Child Welfare Information Gateway E-lert! November 2011

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Child Welfare Information Gateway E-lert! November 2011

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The following new and updated publications and resources are now available from Child Welfare Information Gateway. Use the links listed below, or contact us to request print copies, which we will mail you free if they are available.

November is National Adoption Month

Be sure to celebrate National Adoption Month all year long! It's never too late to raise awareness about the adoption of children and youth from foster care. Refer to Information Gateway's National Adoption Month 2011 website throughout the year; it focuses on building the capacity of adoption professionals to recruit and retain parents for the 107,000 children and youth waiting for permanent families.

What's New

Child Trends and Information Gateway State Statutes Data Collaboration

Select content from Information Gateway's State Statutes Series is now available on the State Child Welfare Policy Database, which is managed by Child Trends with support from Casey Family Programs. The database provides policy information on a range of child welfare topics, giving users access to up-to-date information on individual State policies and the ability to compare their own State's policies with other States'.

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State Guides and Manuals Search

This database of online State and county policy and procedure manuals, administrative rules, licensing standards, handbooks for families, and other resources allows users to search by any combination of multiple States, topics, and audiences. Search results link users to the original, and sometimes difficult-to-find, materials online.

In This Month's CBX

The November issue of Children's Bureau Express (CBX) spotlights this year's National Adoption Month initiative, announces the winners of the Adoption Excellence Awards, and links to a number of reports on the benefits of adoption.

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Training Web Section

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Index of Belonging and Rejection Press Conference

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Family Research Council

Index of Belonging and Rejection Press Conference
November 17, 2011
Time: 12:00 pm (ET) - 01:00 pm (ET)

Click here to register for the Index of Belonging and Rejection Release.


You are invited to be a part of the
Second Annual Index of Family Belonging and Rejection
Release and News Conference

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Speakers include:

  • Dr. Pat Fagan, Senior Fellow and Director of MARRI
  • Dr. David Armor, Professor Emeritus of Public Policy at George Mason University
  • Dr. Nick Zill
  • Pat Ware, Former Executive Director, Presidential Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS

There are two ways to participate:

Live broadcast via the internet, or on location!

Most American teenagers' parents have rejected each other, through divorce, separation, or choosing not to marry, and rates of parental rejection vary significantly across ethnic and regional backgrounds.

When parents belong to each other in marriage, children thrive most. The more parents reject each other (in divorce or never marrying), the less children thrive.

The Index of Belonging and Rejection delves into all of these statistics and rank-orders the states and the 25 largest cities by the strength of belonging in their family, showing that less than 50 percent of American children reach adulthood having grown up in an intact married family.

Belonging and rejection within the family have significant impacts on the strength of the nation and its communities, as well as on America's future leadership capacity. This second release of the Index of Family Belonging and Rejection delves into the relationship between the Belonging Index and the issues of poverty, educational attainment and teenage out of wedlock births.

For those who would like to watch it live online, and then log on at 12:00 pm EST to watch the live webcast!

12:00-1:00 Release
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Marriage and Relationship Education: Opportunities and Challenges for State Leaders
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The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center (NHMRC) is a clearinghouse for high quality, balanced, and timely information and resources on healthy marriage. The NHMRC's mission is to be a first stop for information, resources, and training on healthy marriage for experts, researchers, policymakers, media, marriage educators, couples and individuals, program providers, and others.

Initial funding for this project was provided by the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Grant 90-FH-0001 (9/11/2006 - 9/29/2011)


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MONDAY Morning 30-Minute Conf Call with Natl Leaders--Strategy for Strengthening Marriage

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Please join this 30- Minute Conference Call with Greg Smalley, Galen Carey and Geoff Tunnicliffe

FREE 30-Minute Conference Call for Church Leaders, Pastors, and Marriage Activists. 11 a.m. Eastern, 10 a.m. Central, 9 a.m. Mountain, 8 a.m. Pacific time.

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A friendly reminder to start planning for National Marriage Week USA!
February 7-14: National Marriage Week USA

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Galen Carey of the National Association of Evangelicals
Greg Smalley, Executive Director of Marriage, Focus on the Family
Geoff Tunnicliffe, CEO of World Evangelical Alliance
Sheila Weber, executive director of National Marriage Week USA and the Let's Strengthen Marriage Campaign
  • How to use National Marriage Week USA--February 7 to 14-- to help marriages and your community!
  • Learn how to join with others across the nation to create a ground swell of activity to strengthen marriage and attract attention of the media and government and your community leaders!
  • Learn about a new Date Night video webcast in the works for the week leading up to Valentine's Day.

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Together...Let's Strengthen Marriage!

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Watch Live: Pastor Leo Godzich's Memorial Service

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We realize that there are many who have been affected by the life and ministry of Pastor Leo but may not be able to attend tonight's service. So we invite you to join and participate with us via our live stream of the service, tonight -- Wednesday, November 2 -- at 7:00 p.m. PST.

While there, we also invite you to send in your story of how Pastor Leo's legacy has impacted your life, via our online form just below the video window.

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In lieu of flowers you may give a donation to NAME. Leo’s dream was to have the NAME Headquarters building paid for before the bank reposes it on December 11th. If you feel led to help his vision come to pass that would truly be the best way to show honor to his great life. Help the legacy live on....

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Five Minutes for Marriage: November 2011

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As God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.  

Colossians 3:13 (NIV)  

Are you whistling past the graveyard of failed marriages? What’s the number of divorces and family break ups you would find acceptable for your congregation? How many divorces and separations occurred in your congregation last year? Ask your staff if there were any others that you weren’t aware of. What’s your plan to reduce the demolition of families in your charge? Take a moment to reminisce about those children of divorced parents and their mental anguish and often physical impairments. Every Marriage Matters can help, call Tom Dressel at  (503)  655-1489. 


·         A Weekend to Remember is one of the very best and most cost-effective ways you have to meet the provision of our Clackamas County Marriage Policy. The Policy states: “We will work to provide marriage enrichment opportunities, such as classes, small groups, and/or retreats, to build and strengthen marriages.” You, as pastor, are offered free registration, call 800-FL-TODAY. Would you like to cut your couples’ registration costs in half? Establish a group at “Rates & Offers” under

Some nearby events: Nov 11-13 at Semiahmoo Resort (Bellingham)

Nov 18-20 at Red Lion on the River (Jantzen Beach),

Nov 18-20 at Coeur d’Alene Resort

Nov 18-20 at Semiahmoo Resort (Bellingham)

Mar 9-11 at Sunriver Resort

Mar 23-25 at Valley River Inn (Eugene)

Apr 13-15 at Hyatt Regency (Bellevue)

·        Start your planning for National Marriage Week USA, February 7-14. Check out (this website features the 2007 ABC World News video segment, A Key to Success in Marriage. Every Marriage Matters’ work in Clackamas County is the subject). It's time to start planning a class, home group, or major event for National Marriage Week USA – 2012. Join with others across the nation to create a ground swell of activity to strengthen marriages. We'll help get the word out about your event! (The attached memo gives details.) Marriage strengthening resources for clergy, including sermons, and articles to assist pastors in preaching and teaching at Every Marriage Matters can also help, call Tom Dressel at (503) 655-1489.

·       Pastor and Administrative Assistant Breakfast Mark your calendar for Jan 12. We’ll discuss fun ideas to promote healthy marriage during Marriage Week, at Miramont Pointe, Clackamas.


·      Institute for American Values’ Center for Public Conversation events are videotaped and are available for viewing at: Recent events include: “Why Marriage Matters: An Argument for the Goods of Marriage” and “Is Marriage for White People? How the Decline of African American Marriage Affects Everyone”.


·         CBS Discusses the Declining Divorce Rate, includes a couple whose husband lost his job.


·         We all need challenges! On Sep 15 I had the opportunity to challenge key Christian leaders in the Portland-Vancouver area to raise 1,000 Marriage Mentors in the next two years. The response was overwhelmingly positive. Now comes before us the task of recruiting and training the 1,000 mentors. Continued on the attached article, We All Need Challenges.


        Cohabitation and Divorce – There Is a Correlation More than 60 percent of marriages to­day are preceded by some form of cohabitation. And 75 percent of current cohabiters enter these relationships with some plans toward marriage. (Baptist Press,

        Living Together Before Marriage Letters to Dr Willard Harley with his answers (Marriage Builders,

       Marriage: A New Conservative Issue “[The home] is the foundation of our country.  We need to have a policy that supports families, that encourages marriage… that has fathers take responsibility for their children.” (Mike McManus,

       Myths About Living Together The majority of young adults do believe that living together helps people make decisions about marriage as well as provides a way for couples to work through issues before making a lifelong commitment. In fact, over half of younger people believe that living together prior to marriage will lower their odds of marital problems and divorce. (Boundless webzine, Source:

        Why Cohabitation is Worse Than Divorce for Kids A new report says cohabitation has replaced divorce as the biggest source of instability for American families. (A Washington Post conversation with Brad Wilcox, Director of the National Marriage Project,

        Why Wait for Sex? What's so special about it? In a sex-saturated culture, waiting till marriage seems outdated and prudish. (Focus on the Family, a series of 11 linked articles,


·        Don't Believe the Hype, College Educated Women Are Still Getting Married Every so often, the media dusts off and replays some version of the story that marriage is dead, a casualty of women’s empowerment and dramatic economic shifts. (,

·         Is Marriage Good for the Heart? Happily wedded people who undergo coronary bypass surgery are more than three times as likely to be alive 15 years later as their unmarried counterparts. (,

·        Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project The mission of this project is to develop, disseminate and evaluate best practices to help couples at high risk for divorce who are uncertain whether to divorce or to try to rebuild their marriage. (University of Minnesota,

·         One parent or five? Most couples who marry, even today, probably intend to have one or two children at least. Marriage and the baby carriage have always gone together. But this is not what is meant by the new catch-phrase “intentional parenthood”. (MercatorNet, The full report by the Institute for American Values’ Commission on Parenthood’s Future is available at

·        Some couples pull back from the edge of divorce A survey of 2,484 parents who filed for divorce in Minnesota offers new insight into how people decide whether to call it quits or try again. (USA Today,

·        Striving for Purity in a Hyper-Sexual Culture Young adults find it hard to adhere to biblical truths about intimacy. (ByFaith Online,

·         Marriage and Childbearing Impact Economy An international study, titled “The Sustainable Demographic Dividend,” shows why getting married, staying married and having kids helps society. (,; the full report source:

·         The Fine Line Between Marriage and Divorce Iris Krasnow found in the 200 interviews with wives who remain in long running marriages that the majority of them have the guts and determination to stick it out, no matter what. And laments about their marriages aren't because of anything serious. (Huffington Post,

·         The High Cost of Unintended Pregnancy The high incidence of unintended pregnancy imposes costs on American society that range from increased rates of crime and welfare participation to reduced levels of high-school completion and labor-force participation. We focus on one of the most policy-relevant aspects of this problem by estimating the amount spent by the government each year on medical care that is directly associated with unintended pregnancies. (The Brookings Institution ,

·         The Sustainable Demographic Dividend Elderly populations are surging even as productive working-age populations stagnate or shrink. Also at work is another demographic trend sweeping the world: the decline in the number and percentage of children raised in intact, married families. (The National Marriage Project,


·         Four Decisions Healthy Couples Make Every Friday is date day for my husband and me. It’s a decision we make in advance. (,

·         4 Communication Firecrackers and how to avoid them: Threats; Name Calling; Blame; and Exaggerations. (Kyria,

·         10 Things You Need to Say to Your Spouse Saying the right thing is mostly a matter of practice. It really doesn't help that you "didn't mean it." What does help is saying the right thing.  Positive communication is crucial to a marriage that works. (Family Minute with Mark Merrill,

·        Accommodating, Adapting and Other Forms of Denial A definition of codependency: When we see a weakness in another, such as someone’s anger, and ignore it, we thereby reinforce it. So, when you shirk away from addressing your wife or boss’s anger, you reinforce their problems. (,

·        Defending Your Marriage From External Stressors All of us experience attacks on our marriage. God, however, has made provisions for you to withstand these negative influences. Fortifying the walls of your marriage is not simple, as it also requires obedience to the Lord's call to rebuild. (This is the first of 8 linked articles (Focus on the Family,

·         Delaying divorce to save marriages Conventional wisdom holds that about half of U.S. marriages end in divorce — and that most Americans wish the divorce rate were lower. Still, many are skeptical about whether we can lower the divorce rate without trapping more people in bad marriages. (Washington Post,

·         Divorcing couples open to second chances "Marriage-friendly" therapist William Doherty of the University of Minnesota has published new survey results suggesting that a surprising number of divorcing couples are interested in reconciliation. (Minneapolis-St Paul Star Tribune,

·         Divorce has "immense" impact on small businesses Business owner Glenn Phillips estimates his divorce cost him more than $200,000 – about a quarter of his annual revenues at the time – in lost potential new business and add-on business to existing clients. (Reuters,

·          Does Absence Actually Make the Heart Grow Fonder? A new book suggests that getting away from each other for prolonged periods of time is good for the health of your marriage. (Slate,

·          Pulling Out of a Relationship Spin You can be lazily moving along in your relationship and all of a sudden be hit by the loss of traction and the feeling that things (you) are spinning out of control. (,


·                     Putting the Honey Back in 'Honey, I'm Home' The real Witching Hour: That after-work period when we are tired, hungry, desperate to unwind yet still thinking about work. There is dinner to make, kids to feed and quite often a mate requiring attention. (Wall Street Journal,

·                     Why It’s Important for Your Husband to Dream A woman has the ability to snuff out dreams in the heart of her husband through her fear of what she believes is unsafe or too expensive. (,