 44% more apt to die early, a lifespan shortened by an average of 4.5 years.


            Terman said parental divorce – not parental death – is the risk. “In fact, parental divorce during childhood was the single strongest social predictor of early death, many years into the future.”


For example, children of divorce are more likely to contract cancer of the digestive tract, pancreas, lungs and cervix – than children reared by their married parents. 


In addition, children from divorced families have more emotional and behavioral problems, negative feelings and less psychological well-being than those from intact families. Upon the divorce of their parents, children experience a wide range of emotional reactions such as sadness, anger, loneliness and depression (which frequently lasts into adulthood), heightened anxiety, worry, lower life satisfaction, lower self-esteem and self-confidence.


David Popenoe of the National Survey of Children reports that parental divorce sparks such mental health problems in their children as depression, withdrawal from friends and family, aggressive, impulsive or hyperactive behavior.  They either behave disruptively or withdraw from participation in the classroom.  They may also develop mood disorders, bipolar/disorder, mild chronic depression and post-traumatic stress disorder.


When children experience parental divorce before age five, they are particularly vulnerable to emotional conflicts when their parents separate, reports MARRI’s Fagan.  They will frequently cling to their parents and “regress” to bedwetting and other behaviors more characteristic of younger children.


Older children, rather than clinging, frequently withdraw from home life and seek intimacy elsewhere. If the divorce occurs while the children ate teenagers, they tend to react in one of two ways.  Either they attempt to avoid growing up or to “speed through” adolescence. Early sexual activity, substance abuse or dependence, hostile behavior and depression are all more likely to occur after divorce.


One tragic result is the soaring percentage of children born to unmarried parents. The U.S. unwed birth rate was only 5% in 1960, but jumped 8-fold to 40%. That figure is 20 times the 2% unwed birth rate of Japan!


America’s high unwed birth and divorce rate is having a devastating impact on the academic achievement of our kids.  For example, Japanese children academically outperform U.S. kids.  Compared to children from 31 countries on international math tests, U.S. kids scored at the bottom, 31st vs. 8th for Japan.  Japanese kids were #3 in science vs. #24 for U.S.  In reading, Japanese kids were third best, and Americans, 21st.  Other Asian countries, with low unwed birth rates and divorces all scored as good as or better than Japan. 


U.S. children of divorce and non-marriage are three times more likely to be expelled from school or to have a child as a teenager as are children from intact homes, are five times more apt to live in poverty, six times more likely to commit suicide and twelve times more likely to be incarcerated, reports a Heritage study by Patrick Fagan and Robert Rector.


However, statistics blur the eyes.  Behind them are kids who are vulnerable and confused.


These tragic results should prompt America’s pastors to make a new commitment to strengthening marriage.  Marriages have plunged 57% since 1970.  There were actually more marriages in 1970 than in 2015!  If the same percentage of couples were marrying now as in 1970 – there’d be 1.3 million more marriages a year! Never-married Americans nearly quintupled from 8.7 million to 41.3 million.


These trends are not healthy for adults.  Divorced men live 10 years less than married men, and divorced women, four years less. More importantly, non-marriage or divorce is devastating to America’s children.


How can marriage be re-established?  The nation’s pastors, priests and rabbis should take on promoting of marriage as a high priority. America’s faith leaders care about marriage, but have sat on the sidelines as God’s first institution has deteriorated. 


It’s time for pastors to pastor.

Copyright © 2016 Michael J. McManus, President of Marriage Savers and a syndicated columnist. For past columns, go to Hit Search for any topic.




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