Is "Good Fighting" Beneficial?

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Is "Good Fighting" Beneficial to Marriage?
How to fight a "good fight"
 

Many couples fear that frequent arguing can signal their relationship's demise. It may be the type of arguing you do, not the frequency, that determines your fate.

 

Do couples that fight actually have an edge? A 2012 study found that 44 percent of married couples believe that fighting more than once a week helps keep the lines of communication open.

 

William Doherty, professor in the University of Minnesota's department of family social science says although this study was done in India, it reinforces similar U.S. studies. He warns, however, that only "good fighting" can be helpful, and that "bad fighting" can be destructive.

 

A "good fight" would be a discussion or conflict with a soft start-up rather than a hard start-up. For example, a soft start-up may begin, "I'm feeling very overwhelmed and could really use some help." On the other hand, a hard start-up may begin, "Why am I the only one who ever does any housework around here?"

 

Here are a few other tips from Doherty on "good fighting":

  • Dealing with an issue can be better than ignoring it, especially if resentment is building.
  • Focus only on the topic at hand; don't bring up old issues.
  • Don't bring in third parties or their opinions.
  • Don't compare your spouse to someone else.
  • Don't use "you always/never".
  • Remember to RESPECT one another.
  • Apologize when it's warranted. This shows you value the relationship.

You can check out the source article at the Chicago Tribune here.

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Calling all involved in the Marriage, Fathering, & Family Strengthening Movement!

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Make it a Great Father's Day!

The Best Father’s Day Story!

With Father's Day upon us, HRC discovered this video that shares a father's story of the power of love, courage, and dedication.  To all the dads, watch this clip and be inspired to go all out in your love for your kids ... no matter what it takes!  Happy Father's Day from all of us at Healthy Relationships California.


Dick Hoyt has touched the hearts of many fathers with his example of selfless love and taught us all—even mothers—pure love and what can really come of it. Some would say miracles.


Fatherhood and Marriage by the Numbers

By Steve Cooper (Guest writer from Hitched Media)

 

We've all heard the saying (or something like it) before, "Any guy can conceive a child, but it takes a real man to be a father." So what does that mean exactly? It starts with dads giving their time.


Research Shows Couples Can Increase Marital Happiness, Even Those on the Brink

Researchers at Healthy Relationships California have found strong gains in marital satisfaction among 17,245 participants of Marriage Education programs in California, the nation’s largest study on the immediate and long-term impact of Marriage Education.

 

Before taking a Marriage Education course, only 44% of married persons considered themselves happy with their relationship, while 56% were moderately or highly distressed about their marriage. Six months after taking a skills-based Marriage Education course, only 32% of participants were moderately or highly distressed, while more than 68% were satisfied with their relationship—a 55% increase in the number of people feeling satisfied with their marriage.


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Relationship and Marriage Education (RME) refers to skills-based educational approaches, often preventive in nature, in which individuals or couples are taught skills to increase effective communication, success in resolving problems and conflicts with their spouse/partner, and skills and attitudes that increase marital commitment and satisfaction as well as family stability.

 

 

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Your contribution can go a long way to help HRC make more Relationship and Marriage Education classes available to more people in more communities. And you will have the satisfaction of having made a big difference to the quality of people's lives.

 

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Reminder SSHD Webinar Tomorrow: Contexts and Implications of Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage across Adulthood

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Join Industry Leaders!! Register today for the 2012 NARME Conference in Baltimore, MD!

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The Changing Face of Fatherhood

Fathers & Fathering in Contemporary Contexts
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NCFMR Data Resources Available
 

The National Center for Family & Marriage Research recently organized a national conference to examine and discuss the changing face of fatherhood. The conference also provided an opportunity to address 15 years of change by reviewing Nurturing Fatherhood: Improving Data and Research on Male Fertility, Family Formation, and Fatherhood, 1998 Report, findings and recommendations from the 1997 Conference on Fathering and Male Fertility.

Additionally, we took this opportunity to add Fathers to our Resources by Topic, organizing our data resources addressing fatherhood and fathering. A few highlights are below: 

  • On average, men are 27.4 years old when they become fathers, 1.8 years older than first-time fathers twenty years ago (FP-11-04)  
  • Comparing men who married in the 1990s to those who married in the 2000s, theBar Graph proportion has nearly doubled (6% vs. 11%) for those entering a first marriage already having had two or more children (FP-12-09) 
  • Black and Hispanic men report having more children, on average, than White men -- 45% of Hispanic men and 40% of Black men have three or more children compared to only 20% of White men (FP-11-10) 
  • Among male same-sex households, 11% include biological, step, or adopted children (FP-10-08) 

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  • 15% of fathers who exit the labor force do so to care for a minor child (FP-12-10)  
  • Black non-resident fathers are more likely to report frequent visitation (36%) than both their White (25%) and Hispanic (20%) counterparts (FP-12-02) 

Link to Fathers & Fathering conference webpage to view presenter abstracts, presentations, and posters.

 

Link to Fathers Resources by Topic to view NCFMR data resources such as Family Profiles, Measures Snapshots, and Question Crosswalks. 

 

The National Center for Family & Marriage Research, established in 2007 by the Office of the Assistant Secretary for Planning and Evaluation (ASPE) in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, aims to improve our understanding of how family structure and marriage affect the health and well-being of families, adults, children, and communities and to inform policy development and programmatic responses.

 

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The Partnership Center News: Webinar/Conference Call on ACF's Guide to Resources and Funding for Community and Faith-based Organizations

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On Thursday, June 21st, the HHS Partnership Center and the Administration for Children and Families will co-host a webinar/conference call for faith and community leaders on ACF’s new Guide to Resources and Funding for Community and Faith-based Organizations. The guide offers an overview of the wide range of programs and resources provided by ACF, the many resources and toolkits available for any community or faith-based organization, basic information about finding and applying for federal funds, and specific information about ACF’s competitive grant opportunities for nonprofits.

 

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