Fwd: Upcoming Mastering the Mysteries of Love Workshops for Couples

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Subject: Upcoming Mastering the Mysteries of Love Workshops for Couples
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Please come, or pass this along to others!

Also, please send this out to any list serves you may be on.

Mastering the Mysteries of Love

Weekend Workshops for Couples

The National Institute of Relationship Enhancement® is offering the Mastering the Mysteries of Love version of the Relationship Enhancement® Program for couples in addition to the classic version of the RE Program.

Upcoming dates:

  • October 4-5, 2014 - Mastering the Mysteries of Love, with Carrie Hansen, LCSW-C
  • November 15-16, 2014 - Mastering the Mysteries of Love, with Rob Scuka, PhD

All workshops are held in Bethesda, MD.

Cost is $450 per couple.

Further information can be found at www.nire.org.

Research: The RE Program and Mastering the Mysteries of Love is backed by 35 years of empirical research validating its effectiveness. In addition, an award-winning meta-analytic study involving thousands of couples and over a dozen approaches, demonstrated that RE clients showed far more powerful improvement effects than clients in any of the other interventions for couples or families with which it was compared.

Description: Couples spend two days learning 10 practical skills that deepen connection and empower them to resolve current and future problems on their own.

The skills you and your partner learn will help you:

  • establish a constructive, cooperative atmosphere for resolving difficult relationship issues
  • foster increased openness and trust
  • reduce defensiveness, anger and withdrawal
  • express your deepest feelings, concerns and desires openly, honestly and safely
  • nurture deepened caring and compassion
  • increase love and affection
  • create solutions to conflicts at their deepest levels
  • successfully implement agreed-to solutions and behavioral changes

The weekend program usually numbers between 4-10 couples in order to maintain a more intimate atmosphere. It also features significant time for private couples' exercises and dialogues, which part of the time are facilitated by trained coaches.

The program is non-residential and meets on Saturday from 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. and on Sunday from 9 a.m. - 4 p.m. Information on discounted hotel room rates for those visiting from out of town are available upon registration. Snacks and beverages are provided; participants have lunch on their own.

For further information, please call NIRE at 301-680-8977 or send an email to: niremd@nire.org

To Register, you have three options.

1. You may register on-line at www.nire.org

2. You may register by fax. Registrations by fax should be faxed to 502-226-7088 and must be accompanied by a credit card number. Please write your name exactly as it appears on the credit card, the expiration date and your signature. Also provide the address associated with the credit card number, a cell phone number by which you can be reached, and the dates for which you are registering.

3. You may register by mail. If you register by mail, please include your name, address, home and cell phone numbers, and the dates for which you are registering.

Payment may be made either by check or credit card. 

If paying by credit card, please provide a credit card number. Please write your name exactly as it appears on the credit card, the expiration date and your signature. Also provide the address associated with the credit card number.

Registrations by mail should be mailed to:

4400 East-West Highway #24
Bethesda, MD 20814

Please note: It is not safe to send credit card information via email.

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Fwd: new promo video

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From: Francesca Adler <adlerfr@auburn.edu>
Date: Wed, Aug 13, 2014 at 11:35 AM
Subject: new promo video
To: "Bill Coffin (billcoffin68@gmail.com)" <billcoffin68@gmail.com>

Hi my friend –

Check this out: 


We have another brief one that features our teen programs and we’ll have that posted shortly.

Hope you are well.




Francesca Adler-Baeder, Ph.D., CFLE

Director, Center for Children, Youth, and Families

Professor, Human Development and Family Studies

263 Spidle Hall

Auburn University

Auburn, AL  36849



334-844-4515 (fax)



Fwd: dotMagis - Ignatian Spirituality

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Date: Thu, Jul 31, 2014 at 10:14 AM
Subject: dotMagis - Ignatian Spirituality
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dotMagis - Ignatian Spirituality

Feast of St. Ignatius

Posted: 31 Jul 2014 06:10 AM PDT

Today is the Feast of St. Ignatius Loyola. Thank you for celebrating with us all month through 31 Days with St. Ignatius. Today’s link is What Surprises You About St. Ignatius? All 31 links will remain available for you if you missed any of the days.

Thanks also to those of you who are participating in this week’s Find Your Inner Iggy contest. Enjoy some of our favorite submissions.

Cannonball: When I realized the real question isn’t “Why do bad things happen?” but “What good can come from this bad situation?” #FindIggy

— Jude Morrissey (@Steampunk_Gypsy) July 28, 2014

Cannonball moment… When I had to give up something that I love doing. It’s for the health of someone I love, so it’s fine. :)#FindIggy

— Myka Villaflor (@mykszz) July 29, 2014

Carmen V response to FindIggy

I’ve felt God’s love everyday this year in JVC Cleveland, where we hold each other and cherish community #FindIggy pic.twitter.com/p67aoAQNuh — Nora Kearney (@norak212) July 29, 2014

Mary Askren shares:

I had moved over 300 miles to start a new job only to discover my fundamental value system conflicted significantly with the organizational culture. When my supervisor gave me an ultimatum—get on board or get out, I opted to get out. Unfortunately, I had used up my savings to move and was not able to collect unemployment because I had left the position voluntarily. With no income and no cash reserves, I was more than a little afraid of what the future held. My parish priest gifted me with a weekend retreat, “Living in the Sacred Heart of Jesus.” On the first night, retreatants sat in a darkened conference room where the Blessed Sacrament was exposed. I sat without words and wondered whether I’d been foolish in quitting a job when I had nothing to live on. Suddenly, and unexpectedly, my heart opened and I surrendered completely to God and his will for my life. I knew without question that I was loved beyond anything I could imagine and all would be well. #FindIggy

Instagram user laurmik shares this photo and caption:
Sacre Coeur interior

#findIggy (late) Day 2: attending Mass as a non-Catholic at Sacré Coeur. The love was profound and palpable and really started me on my journey of faith.

I need to shed the armor of making decisions based on what I think others want me to do #FindIggy #reallywantthatswagbag

— Geoffrey Bible (@g_bible) July 30, 2014

Current JV here- my year is almost over. Need to let go of the fear I have about what comes next. Should be easy after JVC, right? #FindIggy

— Kristen Miano (@MintMiano) July 30, 2014

Today and tomorrow still present opportunities to win, so use the #FindIggy hashtag for your chance to win Ignatian prizes. See findyourinneriggy.com for full details.

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Fwd: "$10 Great Dates" - Ethics & Religion Col.

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From: Michael McManus <mike@marriagesavers.org>
Date: Thu, Jul 31, 2014 at 6:14 AM
Subject: "$10 Great Dates" - Ethics & Religion Col. #1,718
To: Bill Coffin <BillCoffin68@gmail.com>

Ethics & Religion

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July 31, 2014

Column #1,718

“$10 Great Dates”

By Mike McManus


            “$10 Great Dates” is a book opening with a conversation.  One asks, “What’s your favorite date?


            She replies, “You mean before we were married?”


            “No, what’s your favorite date from the last couple of months.”


            After a period of silence, she responds, “We don’t actually date.  We’re so busy, and it’s super expensive!  It’s just not easy to do.”


            If that sounds like you, here’s a must-read book co-authored by David & Claudia Arp and Peter & Heather Larson.  It offers a date a week you and your spouse can do for less than $10 each.


            Think back to your initial dating days and why you dated each other in the first place. “Because I’m crazy about her.”  “He makes me so happy.”  “I want our relationship to grow.”  “I want to know her on a deeper level.”


            “Wouldn’t it be great if married couples could tap into this kind of positive energy in an ongoing way? Dating on a regular basis is a fun way for couples to rejuvenate their love for each other,” they assert.


            The Arps, long-term friends of ours, have often said, “Fun in marriage is serious business. Have you ever met a couple on the way to divorce who were having fun together?”


            Therefore they recommend that couples have regular date nights, but “dates with a purpose.” (Not just dinner and a movie, but dates “that stretch you and take you out of your normal routine.”)


            What makes a date great?  First, “quality time together, giving each of you a break from normal routine, a shared activity and conversation. Men tend to relax through doing an activity; women often relax by talking.” A combination is what’s needed.


               Each suggested date follows a succinct pattern: Before Your Date suggestions on how to research possibilities and tips for the actual date, Talking Points that can be conversation starters. Finally, each ends with Great Dates Takeaway, a thought to ponder and apply to your relationship.  Here are two outlines of $10 Great Dates:


            The “Out-of-Towners Great Date” suggest that you look at your own town as if you were a tourist.  “Pretend this is your first visit. You may be amazed what you discover.”


            Before Your Date research your area. Search the web to find discount days, coupons and other deals for the places you plan to visit. Chamber of commerce have free brochures.


            On Your Date allow plenty of time.  Consider a walking tour of the downtown area. Wear a backpack with water and snacks to stay on budget. Be sure to have a camera.


            Talking Points: What did you learn about your hometown? If you were giving a guided tour, what would you include?


            Great Date Takeaway: When we take the time to explore together, we gain a new appreciation of where we live, work and play. How does this relate to your relationship?


           Take A Hike (Together):  Pack your backpack and take an all-day hike. “We love to hike along the Potomac River, and each year try to do a seven-mile hike that takes us all day up and down a rugged path with scenery that is amazing,” write Dave and Claudia.


            Before Your Date research hiking trails near you. Most hiking guides will give details, such as distance, difficulty and other unique features.


            On Your Date stay on the path, but if it is too difficult, be willing to turn around. On narrow paths, take turns leading. It can be fun to use a walking app. “We highly recommend the Walkmeter app, which costs $5, leaving $5 for snacks.”


            Talking Points: “If you made a map of your marriage journey so far, what would it look like? What were some of the romantic highs or valley lows?


            Great Date Takeaway:   Taking the time to walk together encourages a new appreciation of the wonderful world that God created.


            The Arps have authored similar books, such as “10 Great Dates to Energize Your Marriage,” which is both a book and a set of DVDs that we recommend to churches as a way to enrich a congregation’s marriages. Several hundred thousand churches have shown the brief DVD excerpts on a series of Friday nights, after which couples go on a Great Date to discuss “Resolving Honest Conflict,” “Becoming an Encourager,” etc. 


            Peter Larson is a psychologist who co-authored the customized couple inventory called PREPARE/ENRICH, a diagnostic tool we recommend for both premarital couples and those in crisis.  Heather is a Christian relationship coach. They have produced DVD Dates with the Arps.


            If you have children, see 8 cheap options for child care. 


No excuses not to date!

Copyright © 2014 by Michael J. McManus, President of Marriage Savers and a syndicated columnist.





Mike McManus is President of Marriage Savers

and a syndicated columnist, writing Ethics & Religion weekly


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Fwd: Deepening Friendship

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Date: Wed, Jul 30, 2014 at 10:21 AM
Subject: Deepening Friendship
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Deepening Friendship

Three Ways to Pray Ignatian

Posted: 30 Jul 2014 05:00 AM PDT

Three Ways to Pray Ignatian - St. Ignatius of Loyola

There’s no great mystery to Ignatian prayer, but this week is a good time to review. If you want to pray in the Ignatian way, here are three ways to do it—not an exhaustive list but a good start.

1. Do the Examen.

At the end of the day, ask the Holy Spirit to guide your memory over the day’s events and conversations. Give thanks for the blessings of the day. Ask God’s forgiveness if you have wandered from Jesus’ path of truth, compassion, and kindness. Ask God’s help with any negative patterns you see in your life, or for strength and wisdom to deal with upcoming events or issues. You can do this prayer once a day, twice a day, three times a day; the important thing is to develop a pattern that’s best for you. For more about the Examen, click here.

2. Put yourself in a Gospel story.

Just choose which character you’re going to be, and walk right into the scene where Jesus heals someone, delivers a teaching, or feeds thousands. You can be a main character in the story, or you can be a bystander or friend that you simply invent for this prayer. Don’t get distracted by trying to be historically accurate or in line with church teaching about a certain story—this is not about you interpreting Scripture in a scholarly way. The point is to encounter Jesus. You ask the Holy Spirit to guide this very spiritual function, the human imagination, to where you need to go.

3. Pray as though you are having a conversation across the dinner table or in your living room.

In the Spiritual Exercises, this is called a colloquy, but actually it’s just conversational prayer. You speak to Jesus as you would a close friend. You speak to Mary, his mother, or to God the Father/Creator, or to the Holy Spirit who is comforter, or to one of the saints, who can be part of this conversation with the Divine. Sometimes, when we pray the way we talk, it can enable us to be more honest. Probably the only danger is that we become flippant or casual, but this isn’t much of a temptation when we remember who it is we’re talking to.

So, in honor of St. Ignatius, whose feast day is tomorrow, give Ignatian prayer a try. Let us know how that goes.

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