From: Divorce Reform <email@example.com>
Date: Tue, Aug 16, 2011 at 12:45 PM
Subject: Help Stop the Divorce Epidemic
To: Bill <firstname.lastname@example.org>
As I believe you know, today we are releasing the third edition of Why Marriage Matters. See this link for the executive summary and ordering information.
NPR ran a story on it this morning, which you can see here.
Hope all is well with you and yours!
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From: Kay Reed <KayReed@DibbleInstitute.org>
Date: August 16, 2011 8:01:17 AM PDT
To: Kay Reed <KayReed@DibbleInstitute.org>
Subject: Study: Are Cohabiting Parents Bad For Kids?
I found the following story on the NPR iPhone App:Study: Are Cohabiting Parents Bad For Kids?
by Jennifer Ludden
- August 16, 2011
As more and more U.S. couples decide to have children without first getting married, a group of 18 family scholars is sounding an alarm about the impact this may have on those children.
In a new report out on Tuesday, they say research shows the children of cohabiting parents are at risk for a broad range of problems, from trouble in school to psychological stress, physical abuse and poverty.
The study is put out by the National Marriage Project and the Institute for American Values, groups whose missions include strengthening marriage and family life. It suggests a shift in focus is needed away from the children of divorce, which has long been a preoccupying concern for such scholars.
Brad Wilcox, a report co-author and head of the National Marriage Project, says divorce rates have steadily dropped since their peak in 1979-80, while rates of out-of-wedlock childbearing have soared. Forty-one percent of all births are now to unwed mothers, many of them living with — but not married to — the child's father.
Wilcox notes that the iconic 1979 movie of the divorce revolution, Kramer vs. Kramer, is no longer emblematic of the drama facing families today.
"It'd be Kramer vs. Kramer vs. Johnson and Nelson," he says with a small laugh. "We're moving into a pattern where we're seeing more instability, more adults moving in and out of the household in this relationship carousel."
Wilcox says the children of the divorce revolution grew up to be understandably gun-shy about marriage. Many are putting it off, even after they have kids. But research shows such couples are twice as likely to split.
"Ironically," he says, "they're likely to experience even more instability than they would [have] if they had taken the time and effort to move forward slowly and get married before starting a family."
In fact, another recent study finds that a quarter of American women with multiple children conceived them with more than one man. Psychologist John Gottman, a co-author of Tuesday's report, says that kind of instability can have a negative impact on kids in all kinds of ways.
"Both in externalizing disorders, more aggression," Gottman says, "and internalizing disorders, more depression. Children of cohabiting couples are at greater risk than children of married couples."
This is true, says marriage historian Stephanie Coontz, "but the question is why it's true."
Coontz teaches family studies at Evergreen State College in Washington state and is research director for the Council on Contemporary Families. She says people are more likely to get married if they have the things that make a union strong: mutual respect, problem-solving skills and — especially — economic security.
That's something many working-class men have lost as wages stagnated in recent decades. In fact, Coontz notes that a huge marriage gap has emerged, with lower-income Americans much less likely to wed.
"Cohabitation and out-of-wedlock childbearing is as much a symptom of the instability of children's lives as it is a cause of it," Coontz says. Coontz worries that too many Americans who break up with a partner rush into another relationship, thinking this will provide more stability for their children. As Tuesday's report notes, the appearance of a new caregiver can also be traumatic for children, many of whom appear to fare better with a loving single parent.
To be sure, not all marriages are good, and some cohabiting couples create perfectly healthy families. But psychologist Gottman says for whatever reason — and it's a mystery to researchers — cohabiting partners are not as stable in the U.S. as in some European countries, where family-building outside marriage is more of a norm.
For Americans, Gottman says the evidence for marriage is strong. The institution's wide-ranging benefits — better health, longevity, greater wealth — are not conferred on those who cohabit.
"Because," he says, "they're basically saying, 'If you get into trouble, baby, you're on your own; I'm not there for you.' I think that's the big problem."
Gottman's advice, even if you decide not to tie the knot: pick a partner carefully, then hang in there — for better, or worse. [Copyright 2011 National Public Radio]
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Subject: Fulfill your CE Ethics requirement with this new, exciting workshop on Empathy and Ethical Dilemmas
Date: August 1, 2011 4:29:00 PM EDT
NIRE is excited to offer this new ethics workshop by Mary Ortwein, MS, LMFT
Empathy and Ethical Dilemmas: Honing A Therapist's Basic Tool
Wednesday, August 17, 2011, 9:00 a.m. - 12:15 p.m.
Location: NIRE, 4400 East-West Highway #28, Bethesda, MD 2814 CE Credit: 3 CE Credit hours Recently The Networker conducted a survey to identify the most influential therapist of the 20th century. Carl Rogers was chosen. Surprised? You don't find many strictly Client-Centered CE Workshops or programs of study in graduate schools. He's not the talk around therapist gatherings that EFT or CBT or Mindfulness is. But Rogers' empathy, genuineness, and unconditional positive regard remain as core characteristics of the successful therapist. How does a therapist's empathy potentially create or complicate ethical dilemmas? How might it help resolve them? How might a therapist use empathy to work through counter-transference issues? The workshop will be a combination of lecture, discussion, and skills training. After a brief review of empathy as concept and therapist skill, participants will examine situations where therapist empathy, if unexamined, can create slippery slope situations where boundary violations may occur. Then participants will learn, observe, and practice two skills based on empathy, to resolve such situations. Troubleshooting uses empathy combined with effective self-expression of the therapist to maintain boundaries in troublesome situations. Empathic Role-Taking enables a therapist to self-examine (and possibly work through) once counter-transference issues surface with a client. This workshop is for psychologists, marriage and family therapists, social workers, professional counselors, pastoral counselors, or other mental health providers will explore how therapist empathy can create, complicate, and help resolve potential ethical dilemmas. Whether you work with individual adults, with children, with families, or with couples, this workshop will provide you with interesting information and take-home skills. At the conclusion of the workshop, participants will be able to: 1. Identify how unexamined empathy can create potential ethical boundary violations, and how examined empathy can help resolve them.
2. Use Troubleshooting, a specific method of therapist empathy within the Relationship Enhancement Model, to resolve slippery slope situations without bending ethical principles.
3. Use empathic role taking for self-examination when a therapist identifies counter-transference issues with a client. Mary Ortwein, MS, LMFT, is Executive Director of IDEALS of Kentucky. A frequent national presenter of workshops on marriage and family therapy, the Relationship Enhancement and Filial models, and ethics, Mary combines information, practice, and processing to create interesting and thought-provoking CE workshops. Mary is co-author with Bernard Guerney, Jr., of the Mastering the Mysteries of Love Relationship Enhancement series of materials and author of Mastering the Magic of Play. She regularly sees and helps people work through ethical dilemmas. CE Information IDEALS/NIRE is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. IDEALS maintains responsibility for this program and its content. IDEALS/NIRE is approved by the Association for Play Therapy to offer continuing education programs specific to play therapy. APT Approved Provider 95-009. IDEALS/NIRE is approved by the National Board of Certified Counselors to offer continuing education for National Certified Counselors. NBCC provider #5560. IDEALS/NIRE is approved by the Maryland State Board of Social Work Examiners to offer Category I continuing education programs for social workers. IDEALS/NIRE maintains responsibility for the program and adhering to the appropriate guidelines required by the respective organizations. Participants receive 3 CE credits for completing this workshop. Registration Information Cost: $65 for the 3 hour workshop To register, please call NIRE at 301-986-1479, send your Registration Form (below) by fax to 301-680-3756, or mail your Registration Form and check to:
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