Grant Reviewers needed for Family Connection Grants: Child Welfare/TANF Collaboration in Kinship Navigation Programs

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The 10 Second Kiss

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I hope you are enjoying the Live Simply Love blog.  Here is another in her A-Z series.




I have lots to say about kissing, but I'm only going to focus on one aspect today: the 10-second kiss.


Last week my mother-in-law told me about a segment on The Today Show about kissing. You can watch the 4-minute video about the importance of kissing here. A big part of the segment is about the first kiss related to dating, but right about 3:00 minutes into the conversation they talk about the 10-second kiss {the article on the same page talks about it a bit more}.


What they don't mention on the show is oxytocin, sometimes known as the "love hormone" {Google it, I swear this is true!} as the reason WHY kissing for longer than just a peck on the lips is important. When we cuddle, hug, kiss, and engage in other types of intimacy our bodies release this hormone that increases and reinforces attachment.


We first learned about this shortly after we were married. A counselor we knew suggested that engaging in long drawn out hugs {10-20 seconds} at least once a day would strengthen our marriage over time. The reason-oxytocin! Our bodies are actually created to chemically respond to the love and nurturing of a committed relationship. And longer kisses do the same thing.


Give the 10-second kiss a try tonight {10 seconds really is longer than you would guess}!

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“I like it when my mother smiles.
And I especially like it when I make her smile.”
- Adriana Trigiani

Do you remember your first love?

No, not your first romance. That first real relationship you had with another person

For most of us, that person was our mother. While we may have vague recollections of the details, it was in those very early years that our mothers helped exemplify healthy relationships by making us feel safe, secure and comforted. Showing us a world beyond ourselves. Teaching us the difference between our wants and our needs. Illustrating the concept of consequences and realistic expectations. Accepting us while setting clear boundaries. 

Mothers aren’t perfect.  Few of us had flawless parenting. (And few of us are flawless parents.) But Mother’s Day reminds us to take a broader look at what we received. Want to develop a closer, more satisfying relationship with your mother? Take the time to get to know her.  (No, not what do you think about her.  And not what you think you know.)

  Where to begin?

  1.)    Stop criticizing. Verbally and mentally. Get rid of your knee-jerk reactions to those silly things that irritate you.
2.)    Look for positives. Remember them.
3.)    Listen.  Nothing creates a closer and more authentic bond faster than truly listening.
4.)    Spend some time together.  Real time. Open up. Share.
5.)    Talk to her, about her. Ask her about her life, her opinions, her successes, her dreams, her humor, her knowledge, her memories, her worries and her joys.

  If you are fortunate enough to have your mother still, begin here, now. If not, start with your father, your spouse, partner, significant other, your child or a sibling. Just start.

The Best Job in the World

Looking for a little inspiration this Mother’s Day?
We don’t normally direct attention to OPM (other people’s marketing). However, when Procter & Gamble used their worldwide partnership with the International Olympic Committee to pay tribute to mothers around the globe, we were impressed. 

The largest campaign in P&G’s 174-year history launched simultaneously around the world with the digital release of "Best Job," a short film that celebrates the role moms play in raising Olympians and in raising great kids everywhere. Click here to watch

The accompanying Facebook and Twitter pages are for sending a personal "Thank You" to the one who raised you:!/pgthankyoumom


Mother-isms – What Are Your Favorites?


We all grew up listening to them.  Those universal words of wisdom usually in the form of a repeated one-liner that only a mother would use. 

There are the classics, of course:
  • “Why? Because I said so, that’s why!”
  • “If everyone jumped off the bridge would you do it, too?”
  • “Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.”
  • “If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times.”
  • And of course, that great sex ed standby: "Why buy the cow, if you can get the milk for free."
Share the favorite, funny, silly or touching "MOM-isms" that you remember (or those you catch yourself repeating now)  on our Facebook page

What are you struggling with?

When it comes to relationships, most of us have the best of intentions. We read and talk about the importance of relationships. We critique what is and isn't working. But when it comes to actually learning the specific skills – and putting then into action – we frequently fall short. Why?  We are usually too busy focusing on the other side.

Relationship skills are the silver bullet, the magic wand that make your relationships love and in life. And relationship skills are all learnable.  
Smart Relationships interactive webinars are a quick and confidential way to identify patterns and habits that aren’t working and learn the proven skills to make a real change. 

We hope that you will consider joining us for our upcoming 
FREE Relationship Skills WEBINARS

Keep an eye on our calendar ~
The Power of Listening
Effective communication is the cornerstone of all healthy relationships and engaged listening is a cornerstone of communication. Active listening is essential for understanding, authenticity and intimacy in relationships.
Six Parts of Intimacy
There is more than one way to be intimate with your mate. Learn how to enhance commitment, social, emotional, communication, spirituality, and physical intimacy.
Three ways to Avoid any Argument
Avoid getting trapped into arguments. These three effective and useful skills that will help avoid arguments in the first place and/or solve them before they escalate. 
Seven Smart Relationship Guidelines
Seven relationship guidelines serve as a foundation for determining healthy, positive relationships. Whether you are a teen or a seasoned adult, these helpful tips apply.


Local Divorce Support Group

When:  Fridays from 12pm – 1pm
Where:  Smart Relationships offices - Conference room. 1496 Bellevue Street, Green Bay, WI (map)
Cost: FREE
Description: This is an open group for those undergoing divorce or who have been divorced. It is a confidential peer support group, where we come to lend support and seek wisdom from each other.
We also review current research and relationship tools so we can do better the next time. Drop-ins are welcome.

ABCs of Positive Parenting

Positive parenting examples offer powerful lessons for children of all ages.
But even our best intentions can be weakened by marital disagreements, or when we allow criticism to slip into our conversations.  To strengthen your parenting relationship while enhancing your children's parent model, take time to do the following as often as possible:

A. Think of the qualities that you admire in your partner as a parent.

B.  Be quick to point out examples of these positive parenting qualities and compliment them—in front of the children.

C.  Be open and generous with your appreciation.

NOTE: If you and your spouse are divorced: Talk to your children freely about your ex-partner’s positive characteristics as a parent. If the child’s other parent is not part of their life: Pick a loving parent (or grandparent) known to you and your child, and talk about why you admire their parenting skills. Discuss why you hope your child will grow to be a similar kind of person.

From Our Bookshelf:

Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason 
Alfie Kohn
Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool 
Hal Edward Runkel
Parent Talk: 50 Quick, Effective Solutions to the Most Common Parenting Challenges 
Stanley Shapiro, Karen Skinulis, Richard Skinulis
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Fighting For Families Marriage Retreat

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Greg and Erin Smalley


 Special Guest

Michael O'Brien 

at WinShape Retreat! 

September 21-23, 2012

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  firemanDear Bill,

Serving Marriages and Focus On The Family are excited about Fighting For Families, a dedicated retreat for military, law enforcement, fire, and EMS couples that will be held at WinShape Retreat September 21-23, 2012, for only $399 per couple and will be lead by Greg and Erin Smalley!  This is our opportunity to serve those that serve our country!!  

For more information and to register, click here

policeFor all you do to preserve our freedoms and protect our families, Serving Marriages and Focus On The Family want to give something back!


Greg and Erin skillfully create a dynamic experience for couples.  Whether your marriage is strong or struggling, novice or veteran, you'll relate to the Smalleys in a way that allows you to see marriage from both the husband's and wife's point of view.  Greg and Erin have the ability to apply insights to the everyday life of marriage that will empower you, their transparency about their own story will encourage you, and their uniqueness will engage you!

This retreat provides an opportunity to transform your marriage by helping you and your spouse to fully engage your hearts.  For intimacy and deep connection to occur in a marriage, two hearts must be open to one another.  Learn why we are wisely encouraged to guard our hearts for it is the wellspring of life! The Smalleys use humor, proven principles, practical insights, and passion to help couples strengthen their marriages!

SoldierDr. Greg Smalley serves as Executive Director of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family. In this role, he develops and oversees initiatives that prepare individuals for marriage, strengthen and nurture existing marriages and help couples in marital crises. He also serves as a media spokesperson on these matters. Prior to joining Focus, Dr. Smalley worked for the Center for Relationship Enrichment at John Brown University and as President of the National Institute of Marriage. He is the author of 11 books including The Wholehearted Marriage and The DNA of Relationships for Couples. Erin Smalley, RN, BSN, MS, is a nationally known speaker on marriage and family topics. She has been a regular guest on national radio programs and has co-authored two books with her husband.

Also joining us as our Special Guest is singer and songwriter Michael O'Brien!  While an incredibly gifted musician, it is Michael's transparency and humility regarding his own marriage struggles that couples enjoy about him!  Michael's testimony and music pays tribute to what our retreat is all about...providing opportunity for you and your spouse to make your marriage better!


If you are a military or first responder couple, we hope to see you at the retreat!  If you know a military or first responder couple, we trust you will forward this opportunity to them!  Don't delay - for two reasons - one, all of our previous retreats have sold out, and two, we anticipate many wanting to come hear the Smalleys so we expect this retreat to sell out quickly.  We hope you will not delay registering and please pass this opportunity on to those that protect you and your family!

Serving Marriages and Families Together!
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Would Your Marriage Survive an Affair? | FTF eNews May Vol. 1















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  May 2012    Volume 1      

FTF Classes


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May 21, 23 & 24   

(Monday, Wednesday  

& Thursday)

10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

New Covenant
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1326 N. Moore Road
Chattanooga, TN  37411

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Boot Camp 

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May 26  


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Would Your Marriage Survive an Affair?
It is possible for couples to find their way back into love even after the devastation of an affair.  Here is one couple's journey on the road to healing and recovery:

Click here to learn more

Discover ways to heal your relationship with our
Maximize Your Marriage class
Click Here for a schedule of free classes.

Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month
Teen Pregnancy in U.S. Hits 40-year Low
May 2012 marks the 11th annual observance of Teen Pregnancy Prevention month, and this year there is good news to share.  According to new research from the Guttmacher Institute, teen pregnancy in the United States has dropped 42 percent from its highest level in 1990.  There has also been a dramatic decrease in teen pregnancy among all racial and ethnic groups since 1990.  While this is a step in the right direction, the U.S. still has the highest rate of teen pregnancy in the western world (nearly 3 in 10 girls get pregnant by age 20).  It is up to parents and concerned adults to continue to reinforce the message to our teens that Sex Has Consequences
Here are a few facts to share:
  • Eighty percent of teen moms end up on welfare for the rest of their lives.
  • Children of teen moms are more likely to become teen parents themselves.
  • Teens who complete high school, become employed fulltime and marry before having children are 76 percent more likely to avoid living in poverty. 
The Great Kiwanis Duck Race

Rubber Ducky, You're the One!
For the second year, FTF is proud to join with the Kiwanis Club of Chattanooga to present the 2012 Great Kiwanis Duck Race.  You can "adopt" as many rubber ducks as you like for only $5.00 each.  Then on Saturday, June 16, 5,000 ducks will be launched into the Tennessee River from the Walnut Street Bridge and "race" to the new pier on the Northshore.  The top three ducks to "swim" across the finish line win cash prizes.

Adopt your lucky ducks today at


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National Healthy Marriage Resource Center - May 2012 Newsletter

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Featured this month at the NHMRC

“Something Important is Going on Here!” Making Connections Between Marriage, Relationship Quality and Health. The health benefits of marriage have been much commented upon in recent years by scholars, public officials, health and human service practitioners, and the media. Married people, we are told, are healthier and live longer, but the significance and practical use of this finding is not clear. Should healthcare professionals and advocates pay attention to this fact? Why is it important to examine the connections between marriage, relationship quality, and health? What can the fields of marriage and relationship education and healthcare contribute to each other? This report summarizes some preliminary answers to these questions reached by healthcare and marriage an relationship experts, brought together for the first time at a conference sponsored by the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center (NHMRC).


May 2012 HHMI Grantee Implementation Evaluation: Marketing, Recruitment and Retention Strategies - As part of the Hispanic Healthy Marriage Initiative (HHMI) Grantee Implementation Evaluation, OPRE published a project brief that describes how grantees craft recruitment messages and strategies and develop and disseminate marketing materials to encourage participation in family strengthening and relationship education services by a broad and diverse Hispanic clientele. HHMI is being conducted for ACF by the Lewin Group and its partners, the University of Houston’s Graduate School of Social Work and Washington University’s Center for Latino Family Research.

March 2012 Supporting Healthy Marriage (SHM) Report - The study found that across the eight programs evaluated, the SHM program produced a consistent pattern of positive effects on multiple aspects of couples’ relationships, including higher levels of marital happiness; fewer negative behaviors and emotions in their interactions with each other; and less psychological and physical abuse from their spouses.

First Marriages in the United States: Data From the 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth - This report shows trends and group differences in current marital status, with a focus on first marriages among women and men aged 15–44 years in the United States. Trends and group differences in the timing and duration of first marriages are also discussed. These data are based on the 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG). National estimates of probabilities of first marriage by age and probabilities of separation and divorce for women and men’s first marriages are presented by a variety of demographic characteristics. Data are compared with similar measures for 1982, 1995, and 2002.

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The National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education’s Annual Conference ~ Champions for Children

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California Relationships Improved by Marriage Education


Data released by Healthy Relationships California (HRC) from the largest study ever conducted on the impact of Marriage Education classes showed that these programs help couples significantly improve their communication and levels of relationship satisfaction. Surveying 17,245 Californians who took one of several programs available for couples, HRC found a statewide average increase of more than 13% in relationship satisfaction immediately after taking a Marriage Education course, and that this improvement increased to 16% after [...] Read more »

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April 2012 

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The National Center for Family & Marriage Research (NCFMR), established in 2007 at Bowling Green State University (BGSU), welcomes you to News and Notes, our monthly electronic newsletter. News and Notes aims to keep you informed about the activities of the NCFMR. We will also announce funding and research opportunities, provide registration details for conferences and workshops, and keep you updated on current research findings.



Conference and Poster Session Registration Remain Open for the...
Fathers & Fathering in
Contemporary Contexts
2012 Research Conference

The goal of this conference is to move forward our understanding of fathers and fathering in contemporary contexts and examine their linkages to well-being. The panel of interdisciplinary researchers will discuss cutting-edge topics on fatherhood and fathering by sharing new theoretical, empirical, methodological, and measurement insights. Link to Conference Agenda and Webpage.

Register Now!

Limited Conference Seating Remains Available
  • Please email your name, title, and affiliation to After registering, you will receive a confirmation email with further details.

Enter Your Research Poster!
Limited Small Poster Session Space Available
  • The second day of the Fathers & Fathering conference will include a poster session featuring a novel format of small posters (40 x 30 inches) on issues related to the theme of the conference, Fathers & Fathering. After registering, you will receive a confirmation email with further details.
Cohabiting Men are Most Likely to be Nonresident Fathers

One in five currently cohabiting men (20%) has a minor, nonresident child. Married and single men are only about half as likely to have a nonresident child. About 12% of married men and 10% of single men (not living in a co-residential union) have a nonresident child. The NCFMR research team explores the prevalence of nonresident fatherhood across other key characteristics such as race/ethnicity and educational attainment in its new family profile titled "Who are Nonresident Fathers? Demographic Characteristics of Nonresident Fathers."

Percentage of Men (15-44) with a Nonresident Child by Current Relationship Status
Nonresident Fathers Bar Chart
Source: NSFG 2006-2010 Male Data File.


What's New at the NCFMR...

Family Profiles

Original reports summarizing and analyzing nationally representative data with the goal to provide the latest analysis of U.S. families.

The Data Source

Documents describing newly released data sets used by the family research community.

NCFMR in the News
For a full list of NCFMR in the News items and for media links to each item, visit the NCFMR in the News webpage. 

  • NCFMR Co-Director Susan Brown's Research Addresses New National Trend: "The Gray Divorce Revolution"
  • Wendy Manning, NCFMR Co-Director, Comments on the "Cohabitation Effect"
  • Susan Brown, NCFMR Co-Director, and I-Fen Lin, NCFMR Research Affiliate, Find More Boomers are Choosing to Go it Alone
  • NCFMR External Grantee Michal Grinstein-Weiss and Colleagues' Research Finds Homeownership May Provide Social Benefits
  • BGSU/NCFMR Research Affiliate Karen Benjamin Guzzo Discusses Cohabitation and Children
  • Research Led by BGSU Psychologist and NCFMR Research Affiliate Kenneth Pargament Addresses Mysticism
  • Wendy Manning and Susan Brown, NCFMR Co-Directors, Find Family Life in America is in Flux
  • NCFMR Research Affiliate Peggy Giordano and Her Colleagues' Research Finds Teenage Boys as Emotionally Invested in Their Romantic Relationships as Girls
NCFMR in the News



Susan Brown Receives Olscamp Research Award
(L-R) Gary Lee, BGSU Sociology Professor; Susan Brown, NCFMR Co-Director; and Michael Ogawa, VP Research & Economic Development

Congratulations to NCFMR Co-Director and BGSU Sociology Professor Susan Brown who was recently awarded with the prestigious Olscamp Research Award. Achievements and contributions of Bowling Green State University faculty are recognized at an annual reception hosted by the Office of the Provost on the BGSU campus.
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U.S. Census Bureau Releases 2010 Census Briefs

The U.S. Census Bureau released a 2010 Census brief April 26. Households and Families: 2010 shows interracial and interethnic opposite-sex married couple households grew by 28% over the decade. Visit the Census Bureau website for details.

Upcoming Events 



May 2012


ICPSR Summer Program 

Quantitative Methods of Social Research  

Variety of workshop dates available 

Contact the ICPSR Summer Program for Details 


Call for Applications -- NIJ PhD Graduate Research Fellowship Program

Date Due: May 2

Link to U.S. Department of Justice 


Call for Applications -- W.E.B. Du Bois Fellowship for Research in Race, Gender, Culture, and Crime

Date Due: May 2

Link to U.S. Department of Justice 


New Integrated Fertility Survey Series (IFSS) Data Set Introductory Workshop

To be held at the PAA 2012 Annual Meeting (see PAA below)  

Date: May 2

Link to Population Studies Center (PSC) IFSS Brochure 


Population Association of America (PAA) 2012 Annual Meeting

Dates: May 3-5

Link to PAA 


Minnesota Gerontological Association Webinar

Nursing Homes and Health

Date: May 8

Link to NCFR Webinar Flyer 


Northwest Council on Family Relations Spring Conference

For Better AND Worse: The Revolution in Family Life

Date: May 18

Link to NWCFR 


2012 NCFMR Annual Research Conference

Fathers and Fathering in Contemporary Contexts

Dates: May 23-24

Link to NCFMR Conference Website 



15th Annual Welfare Research and Evaluation Conference

Dates: May 30-June 1

Link to Office of Planning, Research & Evaluation, An Office of the Administration for Children & Families (ACF)   



June 2012


The Center for Research on Families (CRF) -- UMass, Amherst 

Summer 2012 Methodology Workshop Series 

Dates: Varied Dates in June

Link to CRF  


Alliance for Children and Families Workshop

Serving Those Who Serve: Providing Military Cultural Competent Services

Dates: June 4-5

Link to Alliance for Children and Families  


Work and Family Researchers Network Conference (WFRN) 
Dates: June 14-16

NCFR Report Seeks Family Studies Articles
Open Mic
Date Due: June 21

July 2012


International Association for Relationship Research Conference (IARR) 

Dates: July 12-16

Link to IARR 


ICPSR Summer Courses on Data Science -- Michigan State University  

Link to Michigan State University 

  • Dyadic Data Analysis Workshop
    Dates: July 23-27
  • Assessing and Mitigating Disclosure Risk: Essentials for Social Science
    Dates: July 30-August 3
  • Providing Social Science Data Services: Strategies for Design and Operation
    Dates: August 6-10 

Add Health 2012 Users Conference

Dates: July 26-27

Link to CPC UNC Add Health  


Data Training and Users Workshop for the Longitudinal Study of Generations

Dates: July 26-27

Link to ICPSR 



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