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Special Children’s Bureau centennial live event

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Join us for a special broadcast of the Children’s Bureau centennial commemoration

April 9, 2012, 2:00-4:00 p.m. ET on http://www.hhs.gov/live.

Broadcast live from the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services
Headquarters in Washington, DC, including remarks by:

Kathleen Sebelius, Secretary, U. S. Department of Health & Human Services
George Sheldon, Acting Assistant Secretary, Administration for Children and Families
Joe Bock, Acting Associate Commissioner, Children’s Bureau

And featured speakers:

Dr. Olivia Golden, Former Assistant Secretary,
Administration for Children and Families
Joan E. Ohl, Former Commissioner, Administration on Children, Youth and Families
Mary Williams, President, National Association of Public Child Welfare Administrators
Bryan Samuels, Commissioner, Administration on Children, Youth and Families

Entertainment by the Washington Youth Choir

Presentation of the Children’s Bureau Centennial Award
in honor of extraordinary vision and leadership

Watch the event live on HHS TV at http://www.hhs.gov/live.

Find out more about Children’s Bureau history at http://cb100.acf.hhs.gov

Live Simply Love Elation

Elation

Posted: 05 Apr 2012 07:59 AM PDT

Remember the way you felt when he proposed? It’s one of those out-of-this-world experiences the moment you realize you are going to spend the rest of your life with the one you love.

Elation bubbles to the surface when you stare at that super-sparkly ring for hours on end. When you remember word-for-word {or try to at least} what he said when he proposed. When you dream about what the wedding will be like, what your dress will look like, and how you’ll be the Princess-For-a-Day.

And it’s not JUST about the wedding day. What about waking up next to him every morning? Sharing your dreams and fears and joys? Going through the ups and downs of daily life…but to know you get to do so together?

I can’t think of a better word to describe what the idea of getting married is like for many who are still waiting on that day.

But what happens when elation turns to frustration? We enter into marriage knowing it’s not going to be perfect. We can’t predict the trials we’ll face or exactly what formerly adorable characteristic of our spouse will eventually start to bug after a month or two under the same roof.

It was one of the most difficult things for me about being newly married. Because I still wanted to be elated! I thought something was wrong with me. Until I started to be honest—with myself and with the Husband. And then with trusted friends who loved me enough to be truthful about their struggles without judging me for mine.

Once we got past “yours and mine”—whether it was about our stuff or the way we did things differently—we were able to work through the frustration to get back to elation. But now I think I’d give it a different word—contentment.

What were you elated about when it came to your thoughts about marriage?

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Live Simply Love Always

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Posted: 01 Apr 2012 05:49 AM PDT

It’s the first day of the A-to-Z April Challenge. Today’s post is brought to you by the letter “A” – and the topic: Top Ten things to Always practice in your marriage:

Kiss goodnight. Pucker up and plant a wet one. Don’t let anything stand in the way of this daily expression of love before you move into slumber land.
Be honest about your failures. No one is perfect. In fact, we all mess up A LOT. When you make a mistake or misstep, confess the truth and ask forgiveness. Then, be willing to forgive when you feel hurt.
Put your spouse above any other human. Your marriage comes first—before your kids, parents, siblings, work, girlfriends or poker buddies. Pay attention to how you treat your spouse compared to others. If something is out of whack, refer back to #2.
Treat him with respect. One of his greatest needs is to be respected by you. Examine your thoughts. Are they respectful? If not, those feelings will come out and bite him {and you} in the backside. Don’t speak poorly of him to anyone. It WILL affect your marriage. And not in a good way.
Treat her with love. It’s one of her greatest needs—to feel and be aware of your love for her. Tell her, but most of all show her that you love her. This is different for every woman, so if you’re not sure what this means, ask her how you can do a better job of communicating your love.
Reserve a little one-on-one time every day. Even if it’s just 5-10 minutes, take time to connect. Right before you go to bed, after you wake up, during dinner or after little ones go to bed. Just do it!
Seek to learn something about your spouse. It may begin to feel like you know each other inside and out, but we are always growing. Make the effort to be a student of your spouse.
Give the benefit of the doubt. He or she did not wake up this morning with the intention to hurt you. Assume the best whenever possible, even when you feel hurt.
Pursue deeper intimacy. Be emotionally and physically vulnerable with each other. Share your hurts and fears. Express your desires. Tell each other your dreams. Make every effort to draw closer to each other, especially in difficult times.
Express your appreciation. Live with a heart of gratitude for every little blessing and then TELL your spouse what you appreciate about him or her.

Is there anything else you would add to this list?

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NCFMR News and Notes

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News and Notes

March 2012

Welcome

The National Center for Family & Marriage Research (NCFMR), established in 2007 at Bowling Green State University (BGSU), welcomes you to News and Notes, our monthly electronic newsletter. News and Notes aims to keep you informed about the activities of the NCFMR. We will also announce funding and research opportunities, provide registration details for conferences and workshops, and keep you updated on current research findings.

What's New at the NCFMR...

Register for the NCFMR
Fathers & Fathering in Contemporary Contexts
2012 Research Conference

Registration is required and seating is limited! Please email your name, title, and affiliation to ncfmr@bgsu.edu. After registering, you will receive a confirmation email with further details.

Just Released Data Resources

Family Profiles

Original reports summarizing and analyzing nationally representative data with the goal to provide the latest analysis of U.S. families.

The Data Source

Documents describing newly released data sets used by the family research community.

Current Population Survey (CPS) (TDS-12-04)

Working Paper Series

A collection of working papers written by faculty affiliates, researchers, and advanced graduate students.

Sara Moorman and Megumi Inoue
- Romantic Relationship Quality and Knowledge of a Partner's End-of-Life Preferences (WP-12-05)

Susan L. Brown and I-Fen Lin
- The Gray Divorce Revolution: Rising Divorce among Middle-aged and Older Adults, 1990-2009 (WP-12-04)

Sara Moorman
- Age, Self-Reported Health, and End-of-Life Planning among Young and Middle-Aged American Couples (WP-12-03)
  - Presented at the Gerontological Society of America annual meeting, Boston, MA.

Daphne C. Hernandez, Emily Pressler, Cassandra Dorius, and Katherine Stamps Mitchell
- Family Structure Transitions and Overweight Status in Young Adulthood: Differences by Sex and Family Structure at Birth (WP-12-02)

Deborah Carr
- Racial and Ethnic Differences in Advance Care Planning: Identifying Subgroup Patterns and Obstacles (WP-12-01)
  - Presented at the Gerontological Society of America annual meeting, Boston, MA.

NCFMR in the News

For a full list of NCFMR in the News items and for media links to each item, visit the NCFMR in the News webpage.

Divorce Rate Has Remained Stable Over the Past Two Decades, Says Susan Brown

Wendy Manning's Research Finds Cohabiting's Effects on Marital Stability Have Changed

New Research by Susan Brown, NCFMR Co-Director, and I-Fen Lin, NCFMR BGSU Research Affiliate, Addresses "Gray Divorce" Among New Generation of Empty Nesters

Lisa Diamond and Angela Hicks, NCFMR Pilot Data Awardees, Find Couples Who Share Financial Problems Are the Most Satisfied

Susan Brown Comments on Large Families Surrounding Leading Presidential Candidates

NCFMR Research Finds Crossover in Median Age at First Marriage and First Birth

Susan Brown Comments on Changing Views of Marriage

Karen Benjamin Guzzo, NCFMR Research Affiliate, Discusses Path to Financial Fertility

Recently Released Research by Susan Brown and I-Fen Lin Addresses the Trend of Growing Old Single

NCFMR in the News

Proportion of Births to Unmarried Women in the U.S. Has More Than Doubled Over the Past Three Decades

Over 40% of all U.S. births are to unmarried women. Most of these unmarried women are cohabiting with the child's father. One in four births is to a cohabiting woman, whereas fewer than 1 in 5 births is to a single, unpartnered woman. The rapid rise in unmarried childbearing coupled with the growth in cohabitation makes it important to disaggregate unmarried births to distinguish between those that occur to cohabiting versus single, unpartnered women.

Percentage of Births by Informal Marital Status of Mother,
2005-2010

Source: NSFG 2006-2010

Family Profile

Unmarried Births to Cohabiting and Single Mothers, 2005-2010

Upcoming Events

April 2012

Call for Proposals -- Wisconsin Council on Family Relations

Sustainability: Thriving in Challenging Times

Contact jamikaiserCFLE@gmail.com for submission deadlines and details

Call for Applications -- CU Population Center

Introduction to Spatial Demography: Geospatial Data and Spatial Regression

Date Due: April 2

Link to University of Colorado at Boulder

Call for Submissions -- Society for Research in Child Development (SRCD)

2012 Themed Meeting: Transitions from Adolescence to Adulthood

Date Due: April 5

Link to SRCD

Minnesota Association for Family and Early Education (MNAFEE) Conference

Dates: April 11-13

Link to MNAFEE

Breakfast with NCCP

Help honor individuals who have made a lasting imprint in the battle against child poverty in America

Date: April 14

Email development@nccp.org

Call for Applications -- Feminism and Family Studies Awards

The Outstanding Research Proposal from a Feminist Perspective

The Outstanding Contribution to Feminist Scholarship Paper Award

Date Due: April 15

Link to NCFR

Call for Applications -- Summer Institute in LGBT Population Health

Date Due: April 16

Link to Center for Population Research in LGBT Health

International Organization of Social Sciences and Behavioral Research (IOSSBR) Spring 2012 Conference

Date: April 23-25

Link to IOSSBR

Center for Adolescent Research and Development (CARD) 2012 Conference

Adolescence in the 21st Century: Constants and Challenges

Date: April 28

Link to Mount St. Mary College

May 2012

Call for Applications -- NIJ PhD Graduate Research Fellowship Program

Date Due: May 2

Link to U.S. Department of Justice

Call for Applications -- W.E.B. DuBois Fellowship for Research in Race, Gender, Culture, and Crime

Date Due: May 2

Link to U.S. Department of Justice

New Integrated Fertility Survey Series (IFSS) Data Set Introductory Workshop

To be held at the PAA 2012 Annual Meeting (see PAA below)

Date: May 2

Link to Population Studies Center (PSC) IFSS Brochure

Population Association of America (PAA) 2012 Annual Meeting

Dates: May 3-5

Link to PAA

Northwest Council on Family Relations Spring Conference

For Better AND Worse: The Revolution in Family Life

Date: May 18

Link to NWCFR

2012 NCFMR Annual Research Conference

Fathers and Fathering in Contemporary Contexts

Dates: May 23-24

Link to NCFMR Conference Website

15th Annual Welfare Research and Evaluation Conference

Dates: May 30-June 1

Link to Office of Planning, Research & Evaluation, An Office of the Administration for Children & Families (ACF)

June 2012

The Center for Research on Families (CRF) -- UMass, Amherst

Summer 2012 Methodology Workshop Series

Dates: Varied Dates in June

Link to CRF

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NARME’s 2012 Conference Registration Now Open!!!

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Marriage Monthly: How To Stop An Argument Before It Starts, For Your Marriage TV Spot, Grow Old Along With Me: Marriage In The Later Years

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