HM Links & Clips (10/29/10) #135

10) Restoring the Foundation: Why Marriage and the Intact Family Matter, Christine Kim

9) SHM Early Lessons from the Implementation of a Relationship and Marriage Skills Program for Low-Income Married Couples

 

And MDRC - Announcement: MDRC Experts Presenting at APPAM Conference ...
... “The Supporting Healthy Marriage Evaluation: Early Lessons from a Relationship and Marriage Skills Program for Low-Income Couples,” by Jennifer Miller, Desiree Alderson, and Virginia Knox

 

 

8) Still looking for something to read this weekend ?….88 page Transcript from Wed.am event posted here http://www.brookings.edu/events/2010/1027_fragile_families.aspx

 

And FREE STOSNY JEALOUSY WEBINAR!!  OCT 30 at 3 pm. Registration: https://www3.gotomeeting.com/register/250589406

 

 

 

7)  http://www.afterschoolalliance.org/AA3PM_cities_towns.cfm

America After 3PM: From Big Cities to Small Towns is a special report that takes a fresh look at data from America After 3PM, the most in-depth study ever to explore how America’s kids spend the after school hours.

 

And Alcohol marketing and youth drinking (R01)  

 

And Things to Know Before You Say “Go”  http://www.dibbleinstitute.org/?page_id=4690

 

 

 

 

6) Early and Later Marriage
... couple formation patterns and the transition to marriage, the effectiveness of marriage education, and modern threats to marriage (such as materialism, ...

 

And Marriage Reasons » First Thoughts | A First Things Blog and http://familyscholars.org/2010/10/28/is-marriage-still-for-everyone/

 

 

 

 

5) Holiday Stress and Economic Woes Can Be Dangerous to Marriages
PR Web (press release)
Children are more stressed than ever, and parents aren't aware,” explains Dr. Bonnie Dr. Bonnie recommends that parents have healthy and honest discussions ...

 

And http://www.socialmediacouple.com/marriage-and-family-organizations/  and http://www.marrifrc.org/

 

 

4) Marriage Spotlight: Hardwired to Connect - iContact Community
For more information on the Twogether in Texas marriage education program, visit www.twogetherintexas.com and www.luvlasts.com. Hardwired to Connect Plank ...

 

And Healthy Relationship Program Educator/Trainer - new

OIC of America - Philadelphia, PA

Healthy Marriage Education Project. The Healthy Relationship Program Educator/Trainer will deliver... Lead Educator in the coordination of special events... $30 an hour
From idealist.org - 28 days ago

 

 

 

3) Marriage Good For Men pdf documents | ebooks library download
Engaging Men in Marriage Education. For practitioners offering. marriage and relationship education (MRE), this. general belief ... recruiting men for ...

 

And Operation Us | Why It's Hard to Talk about the Value of Marriage
The Operation Us project provides healthy marriage and relationship education to residents of 29 counties in southwest Missouri.

 

 

 

2)  Most people believe government should be involved in saving ...
By MaritalMediation Staff
Approximately 80% of all respondents agree with public policies to reduce divorce as evidenced by their agreement with the statement a married couple with children “should be required to attend marriage education classes or couple's ...

 

And Healthy Marriage, Healthy Family on Vimeo
Harmony Adoptions' videos. Harmony Adoptions' videos; Staff Picks. 1. Healthy Marriage, Healthy Family. by Harmony Adoptions. 26 minutes ago ...

 

And AmeriCorps State and National Grant Competitions  

 

1) On Post-Marathon Monday, Please, Just Say Congratulations My daughter Trish is running Marine Corps Marathon again (she doesn’t get it from me!)

RaceMate app allows you to track someone running www.marinemarathon.com

 

And http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b00vj34p Tomorrow, 20:00 on BBC Radio 2 (3-5pm EST)

 

How about those Giants!

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

 

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

 

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

 

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org ,e.g.,

HM Links & Clips (10/21/10) #129 - Coffin Corner
these leaders so that all citizens have access to marriage education workshops . ... And Marriage Education's Roadmap for Relationships - Peter Casier . ...

HM Links & Clips (10/28/10) #134

10) Presentations at http://www.brookings.edu/events/2010/1027_fragile_families.aspx

 

 

9) National Healthy Marriage Institute

 

 

8) Divorce Source: Contemplating Divorce: The "Good" Divorce
A healthy marriage is an incredible gift to your children, and it's possible for almost all of us." According to Marquardt and Glenn, the young adults from ...
www.divorcesource.com/info/.../gooddivorce.shtml

 

 

 

7) http://www.markmerrill.com/2010/10/28/write-to-right-a-wrong/

 

 

 

6) georgia.gov - FATHERHOOD- Sitemap
georgia.gov - Online access to Georgia government. The Official Portal for the State of Georgia. Georgia Fatherhood ...

 

And http://familyscholars.org/2010/10/27/i-would-have-been-better-off/

 

 

 

5)

 

How to Love Your Wife Like Crazy :: Daily Email Advice | All Pro Dad

 

 

 

4) http://babyboomertalkonline.com/2010/tom-hanks-rita-wilson-share-their-4-secrets-to-a-happy-marriage/

 

 

 

3) http://www.healthymarriageinfo.org/about/domesticviolence.cfm

 

 

2) Healthy Families, Healthy Children Wine & Cheese Fundraiser - KFIA-AM
Relationship Skills Center, formerly Healthy Marriage Project, will host its Healthy Families, Healthy Children Wine and Cheese Fundraiser on Thursday, ...

And Click the link to see 90 seconds of footage from our Hatching event. This is one of those things where words are not needed, I think. Pictures tell it all. Feel free to share if you like.http://www.youtube.com/operationus#p/a/u/0/m-J0yCgC6O0

 

 Jennifer L Baker, PsyD, LMFT

Center for Professional Solutions

The School of Professional Psychology at Forest Institute

2885 W. Battlefield Road

Springfield, MO 65807

417-823-3469

jbaker@forest.edu

 Forest Institute
Enrich. Advance. Serve.

 

 

1) Fox TV Blackout Tests Old Giants Fans’ Ingenuity

Oct 26, 2010 · Among old-time baseball fans in New York, rooting for the Giants always required a bit of ... 81, who is the president of the New York Baseball Giants Nostalgia Society.

 

 

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

 

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

 

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

 

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org

HM Links & Clips (10/27/10) #133

10) Strengthening Fragile Families
Brookings Institution
Most of the programs provide marriage education for low-income couples, but some conduct marriage education for high school students, others provide divorce ...

 

(Event http://www.brookings.edu/events/2010/1027_fragile_families.aspx )

 

 

 

9) NFL Wives Nuture Marriage to Reduce Cheating
ABC News
"We were wondering how we could keep this marriage fresh and fun and rewarding." The wives also want to create a haven for committed couples – so their ...

 

 

 

8) Assume Love: Marriage Central: Singapore Supports Its Marriages
Enjoy Being Married. Visit our marriage education resource guide; Learn about our free teleclasses · Archives. Select a Month...

 

And Younger couples working harder at marriages
AsiaOne
By Joy Fang YOUNGER newly hitched couples tend to want to work harder at their marriage than those who have been married much longer, a survey found. ...

 

 

 

7) Survey Reveals Dads Face Challenges Maintaining Health and Friendships
PR Newswire (press release)
CINCINNATI, Oct. 26, 2010 /PRNewswire/ -- While fatherhood is a major developmental period for all men, a recent study reveals the extent to which younger ...

 

 

 

6) The marriage platform
Baltimore Sun
"Half of cohabiting couples said they were 'testing' the relationship or were in a 'trial marriage.' However, that's a myth. Cohabitation is more like a ...

 

 

 

5) The theme for the Spring issue of NCFR member magazine, NCFR Report, will be "Couples."  Do you have some of your work as a researcher, practitioner or educator that you'd like to share?  Please write the editor to talk about your idea and to obtain the submission guidelines at nancygonzalez@ncfr.org. The deadline is December 21, 2010.

 

 

4) I Am ME Edward Bastille New Hampshire « Fatherhood Channel ...
Marriage Education is touching the lives of couples families and children across the countryI Am ME profiles individuals and couples teaching relationship ...
fatherhoodchannel.com/.../i-am-me-edward-bastille-new-hamp...

 

 

 

3) The Mating Game

http://nyti.ms/9QtFpa

 

And Would you like a wife with that? McDonald's offers weddings | CNNGo.com

 

 

 

2) http://www.engagedmarriage.com/time-management/what-are-you-willing-to-give-up#comments

 

 

 

1)I was 8 when they last won the World Series http://sanfrancisco.giants.mlb.com/sf/history/index.jsp

 

 

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

 

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

 

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

 

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org

 

 

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couple fighting 2When they began the program, they were on the verge of breaking up. "I had moved out of our home and was very angry. Although I had legitimate reasons for my anger, I had not realized how improperly we had been dealing with my feelings and the issues that arose within our relationship. Through the Marriage Resource Center we have been able to reconcile, move back in together, and are dealing with our issues in an adult-like fashion.  After about four months of attending the Third Option class we are holding ourselves personally responsible for our individual decisions and actions, and are working together to make life better for the future."  With a divorce rate as high as 73% in Southeast Michigan, Deniesha and Louis' story is a common one; but when the drama and destruction we see is as pervasive as it now seems we often ask, "Why should we care?...we can't really do anything about it."  But the truth is that there is much that can be done, and there is an organization in Southeast Michigan that is doing it.

Founded in 2004 as a community-based 501(c)3, the Marriage Resource Center is making a significant difference in the lives of your neighbors and with families throughout the Greater Detroit area.  Both daily visitors to our office and numerous workshop participants express how great the need is for the relationship-strengthening programs we offer, as well as thanking us for the impact MRC has already made on their lives. 

"Your program helped save our marriage.  We are now able to communicate better and are able to finally just enjoy each other without taking each other for granted."  -Sara T., participant

Other relationship professionals support our work as well, and encourage us to continue our efforts:

"I plan to spread to the word to all the married couples I know.  Our society truly needs the Marriage Resource Center."  -Marlo J., therapist

"Thanks for the work you perform at the Marriage Resource Center.  We look forward to working with you to strengthen marriages and family."   -Ken B., pastor

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As trained educators, the Marriage Resource Center proactively assists people in finding solutions to their relationship challenges.  Our programs are structured to teach couples open lines of communication, to handle money issues calmly, and to develop a balance between their personal and professional lives.  Teens and singles learn how to develop healthy relationships from the start and to avoid situations that put them at risk of domestic violence.  With appropriate funding, these programs are offered at low or even no cost to participants. 

But now we are asking for your help.  As you can imagine, this work requires time, effective programs, and committed staff; with your contribution our work can continue, allowing us to reach your neighbors, family members, and thousands more.  Please visit our website or call our office to make a life-altering donation.  Your financial support is crucial to continue these programs.  We look forward to the amazing life transformations your contribution will provide.

 Sincerely,

Julie Bock

Julie Bock, CFLE, Certified Marriage Educator

Executive Director

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Dearborn, MI  48124

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 From: Strong Fathers-Strong Families, LLC [info=strongfathers.con@mcsv122.net] on behalf of Strong Fathers-Strong Families, LLC [info@strongfathers.con]
Sent: Wednesday, October 27, 2010 10:01 AM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
Subject: [MARKETING EMAIL]Fatherhood Resources

Resources to Strengthen Fathers
Here are a few resources that you can share with dads
in your program to help them raise stronger kids

Check In Calendar
Questions for Dads to ask instead of
"What Did You Do at School Today?"
November Calendar
Strong Fathers Radio Podcasts Listen to Recent Episodes

HM Links & Clips (10/26/10) #132

10) Top 10 Ways to Embark on a Stronger Marriage « Stronger Marriage Blog
By strongermarriage
Stronger Marriage Blog. Helping People Form & Sustain a Healthy & Enduring Marriage. « How Long Should We Keep Trying to Work It Out? Top 10 Ways to Embark on a Stronger

 

And http://www.counselingonlinesite.com/2010/10/ten-indicators-of-a-healthy-marriage-by-martha-filipic/ (Ted is now at UGA)

 

 

 

9) http://www.operationus.org/library/articles/bakerblog/323-why-its-hard-to-talk-about-the-value-of-marriage.html

 

 

8) http://www.familyminute.com/article/marriage-conversation-starters

 

And

 

How the Dishwasher Almost Destroyed My Marriage

 

 

 

 

7) Please join the HUD Center for Faith-Based and Neighborhood Partnerships for our conference call with Housing Secretary Shaun Donovan and Joshua DuBois, executive director of the White House Office of Faith-Based and Neighborhood Partnerships. 

 Time for the call: October 26th, 2010 from 3:00 PM-4:00 PM Eastern Time. 

 DIAL : (800) 288-9626

TITLE: “Ask the HUD Secretary” Conference Call

 

 

 

6) Relationships
What Is Relationship/Marriage Education? Marriage education is the foundation of information designed to help individuals and couples achieve life long, ...
makinglovebettertwogether.com/Relationships.html

 

And

 

Marriage Quotes

 

 

 

5) Amy Chan: First Comes Love, Then Comes...
By Amy Chan
Marriage is something that I know I want eventually. I know this so much that I usually bring it up in the beginning of the dating process, to see if my potential boyfriend has the same vision. ... While I understand that a legal contract doesn't necessarily make a relationship or bond suddenly more committed, I do believe that a healthy couple making such vows to each other can take the relationship to the next level of commitment. I'm aware that divorce rates are higher ...
The Huffington Post Full Blog Feed - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/theblog/

 

 

 

4) http://familyscholars.org/2010/10/26/the-marriage-gap-and-nonmarital-childbearing/

Read more »

HM Links & Clips (10/25/10) #131

10) Last Monday's New York Times cites The Future of Children as an Example ...
Increase union stability and father involvement in fragile families by building on and perhaps modifying marriage-education programs that have shown to be ...
blogs.princeton.edu/.../mondays-new-york-times-cites-the-futu...

 

And Helping Fragile Families
October 27, 9:00 am to 11:00 am

 

 

9) Marriage And Family Formation Among Low Income Couples: What Do We ...
The Challenges of Offering Relationship and Marriage Education to ... ... helpingunwed.pdf Dion, R. M ... fragile families and what do we know about them? ...
www.pdfchaser.com/.../Marriage-and-Family-Formation-Amo...

 

And Harry Benson’s paper

 

 

 

8)  MFS: Despite the fourfold increase in numbers of incarcerated ...
Voluntary relationship and marriage-education skills programs that aim .... and marriage education programming, but with a much lower level of funding and ...
https://www.appam.org/conferences/fall/.../4195.1.pdf

 

 

 

 

7) Marriage Lessons I Learned in Grad School (Part 1) | The Young ...
By Tara
I told you guys I was heading back to school to get a degree in Family Studies, which meant I would be spending my nights studying healthy families and strategies to make dysfunctional families whole again. I also said I'd share any ...
The Young Mommy Life - http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/

 

 

 

 

6) 15 Hard Truths About Divorce
Psychology Today (blog)
If your marital love was born out of a deep, abiding friendship, and your divorce rekindles that friendship, your children - and your own wellbeing - are ...

 

And How To Beat the Odds: Tips from the Very Married | Psych Central

 

 

 

5) Press Release: October 18, 2010 | National Responsible Fatherhood ...
U.S. Department of Health and Human Services' Administration for Children and Families, Office of Family Assistance, National Responsible Fatherhood ...
www.fatherhood.gov/about-us/press.../press-release-10182010

 

And

Young Fatherhood Initiative
Young Fatherhood Initiative. United Way of the Capital Region (UWCR) is engaged in a variety of efforts to help make Dauphin, Cumberland and Perry counties ...
uwcr.org/index.php/how-we-help/.../a-look-at-young-fathers

And http://fatherhoodchannel.com/2010/10/ and http://www.fatherhood.org/popsculture

 

And Videos Posted by EDSI: EDSI's Non-Custodial Program "Stepping Up ...
Please watch EDSI's video on our highly successful Non-Custodial Parent program in Pennsylvania: "Stepping Up to Fatherhood." ...
www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=122256217828676

 

And Foundation For Male Studies April 6 Conference To Focus on Deteriorating ...
San Francisco Chronicle
... PhD, Professor of Psychology at Florida International University, who will speak on the need for a national policy on fatherhood; Michael Gilbert, ...

 

 

 

 

4) http://www.suite101.com/content/the-importance-of-a-healthy-marriage-for-family-a161994

 

And The Iona Institute | 20 Oct 10 Limerick city's sky-high rate of ...
... outside of marriage even though it emphatically does matter. The need for a big , national pro-marriage education campaign has never been more obvious. ...

 

 

 

 

3) These 3 Minutes Can Change Your Marriage
HealthNewsDigest.com
For couples feeling overwhelmed with their marriage, this research is encouraging. After all, you don't have to do a total marriage make-over. ...

 

And 21 Ways to Say
'I Love You'
Forget flowers, try one of
these fun, thoughtful tips
real couples swear by.

 

 

 

2) MFCC Resource Guides at the following link:  http://deploymentpsych.org/resources/marriage-family

 

And thinkmarriage.org Online Store
Digital Marriage Education Checklist Click picture to open in separate window. Digital Marriage Education Checklist Click to enlarge ...

 

And October 27, 2010: Every Marriage Can Thrive! (Dr. Gary Smalley; Ted Cunningham) 2-3pm (EDT)

http://www.focusonlinecommunities.com/community/webcasts

 

 

 

1) Pinch yourself: SF Giants are in the World Series Read more: http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2010/10/25/SPC61G1D4T.DTL#ixzz13NrzqDXk

 

And I’ve been a fan since they were the NY Giants. Speaking of NY (hi Barbara, Joyce, et. al.,) http://www.nytimes.com/nyregion/nyregionspecial/

 

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

 

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

 

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

 

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org

 

 

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Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 7:18 PM
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From: Mary Myrick [mailto:mary.myrick@publicstrategies.com] 
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 1:31 PM
To: Ron Haskins; Kathy Edin; Howard Markman (hmarkman@du.edu); Scott Stanley; Paul Amato; Pamela Jordan, PhD, RN; Galena K. Rhoades; Sarah Halpern-Meekin; Ron Cox; Robin Dion; Norval D. Glenn; Coffin, Bill (ACF); Theodora Ooms; Barbara Goldman; Ginger Knox
Cc: Hendrick, Howard; Alan Hawkins; Andrew Daire; Steven M. Harris Ph. D. (smharris@umn.edu)
Subject: Friday morning cheer Fellow OMI RAG partners and friends! 
 
 
 
 
Hey all, 
 
I’m just back from a wedding downstairs in FE… and thought I would tell you about a special moment (accompanied by pictures). 
 
 
 
First a little background….as most of you are aware, we decided awhile back to hold weddings for our couples downstairs on Friday mornings, as many of them were getting married at the courthouse, and or, they were overwhelmed at the cost of getting a nice place to have a wedding.  For us, it’s a time of celebration to reenergize our team that deals with the hard realities of many of our families lives all week, our way of collectively helping couples to make a public declaration of their commitment to one another, and a way for us to help some of our couples achieve their dreams to be married with dignity.  Of course couples can invite family and friends if they chose and it’s always nice to see that some of them have this kind of support. 
 
 
 
So today.  The couple actually knew each other from high school.  He was crazy about her but she had other interests.  She has gone on to have other children before they got together but their FE child is a first for him.  They are very committed to each other and are working through all kinds of issues with the support of their FSC… I had a chance to talk to the FSC actually and she was so very proud of all they have accomplished and how they work together as a team to face more than most of us could imagine. They still have challenges to address, which we are helping them with, so today was not a day where we forgot that is still true, but it was a celebration of their commitment to address challenges together…to have a shared view of their future and their children’s future. 
 
 
 
This couple, unlike most, had a lot of family here.  What a fun thing to see their children, and cousins all lined up down the table eating wedding cake.  (see attached photo). One of their children, the next to the youngest, was so darling I couldn’t stop talking pics of her (sharing one with you/see attached).   I know there is no way to share with you  all the specialness of these moments that we bump into every day, but I want to keep trying. 
 
 
 
So here’s my moment for today.  I was sitting talking with the children at the table while they were eating cake…and I said, who knows the bride. A couple of them said at the same time, “she’s my mom”.  Really, I said, that’s great.  And one of them said, “yeah, my mom and dad love each other so they are getting married.”  Okay now envision about four other heads bobbling up and down in agreement. Wow.   It was a little thing that is such a big thing. What  a very different childhood memory this day was and what a big difference it just may make in their futures. Somehow I’m certain it wouldn’t have been quite the same at the courthouse, or if it had never happened at all.  Today was another family forming experience done well. 
 
 
 
Anyway, special day.  We saw a mom and dad get married because they love each other, but equally important, we saw it matter to their children. 
 
 
 
Have a great weekend. 
 
Mary
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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10) No Wedding, No Womb...No Future? - BCNN1
Recognizing that more than speeches are necessary for increasing awareness around single parenthood, Obama recently created the White House Fatherhood and ...
 
 
 
And http://www.futureofchildren.org/
 
 
 
 
 
9) 'Culture of Poverty,' once an academic slur, makes comeback
Honolulu Star-Advertiser
 President Barack Obama, who was abandoned by his father, has repeatedly talked about “responsible fatherhood.” Conservatives also deserve credit, ...
 
 
 

And The "culture of poverty" myth returns 

 
Salon - Alyssa Battistoni - ‎1 hour ago‎
 
The New York Times caused a stir earlier this week with its assertion that the "culture of poverty" theory of urban decline is back in ... 
 
 
 

And 'Culture of poverty' begins at home 

 
The Collegian - Anna Jacobsen - ‎7 hours ago‎
 
Learning about issues that affect our society is one of the most important aspects of the ... 
 
 
 
And A Culture of Poverty
http://www.theatlantic.com/personal/archive/2010/10/a-culture-of-poverty/64854/
  And Reconsidering the 'Culture of Poverty'
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=130701401 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
8) In a continued effort to show leadership in the call of President Obama's June address to raise the issue of Responsible Fathers and Mentoring; Fathers Incorporated has proclaimed 2011: THE YEAR OF RESPONSIBLE MEN. It is our goal to inspire the nation to engage in a year-long engagement, celebration and encouragement of responsible men. We are clear about two things. 1) Fatherlessness is one of the more devastating social ills of low income, underserved and disadvantage communities; and 2) because of it, these communities lack the presence of responsible mentors to fill the gap left by father absenteeism. As a result, children are left unprotected and vulnerable; single mothers are left with the added burden of raising children alone.
 
 
 
And http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=124092252
 
 
 
And Conference set for Friday and Saturday, Oct. 22 & 23, to focus on keeping ...
WHAS 11.com (subscription)
 by Christine Wright (WHAS11) The Two-not-One Fatherhood Conference is set for Friday, Oct. 22 at Hotel Louisville and it's all about keeping families ...
 
 
 
And Ruckus - National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse
 Call 877-4DAD411 or visit www.fatherhood.gov Disclaimer: brought to you by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, and the Ad Council. ...
www.fatherhood.gov/media/365
 
 
 
And http://womeninfatherhood.org/main/
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
7) to Print - www.ojjdp.gov
“Family Strengthening Approaches for the Prevention of Youth Problem Behaviors.” American Psychologist 58(6/7):457–65. Kumpfer, Karol L., Rose Alvarado, ...
 
 
 
And LiveClicks™ Full-Day Webinars | Introduction to The 7 Habits of ...
The 7 Habits of Successful Families workshop series is an engaging, family- strengthening program based on Stephen R. Covey's No. 1 bestsellers The 7 Habits ...
www.franklincovey.com/.../introduction-to-the-7-habits-of-hi...
 
 
 
And UCS teacher pens first book
Shelby Township Source Newspapers
 Utica Community Schools teacher Darrin Millar recently released the book "Daddy Can You," a tale of fatherhood dedicated to his daughters, Emily, ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
6) State's lower teen-pregnancy rate doesn't tell whole story
Seattle Times
 Washington state's teen birthrate overall is lower than the national average, according to a new report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, ...
See all stories on this topic »
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
5) The first cohort of Tribal Maternal, Infant, and Early Childhood Home Visiting Program grantees were awarded on September 28, 2010. http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/ccb/initiatives/hvgp/hvgp_grantees.htm
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
4) Love means having to say you're sorry
Jerusalem Post
 Marital therapists report that authentic apology is a very important feature of a healthy marriage. Psychologists have reported that there are differences ...
 
 
 
 
 
3) Golden Rule key to healthy marriage
At every wedding, I wonder how the happy couple could ever end up divorced. The pastor speaks so eloquently about love and commitment.
www.daytondailynews.com/.../golden-rule-key-to-healthy-mar...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Bill Coffin
 
Special Assistant for Marriage Education
 
ACF/HHS
 
370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447 
 
(202)260-1550(o);
 
Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov
 
…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed 
 
efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)
 
 
 
A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting, 
 and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf
 
 
 
 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 
 
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc
 
http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp
 
 
 
Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences
 
#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.
 
#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.
 
http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7
 
 
 
For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org
 
 
 
 
 
   
     From: National Fatherhood Leaders Group [info-news@nflgonline.org]
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 3:09 AM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
Subject: OCSE Fatherhood Webinar October 25, 2010
 
 


 
 
 
Friday, October 22, 2010
 
 
Dear Colleague,
 
 
I am pleased to inform you that the registration deadline for the Monday, October 25, 2010 webinar, sponsored by the Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement, has been extended.  This means that you can still register and participate in the webinar entitled Addressing the Child Access Needs of Unweb Fathers: Options for Child Support, Courts, and Responsible Fatherhood Organizations.
 
 
Please use the link below. When you click on that link to register, kindly disregard the Thursday, October 21, 2010 deadline for receiving an email containing phone and web access information.
 
 
When your registration is submitted, you will receive an email with phone and web access information.  If problems occur, kindly contact me at info@nflgonline.org. 
 
 
Sincerely,
 
Robert D. Johnson
 
National Mobilization Officer
 
www.nflgonline.org 
 
 




 
REGISTER TODAY
 
Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement's Webinar on:
 
"Addressing the Child Access Needs of Unwed Fathers:
 
Options for Child Support, Courts, and Responsible Fatherhood Organizations"
 
 
Date:    Monday, October 25, 2010
 
Time:  2:00pm – 3:30pm Eastern Time
 
 
To register, click on the link 
 
http://surveymonkey.com/s/webinar_registration  
 
 




 
Compared to a decade ago, the landscape of families and children in America has changed significantly.  The nation's out-of-wedlock birth rate is at an all time high with nearly 41% or 1.7 million children born to unmarried parents in 2008.  The percentage is even higher among various racial groups including, but not limited to, African-Americans (72%), American Indians or Alaska Natives (66%); and Hispanics (53%).
 
 
 
Addressing the child access needs of unwed fathers is an important but often overlooked factor that impacts child support, child well-being and the parent-child relationship, over time.  For the majority of unwed fathers who acknowledge paternity at birth, most assume, incorrectly, they have full legal parenting rights to their children.  In most states, an unwed father must file a petition in the court to request and establish a parenting time order in order to ensure access to his children.  This, in itself, can be a deterrent to establishing a father's relationship with his children; research has revealed that unwed fathers who have parenting time plans are more likely to pay child support and remain involved in the lives of their children.  
 
 
 
So what are the options?  Child support agencies often are unable to do anything.  Courts often only deal with unwed fathers who have not paid their child support.  And responsible fatherhood organizations want to help but don't quite know how to intersect with the court system and/or are unfamiliar with the process for helping unwed fathers obtain a parenting time order.
 
 
 
We are honored to have representatives from child support, courts, and responsible fatherhood organizations who are going to tell you why helping unwed fathers with child access issues should and can be done!
 
 
 
Moderator                      Debra Pontisso, Program Specialist, Federal OCSE
 
 
 
CHILD SUPPORT                   Anita Stuckey, Shared Parenting Program Coordinator
 
 Child Support Enforcement
 
Texas Office of the Attorney General 
 
 
 
COURTS                                 Norris Stevenson, Deputy Administrator
 
Illinois Child Support Enforcement
 
State Access and Visitation Coordinator
 
 
 
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10) Ten Ways to Have a Really Great Marriage
 
 
 
And http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/daily_living/keeping_romance_alive/ten_secrets_to_a_successful_marriage.aspx
 
 
 
And http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainstorm/201010/10-hard-truths-about-marriage
 
 
 
 
 
9) Sociologists bring themselves to notice the obvious
Milwaukee Journal Sentinel (blog)
... in statements and reports to the nation that examine child and social well-being related to marriage, fatherhood, motherhood, and civil society. ...
 
 
 
And http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/250198/liberals-reexamining-culture-poverty-guess-again-robert-rector
 
 
 
 
 
8) The Beneficial Effects of Marriage - Laura's Strengthening ...
By Laura M. Brotherson
Marriage research is, of course, social science research, and even with the best methodological studies, (Glenn, 2001, pp. 44-45) research is clearly limited: obviously, no one is randomly assigning couples to marry and there are ...
 
 
 
And PREP Workshop Leaders 
... state of Oklahoma and has paid close attention to the geographic distribution of
 these leaders so that all citizens have access to marriage education workshops ...
 
 
 
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7) 7 Things Your Marriage Needs That Money Can’t Buy http://www.engagedmarriage.com/
 
 
 
And The long, hard slog to value fatherhood
While motherhood might be the world's toughest job, fatherhood isn't far behind. Like all tough jobs, the end result is well worth it. ...
 
 
 
And http://www.parentdish.com/2010/10/19/heed-thee-the-words-of-tom-selleck-quit-being-a-jerk-wad-of-a-f/
 
 
 
And Loving support is what matters to those fighting cancer
 
 
 
And Helping men with the trauma of miscarriage.
 
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6) Listening Sessions Conducted by the Federal Interagency Working Group on Youth Programs
 What is the single most important thing we can do to make a difference in the lives of youth? What are effective programs, strategies, and initiatives to improve youth outcomes? Are there program or policy gaps? What are the barriers to improving youth outcomes and how can these barriers be removed? Share your ideas on improving youth outcomes! Sessions are in the following cities: Denver, CO (October 19); Seattle, WA (October 19); New York, NY (October 26); Boston, MA (November 12); Orlando, FL (November 16); Houston, TX (November 18); Washington, DC (December 2). To register, click on the link below, or call 1-877-231-7843. If you can’t attend a listening session, you can share your ideas through the website, by visiting the link below and clicking on “Provide Your Input” in the box marked “Strategic Plan for Youth.” www.FindYouthInfo.gov  
 
 
 
And one of the programs at our CFC kickoff this morning was http://wjacademy.org
 
 
 
And http://familyscholars.org/2010/10/20/preliminary-2008-state-specific-teen-birth-data/
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
5) http://www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/in.america/black.in.america/ 
 
 
 
And The New Marriage Gap: Does Education Predict Conjugal Success?
Huffington Post (blog)
 Perhaps most importantly, college graduates are more likely to be financially stable within those unions and less likely to divorce. ...
 
 
 
And Young Couples Know Each Other Best
The Fatherhood Channel
 Fortunately, many relationship and marriage education classes that deliver evidence-based skills for improving communication, deepening empathy, ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
4) WashingtonWatch.com - Earmark Disclosure 71970, Healthy Marriage ...
US Congress: Earmark Disclosure 71970, Healthy Marriage Demonstration Project.
 
 
 
And Marriage Education's Roadmap for Relationships - Peter Casier ...
Marriage Education's Roadmap for Relationships - http://humanitariannews.org/ 2010101... 2 hours ago from Humanitarian News blogs - Comment - Like - Share ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Thurs., Oct 21st, 2010 from 7-8pm PST 
 
 REGISTER NOW! The Live Broadcast is FREE (donations welcome).
 
 
 
 
 
And Asia PR Werkz to promote healthy marriages for NFC in Singapore ...
Asia PR Werkz to promote healthy marriages for NFC in Singapore. Cho Pei Lin, director, Asia PR Werkz. The local agency will develop a public relations ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
2) Power of Two So what are the areas you two have learned to "love your differences?"
 
And Thanksgiving Family Survival Guide, Part One    Thanksgiving Family Survival Guide, Part Two
 
http://fatherhoodchannel.com/2010/10/21/thanksgiving-family-survival-guide-part-three-021/
 
And http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/10/the-art-of-being-happily-married-part-2/
 
 
 
 
 
1) There is still time to register for this year's third annual conference on Sexuality, Integrity, and the University, to be held at Princeton University on November 12-13, 2010. The conference will feature sessions on family as the foundation for society, the meaning and value of marriage, restoring dignity to femininity and masculinity in today's culture, and how to be advocates for marriage, family, and sexual integrity on your campus, with a joint keynote address on the role of friendship in the hookup culture and marriage formation. The deadline to register is November 1st so visit our website and sign up now!
 
 
 
And HM Links & Clips (10/18/10) #127 - Coffin Corner
Marriage Education is increasingly touching the lives of greater numbers of ... Marriage education is helping men learn to support their wives through ... 
 
 
 
And How New England Are You? (Hi Josie and Marilyn and Mary Ann, et.al..  Which link and/or clip would you like to forward to others in Region 1? Some regions forward the entire email.)
 
 
 
 
 
GO SF Giants!
 
 
 
Bill Coffin
 
Special Assistant for Marriage Education
 
ACF/HHS
 
370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447 
 
(202)260-1550(o);
 
Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov
 
…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed 
 
efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)
 
 
 
A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting, 
 and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf
 
 
 
 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 
 
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc
 
http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp
 
 
 
Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences
 
#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.
 
#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.
 
http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7
 
 
 
For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org
 
 
 
   
   From: The National Campaign [web@thenc.org]
Sent: Wednesday, October 20, 2010 2:59 PM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
Subject: Preliminary 2008 State-Specific Teen Birth Data Released
 
 
 
 


 
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The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS) has released preliminary 2008 state data on teen births. In addition, NCHS has also released new analysis of state disparities in teen birth rates based on 2007 teen birth data.  
 
Some of the primary findings include:
 
    

  • State teen birth rates continue to vary widely according to the preliminary 2008 dataâ"€from 20 per 1,000 15-19 year-olds in New Hampshire to 66 per 1,000 in Mississippi. 
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  • As a general matter, teen birth rates in 2008 were lowest in the Northeast and upper Midwest and highest in Southern states. 
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  • However, NCHS analysis of 2007 birth data (the most recent data with state-level detail by race/ethnicity) shows that even within racial/ethnic subgroups, there are great differences across states.  For example, some states with lower overall rates of teen births rank among those states with the highest rates for some racial/ethnic groups. 
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“The report is yet another reminder that the problem of teen pregnancy and childbearing in the United States remains deep, wide, and urgent,” said Sarah Brown, CEO of The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.  “The national declines in too-early pregnancy and parenthood have stalled and racial/ethnic differences in teen pregnancy and childbearing remain profound.  The Obama Administration’s investment in preventing teen pregnancy has been an important step forward.  We now call on other sectors to recognize the challenge at hand and do what they can to help young people avoid unplanned pregnancy.” 
Visit http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/databriefs/db46.pdf for the full NCHS teen birth report.  Visit The National Campaign’s websiteâ€"TheNationalCampaign.orgâ€"for more information on teen and unplanned pregnancy.






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10) http://www.familyminute.com/article/10-ways-to-push-your-spouse-away
 
 
 

9) http://www.kansascity.com/2010/10/14/2314381/becoming-parents-programtm-curriculum.html

 
 
 
8) GAO: Defense domestic violence tracking remains flawed
By Norah Swanson 
 
Audit finds the Pentagon's system for collecting data on abuse in military families hinders department's ability to analyze trends.
 
Full story: http://www.govexec.com/story_page.cfm?articleid=46335&dcn=e_gvet
 
And SAMHSA Seeking Stakeholder Feedback on Strategic Initiatives SAMHSA's recently-released plan Leading Change: A Plan for SAMHSA's Roles and Actions 2011 - 2014 builds on 8 strategic initiatives to focus the Agency's work. In conjunction with the Plan's release, SAMHSA is seeking comment on the initiatives in their ongoing efforts to increase public engagement, collaboration, and participation. The online forum is open for feedback and suggestions until October 22, 2010 at 5 p.m. EST. Access the online forum 
 
 
 
 
 
7) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1321700/Lost-intimacy-driving-50s-divorce.html?printingPage=true
 
 
 
And http://www.marriagevine.com/events/
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Parents Say America Is in a 'Father Absence' Crisis                                                                                 (What a picture!—BC)----à
The Good Men Project
 Are we in the midst of a fatherhood crisis? In a New York Times article about an ad campaign designed at getting Asian-American, American-Indian, ...
  
 
 
 
And Ads Urge Fathers to ‘Take Time’ to Be a Dad http://www.nytimes.com/2010/10/19/business/media/19adnewsletter1.html
 
 
 
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HOW TO BE A DAD: Website launched for men to face first-time fatherhood...together. A unique new website and advice portal has been launched this week, with the specific aim of preparing, and supporting men through what will be the most ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
5) Blacks & Marriage! « WBAV – 101.9
By kla411
 Is marriage dead? Are educated black women unrealistic? Is marriage a negotiation? Charlotte's Best Variety of Hits & Oldies.
 
 
 
And http://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Not-Enough-Moynihan-Life/dp/0465013570
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
4) 2010-09-FF "Family Structure Transitions and Changes in Maternal Resources and Well-Being" by Cynthia Osborne, Lawrence Berger and Katherine Magnuson 
 
 
 
And Not our grantee but interesting none the less Marriage Retreat « ¿Qué Pasa @ ICC?
By Darcy
 The teaching topics centered on the ingredients for a healthy marriage, with a special emphasis on sacrifice, communication and intimacy.
 

And American Heart Association revises CPR guidelines ...

 
The American Heart Association issued new guidelines Monday for CPR, making rapid chest compressions the mainstay. ... 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

3) Decoding Commitment: When Sally met Harry and http://www.jefftalks.com/2010/spouse/humor-in-marriage/

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
2) Love and the litmus test, Take 2: Have dating deal-breakers changed in 28 years? One...
 
 
 
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1) Learn more about Ethnographic Video Online here.
 
 
 
And 'Culture of Poverty' Makes a Comeback 
By PATRICIA COHEN 
Decades after Daniel Patrick Moynihan, scholars are conceding culture and persistent poverty are enmeshed. (Over 370+ comments as of this morning--BC)
 
(A link to this article was provided in #10 yesterday)
 
 
 
And Reconsidering Culture and Poverty in the May 2010 issue of The ANNALS and The Moynihan Report Revisited (Jan 2009)-both available online now! 
 
 
 
 
 
Bill Coffin
 
Special Assistant for Marriage Education
 
ACF/HHS
 
370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447 
 
(202)260-1550(o);
 
Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov
 
…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed 
 
efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)
 
 
 
A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting, 
 and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf
 
 
 
 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 
 
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc
 
http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp
 
 
 
Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences
 
#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.
 
#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.
 
http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7
 
 
 
For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org
 
 
 
 
 
   
   From: Ozarks Marriage Matters [phyllis@forest.ccsend.com] on behalf of Ozarks Marriage Matters [newsletter@ozarksmarriagematters.org]
Sent: Tuesday, October 19, 2010 5:32 AM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
Subject: [MARKETING EMAIL]OMM News & Notes - October 19, 2010
 
 


 
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In This Issue:		 

    

  • Don't Believe Everything You Hear about Marriage - Part 3 
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  • Straight Talk from Real Dads 
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  • Getaway Together Marriage Retreat - Novermber 12-13, 2010  
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  • Hitched & Happy - 7 Different Locations in October   
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  • Ask Your Relationship Questions
      
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Don't Believe Everything You Hear about Women and Marriage - Part 3 
 
by Dr. Jennifer Baker  
 
BrideGiven the recent release of census data indicating that the number of people between the ages of 25 -34 who were not married exceeded those who were married in 2009 for the first time since we've been keeping track of such things in the U.S., some have suggested that perhaps young women are less interested in marriage. I'm not at all certain that this reason is a key contributor to the decline in marriage, but what if it was? Do young women have a good reason to embrace romantic relationships, but avoid marriage? Is Sex and the City the new norm for young women? What benefits, if any, ensue for married women other than a husband, two kids, a minivan and soccer on the weekends? -->  
 
 
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10) http://familyscholars.org/2010/10/18/nyt-rediscovers-culture/
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
9) Relationship Education
The goal was to seek the broadest possible dispersal of research and marriage education skills courses which could improve interpersonal relationship ...
 
 
 
And What does a healthy marriage consist of Yahoo Answers
Do people in a healthy marriage ever fight If so how much and to what ... Healthy couples fight and argue everyone does Itd be worse if one person just gave in ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
8) I Am ME Marilyn Stevens Central Illinois « Fatherhood Channel ...
Marriage Education is increasingly touching the lives of greater numbers of couples families and children across the country This week we begin our regular ...
fatherhoodchannel.com/.../i-am-me-marilyn-stevens-central-ill...
 
 
 
And The View on Mammograms for Loving Husbands
The Fatherhood Channel
Marriage education is helping men learn to support their wives through difficult challenges, even when they can't fix it. by Seth Eisenberg Roughly 37 ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
7) How can boomers keep the spark alive?
Sacramento Bee
 The author of "Five Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great" says one of her goals, in addition to making mature couples feel comfortable ...
 
 
 
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Love Makes You Increasingly Ignorant of Your Partner | Wired Science | Wired.com
 		 


 
 
 
 
 
 
6) Case Study: Coalition Building
Marriage Education Service Hour. (MESH). CHMC uses the MESH funding model with larger- scale partners and for those with projects involving ...
www.healthymarriageinfo.org/docs/CoalitionBuilding.pdf
 
 
 
And Seminar teaches Hmong leaders about healthy marriages ...
ROTHSCHILD -- About 200 people -- mostly Hmong clan leaders from across Wisconsin -- are attending a groundbreaking seminar about healthy marriage this ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
5) More couples are saying 'I do' to living together
Salt Lake Tribune
 Demographers believe the increase is couples delaying marriage because of the cost, avoiding marriage altogether or moving in without a long-term plan ...
 
 
 
And http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/life-101/201010/why-you-should-worry-about-the-widening-marriage-gap
 
 
 
And http://www.simplemarriage.net/5-ways-to-encourage-healthy-habits-in-your-spouse.html
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
4) Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc. President Barack Obama White House ...
President George Bush made provisions for150 million annual funding towards Healthy Marriage, Responsible Fatherhood programs. ...
 
 
 
And Minnesota Fatherhood Leadership Circles
In 2010, MFFN initiated the Fatherhood Leadership Circles with projects ... Fatherhood Leadership Circles will convene during four (4) day-long meetings per ...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
3) How to Feel That Magic 'Click' Again
Remember the excitement when you two first hit it off? 
3 Tips to Get That Spark Back
 
 
 
And Go Retro: 12 Tips for a Happy Marriage
 
Tried-and-true strategies you can borrow from your parents' marriage to enhance your own.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
2) http://www.vifamily.ca/ and http://www.sacmarriage.org/Home%20Page
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
1) 'Vow' preps for Marriage Festival - Longview News-Journal: Local News
Vow is a marriage education program designed to provide young adult singles, and couples with information and resources to aid them in sustaining a marriage ...
 
 
 
And California Healthy Marriages Coalition | Facebook
Welcome to a Facebook Page about California Healthy Marriages Coalition. Join Facebook to start connecting with California Healthy Marriages Coalition.
 
 
 
 
 
Bill Coffin
 
Special Assistant for Marriage Education
 
ACF/HHS
 
370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447 
 
(202)260-1550(o);
 
Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov
 
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efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)
 
 
 
A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting, 
 and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf
 
 
 
 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 
 
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc
 
http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp
 
 
 
Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences
 
#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.
 
#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.
 
http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7
 
 
 
For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org
 
 
 
 
 
   
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Chris Gardner, the inspiration behind the real life story of The Pursuit Of Happyness, was in town recently speaking on the issues of homelessness, fatherhood and success. His remarks to the group were truly inspiring. He encouraged men to be more involved as fathers and to help end the cycle of neglectful fathering. Some of what Gardner said can be seen on this video, and I would recommend visiting his site for more information. His life story is amazing and gives a new perspective on what it truly means to be a father.
 














 
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"Bring Your Playbook and Let's Talk"
by Todd Agne
Fathering Coordinator
 In the world of athletics, the phrase "Bring your playbook and let's talk" is code for "You've been cut". As a matter of fact, anytime you hear the phrase "Let's talk" (whether it's uttered by your boss, wife, or your kid's teacher), it usually foreshadows that something of significance is about to happen or needs to be discussed. So it's no wonder that Let's Talk Month in October is not always so inspiring or met with warm embraces.
With that said, let me stress how important it is and what it really means.
Ironically, Let's Talk Month is more about encouraging open dialogue with your kids over time versus a one-time lecture. It's about talking with your kids about sex and healthy relationships and listening to what they have to say about that topic and other things. They have ideas, concerns, and questions that if nurtured correctly, will eventually come out in conversation and hopefully lead to healthy decisions.  
If you're the father of a toddler, the best time to start talking is before they can. Dads can be great story tellers and if you're willing to invest 5-10 minutes a night on how you grew up, what you wish for them in the future, where you went on vacation and the things you did way back when, you'll have built a relationship that lends itself to honest communication when it's their time to talk. I often tell new parents that conversations about nothing at all will eventually lead to conversations about everything important.
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 Fall is here and there are a couple of "climate change traditions" within driving distance from downtown Chattanooga.

These recommendations come from personal experience and have my family's stamp of approval.  The first is a visit to Guthrie Pumpkin Farm in nearby Riceville, Tennessee. They offer tractor rides into the fields, the picking of pumpkins and other family-friendly experiences such as animal petting and fall treats to sample. The second tradition is to take a trip to the Mayfield Dairy Farm in Athens. They offer tours of the farm and you and the kids can run through the Corn Maze. These are simple, fun ways to connect with your family during this colorful season and it won't break the bank either.

Guthrie Farm and Corn Maze