Candidates for IFS Friday Five

1. Lessons Learned from the COVID-19 Pandemic for Supporting Fathers’ Relationships in Fatherhood Programs



OR

Introducing the National African American Child and Family Research Center


OR

Text Message Reminders and Their Impact on Attendance at Healthy Marriage and Relationship Education Workshops


2. Largely unseen and unsupported, huge numbers of student fathers are quitting college

LILAH BURKE




3.  The Puzzle of Falling US Birth Rates since the Great Recession ■ 
 



4. Siblings of Children With Disabilities May Have Greater Cognitive Empathy

Society for Research in Child Development




5. Households With Children That Struggled to Cover Household Expenses Were at Least Twice as Likely to Rely on CTC


KATHERINE G. GIEFER






6. Study reveals positive benefits of marriage for men

Jennifer Lee




7. On Paid Leave, Listening to Parents | Opinions

 by Jeff Salle




8. Can a video game be as good for my marriage as family therapy? Not this one

Dominik Diamond




9. Why C.S. Lewis Married the Same Woman Twice




10.  11 couples inducted in Wisconsin Marriage Hall of Fame





Thanks!
Bill


Candidates for IFS Friday Five



OR

THE CATHOLIC MARRIAGE INITIATIVES FUND



2. 

Explore an Evidence and Gaps Map on the Effectiveness of Healthy Marriage and Relationship Education Programs for Youth

This brief from the Fatherhood, Relationships, and Marriage – Illuminating the Next Generation of Research (FRAMING Research) project summarizes the impact literature on healthy marriage and relationship education (HMRE) programs for youth. The brief describes HMRE programs for youth, highlights what is known about the effectiveness of these programs from studies of HMRE programs for youth that measured program effects relative to a comparison group, and shares implications for future research on HMRE programs for youth. It uses an interactive evidence and gaps map to depict what each study found for each outcome, which allows the reader to quickly infer what is and is not known about the evidence for a given outcome.

Read the Brief >














3. 

4. China population: marriages fall in latest blow to Beijing’s push for couples to have more children

Luna Sun





5. Earmarked paternity leave increases parental wellbeing

Pontus Korsgren, Max Van Lent




6. Check out this marriage advice from 1933




Thanks.
Bill
Coronado, CA (we'll be biking to Point Loma on Thursday)






















































Skill-based programs for Catholic Marriage Initiatives

1. PREP, eprep, and CPREP/A Lasting Promise (ALP)

https://prepinc.com/collections/christian-material (ALP program and/or ALP Book Study)

2. Relationship Enhancement (RE) Mastering the Mysteries of Love (MML)/ Becoming Love

and/or online program at https://www.coupletalk.com/ (see Christian version)

3. Adventures in Marriage (AIM) and SAIM


Candidates for IFS Friday Five

1. Only Love Can Break Your Heart?

By Liz Tracey




2. An Applied Research Agenda on Black Children and Families to Advance Practices and Policies That Promote Their Well-being

Authors:Mavis Sanders,Chrishana M. Lloyd,Sara Shaw




3. Engaging Fathers - Putting Lessons Into Practice, Part 2



OR

Child Maltreatment Report 2020




4. TOO NEGATIVE?

Aaron CooperPh.D.






5. 

Explore an Evidence and Gaps Map on the Effectiveness of Healthy Marriage and Relationship Education Programs for Youth

This brief from the Fatherhood, Relationships, and Marriage – Illuminating the Next Generation of Research (FRAMING Research) project summarizes the impact literature on healthy marriage and relationship education (HMRE) programs for youth. The brief describes HMRE programs for youth, highlights what is known about the effectiveness of these programs from studies of HMRE programs for youth that measured program effects relative to a comparison group, and shares implications for future research on HMRE programs for youth. It uses an interactive evidence and gaps map to depict what each study found for each outcome, which allows the reader to quickly infer what is and is not known about the evidence for a given outcome.

Read the Brief >














6. Non-Marriage Among College-Educated Adults, 2005-2019

Adrianne R. Brown and Wendy D. Manning




7. How much do weddings really cost?




8. HPU POLL: NORTH CAROLINIANS SAY THEIR RELATIONSHIPS BECAME STRONGER DURING PANDEMIC




9. Are religion and marriage connected?

By Kenzie Holbrook




10. Americans less likely to have sex, partner up and get married than ever

By Harry Enten, CNN




11. Kissing in the Middle Ages

Christine Axen



Thanks.
We'll be biking in CA next week so Fri 5 input might be lighter than normal
Bill

Candidates for IFS Friday Five

1. Grant-Writing Training Webinar related to this CMI Fund Grant Opportunity

Friday, Feb 11: 1 to 2pm CT




2. Why people aren't as picky in love as they think





3. Call for Articles
Spring 2022: Relationship Education




4. The Common Dating Strategy That’s Totally Wrong

 Arthur C. Brooks




5. 

Celebrate 2022 National Marriage Week,

and 

World Marriage Day

by sharing with couples in your community

a free online enrichment program.


The Virtues

PRUDENCE - the Habit of Making Wise Choices
JUSTICE - the Source of Harmony and Peace in our home
COURAGE - the Strength to Live our Vocation
TEMPERANCE

 - 

the virtue of self-control and moderation


For your convenience share this link:



6. Judith Sargent Murray’s On the Equality of the Sexes (1790)




7. Knights Do That: Relationship Advice from an Expert

Sejal Barden, associate professor of counselor education and executive director of UCF’s Marriage and Family Research Institute




8. HOW ANXIETY IMPACTS ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS

Breanna Terry




9. Webinar Replay: Supporting Families: Community Forum on Findings from the 2015 Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood Grants




10. Expectant fathers influence child development prenatally and services need to respond accordingly

Child & Family Blog Editor




11. 'Family Foundations' parenting program helps families weather the pandemic

Sara P. Brennen




12. Better together: New program fosters ‘Strong Couples’ on the farm

PHYLLIS COULTER Illinois Farmer Today




13. States Where Marriage and Divorce Are Declining

by Nick VinZant 




Hope you are feeling better!
Bill


Candidates for Friday Five

1. 

Some Links about Asymmetrical Commitment



Dr. Scott Stanley





2. Time cannot heal all wounds: Wealth trajectories of divorcees and the married

Nicole Kapelle









4. ELEVATE: Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level




5. ARGUE WITH KINDNESS

Aaron Cooper, Ph.D.





6. Primary caregiver fathers and mothers are equally competent

By Child & Family Blog Editor





7. Strong Staffing and Partnering Approaches in Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood Programs

OPRE/ACF


OR

Webinar: Supporting Families: Community Forum on Findings from the 2015 Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood Grants



8. Policies and Programs Affecting Fathers: A State-by-State Report Introduction

Jessica Pearson & Rachel Wildfeuer




9. Perspective: The surprisingly simple ways to incentivize marriage

Brad Wilcox and Erik Randolph




10. New program coaches farm couples


Phyllis Coulter





11. Why a ‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Be Good for You

Kim Painter




12. Did the pandemic bring your kids closer? How quarantine shaped sibling relationships





13. Biden’s Anti-Marriage “American Families Plan” Fails to Build Back Better



Thanks 
Bill



Candidates for IFS Friday Five

1. 4 REASONS YOU’RE MISUNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER




2. Trends in Non-Marriage Among Men, 2005-2019
  1. Bowling Green State University 
  2.  National Center for Family & Marriage Research (NCFMR) 
  3.  Dissemination 
  4.  Data 
  5.  Family Profiles 
  6.  Trends in Non-Marriage Among Men, 2005-2019
  7. Family Profile No. 01, 2022 Author: Adrianne R. Brown and Karen B. Guzzo
3. Are you a parent or caregiver who wants help apologizing to your child?

The Family Institute at Northwestern University




4. National Marriage Week Tool Kit




5. USU Extension Co-Sponsors Utah Marriage Celebration




6.  What We’ve Learned About Marriage as DMD Parents






8. ‘Rebalancing: Children first — a consensus report on childhood in the United States’

Tuesday, February 8, 2022 | 11:30 AM to 1:00 PM ET






9. Pilot survey provides data on the unique needs of new fathers




10. Neuroscience of New Fatherhood: Empathy, Bonding, Childcare



Thanks
Bill

Candidates for IFS Friday Five

1. HAVING KIDS AT HOME MAY EASE ADULTS’ COVID DEPRESSION

POSTED BY JARED WADLEY-MICHIGAN




2. Parents Matter: How to Champion Sex Education





3. When talking about birth rates and babies, why are we omitting marriage?

Timothy P. Carney | Washington Examiner






4. ‘Encanto’ Is About Forgiveness, Not Romance, But It’s Still A Love Story

AMBER LAPP




5. Dads Can Experience Mental Health Issues After Childbirth, Too




6. Perspective: Is marriage dead, or just the wedding section?

By Naomi Schaefer Riley




7. George Washington the Husband



OR

Abigail Smith Married John Adams
October 25, 1764





8. The Reluctance Of Males To Become Men: Failure to Launch

by John Clark





9. True Femininity: An Interview with Alice von Hildebrand

KIMBERLY COOK





10. Golden thoughts on chastity and procreation, including heredity, prenatal influences, etc., etc.: Sensible hints and wholesome advice for maiden and young man, wife and husband, mother and father, 2nd ed

Gibson, J. W., Gibson, M. J. W., & Truitt, W. J. (Collaborator)




11. The ‘success sequence’ can help schools bridge our divides

Frederick M. Hess | Education Week



Thanks
Bill


Fwd: Communication & Agreeing to Disagree!👊

We at First Things First are sharing some tips to help you communicate better!
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💪 You can create a stronger marriage with these 10 tips.

⁉️ Get some insight & understanding of your communication style with this quiz.

😞 If your spouse has become a bit boring, here's what you can do.

👥 Ask yourself these questions before sharing your marital problems with others.

👊 It's totally healthy to agree to disagree with your spouse sometimes.

tips & tricks for growth

create some comfort in your life

It’s not normal to experience the amount of stress, anxiety, and uncertainty most of us have felt the past two years. And it’s been challenging for many to find any relief or comfort, yet we desperately need it.

 

Many folks are great at creating comforting moments for others, but when it comes to being intentional about creating comfort in their world, well, not so much. We all need moments that allow for a break in the action to hit the refresh button. It’s good for us, and it’s good for the people around us.

 

Ways to create some comfort in your life: 

  1. Make a list of all the things you love that make you happy.
    Do some of those things daily.
  2. Indulge in your favorite comfort meal.
    You know, all the stuff you would typically say, “I shouldn’t be eating this…” Eat that and savor every second of it guilt-free.
  3. Take time out for a walk.
    Make a point of looking up at the sky, watching the trees, and looking for wildlife. Pay attention to your breathing. Avoid thinking about things that are stressful in your life at the moment. Literally, take a break.
  4. Laugh.
    Watch a funny show or talk to that friend who always makes you laugh.
  5. Listen to soothing music, read a book or magazine, work on a puzzle, or on your hobby.
    Doing something that distracts you from the day’s stress and anxiety can be relaxing and bring comfort.

foster effective communication in your marriage

What are the keys to effective communication? Well, research on what makes marriage work shows that happy and healthy couples have a ratio of 5:1 positive to negative behaviors in their relationship.

 

This means there are five times as many positive interactions between happy couples (i.e., listening, validating the other person, using soft words, expressing appreciation, affirmation, physical affection, compliments, etc.) as there are negative (i.e., raising one’s voice, stating a complaint, or expressing one’s anger).

 

Tips for improving the effectiveness of communication in your relationship:

 

🗣️ Be intentional about spending time together.

 

🗣️ Use more “I” statements and less “You” statements.

 

🗣️ Be specific.

 

🗣️ Avoid mind-reading.

 

🗣️ Express negative feelings constructively.

 

🗣️ Listen without being defensive.

 

🗣️ Freely express positive feelings.

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This week's picks come from Lauren Hall, wife of 7 years to Daniel, toddler momma, dog momma, and the CEO here at First Things First. Take a peek at her recommendations for this week because they are just THAT GOODCheck 'em out 👀:

 

🎧 The Naked Marriage Podcast- Full transparency, my husband and I listen to this podcast on the regular. Sex is one of their number one topics, as well as intimacy, conflict and communication. Tactile, easy-to-use information in a fun deliverable.

 

💻 Marripedia- This is Wikipedia… for Marriage. Which means, YES, it’s just as fishy and just as fascinating. Some items on this site are for giggles, but others are completely fascinating and eye-opening. My husband and I often peruse the links and share what we find beneficial and/or just plain sad. 

 

📖 Read: Fighting Words by Ellie Holcomb- This is 100% faith-based. Daily scripture, prayers and meditation at its best. I include this in my “marriage” section because it’s led me on a deeper journey in my faith which leads me to a deeper connection with my spouse. I suggest this for Christians especially, but all can benefit from the hope it provides. 

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