HM Links & Clips (8/31/10) #104

10) Tonight at 7



9) Youth Relationship Literacy Education: The Starting Point for the ...
A Policy Agenda of a Series of Relationship and Marriage Education Services to Help Youth and Young Adults Form and Sustain Healthy ...



8) SmartMarriages: An Ounce of Prevention | YourTango
SmartMarriages folks believe that having a strong and healthy marriage is about commitment and skills. They believe most people want good marriages, ...



7) 7 Ways to Put Your Marriage First  and The Today Show’s Bad Advice for Couples in Crisis 2 hours ago



6) W.S.S. NOW: *new* Healthy Marriage Workshop Dates!
By Office of Communications
*new* Healthy Marriage Workshop Dates! Love life need a boost? Several social scientists, in examining “healthy marriages” have identified a number of traits, qualities and skills of people who had been able to maintain successful, ...



5) Online Prepare/Enrich Training for Clergy and Designated Lead Mentor Couples September 18 and Nov.13




4) HILL HARPER - The award-winning actor tackles misconceptions about relationships, marriage, men and family. Watch the video.












1) Featured Story White House move to ...

HM Links & Clips (8/30/10) #103


10) A daunting children's divide

…America's tragic number -- tragic because it is difficult to conceive remedial policies -- is 70 percent. This is the portion of African American children born to unmarried women.


AndHealthy Marriage Semin - Reversing the Ripple Effect:
The Findings of the Philadelphia Healthy Marriage Project. Funded by the Administration for Children and Families. Introduction – Rita DeMaria, Ph.D. ...








8)  Marriage Check-up
Marriage Matters Resources and discussions for Healthy Marriages.


And  Education for 'Happily Ever After' Marriages
The Fatherhood Channel
That understanding highlights an important difference to marriage education built on a foundation of emotional literacy (the ability to understand, express, ...





7) Workshops - Harris County Premarital Workshop
Premarital and Marriage Education for Couples. Please note this is an ongoing workshop that meets every Monday evening beginning Sept. ...,details/




6) Birthrates, Marriage Rates and Divorce Rates Fell in 2009
New York Times (blog)
The marriage and divorce rates also fell in 2009. The center estimates that there were 6.8 marriages per 1000 people in 2009, after a rate of 7.1 and 7.3 ...
See all stories on this topic »




5) County gets almost $45000 for fatherhood program
The Enterprise Ledger
District Judge Paul Sherling announced that Coffee County has been awarded nearly $45000 from the state court system to fund a fatherhood initiative. ...




4) Do Spouses Grow Alike as Time Passes?
The researchers say that husbands and wives followed over time did not become more alike with more years of marriage. So contrary to popular belief, ...




3) The seven secrets of a happy life
Financial Times
The calculation of prices of various non-marketable goods such as the joy of friendship or marriage, first put forward in the early 1990s by the University ...




2) My what-if question is this: what if my parents hadn't saved their ...
By Noel Meador
So, my what-if question is this: what if my parents hadn't saved their marriage? Realizing how close I was to missing out on that has taught me the value of a healthy relationship between parents, and the huge impact it has on kids. ...




1) Family Expectations Report Executive Summary:  Please see  It’s at the bottom of the page.



Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education


370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447


…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from


A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at


Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.


From: National Center for Family & Marriage Research [] on behalf of National Center for Family & Marriage Research []
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  News and Notes
 August 2010
The National Center for Family & Marriage Research (NCFMR), established in 2007 at Bowling Green State University (BGSU), welcomes you to News and Notes, our monthly electronic newsletter.  News and Notes aims to keep you informed about the activities of the NCFMR.  We will also announce funding and research opportunities, provide registration information for conferences and workshops, and keep you up to date on current research findings.

What's New at the NCFMR...

The following updates may be viewed on the NCFMR website.

New Data Points
Interracial and Interethnic Relationships in the U.S.

Tables and figures integrating statistics and demographic perspectives designed to investigate the links between marriage and family well-being at all stages of the life course.  View Interracial and Interethnic Data Point

New Measures Snapshot Added to Series

Monitoring the Future (MTF)

Monitoring the Future asks high school seniors about their views and attitudes toward family life, including parenting, work, marriage, and cohabitation. We provide a measures snapshot of questions included in the MTF that deal with family life. MTF can be used to assess trends in family attitudes. Detailed summaries of measures presented in PDF format. 
View MTF Data Source

New Working Papers
A collection of working papers written by faculty affiliates, researchers, and advanced graduate students

Tara D. Warner, Wendy D. Manning, Peggy C. Giordano, & Monica A. Longmore
Relationship Formation and Stability in Emerging Adulthood: Do Sex Ratios Matter? (WP-10-10)

David F. Warner & Jessica Kelly-Moore
The Social Context of Disablement Among Older Adults: Does Marital Quality Matter for Loneliness? (WP-10-09)

New Family Profiles
A collection of profiles examining topics related to NCFMR's core research themes. Original reports summarize the latest statistics on U.S. families.

Monitoring the Future (MTF) Profiles
Thirty Years of Change in Family Roles and Parenthood Attitudes, 1976-2008 (FP-10-04)

Thirty Years of Change in Marriage and Union Formation Attitudes, 1976-2008 (FP-10-03)

American Community Survey (ACS) Profile
Cohabitation in the U.S., 2006-2008 (FP-10-02)

Three Graduate and Two Undergraduate Students Join NCFMR Fall 2010

The NCFMR welcomes two graduate research fellows, Jessica Cohen (sociology) and Michelle LeRoy (psychology). Graduate fellows are provided support to pursue their dissertation research under the direction of a BGSU Faculty Research Affiliate. Returning graduate research assistant Sayaka Kawamura will help build NCFMR's growing data resources, working closely with NCFMR staff. Data resources provide detailed information on family data and measures that summarize leading indicators of contemporary American families.

Returning undergraduate students Liz Ela and Jeffrey White will continue providing research and data assistance for the Center.

NCFMR/BGSU Research Affiliate Annette Mahoney Published by Journal of Marriage and Family (JMF)
Religion in Families, 1999 - 2009: A Relational Spirituality Framework

Dr. Annette Mahoney, BGSU Professor of Psychology and NCFMR Research Affiliate, examines the role of religion in marital and parent-child relationships in her recently published JMF review. 

Read more in JMF 72(4) August 2010

NCFMR Research Affiliate Peggy Giordano Comments on Teen Sex Findings - Associated Press
Teen sex not always bad for school performance

Presented at the American Sociological Association's 2010 Atlanta conference, a new study finds the type of sexual relationship a teen engages in, rather than the sexual activity itself, may be a better measure of academic performance. "This should give some comfort to parents who may be concerned that their teenage son or daughter is dating," said Peggy Giordano of Bowling Green State University.  Read AP online article

Giordano is a Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus of Sociology at BGSU and an NCFMR research affiliate.

HM Links & Clips (8/26/10) #102




10) Couples Learn to Fight Fair in Marriage Classes | Humanitarian News
By NonProfitBlogs
With many wanting to head for their windows to scream, 'I'm as mad as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore,' marriage education is helping couples learn safe ways to confide feelings such as anger, fear, and sadness on behalf of ...
Humanitarian News blogs -


And  High Income Women Increasingly Choosing Divorce
The Fatherhood Channel
Francisco and Viviana Robledo, married 23 years, teach marriage education classes to Hispanic couples. Francisco and Viviana Robledo have taught marriage ...





9) and






8) Why fathers leave - Entertainment - Black Voices Conversations
Mrs. Muhammad collaborated with Dr. Rozario Slack to develop a marriage education curriculum called Basic Training for Couples. This work is the result of ...





7) Four Local Couples to be Honored at the Inaugural 'St. Louis ...
Four local couples, including athletes and successful businesspeople, will be honored for their contributions to the community through their strong marital ...





6) Our dysfunctional paternity leave system
The Guardian
At the Fatherhood Institute, we recently polled 1000 mums and dads and found that with only a few exceptions they aspired to an equal sharing of parenting ...





5) The Gottmans' Secret To A Happy Marriage - News Story - KIRO Seattle
In this exclusive interview at their home on Orcas Island, the Gottmans share their insight into what fosters a healthy marriage. For more information about ...






4) (Amazing what these states are doing!; SAMSHA too—BC)


Network of Care The California Network of Care Web site for Veterans & Service Members is a one-stop shop for virtually all services, information, support, and advocacy














2) What else could we be doing at ACF to increase the likelihood that children grow up in homes with a mom and dad in a healthy marriage (and if that’s not possible, for their mom and dad to be in a flourishing relationship, even if they live apart? –BC)






1) HM Links & Clips (8/25/10) #101 - billcoffin's posterous
Bill Coffin // Special Assistant for Marriage Education at ACF/HHS since 2002. This collection is mostly links and clips (some via google alerts). Sent almost daily to an internal ACF list and posted here in the spirit of transparency. ...



Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education


370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447


…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from


A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at


Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.


For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see


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10) NewsOK coverage of FE (BSF---the rest of the story—BC)



9) Contact Us - National Healthy Marriage Institute
If you you have any questions about the Healthy Marriage Tips column please send an e-mail to ...">




8) The Dance of a Healthy Marriage | 365 Online Tips
A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time. ~Anne Taylor Fleming The Dance of a Healthy Marriage To...










And America’s Families and Living Arrangements




5) Marry, for the health of your baby

Carolyn Moynihan | 20 July 2010
Marriage protects against low birth weight.





And Three Sayings on Marriage | Archdiocese of Washington




3) Twogether in Texas | Inspirations & Creations - Elizabeth Anne ...
By Sallie
To be honest, we took the 8 hour course in order to get our marriage license for free (which is a great incentive!) Neither one of us expected to leave with any earth shattering information. ... The class focused on different aspects of communication including conflict resolution and other tools for a strong, healthy, loving relationship. My favorite part of the class was


And 10 ways to divorceproof your marriage -




2) Question: How can I best help my teenage son? (Blended Family ...
By admin
Maintaining a healthy marriage. Spouses must be intentional about keeping their marital partnership strong. Instruct the couple to take time alone to love-on, show affection to, support, talk-to, be present with, and care for one ...


And Making stepfamilies work

Parents of a “blended family” face plenty of challenges, but there are things you can do to make communication easier and help children adjust to their new reality.



1) Keeping Marriages Healthy, and Why It’s So Difficult

Benjamin Karney's research focuses on how marriages change or remain stable over time, and in particular how relationship maintenance is constrained or enhanced by the contexts in which it takes place.




Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education


370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447


…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from


A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at


Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.


For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see

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Bill & Pat Coffin 

since 1968




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From: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
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To: ACF - Marriage Working Group
Cc: 'Emily Luschin'; 'Ellen Holman'; 'Courtney Harrison'; 'Smart Marriages ® '; 'Stone, Marissa'
Subject: FW: HM Links & Clips (8/5/08) #896


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2) Online Resources for Family Finances
RedOrbit - Dallas,TX,USA Created as part of the Utah Healthy Marriage Initiative. The Web site offers information about classes and marriage-related events and ...


3) Spouses struggle with other's needs
Evansville Courier & Press - Evansville,IN,USA
Each person in the marriage needs to develop good listening skills and clear communication techniques. Many times a seminar or communication workshop can ...


4) Married couples ‘alone together,' studies report
Fort Wayne Journal Gazette - Fort Wayne,IN,USA
“Marriage education is a vitamin, not a vaccine,” Burg says, so don’t expect a one-shot inoculation to get rid of all problems. Instead, take regular doses ...


5) A good marriage can really 'bring home the bacon'
Idaho Press-Tribune - Nampa,ID,USA
When a couple raises their children in a good marriage, they are contributing to the world’s future. Healthy families become a gift to a world that ...


6) Obama practices what he preaches
Washington Times - Washington,DC,USA
A healthy marriage to the mother of one's children has a way of making sure a father is in the location where his kids desperately need him most - in their ...


7) How's your marriage?
Times of India - India
Now here’sa quiz that will help you evaluate how well you and your partner are doing in your marriage. Answer the following questions to see how you are ...


8) RHOADES: Better marriages help everyone
Newton Kansan - Newton,KS,USA
HB 2920 was developed by family and marriage educators from the Kansas Healthy Marriage Institute (KHMI). The group assembled stakeholders from throughout ...


9) Celebrating two decades of marriage
Portsmouth Herald News - Portsmouth,NH,USA
So in the hopes of "educating" some young engaged couples who would like their marriage to last at least 20 years, I thought I would share a few helpful, ...


10) Voice of the Day Couples shouldn't rush into marriage commitment - Springfield,MO,USA
We are members of a local nonprofit organization called Ozarks Marriage Matters, and we also need volunteers to join us in promoting marriage education and ...


11) Communication key in marriage
El Paso Times - El Paso,TX,USA
Editors note: This is the first of a six-part series on The El Paso Healthy Marriage Project: Marriage Is Good for You! As a married person, you can learn ...


12) Money and Marriage: “He Bought'They Fought”

Money and Marriage: Saving for Future Use

Money and Marriage: Making Financial Plans Together


13) The sign says 'Hate,' but what does it mean? - St. Petersburg,FL,USA
The goal is to entice newlywed women into visiting a marriage education Web site, instead of letting their "hate" result in a divorce. ...


14) Special guest: Ron McLain, executive director of the Healthy Marriage Coalition of Fresno County and Marriage Mentoring Ministries Inc., will be on "Yesterday, Today and Forever" hosted by Jim Grant at 8:30 p.m. Aug. 13 on KNXT, Channel 49. Repeat showings will be at 11:30 a.m. Aug. 14 and 6 p.m. Aug. 17.

McLain will discuss his mission to reduce the divorce rate in California and reinforce the importance of marriage.

The reporter can be reached at or (559) 441-6355.





15) Why Marriages End in Divorce
By octopusmom
early half of all marriages will end in divorce. A frightening statistic and certainly one that can make you a little leery of walking down the aisle. But instead of focusing on how many marriages will end in divorce, maybe we should be ...
Octopus Mom -





16) Troubled marriage needs a tuneup
Washington Times - Washington,DC,USA
How can we keep a marriage healthy and strong with all the trainings, schools, field exercises and multiple deployments? This is not what I said "I do" for. ...




17) Rotarians told that VOW helps community, firms
Kilgore News Herald - TX, USA
Twogether in Texas is a new statewide initiative aimed at raising the availability of marriage education and the community support for healthy marriages. ...