Fwd: New Individually-Authored Perspectives

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Subject: New Individually-Authored Perspectives
To: William <billcoffin68@gmail.com>

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New Individually-Authored Perspectives

Unleashing the Power of Prevention

Authors: J. David Hawkins, Jeffrey M. Jenson, Richard Catalano, Mark W. Fraser, Gilbert J. Botvin, Valerie Shapiro, C. Hendricks Brown, William Beardslee, David Brent, Laurel K. Leslie, Mary Jane Rotheram-Borus, Pat Shea, Andy Shih, Elizabeth Anthony, Kevin P. Haggerty, Kimberly Bender, Deborah Gorman-Smith, Erin Casey, and Susan Stone

Every day across America, behavioral health problems in childhood and adolescence, from anxiety to violence, take a heavy toll on millions of lives. For decades the approach to these problems has been to treat them only after they’ve been identified—at a high and ongoing cost to young people, families, entire communities, and our nation. Now we have a 30-year body of research and more than 50 programs showing that behavioral health problems can be prevented. This critical mass of prevention science is converging with growing interest in prevention across health care, education, child psychiatry, child welfare, and juvenile justice. Together, we stand at the threshold of a new age of prevention. The challenge now is to mobilize across disciplines and communities to unleash the power of prevention on a nationwide scale. We propose a grand challenge that will advance the policies, programs, funding, and workforce preparation needed to promote behavioral health and prevent behavioral health problems among all young people—including those at greatest disadvantage or risk, from birth through age 24. Within a decade, we can reduce the incidence and prevalence of behavioral health problems in this population by 20 percent from current levels through widespread policies and programs that will serve millions and save billions. Prevention is the best investment we can make, and the time to make it is now.
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A Challenge to Unleash the Power of Prevention

Authors: J. David Hawkins, Jeffrey M. Jenson, Richard Catalano, Mark W. Fraser, Gilbert J. Botvin, Valerie Shapiro, C. Hendricks Brown, William Beardslee, David Brent, Laurel K. Leslie, Mary Jane Rotheram-Borus, Pat Shea, Andy Shih, Elizabeth Anthony, Kevin P. Haggerty, Kimberly Bender, Deborah Gorman-Smith, Erin Casey, and Susan Stone

Prevention is the best investment we can make in behavioral health—and the time to make it is now. Every day, across America, behavioral health problems in childhood and adoles-cence take a heavy toll on millions of lives. These problems cause deep, often long-term damage to young people, families, schools, and communities. They erode the social con-tract that one generation makes with another to equip its young people for a bright future.Behavioral health problems range widely from anxiety and depression to alcohol, tobacco, and drug abuse; delinquent and violent behavior; dropping out of school; and risky sexual activity and unwanted pregnancies. Behavioral health is defined so broadly because many of these problems share risk factors and solutions. Preventing one problem often reduces another, or several others. For decades, the approach to behavioral health problems was to treat them one at a time and only after they were identified—at a high and ongoing price. The cost of treat-ment services and lost productivity attribut-ed to depression, conduct disorder, and sub-stance abuse alone are estimated at $247 bil-lion per year. Other losses—in lifetimes of compromised potential, the fraying of our social fabric, and the diminishment of our nation’s future—are incalculable. 
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Fwd: Day 180 - Are all people called to marriage? // How is a Church wedding celebrated?

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Date: Mon, Jun 29, 2015 at 7:54 AM
Subject: Day 180 - Are all people called to marriage? // How is a Church wedding celebrated?
To: Bill Coffin <billcoffin68@gmail.com>

Why is marriage indissoluble? Not everyone is called to marriage. Even people who live alone can have fulfillment in life. To many of them Jesus shows a special way; he invites them to remain unmarried "for the sake of the...
Catechism in a Year   Catechism in a Year

Why is marriage indissoluble?

Not everyone is called to marriage. Even people who live alone can have fulfillment in life. To many of them Jesus shows a special way; he invites them to remain unmarried "for the sake of the kingdom of heaven" (Mt 19:12). Many people who live alone suffer from loneliness, which they perceive only as a lack and a disadvantage. Yet a person who does not have to care for a spouse or a family also enjoys freedom and independence and has time to do meaningful and important things that a married person would never get to. Maybe it is God's will that he should care for people for whom no one else cares. Not uncommonly God even calls such a person to be especially close to him. This is the case when one senses a desire to renounce marriage "for the sake of the kingdom of heaven". Of course a Christian vocation can never mean despising marriage or sexuality. Voluntary celibacy can be practiced only in love and out of love, as a powerful sign that God is more important than anything else. The unmarried person renounces a sexual relationship but not love; full of longing he goes out to meet Christ the bridegroom who is coming (Mt 25:6).

How is a Church wedding celebrated?

As a rule a wedding must take place publicly. The bride and bridegroom are questioned as to their intention to marry. The priest or the deacon blesses their rings. The bride and bridegroom exchange rings and mutually promise "to be true in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health" and vow to each other: "I will love you and honor you all the days of my life." The celebrant ratifies the wedding and administers the blessing. Here are some excerpts from one form of the Rite of Catholic Marriage: Celebrant: N. and N., have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?" Bride and bridegroom: "Yes." Celebrant: "Will you love and honor each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?" Bride and bridegroom: "Yes." The celebrant then asks the bride and bridegroom together the following questions. "Will you accept children lovingly from God and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?" Bride and bridegroom: "Yes." (YOUCAT Questions 265-266)

Dig Deeper: CCC section (1621-1624) and other references here.

Check out the incredible series on marriage from the Augustine Institute, Beloved. With both a marriage prep and a marriage enrichment component, it's perfect for both the soon to be married and the married for years!


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Fwd: Day 179 - Why is marriage indissoluble? // What threatens marriages?

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From: Catechism in a Year <mail@flocknote.com>
Date: Sun, Jun 28, 2015 at 7:53 AM
Subject: Day 179 - Why is marriage indissoluble? // What threatens marriages?
To: Bill Coffin <billcoffin68@gmail.com>

Why is marriage indissoluble? Marriage is triply indissoluble: first, because the essence of love is mutual self-giving without reservation; second, because it is an image of God's unconditional faithfulness to his creation; and...
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Why is marriage indissoluble?

Marriage is triply indissoluble: first, because the essence of love is mutual self-giving without reservation; second, because it is an image of God's unconditional faithfulness to his creation; and third, because it represents Christ's devotion to his Church, even unto death on the Cross.

At a time when 50 percent of marriages in many places end in divorce, every marriage that lasts is a great sign - ultimately a sign for God. On this earth, where so much is relative, people ought to believe in God, who alone is absolute. That is why everything that is not relative is so important: someone who speaks the truth absolutely or is absolutely loyal. Absolute fidelity in marriage is not so much a human achievement as it is a testimony to the faithfulness of God, who is there even when we betray or forget him in so many ways. To be married in the Church means to rely more on God's help than on one's own resources of love.

What threatens marriages?

What really threatens marriages is sin; what renews them is forgiveness; what makes them strong is prayer and trust in God's presence.

Conflict between men and women, which sometimes reaches the point of mutual hatred in marriages, of all places, is not a sign that the sexes are incompatible; nor is there such a thing as a genetic disposition to infidelity or some special psychological disability for lifelong commitments. Many marriages, however, are endangered by a lack of communication and consideration. Then there are economic and societal problems. The decisive role is played by the reality of sin: envy, love of power, a tendency to quarrel, lust, infidelity, and other destructive forces. That is why forgiveness and reconciliation, in confession as well, is an essential part of every marriage. (YOUCat questions 263-264)

Dig Deeper: CCC section (1612-1617) and other references here.

Want to know more about Marriage? Check out Remaining in the Truth of Christ: Marriage and Communion in the Catholic Church. Explore this book now.


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Fwd: Day 178 - What is necessary for a Christian, sacramental marriage?

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Date: Sat, Jun 27, 2015 at 7:28 AM
Subject: Day 178 - What is necessary for a Christian, sacramental marriage?
To: Bill Coffin <billcoffin68@gmail.com>

What is necessary for a Christian, sacramental marriage? A sacramental marriage has three necessary elements: (a) free consent, (b) the affirmation of a life- long, exclusive union, and (c) openness to children. The most profound...
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What is necessary for a Christian, sacramental marriage?

A sacramental marriage has three necessary elements: (a) free consent, (b) the affirmation of a life- long, exclusive union, and (c) openness to children. The most profound thing about a Christian marriage, however, is the couple's knowledge: "We are a living image of the love between Christ and the Church."

The requirement of unity and indissolubility is directed in the first place against polygamy, which Christianity views as a fundamental offense against charity and human rights; it is also directed against what could be called "successive polygamy", a series of non-binding love affairs that never arrive at one, great, irrevocable commitment. The requirement of marital fidelity entails a willingness to enter a lifelong union, which excludes affairs outside the marriage. The requirement of open- ness to fertility means that the Christian married couple are willing to accept any children that God may send them. Couples who remain childless are called by God to become "fruitful" in some other way. A marriage in which one of these elements is excluded at the mar- riage ceremony is not valid. (YOUCAT question 262)

Dig Deeper: CCC section (1644-1654) and other references here.

What exactly does the Church teach about marriage, divorce and Holy Communion? Get the scoop from five cardinals in Remaining in the Truth of Christ. You'll be glad you've read it once the Synod of the Family arrives this fall!


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Fwd: ACF Region VI Fatherhood, Healthy Relationship, Marriage and Family Self-Sufficiency Information

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Date: Fri, Jun 19, 2015 at 11:11 AM
Subject: ACF Region VI Fatherhood, Healthy Relationship, Marriage and Family Self-Sufficiency Information
To: "McDowell, Larry (ACF)" <larry.mcdowell@acf.hhs.gov>


Dear Dad: A Father's Day Letter



What Makes a Good Dad?



Father's Day Message to Fathers



The First Ever State of the World’s Fathers

State of the World’s Fathers is the world’s first report to provide a global view of the state of men’s contributions to parenting and caregiving.



Fatherhood Buzz- Fatherhood Buzz is an effort to increase awareness around responsible fatherhood and parenting issues, and increase families access to support through local barbershops throughout the country. 



This information is being shared with you for your use as a resource and for informational purposes.  Links, such as these, are being provided to our community partners to help one better understand what strategies various organizations are using to nurture healthy relationships, families, fatherhood  and otherwise support the various ACF family self-sufficiency  initiatives.  Reference in this email to any specific commercial products, process, service, manufacturer, or company does not constitute its endorsement or recommendation by the U.S. Government, the Department of Health and Human Services, or the Administration for Children and Families (ACF). ACF is not responsible for the contents of any "off-site" web page referenced from this server or from private, third-party, pop-up, or browser-integrated software or applications.




FAIR USE NOTICE: This message may contain copyrighted material the use of which has not always been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. We make such material available in our efforts to advance understanding of fatherhood, marriage, family, couples, divorce, legislation, family breakdown, etc. In accordance with Title 17 U.S.C. Section 107, the material on this site is distributed without profit to those who have expressed a prior interest in receiving the included information for research and educational purposes. If you wish to use copyrighted material from this site for purposes of your own that go beyond 'fair use', you must obtain permission from the copyright owner. For more information you can refer to: http://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/html/uscode17/usc_sec_17_00000107----000-.html





Larry D. McDowell                                        

Children and Families Program Specialist 

Office of Family Assistance/TANF Program                  

U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services

ACF Region VI Office

1301 Young St.; Room 945

Dallas, Texas 75202

Email: larry.mcdowell@acf.hhs.gov               

Telephone 214-767-7327



Fwd: Fathering Kemp Video content you can post and utilize

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From: "Jeff Kemp" <jkemp@familylife.com>
Date: Jun 17, 2015 12:11 PM
Subject: Fwd: Fathering Kemp Video content you can post and utilize
To: "Bill Coffin" <billcoffin68@gmail.com>


If you want to post any of the following 1 minute videos on websites or social media, this week or at other times you are welcome to.
See their purpose and content written out below:

Jeff Kemp  

Here are links for you to use if you so choose:



End in mind:  Stir the heart of dads and people toward their dads.  Get moms and dads to spread this around for encouragement and to get facing the blitz for fathers day gift


Most all of us have a father wound of some sort or another, especially in our society with so many missing dads and fragmented families.  Admitting that pain is the first step to moving past it.   As soon as we do that, we can do something about it.  I learned a lot about this from my former team mate on the Seattle Seahawks, Steve Largent.  Steve's dad divorced his mom and left the family when Steve was little.  For years Steve buried the pain of the wound and channeled it into his heroic work ethic and football success.  Bitterness was natural...and it only increased when his dad, who had been painfully absent for decades, finally reached out to Steve one year when the Seahawks made the playoffs.  His dad wanted tickets.  Steve was hurt and bitter.  But, Steve's faith in Jesus compelled him to keep growing as a person, and that meant healing relationships.  Finally, a couple years later Steve initiated the healing.  He approached his dad and took the road less travelled.  He actually apologized to his dad for his own shortcomings and lack of respect as a son.  His dad apologized as well and a father son relationship started healing from the wounds of the past.  Don't wait for your dad or son to apologize.  Lead the way with an apology for anything on your end.  Choose to forgive and start anew today.   Face your blitz.    HONOR YOUR FATHER TODAY      HonorYourFatherToday.com               FacingTheBlitz.com


We never went to the Super Bowl when I was on the Seattle Seahawks.  Years after I retired they made their first trip to the Super Bowl.  And I made it a special father-son trip for my 3rd son Kolby and me.  We jumped on a United flight to Detroit and pretty soon were fascinated by two fanatical Seahawk fans.  These two young men were brothers in their late 20s.  They were so hyper excited I asked them why they loved the Seahawks so much.  They told me it was their dad.  He'd taken them to every home game when they were little, and they'd watched all the away games on TV.  It was obvious they were gung ho about their dad and crazy about the Seahawks. They gushed that they couldn't be more excited to be going to the Super Bowl, and bringing their dad.  "Cool...where is he?", I asked.  "Oh, He's in the overhead compartment.  We have his ashes in a blue and green urn up there."        Dad's you only have a few years to build a passionate bond with your kids.  You'll probably find a different way than their dad in the blue and green urn did...but you gotta do it.  Be intentional.  Be energetic.  Be enthusiastic.  Find out what they love and build traditions and memories together!    HONOR YOUR FATHER TODAY     HonorYourFatherToday.com                  FacingTheBlitz.com


Dads, I want to thank and encourage you.  Don't beat yourself up over the past.  Decide to do your best from this day forward.  Try this game plan.  First, realize that your imperfect dad probably did the best he could with what he had.  Set yourself free and forgive Him.  Next, remember you have a perfect heavenly father, who's love for you is so radical and unconditional that He sacrificed His perfect Son to pay the death penalty that you and I deserve.  Accept that love.  Now, start the healing with your dad if he's alive.  Ignore your dad's faults and initiate an apology to him.  Don't expect any apology in return.  Next, apologize to your kids for where you have fallen short, or missed the mark as a their dad.  Maybe you have not been present, you've not been engaged, you've not been transparent or honest with them.  Maybe you haven't hugged and said "I love you" much.  Get started.  Maybe you haven't given the boundaries and training and protection they needed.  Tell them your faults.  Tell them your love.  Start to do your best, today.  You are the best dad in the world to your child...from this day forward.    GET TOGETHER WITH SOME GUYS, YOUR TEEN or OLDER SON and GO THROUGH STEPPING UP, THE CALL TO COURAGEOUS MANHOOD      MenSteppingUp.com              FacingTheBlitz.com


My wife and I organized a cool backyard birthday party for our 5 year old son Kolby.  I ran all the outdoor games and relay races.  I had them crawling under army camoflage netting, flopping over hammocks and running around obstacles.  It was serious boy fun.
About half way thru the party though, I had to hug Kolby goodbye, rush in the house, grab my pre packed suitcase and head off to the airport for a speech.    Half a year later, with no prompting and out of the blue, Kolby posed a question he had been pondering to my wife Stacy.
"Mommy, when I have my birthday party this year, will daddy be there for the whole party?"        Dads... We don't have to be there all the time, or at everything event.  But we do need to know how much it matters to them!  We need to keep our word and make the special efforts.
You are the only dad they have and you are a champion to them.  Be honest, Be real, be present, be intentional.  Dads, I honor you and the huge impact you make.    TEAM UP WITH SOME OTHER DADS AND GO THROUGH STEPPING UP, OR CONTACT US SO WE CAN HELP YOU BE THE GREAT DAD GOD DESIGNED     MenSteppingUp.com            FacingTheBlitz.com

good and not so good about Jeff's dad.  and not so good in Jeff.  Keep learning.   Honor Your Father and Keep investing in your kids.
MenSteppingUp.com                   FacingTheBlitz.com

Jeff Kemp  

FACING THE BLITZ  launched March 24  www.FacingTheBlitz.com - 1 min promo
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Fwd: Relaunching of our website:eddieandsylviarobertson.com

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Date: Tue, Jun 16, 2015 at 9:52 PM
Subject: Relaunching of our website:eddieandsylviarobertson.com
Cc: mike@underdogmarkets.com

Friends:  When we published Wonderful Wednesdays in 2012, we built a website through our publisher. For a variety of reasons, we have rebuilt the site with a new developer in order to make it more Google friendly (or search engine optimized as they say). We learned that there were 7000 searches in the Atlanta area for Marriage Enrichment and 4000 for Marriage Education in April alone. We hope to reach more couples who have need of marriage enrichment and to provide links on the site especially to Better Marriages and other trusted resources. We want to better pass the love along.

We need you! The more activity that happens on our site, the more people who share their contact information, the more links you suggest, the more use of any kind the site gets, the closer it gets to being available on the first few Google  pages. We won't abuse you. We will let you know when we post and invite you to events, etc.

Please, visit, sign in, suggest topics, suggest other links, Like Eddie and Sylvia Robertson on Facebook, and keep reaching out with us to share Hope in Marriage.

[And, if you are needing copies of Wonderful Wednesdays, you will find a link to our publisher Yawn's and to Better Marriages where you will find the On-Line Book Store.]

Thank you so very much.

Fwd: 2015 NARME Leadership Summit NEXT Week!

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Date: Fri, Jun 12, 2015 at 10:49 AM
Subject: 2015 NARME Leadership Summit NEXT Week!
To: billcoffin68@gmail.com

In This Issue
What dads do: 14 reasons to celebrate fatherhood
People used to say that "Father knows best." Well, maybe he still does... but fathers sure DO a lot more than they used to. From changing diapers and cleaning up baby spit-up to helping with homework and having emotional conversations with teenagers, dads today are all-in. Read More 
Kids in Foster Care Deserve Loving Families
The vast majority of American children in the child welfare system live with foster families. Yet one in seven of them, and one in three of the system's teens-close to 57,000 young people in all on a given day-reside in a group setting. Read More
You've doubtless heard about how many young adults are living with their parents these days. "Older Millennials Keep Moving in With Their Parents," says Slate. Read More 
How American parenting is killing the American marriage
Sometime between when we were children and when we had children of our own, parenthood became a religion in America. As with many religions, complete unthinking devotion is required from its practitioners.  Read More
Should We Pity or Praise the Childless?
The childless do not envy the life of parents, according to Tim Kreider. Parents' existence is "noisy and toy-strewn, pee-stained and shrieky, without two consecutive moments to read a book or have an adult conversation or formulate a coherent thought."Read More
Interfaith marriage is common in U.S., particularly among the recently wed

Marrying within the faith is still common in the United States, with nearly seven-in-ten married people (69%) saying that their spouse shares their religion, according to a recent Pew Research Center survey.    Read More 

SNAP happy? Welfare, poverty, and well-being, revisited

Poverty undermines well-being. Being poor in the United States is associated with lower life satisfaction, and with greater stress, pain, and anger. Read More 

This is exactly what we are trying to prevent!  

Tom Booker and Emma Bradford were married at Walthamstow Chapel in 1955. So as not to sully their love, Emma refused to take her husband's name, with his agreement.

To preserve the purity of their union, they spent their honeymoon at their respective flats in Bow and Bethnal Green. Since then, they have communicated only once a year, via a mutual friend, to wish each other a happy wedding anniversary. Read More 

CDC: Fewer Single Young Men Becoming First-Time Fathers
Fewer unmarried American men are becoming first-time fathers, according to a June data brief published by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS).

To gain insight into fatherhood trends over the last 30 years, Gladys Martinez, PhD, of the NCHS in Hyattsville, MD, examined information collected by the National Survey of Family Growth in three time frames: 1980-1989, 1990-1999 and 2000-2009. Surveys involved interviews with men and women between the ages of 15-44. Read More

  The NARME Leadership Summit is almost here!!

Pull out that suitcase, fill it with comfortable clothes and plan to be inspired, renewed - oh, and have fun, fun, fun while you are doing that! You will learn ways to push your team to the front of the line and all those special extras to move your proposal to the top of the pile!   The awesome line up of plenary/workshop speakers, the networking and the proposal-writing tips are the extra boosts that help you and your team set your sights high and reach your goals!      

Click here to Register 


While the Summit hotel is full, there is still room for you!  We have made sure there are hotel rooms available nearby!  


Click Here 


Remember, there are some fun surprises in store for you and the networking opportunities are invaluable to help you stretch and challenge your entire organization so make sure you are signed up for the networking event!  Sometimes we have people wait till the last minute to sign up for the networking event and then they are disappointed when there are not spaces available!  We don't want that to happen to you, so please be sure to sign up now! 


Join Us for Breakfast Monday Morning, June 15th for an Exclusive presentation of Grant Writing Tips!

Whether you are preparing to apply for local, state or federal grants such as the Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood grants,NARME wants to play a supportive role in the process...Join us for breakfast on Monday morning, June 15 from 8:00am - 9:30am for "Write and Review a Winning Proposal", an exclusive presentation on grant writing tips as well as how to objectively review your grant for the maximum score you want and need. Patty Howell, President of Healthy Relationships California  - the largest Healthy Marriage Grant recipient - will lead this session.  Breakfast is $15 per person (this is our cost) and can be as part of the conference. You can register for this session when you register for the conference.

Additionally, we encourage you to connect with others at the conference on Tuesday, June 16th during our lunch session to gain additional insight and ideas. Peer to peer collaboration is vital when writing a grant to ensure that your approach is clear and concise. These opportunities are priceless, especially if this is your first time to apply! Take advantage of this great opportunity today, and register at  www.narme.org

Join Us for a Night of Fun! 

You won't want to miss the FUN at the networking event at Main Event. This is a playground for grown-ups complete with dinner, bowling, multi-level ropes course, billiards, arcade games and laser tag! A great chance to not only network with new faces, reconnect with old, but also an opportunity to do some team building with your colleagues if you come as a group! The cost is $50 per person and $10 for transportation for those that need it. Register now at  www.narme.org

Webinars offered to Help you with your Proposal! 

The Office of Family Assistance (OFA) hosted a series of pre-application webinars to provide an overview of the published Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood Funding Opportunity Announcements. Recordings of these events as well as Frequently Asked Questions and presentation materials are now available.

More Proposal Resources!

Family Wellness curricula 
Survival Skills for Healthy Families has been evidence-based for more than thirty years and is now included in the SAMHSA 'best practice' list.  


For thirty-five years we've been hearing from consumers that one of the many advantages of utilizing Family Wellness Associates curricula is that we grant you permission to replicate individual pages from the curricula and to include other material which resonate with your community.  You also have our consent to 'mix and match' topics from our seven programs to 'personalize' your presentation for your audience.  One last factor that providers have been extremely pleased with is that there is no mandatory cost for additional materials, etc. once you've completed the three-day Certified Instructor Training. 


 Our curriculum is consistently praised by agencies and groups that work with minorities and other underserved groups (ethnic and otherwise).  We have been the focus of study by many independent research projects.  Notably, New Mexico State University recently conducted a five-year outcome study with strong results.We are very proud of our "Dads for Life" Fatherhood curriculum that was written by three fathers from a broad spectrum of parenting styles.  Feedback from instructors and participants has remained consistently positive.


To ease this grant proposal process, please visit our website at www.familywellness.com to find the specific research, curricula, and validated Pre-/Post-Test inventories developed by New Mexico State University that further validate our Pre-Marriage, Marriage/ Couple, and Fatherhood curricula.Family Wellness Associates wish you and your organization the best of outcomes in your grant submission!


We are available to assist your organization's grant writer in any way we can to increase your opportunity of submitting a successful grant proposal.  Just contact us toll-free at 888-543-3809 or e-mail



 ELEVATE Curricula: Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level is a couples education curriculum that blends practical skills with an understanding of the physiology of human interaction (the heart-brain-behavior connection) to enhance healthy relationship knowledge and skills. ELEVATE aligns with the following healthy marriage promotion activities: Marriage & Relationship Education/Skills (MRES); Pre-Marital Education; and Marriage Enrichment.


ELEVATE is evidence-informed. This program is grounded in the National Extension Relationship and Marriage Education Model (NERMEM, seewww.nermen.org) explicitly built on the research on predictors of relationship quality and adapted from the Healthy Relationship and Marriage Education Training (www.hrmet.org)  developed with funding from the Federal Children's Bureau. Also grounded in best-practices of family life education, two distinct characteristics of ELEVATE are (1) the practical strategies and tools taught and (2) the inclusion of mindfulness practice activities that help couples regulate their heart-brain response to stressful triggers. This 8-hour, hands-on training engages couples in learning and practicing the seven core principles and skills research has identified as essential to maintaining healthy and stable relationships. Pilot research has shown participants demonstrate significant reductions in negative couple interactions and enhancements in positive interactions, along with benefits to their individual well-being.


ELEVATE is low-cost. The curriculum and materials for participants are available on-line to download for FREE or you can purchase a hard copy of the complete program for only $60. The program includes a facilitator manual, fully scripted lessons plans, presentation slides, and videos. The cost for hard copy materials  per couple (2 workbooks and the relationship wheel) is only $11.50. 


Document Impact. Evaluation tools are now available online. Pre-, Post-, and Follow-up survey instruments were designed to measure change and document improvement in personal and relationship well-being.


To learn more, visit www.nermen.org/ELEVATE.php 


COPES, Inc. would like to assist your agency in achieving your measurable outcomes. Several of our nationally recognized, evidenced-based CLFC curriculum components are listed on ACF's Strengthening Families Curriculum Resource Guide website. Each have been independently reviewed by the scientific community and are also listed on the National Registry of Evidence-based Programs and Practices (NREPP). We have both fatherhood and marriage programming. 


The Creating Lasting Family Connections® Marriage Enhancement Program (CLFC MEP)


LFC MEP systematically addresses relationship skills, conflict resolution, respectful communications, memory and reflective thought about factors that affect past and current relationships and relationship satisfaction/commitment. The program is designed to help anyone experiencing (or at risk for) marital stressors through any form of physical or emotional separation.


For information on our fatherhood programming  Creating Lasting Family Connections ® Fatherhood Reintegration Program (CLFCFP)


 CLFC National Training and Certification System 


COPES offers Implementation Training for all curriculum components. Your staff can be certified to provide one or more of our CLFC programs. For more information about preparing your staff to become certified CLFC Implementation Trainers, please contact Teresa Boyd Strader at 502-897-1111 or teresastraderrfn@gmail.com.   


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Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood

HMRF Pre-Application Webinar Series

The Office of Family Assistance (OFA) hosted a series of pre-application webinars to provide an overview of the published Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood Funding Opportunity Announcements. Recordings of these events as well as Frequently Asked Questions and presentation materials are now available.

Links to specific Pre-Application webinars are listed below:



The following correction applies to the Responsible Fatherhood Opportunities for Reentry and Mobility (ReFORM) (HHS-2015-ACF-OFA-FO-0992) FOA ONLY:

Page 13 of the Responsible Fatherhood Opportunities for Reentry and Mobility (ReFORM) incorrectly lists the Anticipated Project Start Date as 10/30/15. The correct Start Dates for all FOAs is 9/30/2015.


OPRE Pre-Application Webinar Series

OPRE conducted the following webinars providing information on a range of programming, performance measure, and evaluation issues for the current Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood/ReFORM grant competition. Recordings of these Webinars as well as webinar presentation materials are now available.

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Five Minutes for Marriage

June 2015

If people are living the Christian life at home, 

they are living the Christian life.


Could the building of healthy marriages be the very best way to build disciples?
Dear Bill 

Protect Connection Time from Conflict

This is crucial. Many couples try to multitask during the time they've set aside. They try to combine quality time and resolve difficult issues "while we have this chance for some time together." Avoid this. If something should come up during friendship time, call a Time Out and decide when you will talk about the issued later. ... The good news about problems is that they don't go away! They'll still be there to work on after your special times. (Scott Stanley, A Lasting Promise, p. 197)

In This Issue
Bulletin Insert Grow Your Understanding (Black & White option)
Upcoming Events around Greater Portland. We'd like to include the event/class you are hosting
June Video Clip Weird Things Couples Do on Date Night

Date Night PDX in August
   Take the Date Night Challenge Logistics for a great summer ministry to couples
   Jason Earls How the word "Sure" changed his marriage

Marriage in the News   
Resources for Pastors (Repeats from our May newsletter)

Marriage is not for the faint of heart.

The 4th Annual Date Night PDX is coming to you in August! Join in and encourage others to Date 4 Times in 4 Weeks to vitalize their relationships. Couples that date weekly are more than 3 times more likely to say they are very happy than those that don't. 
    Every Marriage Matters want to make is easy for you to encourage couples to build healthy marriage having fun doing it. Get  as well as downloadable videos and marketing resources to get started.

The DateNight Comedy Tour 

Friday, August 7


Kick off Date Night PDX with great comedy. Check out what people are saying. And here is a John Maxwell testimony.
The Comedy Tour will be live at City Bible, also available to your church via a streaming internet download. Tickets are now on sale, $20/couple. 
Questions? Call Tom Dressel at (503) 655-1489 

6 Questions to Ask Before You Call It Quits in Marriage. I just don't love him anymore. She doesn't make me happy. We fight all the time. The kids are grown and we have nothing in common. Those are some of the words that are often spoken by a husband or wife when they're ready to throw in their marital towel. But there are a lot of reasons why couples should move slowly and think carefully about the incredibly life altering decision to move toward separation or a divorce. (Mark Merrill, MarkMerrill.com) 


Choose what type of couple you want to be. One night recently, I had to stop everything, and write something down. Because it was far, far too important to forget - and provides a key tip for marriages. (by Shaunti Feldhahn, Shaunti.com) 

Cultivating a Growing Friendship. God has joined two together as one not to be business partners but covenant friends to the end. God said, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Gen. 2:24)." It's in this "holding fast" that friendships are cultivated, but it most certainly requires purposeful effort! Here are some simple suggestions to keep your friendship with your spouse a top priority. (By Jamaal Williams, ThrivingPastor.com)
Eight Ideas for Protecting Your Marriage from Divorce. I recently gave advice to singles and dating couples about how to lower their future odds of marital breakdown. Now, I'm focusing on those already married. In that prior piece, I listed some risk factors for divorce, so if you want a recap on those, see that post first. (By Scott Stanley, Sliding Vs Deciding blog)
How Unmarried Men Respond to Their Girlfriend's Unexpected Pregnancies. The distrust and suspicion that a few men voiced are deeply troubling. In this view of things, an unplanned pregnancy represents not the fulfillment of a couple's love, not the chance for a new beginning, nor even a mere accident, but the revelation that a woman can't be trusted. (by David Lapp, Family Studies blog)
Is It Selling Out to Marry Someone I'm Not Infatuated With? Look for qualities, traits and characteristics that are attractive based on the things you know you need and want in a relationship.  Take it one step at a time, and be assured that in a right relationship, feelings will always be present, but they can never be the foundation of a healthy relationship. True love is based on a healthy combination of facts and feelings, and a whole lot of good choices.  May God give you the wisdom to choose well. (By Debra K. Fileta, GaryThomas.com)
Love Means Learning to Say No. Let me begin this post by sharing a common dilemma of life. How we resolve this dilemma will either serve or assault family intimacy. This account comes from a book that I highly recommend (Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown) (Gary Thomas, GaryThomas.com)

The Danger of Flirting. Protect your marriage by watching how you talk with the opposite sex, even in jest. Editor's Note: In his book, Hedges, Jerry Jenkins writes of the need to protect a marriage relationship by establishing boundaries ("hedges") that help you maintain purity and avoid temptation. Hedges are rules "intended to protect my eyes, my heart, my hands, and therefore my marriage." He writes, "I've found that if I take care of how things look, I take care of how they are. In other words, if I am never alone with an unrelated female because it might not look appropriate, I have eliminated the possibility that anything inappropriate will take place." In his book, Jenkins tells about five hedges, the fourth of which is below. (By Jerry Jenkins, FamilyLife)


Marriage is not for the faint of heart. It's a promise bigger than the two people who marry. It's a serious, dedicated covenant to forge a lifetime bond. You need to know what the promise is if you want to make it work. It's an institution we join, not solely a private relationship. It's meant to shape us, improve us, and call out the best in us. -- Jeff Kemp, in Facing the Blitz

Steve and Tami Stephens
Tami and Steve Stephens, Directors. Steve also serves at President. Tami serves her family in their home. Steve is a psychologist in Happy Valley.
What a precious gift your Lord has given you: your spouse! Treasure that gift as you treasure your relationship with God. Strengthen both of these relationships by spending time with them. Pray together! Rejoice together!  Laugh together! 



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