Coffin Corner

The Art of Compromise

He who knows when he can fight and when he cannot, will be victorious.

- Sun Tzu

Couples are often advised to “choose their battles.” That is to say, know which issues are worth fighting for and which aren’t really important. The logic is that you should save your strength for the things that really matter.

Unfortunately, not all conflicts have clear winners. In some instances, both parties may have reasonable but contradictory claims. You can go ahead and fight it out … but neither of you will be victorious. In such situations, you and your partner must be able to compromise. Otherwise, your relationship will reach a stalemate, with neither of you being able to move forward.

 

How to Compromise http://www.twoofus.org/educational-content/articles/the-art-of-compromise/index.aspx

From http://familyscholars.org

Elizabeth Marquardt 02.23.2011, 12:33 PM

 

I wanted to share with our readers obituaries at the Austin American-Statesman and the University of Texas at Austin website.

Also, at my earlier post on the loss of Norval Glenn others are adding their thoughts in the comments section.

By Tom Bartlett

New York

Lucas Sherman and Aniyah McKenzie are building a house in Central Park. It is small, even by Manhattan standards, and the amenities leave something to be desired. But Lucas, who is 6, and Aniyah, who is 7, seem pleased with their handiwork. The house has a skylight (a hole torn in cardboard) and a flat-screen television (a black square of fabric). Lucas is too busy to answer a stranger's annoying questions, but Aniyah, who is holding a feather duster, explains that she must clean the walls because they are very dirty.

Lucas's father, Dan, observes the project from a nearby bench. "It's amazing what you can do with boxes and junk," he says.

Much more here http://chronicle.com/article/The-Case-for-Play/126382/