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Helping marriages? Get news coverage for yourself.

Here's an exciting and simple idea to get visibility for your own efforts and help people in your town!

1) If you know a terrific marriage educator or a talented local pastor, ask them to give an evening talk on "How to Have a Better Marriage" at a local YMCA, library, church facility, or town hall on either Friday, Saturday, or Sunday night of Feb. 7, 8, or 9th in 2014 -- great nights during National Marriage Week USA to help folks improve their marriages in advance of Valentine's Day. At the event, you can also give couples date night tips so their Valentine's Day will be a good one! Or show a video series if you don't know a talented local speaker. See our website for tips: www.nationalmarriageweekusa.org

2) You can get newspaper and radio coverage! Simply send your local media outlets our sample press release (customize it with your info) and radio Public Service Announcements (PSAs). Also make posters for your February event, using our NMW logo -- get them all at http://www.nationalmarriageweekusa.org/free-campaign-materials.

3) Please ask your friends to LIKE us on Facebook! It posts important news bits such as this week's "New Research shows married couples have FOUR times the wealth of those never married." Click here for that info and LIKE our page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/National-Marriage-Week-USA/191520197543448

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Turning around the decline of marriage will take all of us! We need you reaching out at the local level so that we can do our part at the national level! National Marriage Week USA was recently featured on major national radio -- on the Colson Center's "BreakPoint" and "At Home with Jim and Joy Pinto" (EWTN National Catholic Radio). You can see our recent news coverage here: http://www.nationalmarriageweekusa.org/news-room

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Fwd: [New post] Just How Married Do I Want To Be? – My Annual Anniversary Post

deannadavis427 posted: "Today is my wedding anniversary - and Jeff and I are celebrating! A few years ago I started marking the date by writing something about marriage in general and my marriage in particular, for Intersections on this day. (Pastexamples are here  and here.)  A"
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Just How Married Do I Want To Be? – My Annual Anniversary Post

by deannadavis427

Today is my wedding anniversary - and Jeff and I are celebrating! A few years ago I started marking the date by writing something about marriage in general and my marriage in particular, for Intersections on this day. (Past

Our brick in Centennial Olympic Park in Atlanta.

Our brick in Centennial Olympic Park in Atlanta.

examples are here  and here.)  As you can imagine, with the last few years we've had with Jeff's health, I am reflecting quite a bit. Not that I need much to push me into reflective mode, mind you;) but... What a ride we've had. So, what follows are a  few meditations on marriage that have been rolling around in my head and heart for a while in light of our present season of life.

  • Just how married do I want to be? In some ways, being married is sort of like being pregnant. Either you are or you aren't. And in some ways, marriage is sort of like milk. There's skim, 2% and whole - you have some choice in your experience with it. There have been times in the last few years, with the threat of losing my Jeff hovering over me, that I have found myself pulling away from him emotionally in order to protect myself. Because it is so painful to fully feel all that is going on inside of me. Even as I've been very present and very committed to physically taking care of him. This is a natural tendency we all have - pulling away to protect ourselves. So I am asking myself these days, "Just how married do I want to be? Am I willing to go "all-in" even if I know it will hurt unbelievably to "stay in?" (I wrote about this phenomenon here a while back. It is one of my favorite posts I've ever written.) "Do I want the type of marriage that protecting myself builds, or do I want the type of marriage that an "all-in" investment, both emotionally and physically, builds? I've decided that I want to be very married, as married as one can be. Because "skim" marriage is so watered down...I don't want a roommate and babysitting partner. I want a husband. And having one of those well takes a lot of work. And emotional capital. And time. And tears.  And I'm willing to pay for THAT experience with marriage... b/c kisses from a man I truly love are so much more satisfying than kisses from a man I just like...b/c I want my kids to grow up in a home where their parents are really married...b/c I want to be loved by Jeff fully like that...b/c when Jeff and I married 18 years ago, this is what we were agreeing to try and do together.
  • Even when I don't think I have choice, I always have choice. I did not get to choose whether or not my husband got sick. It would be easy to focus on that - and allow helplessness, despair, anger and jealousy of others rise. (And those emotions, and many more, have certainly had their way with me many, many days. Have you read my blog in the past?) But there is so much I do get to choose in my life's situation! For instance...When our family's story is told years from now, I get a lot of choice in determining who I will be in that story. Will I be the woman who ran, if not physically, then emotionally? Will I be the woman who allowed bitterness to rise and rule in her heart and life? Or will I be the woman who decided to keep her vows - not just the letter of them, but the spirit of them as well? Will I be a wife who loved her husband as best as she knew how, as fully as she knew how, even as it held the potential to utterly break her heart? Will I choose to find the joy and humor in it all as best as I know how, even when the easier choice is to indulge the despair and self-centeredness that tempts us all in the middle of pain? I also get to choose much of how I walk with my Jesus through my pain - letting Him speak to me through it, heal me with it, strengthen me as IMG_1179a result of it. Which brings me to my next point...
  • Pain isn't the worst thing that can happen to me. A life without meaning is. It is so easy to try and do my life and marriage without Jesus. Because sometimes He just complicates everything. (I wrote about this here.) And when I hurt, my natural response is to avoid, numb or medicate. Or to assume that the presence of pain indicates I am out of His will for my life, that He is at the worst, cruel, and at best, too busy to notice me. But what if...what if my pain is actually an invitation to more? To allow Jesus to do a deep and healing work of the heart within? To know Him more. To become more. To become a potential blessing to those I love? What if I decide to "stay in" those painful circumstances, and ask Jesus what exactly it is He is doing in my life ...and then cooperate with whatever His answer is? I have found that walking with Jesus through pain (instead of around it) does this most amazing thing. It grows my heart bigger. It allows me to love more. Forgive more.  Weep more, yes. But also to laugh and enjoy life and being married more. And when my heart has a greater capacity to feel all that...to be more fully human...really great things happen in my marriage. And in my parenting. And in my life. My marriage can have greater meaning than just making me happy - although that is certainly a part of it! It can be a way Jesus makes me more whole. And I am finding that everyone around me benefits when I bring a more whole me to the table. But I have to choose to stay in it, even when it hurts, even when there are easier choices out there, even when how things are playing out isn't what I would choose on my own. Because...at least on the days I can gain a glimpse of clarity...I want my life to have meaning. I want my pain to have meaning. And pain is often a doorway to meaning. To clarity. If, and only if, I am willing to walk through it.

So, choosing to stay "all in" my marriage, wholly and fully, even when it hurts...can be absolutely wonderful. Even on the days it most definitely isn't. And this is part of what I am celebrating today with my husband. Happy Anniversary to us!

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Fwd: Becky Eldredge: Creating Space to Connect Faith & Everyday Life

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Becky Eldredge: Creating Space to Connect Faith & Everyday Life


Marriage Is For Us: The Three of Us

Posted: 07 Nov 2013 02:44 PM PST

When I first read the article “Marriage Isn’t For You,” I cringed.  While on one hand, I agree with the author.  Marriage is about loving the other person and about giving to the other person.  At the same time, the author’s image of marriage came across to me as a relationship built on martyrdom and self-sacrifice to the point that the spiritual director side of me was screaming “no, no, no!!!”  This author’s image makes marriage out to be a one-sided relationship. 

My fear with this is it sets people up to enter marriage or any significant relationship thinking if they give enough to the other person or do enough for the other person this equates to love.  In spiritual direction, the most frequent topic that arises is the other person questioning his or her worthiness to receive God’s love or to receive love from another person.  Often, the lack of worthiness comes from feeling they have not done enough or they are not good enough to receive love that is freely given by God.  At times, this leads people to feel that they can never give enough to God or to another in order to be loved.  To love another, we have to understand that we are loveable, and this is vital to married life. 

As a Catholic, my understanding of the Sacrament of Marriage is a threefold understanding.  First, key to my understanding of marriage is the belief that God loves us first.  We do nothing to deserve God’s love, and we can do nothing to earn this love.  It is a gift freely given to us by God.  God’s love for us is unconditional.   Often the hardest part about being in relationship with God is opening ourselves up to fully receive God’s love.  In marriage, it is important to remember that both husband and wife are loved first by God.  It is only because we are loved by God that we are capable of loving others.

 Second, as husband and wife, we are called to be open to both giving love and receiving love. As humans, one of the ways we can wrap our heads around a piece of God’s love for us is the love we experience from another person – a spouse, a parent, a friend, a relative, a mentor, a significant other, etc. In marriage, love is a two-way street.  We are called to be active participants in receiving God’s love both from God and from our spouse.  At the same time, we are called to be active participants in giving of our love, God’s love, freely to our spouse, and at the same time, return our love to God.  To me, this is sacramental living, the ongoing encounter with God, both through our personal relationship with God and through our relationship with our spouse.  It involves both giving loving and receiving love.  Being loved by God and by my husband, Chris, allows me to love in return.  Chris models Christ for me in how he loves me, and I am called to love Chris in the same way Christ loves. 

Third, while Chris and I are called to be witnesses of God’s love to each other, I believe there is also an outward element to our married life.  In the Nuptial blessing offered at our wedding, the words of the prayer were, “Give them strength…so they may be witnesses of Christ to others”.  As a married couple, we are called to be signs of hope for others of God’s love.  While this is a challenging task to live up to, I know that Chris and I hope that our marriage is a sign of God’s love for our children.  We also hope that we live our marriage in a way that is a sign of God’s love for others.  This means that marriage is for more than just the couple as well, it is a sign of God’s love out in the world. 

To live out the vocation of marriage, though, marriage cannot be one-sided.  To live up to this call, I cannot see marriage being only about one person giving.  It is about all of us- God, husband, wife.  Just as God loves us and wants us to love God, we are called to love one another in this same way of mutual giving and receiving of love so that we can be witnesses of God’s love in the world.

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Fwd: How To Cut the Divorce Rate in Half

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Subject: How To Cut the Divorce Rate in Half

Reform of No Fault Divorce – Family Research Council Panel Tomorrow

 

            I will be participating tomorrow in a panel discussion at the Family Research Council on “Why Divorce Must Decline for America to Prosper.”  It will begin at noon, and can b e seen on line. Here is a link to the FRC announcement about it:

http://www.frc.org/eventregistration/devastation-why-divorce-must-decline-for-america-to-prosper

 

            In my remarks, I will provide evidence that America’s divorce rate could be cut in half.  In fact, I wrote a short book with the title, How To Cut America’s Divorce Rate in Half: A Strategy Every State Should Adopt.

 

            Last year there were 1.2 million divorces in America compared to 2.2 million marriages, according to Census. In fact, there has been one divorce for every two marriages every year since 1975.  We have become so inured to this 50% divorce rate, that few realize the U.S. divorce rate is triple that of Britain or France.  After 5 years of marriage 23% of Americans have divorced, but only 8% of the British or French.  Why?  If a British wife wants a divorce, but her husband is opposed, they have to wait 5 years to get divorced.  In France, the delay is 6 years.  Five or six years allows a lot of time for reconciliation!

 

            By contrast, 25 states have a zero waiting period or only 20-60 days. No wonder the U.S. divorce rate is off the charts.  These states have laws that actually encourage divorce.

 

            Only two states – Illinois and Pennsylvania – allow a two-year waiting period if a divorce is contested.  Result: Their divorce rates are about half that of 10 “Hot Head” states with a zero wailing period: Wyoming, Idaho, Kentucky, Mississippi, Florida, Tennessee, New Mexico, New Hampshire, Nevada and Oregon. 

 

            Therefore, one obvious reform of No Fault Divorce is to require at least a year before a divorce is granted – and two years, if the divorce is contested.  That step alone could cut the divorce rate in half of Hot Head States with zero waiting.  Another step that could help enormously is to require couples with children to take classes on the impact of divorce on children.  An unhappy spouse with children tends to rationalize: “Kids are resilient. They will bounce back.”

 

            No, they won’t.  I will quote Michael Reagan, the adopted son of Ronald Reagan and Jane Wyman, who wrote of his parents’ divorce:

 

                                 “Divorce is where two adults take everything that matters to a

                                 child – the child’s home, family, security, and sense of being loved

                                 and protected – and they smash it all up, leave it in ruins on the

                                 floor, then walk out and leave the child to clean up the mess.”   

 

Another answer is to require divorcing couples to take classes during the year’s delay to improve their skills of communication and conflict resolution.  One reason many divorce is that they do not know how to argue respectfully. Fortunately, that can be taught.

 

The Parental Divorce Reduction Act

            Beverly Willett, the co-founder of the Coalition Divorce Reform, will outline a bill, the Parental Divorce Reduction Act, which could be adopted by any state.  It contains three important elements:

 

·         A requirement that couples with children take a four-hour course on the impact of divorce on children before a divorce is filed. Hopefully, many couples would decide to improve their marriage rather than walk away from each other and their kids. This proposal was first proposed by Dr. Bill Doherty of the Un. of Minnesota and former Georgia Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears, in a report, Second Chances, published by the Institute for Amerian Values.

 

·         A minimum waiting “Period of Reflection and Reconciliation,”  of 8 months during which couples could continue living under the same roof, if desired.  All states with waiting periods force the couple to separate - which only encourages dating and divorce.

 

·         The taking of a course to improve couple communication and skills to resolve conflict during the Period of Reflection and Reconciliation.

 

Three states have been giving these proposals serious consideration, as I reported in the attached column published by the AFA Journal in September:

 

1.      Georgia, a state with only a 30-day waiting period, which would be stretched to a year, if the state passed a brilliantly named bill, the “Hope for Family Life Act,” that has been advanced by a divorced dad, Greg Griffin (770 310-7190).  He has personally met with Gov. Nathan Deal and with 21 of the state’s 56 senators.    

 

2.      Texas held two hearings this year, prodded by Jonathan Saenz, Director of Texas Values, the Family Policy Council for Texas (JSaenz@TXValues.org).  That bill would increase the waiting period from 60 days to 6 months.

 

3.      North Carolina now requires one-year delay.  A proposed Healthy Marriage Act would double that to two years. 

 

One criticism I will make is that America’s religious leaders seem utterly disinterested in the nation’s divorce rate.  I do not know of a single leader who has advocated any reform of No Fault Divorce – Catholic or Protestant.

 

Please call me with any questions you may have, or tune in tomorrow, which can be watched on line at FRC.org.

 

 

 

 

Mike McManus is President of Marriage Savers.

He also writes a nationally syndicated newspaper column,

Ethics & Religion.

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Fwd: Summary, video, and presentations from Tuesday's AEI event

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Thank you for your interest and participation in our recent event “Left behind: Why trends in family structure and parenting are setting some kids up to fail.” We wanted to share a brief summary and full-length video of the event with you, along with the presentations of Brad Wilcox and Robert Lerman; please feel free to share these with friends or colleagues.

You might also be interested in Brad Wilcox’s recent article in the Atlantic, “Marriage makes our children richer -- here's why.”

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Fwd: Institute for Family Studies Newsletter, 10/24/13

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This Week on Family-Studies.org

We discussed young Americans’ growing preference for cohabitation over marriage, the way expressive individualism undermines the family, exaggerated claims about misattributed paternity, and David Koch’s controversial state-of-the-art on-site daycare center at MIT. For daily links to our articles, you can like our page on Facebook or follow us on Twitter.

David Koch’s Daycare

by Ashley McGuire

David Koch’s lavish new daycare center at MIT won’t solve the woes of most parents. But it’s a step in the right direction. In convincing the culture of the nobility of caring for children, we shouldn’t exclude daycare centers.

Delaying Marriage, But Not Cohabitation

by Anna Sutherland

Americans are putting off marriage longer than ever, but most of them aren’t putting off cohabitation. That spells trouble for not just their future relationships but also for their kids.

Why Moral Structures Matter, Too

by David Lapp

To rebuild a thriving marriage culture for the working class, we must not only improve the economy and provide stable jobs but also respond to erroneous claims about love and marriage.

Doubting Dads, Take Heart

by Anna Sutherland

The widely cited statistic that at least 10% of American kids are fathered through cuckoldry is false. That’s good news: men are more apt to be actively involved dads when they’re confident that children are biologically theirs.

IFS Around the Web

Looking for even more articles on marriage and family issues around the web? Every day on our homepage, we share five great links in our “Of Note” round-up. For dozens of other relevant links each week, check out IFS senior fellow Bill Coffin’s ScoopIt page.
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Fwd: National Fatherhood Leaders Group Webinar is still scheduled for October 23rd!

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Fwd: Marriage Monthly: October: Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Bl. Louis and Zelie Martin, Pope Francis' Interview

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Home   Dating & Engaged    Parenting & Family    For Every Marriage    About Catholic Marriages

Featured Article:  October: Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. According to recent statistics, one in four women and one in seven men have been the victims of domestic violence at some point in their lives. The bishops issued a strong statement against domestic violence in 1992 (reissued in 2002): "When I Call for Help." They offer a Catholic perspective on the problem, as well as concrete suggestions for victims, abusers, clergy, and society at large.

    

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Catholic 101: Married Saints

 

The married saints for October are the parents of St. Therese of Lisieux, Bl. Louis and Zelie Martin. They married in 1858 and had nine children, four of whom died young. Their surviving five children all entered religious life, including St. Therese, known to many as the Little Flower. About her parents, St. Therese wrote, "God gave me a father and a mother who were more worthy of heaven than of earth."   

 

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"Happily Even After": I Belong to You 

 

 
Josh recently spent several weeks away from his family, working at a nuclear power plant. Removed from the routines and responsibilities of family life, Josh reflected on his identity as husband and father. He writes that the "lines of connection" in a family - which can seem like constraints at times - are "freeing and fulfilling because they...anchor me to my truest and deepest identity."

 

"Learning to Say 'I Do'": Saying "No" to Good Things


Saying "yes" to time for your marriage and family could mean saying "no" to good things, as Sara and Justin write about here. As Fall begins, with increased activities for many families, their advice is timely.

 


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Marriage in the News:Pope Francis' Interview

 

In a now-famous interview with Pope Francis, published in the United States on September 19, the Holy Father had much to say about marriage and family life. In David Gibson's last "Marriage in the News" column, he provides an overview of what Pope Francis about community life, daily sanctity, and more. 

    

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Marriage Tip of the Month
October 26:

Don't feel especially loving today? Try doing a loving action. It might be physical like a hug, or intellectual like writing a love note. Emotions often follow an action. Remember that love is an action verb.

   

  

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Readers Comment on Date Nights

by Dave Boehi

In a recent Marriage Memo, "Reclaiming Date Night," Suzanne Thomas wrote of her dismay after asking FamilyLife Facebook readers about what they do for date nights with their spouses. "I expected people to respond with some creative ideas, but I was surprised at the response," she wrote, "Nearly everyone said they have no date nights at all, or only rarely."

Suzanne went on to offer some ideas for inexpensive dates, and then asked Marriage Memo readers to submit ideas. This time we got some more substantial responses, as well as a number of creative ideas. 

Many who wrote echoed the words of one reader who said, "I think date night is vital to a marriage." Another wrote, "If we didn't date, I don't know where our marriage would be."

One husband said he liked the idea of trying date nights—he and his wife have been married six years, but he admitted he's "been feeling in a rut for the last three so it would be nice to break out." Others wrote of learning the hard way about the importance of regular communication—and about making God the center of their marriage:

We believe in date nights and do not miss one week. ... After our first six years of marriage, ministry and children became the priorities. Dates were few and far between and with that so was our communication, which was in the toilet. Things got so bad, we planned to divorce. Some close friends of ours invited us to a married couples retreat and that weekend we repented to our Lord, to each other, and started all over again. At the retreat we were very much encouraged to have a date night a minimum of once per week and to pray together every day. We immediately did just that. To my surprise my husband declared our date nights as Friday nights. He told all the family, friends, ministry leaders, and church friends that Friday was our date night and he is committed to date night with "his bride." That blessed me more than words can ever say."

Readers shared ideas for inexpensive dates and for finding babysitters (always a challenge, especially when children are young). A number of readers suggested setting up date nights at home, and this idea resonated with others.

I like the idea of a date night at home with special props (candles, private room, planned time, conversation focused on our relationship with each other). I will definitely propose this idea to my wife. 

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I love the "date night in your home" idea! We'd go out at least once a week if we could, but with five children under the age of 9, babysitting is a real issue. We trade babysitting with another family every other week right now, so in the off week having a date at home sounds like a great option (as long as we can get the kids in bed before I fall out from exhaustion!).

Thanks for your responses—we enjoy hearing from you. And remember: A marriage will wither and die if you lose your focus on developing your relationship. As one reader said, "We almost lost our marriage years ago simply because we did not find time and space for just us."

Click here to read the previous Marriage Memo on "Reclaiming Date Night" and to read comments from readers, and click here to read comments and ideas sent to us by e-mail.

Why not consider a weekend-long "date night" with your spouse at one of FamilyLife's Weekend to Remember® marriage getaways? Click here to find a location near you.

Know where you're headed before you walk down the aisle with Dennis and Barbara Rainey's new resource, Preparing for Marriage: Devotions for Couples. The book offers short devotionals that help couples lay the foundation for a strong marriage. Order now.

 

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