Coffin Corner

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

9) http://familyscholars.org/category/pubs-marriage/

HM Links & Clips (9/15/10) #112

10) Donor Gives John Brown University $2 Million
Arkansas Business Online
"We are pleased to honor Dr. Oliver for his lifework of research, writing, teaching and speaking to encourage strong and healthy marriages, families and ...

8) How to Make Parenting with Your Ex Work
CBS News
According to research by PAIRS Foundation, a relationship skills training organization, children from "broken homes" are three times more likely to be ...

7) Childhood Poverty Persistence: Facts and Consequences, June 2010. From the Urban Institute, this report includes a longitudinal analysis of the U.S. child poverty rate using the Panel Study of Income Dynamics. Over the past 40 years, the child poverty rate has ranged between 15 and 23 percent; but 37 percent of children experience poverty at some point in their childhood. The data analysis reveals that 49 percent of children who are poor at birth spend at least half their childhood years in poverty. For more information, please see: http://www.urban.org/uploadedpdf/412126-child-poverty-persistence.pdf

6) The Father Factor: Modern Media Men
By Vincent DiCaro
They care about fatherhood. They care about creating a new, better image of men that the mainstream media doesn't typically promote. People like ManoftheHouse.com and DadLabs were there representing this better way of looking at fathers ...
The Father Factor - http://thefatherfactor.blogspot.com/

5) 5 tools to help women prepare for football season with their men
ABC15.com (KNXV-TV)
Fierstein, who created his practice to support struggling men, thinks "It is possible to balance a good marriage and watch healthy amounts of football! ...

4) http://slidingvsdeciding.blogspot.com/2010/09/first-comes-love-then-comes-what.html

Do you undermine gifts of love? - CNN.com

2) One of my favorite people celebrated her 25^th wedding anniversary yesterday--BC

http://community.ncfr.org/blog/Lists/Posts/Post.aspx?ID=143

1) http://www.smartmarriages.com/free.articles.html

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC 20447

(202)260-1550(o);

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

Home Dating & Engaged Parenting & Family For Every Marriage About Catholic Marriages

Download Invitation_and_Details_Sept.21stcallwithpresidentobama

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Sent: Wednesday, September 15, 2010 1:27 PM
To: California Healthy Marriages Coalition
Subject: [CaMarriage.com] Fwd: New Resources from the Dibble Institute

In this Issue: Healthy Relationship News - September 2010

Power of Education Campaign
Grant Investments
Successful Funding Strategy
Wanted: Researchers
Teen Sex and School Performance
Youth Relationship News
Sexting; An Offense or Just Offensive?
Save the date

Dear friends,

September its a new year for schools and youth programs alike. We at The Dibble Institute have been getting ready for September with more relevant resources to help you teach young people healthy relationship skills. Check them out in our new catalog or access our new products online to see what we have developed and found!

We also have some new free resources! We developed a very engaging bingo game to teach why marriage matters. And, feel free to download the new movie guide to UP! with discussion questions related to relationships. Of course, feel free to use our free sample lessons to get a taste of the many Dibble materials.

Over the summer, we also wrote a quick start guide for the Relationality game. We love the game and find it imparts key concepts in a fun and engaging way but starting the game can be slow. Download the streamlined rules of the game here.

Late in May we announced that Char Kamper had completely revised her best-seller, Connections: Dating and Emotions. Its 15 engaging, ready-to-teach lessons (including posters and PowerPoints) show teens how relationships develop, effective ways to communicate, awareness of destructive patterns, managing feelings, and other essential skills. Using an overall wellness approach, the course emphasizes self-awareness, personal growth, self-regulation of emotions, and interpersonal success. Take a peek!

Stay tuned! In next few months we will introduce several new programs each with a unique approach to relationship education. We know you will like them!

With all warm wishes,

Kay Reed
Executive Director

Power of Education Campaign 2010

If you love our work, then tell the world! You have an exciting opportunity to help The Dibble Institute make even more of a difference. GreatNonprofitsa site like Amazon reviews or TripAdvisoris conducting a campaign to identify the top-rated education nonprofits in the country.

Won't you help us participate in the campaign by posting a review of your experience with us? All reviews will be visible to potential donors and volunteers. It's easy and only takes 3 minutes! Go to: www.greatnonprofits.org/reviews/dibble-institute-for-marriage-education
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With your help, we can gain greater visibility and support for our work.

Grant Investments

We have received several calls in the last few weeks from teachers, abstinence, youth agencies, and marriage coalitions wanting to purchase teaching tools from their year-end funds.

What a great idea! You can stock up on resources to extend your program into the next fiscal year. Let us know how we can help!!

Successful Teacher Finds Funding Strategy

Thanks to Tricia Seibert from Troy Buchanan High School in Missouri for sharing her successful funding strategy. Instead of using her departments budget for Dibble supplemental materials, she asked her principal to order them through the schools textbook budget.

Everyone wins with this approach!

Tricia got the teaching tools she needed for her students and her school saved money because she was meeting the curricular framework without purchasing more expensive textbooks.

Thank you, Tricia!

Wanted: Researchers

Are you a graduate student in search of a meaningful thesis or dissertation? Or, faculty seeking to advance the field of family life education or positive youth development? We would like to talk with you about partnering on evaluations of our research based programs!

Please email Executive Director, Kay Reed, to begin the conversation.

Teen Sex and School performance

A study was published last month with results from an evaluation that tracked students in healthier romantic relationships and those in hook-up relationships and compared their academic performance. You can read about it below.

Teen sex doesn't cause bad grades, but beware 'hook ups'
Serious relationships don't affect school performance, new study finds
By ALICIA CHANG - Associated Press, updated 8/15/2010

Editors note: The most important take away from this article for me, is that we cant take for granted that young people know how to develop healthy relationships without being taught the skills. And, that instruction should include how to really get to know someone, how relationships grow and develop over time, and the emotional and social (and not just the biological) aspects of sex.

Youth Relationship Education News

Relationship coach helps couples thrive
Green Bay Press Gazette
"Relationship education, not just sex education, should be taught in schools," she said. "Relationship skills are needed for anyone that has human contact

Sexting; An Offense or Just Offensive?

Parents have heard a thousand times that sex is all over the media. And now it's online, too, as teens are sexting; sending nude or suggestive photos by cellphone -- which in some states is now a criminal offense. Is the sheer volume of sexual images in the media and elsewhere harming our children? Or is it something else?
(From Connect with Kids September 3, 2010)

Save the dates 

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Connections Introduction with Author Char Kamper
Sacramento Healthy Marriage Project
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September 30, 2010
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Workshop: What's Healthy Relationships Got to Do With it? A New Approach to Pregnancy Prevention
Presenter: Joyce Huff, Director of Outreach

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SEPTEMBER 2010

Featured Article: Try a Five-Point Check-Up
For Your Marriage

Does your marriage need a bit of preventative maintenance? Even good marriages can benefit from periodic check-ups. As summer turns to fall, try this five-point tune-up to keep your marriage running smoothly.

READ OUR SUGGESTIONS >>

Virtue of the Month: Forgiveness

All of us bring past hurts and painful memories to our marriage. Is your marriage a safe space where healing and forgiveness can take place?

READ ON >>

Monthly Book Review: Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On-Together or Apart

Nearly 45% of men and 25% of women have been involved in a physical or emotional extramarital affair. This book is for them and their spouses. "Getting Past the Affair" deals with the immediate trauma of an affair, examines factors that made the relationship vulnerable to an affair and guides the partners in making decisions about the future.

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Marriage in the News: Why Are Weddings So Expensive?

When a British priest heard that some couples put off marrying because of the high cost of weddings, he decided to offer an all-inclusive church wedding at no cost to the couple. Why is there so much social pressure to have a glitzy wedding?

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Marriage Tip of the Month

September 13

Research indicates that happily married couples usually have a daily "catch up" time to talk. It needn't be long, but it should be regular. Carve out daily couple time-even if only five or ten minutes.
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Happily Even After

Josh and Stacey reflect on the ups and downs of married life with children.

HM Links & Clips (9/14/10) #111

10) Fragile Families
marriage-education programs aimed at improving relationship skills and community - based programs aimed at raising nonresident fathers' earnings, ...
www.futureofchildren.org/.../docs/20_02_ExecSummary.pdf

9) Marriage in the New Millennium: A Decade in Review (pages 630–649)

Frank D. Fincham and Steven R. H. Beach

Article first published online: 18 JUN 2010 | DOI: 10.1111/j.1741-3737.2010.00722.x

§ Abstract

§ Full Article (HTML)

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…The impact of the HMI on marital research was not limited to marriage education. Rather the impact of the welfare reform of 1996 has created demand for a scientific foundation for policy decisions and for interventions that address the needs of a diverse array of couples who may be more economically disadvantaged, more likely to be members of ethnic minorities, and who are less likely to be married or to be married soon than those typically studied by marital researchers (e.g., Ooms & Wilson, 2004). Focusing attention on the diversity of couple relationships may be the HMI's greatest impact, as this is a topic that has hitherto received remarkably little attention from marital researchers, despite long-standing recognition of its importance…

8) Dating aint what it used to be

Like a lot of people out there, much of my time spent talking with friends includes... more

And The Magic age for getting married
CollegeNews
Few were shocked when Heidi Montag filed for divorce from Spencer Pratt and no one was surprised when Avril Lavigne split from her husband of three years. ...

7) http://www.simplemarriage.net/7-deadly-sins-of-relationships.html

And http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Overcoming-Barriers-to-Intimacy-in-Romantic-Relationships

6) Calendar: Smart Steps - Sacramento - downtowngrid.com
Healthy Marriage Project proudly present our newest program specifically made for stepfamilies. SMART STEPS is a cost-effective 6-session research-based ...

And http://remarriageworks.com/ and ReMarriage Works What will you be doing to celebrate National Stepfamily Day on September 16? Will you talk about it with your stepfamily?

And Making stepfamilies work Parents of a “blended family” face plenty of challenges, but there are things you can do to make communication easier and help children adjust to their new reality.

5) http://www.simplemarriage.net/5-keys-to-building-family-memories.html

And http://camarriage.wordpress.com/2010/09/08/couple-learns-to-stay-romantic-within-routine-and-a-new-baby-and-wins-1000/

4) http://www.bettermarriages.org/?relationrips and http://www.alabamamarriage.org/healthy-relationship-tips.php

3) Healthy Marriage
Marriage Matters Resources and discussions for Healthy Marriages. ... John Wooden was a champion for marriage. He took his marriage and love for his wife ...
healthy-marriage.com/component/content/frontpage.html

2) http://familyscholars.org/2010/09/14/love-potion-americas-romantic-fatalism/

1) http://www.narme.org/

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC 20447

(202)260-1550(o);

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

Click here to review the clues, learn more and to register.

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org

HM Links & Clips (8/30/10) #103 - Coffin Corner
That understanding highlights an important difference to marriage education built on a foundation of emotional literacy (the ability to understand, express, ...

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Sent: Tuesday, September 14, 2010 5:33 AM
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Subject: [MARKETING EMAIL]OMM News & Notes - September 14, 2010

In This Issue:

When Was the Last Time You Ate Dinner as a Family?
Fall Conference - Connect & Communicate - September 24, 2010
Comedy Event for Couples - Stand Up for Marriage
Straight Talk from Real Dads
Mystery Date Night - September 17, 2010
Hitched & Happy - 7 Different Locations Starting in September
Ask Your Relationship Questions

OMM News & Notes: Promoting Healthy Relationships September 14, 2010

When Was the Last Time You Ate Dinner as a Family?

by Dr. Jennifer Baker

"How many nights a week does your family eat meals together?"

The bewildered silence I get from families in response to this question surprised me at first, but the more often it occurs, the more I realize the disappearing family meal time is reality, not a myth. The thought that parents and children will gather around the dinner table in the evening and share a common meal is so unusual in many homes that it occurs only on special holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Click To Read The Rest

Click here for more information and to register.

Straight Talk With Real Dads - with Derek Gwinn

This Week: New Additions

Last Chance to Register for Friday, September 17, 2010 - Mystery Date Night!

Coming September 2010: Hitched & Happy workshops will be available in 7 different locations in Springfield, Branson, Joplin and West Plains. Visit the Operation Us online calendar for more information.

Have Questions About Relationships?

Check out our new Ask A Question web page where you can send Dr. Baker a question that she just might answer the next time she's on the air with Andy Taylor and Sherry Farmer, Tuesday, September 21, 2010.

And don't forget to visit our podcast archive, where you can listen to earlier appearances.

HM Links & Clips (9/13/10) #110

10) The Ministry of Happy Marriages
In his 2006 book President Barack Obama said research "shows that marriage education workshops can make a real difference in helping married couples ...

9) Marriage Matters: Conference made a difference in families ...
The marriage education movement this week experienced what feels like the equivalent of a temporary power failure: Smart Marriages founder .

And http://www.iplaybacksmartmarriages.com/

8) http://newsok.com/inspiringcouples

Cheri and Randy Blackwood are featured in the "Oklahoma's Most Inspiring Couples" 2010 calendar, sponsored by the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative. Couples featured in the calendar are being profiled in The Oklahoman's Life section each month. For more information about the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative's inspiring couples, go to www.foreverforreal.com

7) Reflecting on goals a key factor in marriage
Weekend Post
I am often asked about the reasons for divorce, and one of the most common questions is, “Why does marriage change people?” Marriage itself does not change ...

6) Increasing Public Awareness for Relationship Education ...
"The Healthy Marriage Initiative helps married couples gain greater access to marriage education services on a voluntary basis. ...
www.lovingrelationshipsforeveryone.org/

5) Many more grandparents raising kids
Chicago Sun-Times
... to illness or substance abuse, or dies. High rates of divorce and teen pregnancies fuel the phenomenon, as do long overseas military deployments. AP.
See all stories on this topic »

4) Remembering the Genius and Vision of Virginia Satir « Fatherhood ...
By Seth Eisenberg
Fatherhood Channel — Marriage, Parenting and Family Relationships · Home · Remembering the Genius and Vision of Virginia Satir. September 10, 2010.

And Father-son bond a key to young men's development
Sacramento Bee
Even in challenging times, these unshakable dads are forging family ties, modeling manhood and fatherhood, and delivering life's most important lessons. ...

3) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1311263/Proved-Those-marry-haste-DO-repent-leisure.html?printingPage=true

And http://lifegems4marriage.com/2010/09/10/we-all-married-the-wrong-person/

2) A new study suggests that prayer can indeed guide people away from adulterous behavior reports the Economist.

And http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/ is the source for much of my UK news.

1) http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/why-divorce-after-40-years

And Get tips on creating more kindness in your life

And Miss our recent webinar on building great relationships? Get healthy communication strategies and explore ways to keep you and your partner connected here

And the National Campaign has an official airline! (see attachment)

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC 20447

(202)260-1550(o);

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

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Sent: Friday, September 10, 2010 11:34 AM
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Subject: The Kids Are Alright (and Cranking Out PSAs)

September 10, 2010

	Fog Zone Data Now Available for Use The National Campaign is pleased to announce that data from the National Survey of Reproductive and Contraceptive Knowledge - the basis of the Campaign publication The Fog Zone - are now publically available. The survey, funded by The National Campaign and conducted by the Guttmacher Institute, was designed to explore understudied factors such as knowledge, attitudes, and beliefs about contraception that influence the ability of young adults to use contraception effectively and thus prevent unplanned pregnancy. Investigators interested in using these data are encouraged to follow a few very brief steps for access to the complete data set. Get more information and learn how to access the data here


	Now Available: the Campaign Update, Fall 2010 The Fall 2010 issue of the Campaign Update is now available for download. Some stories from this issue include: Declines in the U.S. Teen Birth Rate; The National Campaign's 4-Star Rating from Charity Navigator; New Resources and Publications; and more. Download your copy today!


	New Stay Teen Ads Premiere on Teen Nick The National Campaign would like to thank our friends and partners at TeenNick for their continued support of our Stay Teen campaign. Our new series of Stay Teen PSAs aired more than 60 times on TeenNick during July and August. These PSAs, shot by teens for teens, show teenagers doing what they love to do and encourage them to delay pregnancy and parenthood. Special thanks also to the outstanding members of The National Campaign's Youth Leadership Team and DC Teen Advisory Group for shooting all of the great footage used in our new crop of Stay Teen PSAs. To see all of the new Stay Teen PSAs, visit http://www.youtube.com/stayteen.


	How Do You Stay Joven? More news on the PSA front: The National Campaign's Stay Joven digital media project provides Latino youth an opportunity to share their views on teen pregnancy, to discuss their goals and dreams, and to offer their perspectives on it means to be a Latino teen. A series of PSAs and a short film have recently been released as part of this project. *Click here to watch Stay Joven* PSAs (Interested in using the videos? Want more information? Please contact Carlos Pinto**)


	Time is Running Out: Stay Teen Pregnancy Prevention PSA Art Contest Tell the teens in your life about the Stay Teen PSA Art Contest! Teens 13-19 are eligible to submit their artwork and ideas about teen pregnancy prevention. The National Campaign will be accepting entries by mail and online until September 30, 2010. Winning entries will be used by The National Campaign on postcards, posters, and other materials distributed nationwide. Winners will receive a $250 gift card to spend however they choose. For more information and to read the official contest rules, visit http://www.stayteen.org/contest.

	Special Thanks! Special thanks to Southwest Airlines, the official airline of The National Campaign.



	In Case You Missed It... EC Bill of Rights September 9 Game Break: Playing with "Privates" September 8 Electronic Mnemonics and The Pill September 4 Talking Points for Teen Mom Bristol Palin September 1 (Umbr)ella...ella...ella...ay...ay...ay... (aka, Some Basic Info on the Newest Brand of EC) August 27

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HM Links & Clips (9/9/10) #109

10) Healthy Marriages, Responsible Fatherhood

A slide presentation with interesting facts about the importance of marriage and fatherhood. Use this presentation before or during your speaking ...

by CaMarriage

And Healthy Marriages, Healthy Children Video
Watch the Healthy Marriages, Healthy Children Video from CA Marriage on mefeedia .com.
www.mefeedia.com/watch/32728900

9) Couples bond at largest 9th MSC Married Skills Workshop
"Maintaining a healthy marriage is important because the greatest asset the Army has is its people and if they aren't healthy in their relationship side of ...
www.army.mil/-.../44813-couples-bond-at-largest-9th-msc-ma...

8) National Head Start Association Seeks Success Stories to Influence Funding

7) http://www.trustmarriage.com/ and

All About Love : Ms Magazine Blog

6) SAMHSA Newsletter - Vol 18, Number 4 and http://www.hhs.gov/ophs/ and http://www.cuidadodesalud.gov/enes/

5) YouTube What is the difference between marriage education and ...
Dr. Ed Gray discusses the difference between marriage education and marriage therapy in this brief video.

And YouTube What is the difference between marriage education and ...
Relationship expert Tim Gardner explains the difference between marriage education and marriage therapy.

4) For International Literacy Day 2010, Amber Gove and Peter Cvelich of RTI, with contributions from several leading education experts, have authored a report on early reading that demonstrates the urgency to support reading assessment and instruction. Early Reading: Igniting Education for All is the product of a community of practice working together to develop and refine assessment tools, pilot interventions, and share best practices for expanding successful models of reading assessments and strategies to improve education quality.

And speaking of ed http://www.ed.gov/technology/netp-2010 and http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/09/08/childrens-books-you-might-hate/

3) Do Daughters Cause Divorce?
New York Times (blog)
By LISA BELKIN Parents of girls are 5 percent more likely to divorce than parents of boys. Economists first analyzed the data that way in 2003, ...

And

The highest rates of divorce in the world?

And

The Happiness Project: Five Mistakes I Make in My Marriage.

Compatibility Test For Dating Couples

Watch the story

Sep 8,2010 at 10:24 PM EST

Champagne and flowers, candlelit dinners, passion. But which couples should dash to the altar and which should simply take more time? TAKE THE COMPATIBILITY TEST

Compatibility Test For Married Couples

Watch the story

Sep 8,2010 at 10:25 PM EST

Do you ever wonder how some couples are considered a 'perfect match,' and others are not.

TAKE THE COMPATIBILITY TEST

1) Free wireless Internet access has been added to the National Mall by the local government and its federal partners.

Officials said Wednesday that the latest expansion of Washington's free Internet initiative covers the mall from 3rd Street to 14th Street. The city has installed 220 free Wi-Fi hotspots that are accessible by any compatible computer or device. The network is called D.C. Wi-Fi.

And Visit USA.gov’s 9/11 Commemorations and Information page for information about memorials, exhibits, and other 9/11-related resources.

And Marriage Week 2010
The week also serves to increase the awareness and value of pre-marriage and in- marriage education. It has been stated that the quality of our nation's ...
www.livefm.com.au/component/.../3.../21-marriage-week-201...

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC 20447

(202)260-1550(o);

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

Connections*
Advance Your Swagger*
Adventures in Dating*

From: NHMRC Webinar [info@healthymarriageinfo.org]
Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2010 4:07 PM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
Subject: [MARKETING EMAIL]CORRECTION: September 29th Webinar: State Legislative Efforts to Combat Divorce
National Healthy Marriage Resource Center

Dear Bill:

Save the Date!

The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center (NHMRC) will host a webinar entitled, "State Legislative Efforts to Combat Divorce" on Wednesday, September 29, 2010, from 1:00 2:30pm (Eastern Daylight Time).

Minnesota is among the states leading the pack in efforts to discourage divorce. On May 21, 2010, Gov. Tim Pawlenty signed into law the "Couples on the Brink" project, which will offer a range of reconciliation services, at state expense, to couples considering, or who have already begun the process of filing for, divorce. After short-term counseling if a couple decides that they want to rebuild their marriage, the project will develop a reconciliation plan for them. Speakers at this webinar spearheaded this legislation and will discuss the portion of troubled couples in the state whom they believe could benefit from this initiative, the family court perspective on reconciliation services, services offered through this initiative as well as how it will be implemented.

Judge Bruce Peterson, Family Court Judge, Hennepin County, , will describe the impetus for the legislation, and his view, from the perspective of a family court judge, of its potential for success. Judge Peterson originally approached the University of Minnesota to see whether a divorce reconciliation program could be established.
William Doherty, Ph.D., Director, Marriage and Family Program, University of Minnesota, will describe the services available through the Couples on the Brink project, as well as the role that lawyers, clergy, and other parties will play in helping to implement it. The University of Minnesota will be administering the program.
Rich Batten, Program Manager, National Healthy Marriage Resource Center (NHMRC), will moderate this session.

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From: First Things First [ftf@firstthings.org]
Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2010 1:05 PM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
Subject: [SUSPECTED SPAM]Fall Banquet 2010 | FTF eNews

First Things First eNewsSeptember 2010 Volume 1

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HM Links & Clips (9/7/10) #108

10) Marriage improves health indicators and decreases the risk of certain diseases, according to a report in the Harvard Men's Health Watch based on a survey of 127,545 American adults reports US Population Reference Bureau.

9) Divorce Rate Lowest In Decades
Babble (blog)
Divorce has been consistently trending downward since the “divorce revolution” in the 70s. Somehow I don't think it's just the economy that's pushing those ...

And http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/contemplating-divorce/201009/divorce-insurance-has-finally-arrived

And http://www.elle.com/Life-Love/Sex-Relationships/Till-Whatever-Do-Us-Part

And

Rita Watson: The undivorced: 'My husband, my boarder'
Providence Journal
I talked with psychiatrist and marriage therapist Scott Haltzman, MD, who says: “At ... the quality of their marriage through marriage education or therapy. ...

8) Till Debt Do Us Part

7) Playback Now has just posted keynote video clips from Smart Marriages–http://www.iplaybacksmartmarriages.com/video

6) Marriage and War in Today's Military | POV - Regarding War | PBS
You hit the nail on the head - the key to a healthy marriage (especially in the military!) is open communication. I wish they would have more classes on ...
www.pbs.org/pov/.../marriage-and-war-in-todays-military.php

And Chaplain Tries to Stem Rising Divorce Rate
War On Terror News
FORWARD OPERATING BASE SHANK, Afghanistan – In an attempt to quell the rising divorce rate affecting soldiers, the ministry team for Task Force Brawler, ...

5) http://www.blackloveandmarriage.com/

4) Developing the Art of Becoming a Couple: A Grounded Theory Study of the Positive Influence of Married and Loving It! ® (pp. 1080-1101)
PDF Full Text

Barbara D. Petty

Abstract: Couples can improve their marriages by implementing relationship building skills they learn while participating in a marriage education program. This study addresses how marriages improved as a result of participating in the marriage education program, Married and Loving It!® and what specific components of the learning experience facilitated the change. Using grounded theory methodology, the data collected from 12 participants, six married couples through in depth semi-structured interviews, revealed how participating in Married and Loving It! ® can assist couples in improving their relationships by guiding them through a developmental process. It is through skill development and a greater understanding of themselves and their spouse; couples are able to make positive changes in their behaviors and attitudes which influence their marriages.

CPS and Operation Us presents leading-edge information and strategies to successfully connect with teens and twenty-somethings in your business, program or practice.

More info...

2) http://familyscholars.org/2010/09/06/do-you-know-the-difference-between-a-half-and-a-step-an-informal-poll/

1) http://challenge.gov/

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC 20447

(202)260-1550(o);

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

Click here for clue #1 and to learn more.

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In This Issue:

Out with the Old; In with the New

Mystery Date Night - September 17, 2010

Hitched & Happy - 7 Different Locations Starting in September

Relationship Smarts for Teens and Their Parents this Saturday

Fall Conference - Connect & Communicate - September 24, 2010

Ask Your Relationship Questions

OMM News & Notes: Promoting Healthy Relationships September 7, 2010

Out with the Old; In with the New by Dr. Jennifer Baker

Old Rule: Good parents enroll their children in as many extracurricular activities as possible in order to maximize their growth and development.

New Rule: The best parents limit their children's extracurricular activities in order to spend more time with them at home.

Old Rule: Good parents sacrifice all their free time for the benefit of their children's schedules and activities.

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Dear Colleagues,

I am pleased to announce that the 14^th Annual Welfare Research and Evaluation Conference will be held June 1-3, 2011 at the Capital Hilton in the heart of Washington, DC. This conference is sponsored by the Office of Planning, Research and Evaluation (OPRE) in the Administration for Children and Families, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

HM Links & Clips (9/3/10) #107

10) Parents with a Strong Partner Relationship Are More Likely to . .... Summary Report;

BuildingStrongFamilies.ppt – (another older one, not ours—BC)

9) Pennsylvania Family Coalition » Events
By Lourdes Swarts
Marriage education, a relatively new approach to preventing marital distress and breakdown, is based on the premise that couples can learn how to build and maintain successful, stable marriages. Couples can learn how to increase the ...
www.pafamilies.org/afc/">Pennsylvania Family Coalition - http://www.pafamilies.org/afc/

8) The Generation That Can't Move On Up
Wall Street Journal
According to surveys by the National Center for Health Statistics, much of the recent rise in childbearing outside of marriage reflects a rise in births to ...

· And from one of the comments… There is something that puzzles me about all of this. Why is it that couples who don't feel financially stable enough to marry, feel financially stable enough to have children? I see this behavior over and over again and simply don't understand it. Children are a financial burden while marriage (at least between two employed people) lessens financial burdens. Why do these couples perceive a greater financial burden in marriage over the expense of raising children?

(Try out the Cost of Raising a Child Calculator –BC)

7) Why Mothers and Fathers Play Differently
New York Times (blog)
A new study in the journal Biological Psychiatry, the first to look at what its authors describe as “the transition to fatherhood,” suggests that it does. ...

6) Marriage Declining in Tennessee
Eyewitness News Memphis
MEMPHIS, TN - The institution of marriage is in decline across the country, but perhaps nowhere as strongly as Tennessee. Nationally, the decline in ...

5) All in the Family

4) http://familyscholars.org/2010/09/02/fatherless-and-frustrated/

3) http://www.bettermarriages.org/?coupleexercises (pick one to do this weekend)

2) http://www.healthymarriageinfo.org/about-us/nhmrc-resources/resources-by-topic#MRE

And one not on that list DON'TS for Husbands and Wives 1913

Naval maneuvers

For the Academy in Annapolis, quarterback Ricky Dobbs has come to represent something larger than football.

Photo gallery

Navy plays Maryland on Labor Day.

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC 20447

(202)260-1550(o);

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

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September 3, 2010
Today's Family Minute

What will your kids remember about their childhood?

Will they cherish the trip to the theme park, the Xbox360, PS3, or the cell phone you bought them? Or will they remember dad cooking pancakes for them, wrestling with them on the floor... and mom writing those special notes for their lunchboxes, or cheering for them at their games? Our children won't reminisce about big events and big-ticket items. Rather, their hearts will be warmed by memories of the love, caring and companionship you showed them day-to-day. Those are the things that will make a lasting impression they will carry with them into the future. Take a look at these 10 Tips for Better Family Time and remember, your family first.

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HM Links & Clips (9/2/10) #106

10) Examining the Relationship Between Marriage and Health in African American Communities (Part 2) http://jfi.sagepub.com/content/31/9.toc Journal of Family Issues (Sage---see attachment---BC). (This was an AAHMI/ASPE project)

9) Young, single, childless women out-earn male counterparts
USA Today
The increase in twentysomething women earning decent paychecks while skipping or delaying marriage and motherhood has big implications for society and for ...

And

Young, Single & Childless: Women Who Earn More Than Men : Planet Money : NPR

8) Does Marriage Make Us More Alike?
ABC News
By LEE DYE If you live with your mate long enough, eventually you will look like each other, think like each other, and become so similar your friends will ...
See all stories on this topic »

7) War toll is heaviest in poor, rural areas
The Augusta Chronicle
Barely out of his teens and already tied down by the responsibilities of fatherhood, he tried in vain to find work at Savannah River Site and the textile ...

6) Welfare, Tax Policy and Child Support Enforcement: Effects on Family Formation

and NEW TIP SHEET - Relationship Education and Pregnancy Prevention: What's the Connection?

5) You going? http://rom.thepmrc.org/ (I love the tagline—BC)

4) http://familyscholars.org/2010/08/31/wsj-blog-divorce-and-infidelity-down-in-downturn/

3) http://www.aecf.org/KnowledgeCenter/Education.aspx

2) http://themarriagelegacy.com/posts/marriage-enrichment-group/

1) Coffin Corner - Healthy Marriage
... mom and dad to be in a flourishing relationship, even if they live apart? – BC) ... that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children. ...
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Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC 20447

(202)260-1550(o);

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.