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6) http://www.bettermarriages.org/?historyofacme and

 

A Marital Spark: 6 Principles For More Passion And Energy In Marriage | zen habits

 

 

 

 

5) The New Dad: Exploring Fatherhood within a Career Context, the Boston College Center for Work & Family http://www.bc.edu/cwf

 

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Bill Coffin

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…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

 

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

 

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

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From: 33questions@aweber.com on behalf of Michael Webb
[33questions@theromantic.com]
Sent: Monday, December 27, 2010 9:07 PM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
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Relationships

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Secrets of Blissful Relationships

from Michael Webb, the web's #1 relationship author and expert

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Love, Marriage and Sex
by Michael Webb

The other day a friend was sharing with Athena and me that when their first son was born they were so excited at the new adventure that they did some things they later regretted. One of those things was to begin feeding him solid foods when he was only two months old. Practically every authority recommends that you wait until a baby is at least five or six months until they begin eating foods.
Their digestive systems aren't typically mature enough to handle solids and you greatly increase a child's chance of having allergies and other problems if you introduce food too soon.

Now here is some advice many of you probably don't want to hear about what you shouldn't do early on in your relationship and I'll probably get a lot of nasty mail because of it. But I don't write on tough issues to be popular. I write it to help people have blissful relationships.

If you want to have a blissful relationship, don't ruin the chances by introducing things into your relationship until you are ready for it.

I'm constantly bewildered when people can't figure out why they keep having failed relationships when they muddle them with physical intimacy. It's fairly common for couples to kiss on their first date, begin caressing soon afterwards and start a sexual relationship within a few weeks or months of knowing each other.

While I'm not going to tell you how long you should wait to begin kissing, hugging and making non-sexual contact, I'm going to boldly state that our bodies and minds are not designed for sexual relationships until marriage/life-time commitment. The two go hand and hand and to try to separate them causes a lot of emotional turmoil in our relationships.

The average American has ten sexual partners before they are married. They either think each partner is "the one" or they think sex is so wonderful they don't want to miss out on the opportunity.
Sex is indeed wonderful and very special and saving it for the wedding night is treating it as something special. Sharing it with practically everyone you date makes it rather ordinary.

Here are just a few of the emotional problems pre-marital sex can
cause:
* When you sleep with someone you aren't married to, they begin to get concerned with how many other people you have slept with. * If you are willing to have sex with someone you aren't married to, will you feel the same after you are married? Rates of affairs are dramatically higher with those who engage in lots of pre-marital sex compared to those who were virgins when married.

* One has a tendency to compare themselves with their mate's previous conquests. Since sexual relationships were designed for married couples, your mind naturally begins pushing the relationship further along than where you might be.

* You might not even know the person you are sleeping with but you start forming an emotional attachment to them. Many couples who really shouldn't be together are married because a pre-marital sexual relationship "bonded" them together when they wouldn't have bonded without being physically intimate.

I've talked with quite a few people who waited to begin a sexual relationship until they were married and none of them have regretted it. I've chatted with numerous people who began a sexual relationship before the wedding and practically all of them had regrets. Now, I am NOT advocating that you blindly marry someone without knowing their thoughts, ideas, dreams and wishes are regarding sex.
My 1000 Questions for Couples has 100s of questions about sex that should be discussed prior to marriage. You can get it here:
http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=Cm0Sd&m=1ppK_KGheTyje1&b=3Tr3Y_Xzf3CFz8yYGbIMww While waiting to have sex until you are married won't guarantee a blissful relationship, it will certainly cause your mate to honor and respect you much more than if you didn't.

Love, marriage and sex -- let's keep them in that order.

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82% Give THIS For Christmas

I was reading a survey the other day that 82% of couples report that lovemaking was one of the *gifts* given for the holidays.

**FOR LADIES**
If you want to shock and delight your man then read these smokin hot tips from Jill Rilla.
She is phenomenal!!!!

HOT!!!! --> www.TheRomantic.com/smokin.htm

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W H O I S M I C H A E L W E B B Michael Webb is: Athena's loving husband. Best-selling author (over a dozen books). Media Celebrity (over 500 TV & Radio appearances). Founder, TheRomantic.com. Founder, National Resurrect Romance Week (2nd week in August). Founder, Love One Another Charitable Foundation

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Sent: Thursday, December 23, 2010 9:07 AM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
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LOVE Language Family Wellness Retreat February 11 &12, 2011 Historic Ramada Plaza Hotel, Fond du Lac Join us for this exciting and insightful event featuring Dr.  Jennifer Thomas, co-author of the book The Five Languages of Apology, written with Dr. Gary Chapman, New York Times best-selling author of The Five Love Languages. With humor, wisdom and hands-on practicality, Dr. Thomas will present the messages from both books—teaching the proven skills that will make your personal and professional lives healthier, stronger and more meaningful. For more information visit www.drjenthomas.com A perfect way to renew your relationships this Valentine's Day! To register, please go to: www.thinkmarriage.org _______________________________________________________________________________________ Join the "One Million Love Letters" challenge Who do YOU love? Your spouse, your lover, partner, or mate? But love is more than romance. What about a parent or grandparent, your child, a favorite relative, an inspiring teacher, your dearest and trusted friends When was the last time you told them what they really mean to you? The simple and timeless act of putting feelings into writing is a love letter. A treasured affirmation—to keep and re-read—of our deepest, truest thoughts toward the people we love.  Imagine what would happen if one million people received a heartfelt infusion of loving and encouraging words?   Could it make a difference?  Could it brighten a day...or change a life?  To help spread the love; thinkmarriage.org is creating onemillionloveletters.com; an effortless and inspiring website that will guide you through the process of writing a love letter. Select your stationery; add a photo or a quote. Not a writer? Not to worry. Our guided writer will help you find the words.  The "One Million Love Letters" campaign is our way of encouraging everyone to put their love into words. Our goal  is simple, yet ambitious—this Valentine's Day 1,000,000 people will know just how much they mean to another. SPREAD THE LOVE! Your participation in the "One Million Love Letters" campaign not only spreads your love personally; it also enables  us to help the thousands of people per year who attend our healthy relationship workshops and utilize our coaching services. __________________________________________________________________________________ Cultivate Your Marriage E-Retreat Thursdays- 6-7 p.m.; January 6–February 20, 2011 The New Year brings new beginnings.  And what a perfect place to begin!  This creative and insightful coaching event brings women together in a group atmosphere to cultivate their marriage relationships. Growing a successful garden requires the right tools, knowledge, wisdom, and a willing spirit.  By applying similar gardening principles to marriage, we find how to nurture, communicate, and turn differences into strengths together.    For more information, please contact Julie Duffy: 920-284-0085 or julie@thinkmarriage.org

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Sent: Wednesday, December 22, 2010 7:14 PM
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David Blankenhorn, 12/22/10. See the first two events held in our new Center for Public Conversation, an online destination as well as a wonderful space just off Columbus Circle in Manhattan. A Conversation on December 7, 2010 with Elizabeth Marquardt, director of the Center for Marriage and Families at the Institute for American Values, and W. Bradford Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project, University of Virginia and editor of The State of Our Unions. A Conversation on September 23, 2010 with David Blankenhorn, President, Institute for American Values and Claire Gaudiani, author of Generosity Unbound: How American Philanthropy Can Strengthen the Economy and Expand the Middle Class, published September 2010 by Broadway Books, an imprint of the Institute for American Values. 1841 Broadway, Suite 211 New York, NY 10023 Tel: (212) 246-3942 / Fax: (212) 541-6665 -->Having trouble viewing this email? Click here Subscribe / Archives / Follow:

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The National CampaignFrom: The National Campaign [web@thenc.org]
Sent: Tuesday, December 21, 2010 12:36 PM
To: Coffin, Bill (ACF)
Subject: Teen Birth Rate Hits Record Low

 

 

December 21, 2010    

Teen Birth Rate Hits Record Low
New Survey: Teens Say Parents Most Influence Their Decisions About Sex
Survey Also Reveals One-Third of Teens Believe Birth Control Doesn’t Work

 

Press Release    
For Immediate Release
December 21, 2010

Contact:  Bill Albert, 202-478-8510/balbert@thenc.org

(Washington, DC) --- The teen birth rate in the United States declined 6% in 2009 and is now at a record low, according to new data released today by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Center for Health Statistics.  Rates declined among older and younger teens and among all racial and ethnic groups.  For example, the birth rate among Hispanic teens declined 10% in 2009 and is now at a record low.

“Good news just in time for the holidays – a steep decline in teen births,” said Sarah Brown, CEO of The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.  “It is now apparent that the increase in the teen birth rate noted in 2007 and 2008 was only a hiccup – a blip – in the longer term, two-decade decline in teen births.  We now are, thankfully, back on track.  The credit and praise goes to teens themselves for making better decisions about their lives today and their plans for the future.”  

Brown continued, “Still, The Grinch among us recognizes that what goes down can go back up again.  Even when the news is good, it is essential that parents, practitioners, policymakers, and really anyone who cares about teenagers remember that the U.S. still has the highest rates of teen pregnancy and births among comparable countries and that we all need to continue helping teens postpone their families until they are older, through school, and in stable, committed relationships.”

A new public opinion survey released today by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy provides some important context for the new birth data.  Two of the toplines from With One Voice 2010, a nationally representative telephone survey of 1,008 young people (aged 12-19) and 1,000 adults (age 20 and older), are:

• Teens (46%) say parents most influence their decisions about sex.  By comparison, only 20% say friends most influence their decisions.
• Although 78% of teens say they have all the information they need to avoid an unplanned pregnancy, one-third (34%) agree “it doesn’t matter whether you use birth control or not, when it is your time to get pregnant, it will happen,” and half (49%) admit that they know “little or nothing” about condoms and how to use them.

Other findings from the survey of teens and adults include:

Parents

• Eight in ten teens (80%) say that it would be much easier for teens to delay sexual activity and avoid teen pregnancy if they were able to have more open, honest conversations about these topics with their parents.
• Six in ten teens (63%) agree that the primary reason teens don’t use contraception is because they are afraid that their parents will find out.

Sex Education

• Many teens (46%) and most adults (73%) wish young people were getting more information about both abstinence and contraception rather than either/or.  By comparison, 18% of teens say they want more information about birth control and 9% want more information about abstinence.  The overwhelming majority of teens (87%) and adults (93%) also agree it is important for teens to be given a strong message that they should not have sex until they are at least out of high school.

Teen Pregnancy, Education, and Religion

• About nine in ten teens (91% of girls and 87% of boys) and two-thirds of adults (66%) say that teen pregnancy is a “very important” problem in the United States and nearly all adults (89%) believe there should be a direct effort in their community to prevent teen pregnancy.
• About nine in ten teens (87%) and adults (90%) believe reducing teen pregnancy is a very effective way to reduce the high school dropout rate and improve academic achievement.
• Most teens (73%) and adults (70%) believe religious leaders and faith groups should be doing more to help prevent teen pregnancy.

Media

• Among those teens who have watched MTV’s 16 and Pregnant, 82% think the show helps teens better understand the challenges of teen pregnancy and parenthood and how to avoid it.
• More broadly, most teens (79% of girls and 67% of boys) agree with the statement:  “When a TV show or character I like deals with teen pregnancy, it makes me think more about my own risk of becoming pregnant/causing a pregnancy and how to avoid it.”

Sex, Regret, Relationships, and Sexting

• Among those teens who have had sex, most (65% of girls and 57% of boys) say they wish they had waited longer.
• Most teens (93% of girls and 88% of boys) say they would rather have a boyfriend/girlfriend and not have sex than have sex but not have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
• Most teens (71%) agree that sharing nude or semi-nude images of themselves or other teens electronically through cell phones, websites, and/or social media networks leads to more sex in real life.

About the survey and The National Campaign.  Click here to read the survey in its entirety, including the wording of the polling questions and the exact methodology; click here for a fact sheet on the new teen birth rate data. The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy seeks to improve the lives and future prospects of children and families. Our specific strategy is to prevent teen pregnancy and unplanned pregnancy among single, young adults. We support a combination of responsible values and behavior by both men and women and responsible policies in both the public and private sectors.

From: California Healthy Marriages Coalition [patty@camarriage.ccsend.com] on behalf of California Healthy Marriages Coalition [kerri@camarriage.com]
Sent: Wednesday, December 22, 2010 1:27 PM
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