Candidates for Friday Five

1. What is Your Phone Doing to Your Relationships?

 

EMMA SEPPALA

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_is_your_phone_doing_to_your_relationships?




2. The Surprising Link Between Marriage and Heart Health

Amanda MacMillan

http://time.com/4975262/marriage-heart-health/

OR https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/medical/the-surprising-link-between-marriage-and-heart-health/ar-AAtc7W3

OR

Marriage troubles linked to health problems for men: study

 Tony Whitfield, SWNS


http://nypost.com/2017/10/09/marriage-troubles-linked-to-health-problems-for-men-study/


OR

A Man's Health May Rely on Health of His Marriage

Randy Dotinga HealthDay Reporter

http://www.philly.com/philly/health/topics/HealthDay727330_20171010_A_Man_s_Health_May_Rely_on_Health_of_His_Marriage.html


3. Year-round outdoor play can boost kids’ performance in school

https://www.childtrends.org/year-round-outdoor-play-can-boost-kids-performance-school/?





4. DfE urged to reinvigorate character drive to combat cyberbullying


 Neil Puffett




https://www.cypnow.co.uk/cyp/news/2004311/dfe-urged-to-reinvigorate-character-drive-to-combat-cyberbullying


OR

Study Shows Couples Planning Retirement Need More Support

https://tavistockrelationships.ac.uk/news/1106-couples-planning-retirement





5. This Woman’s Essay About The Sad Reality Of Why Women End Up Nagging Men Is Going Viral

KATE DESMOND

https://www.simplemost.com/womans-essay-sad-reality-women-end-nagging-men-going-viral/





6. 3 Things You Can Do Right Now to Make Your Marriage Happier

Jill Sieracki

https://www.brides.com/story/things-you-can-do-right-now-to-make-your-marriage-happier


OR

Relationships Under Review in New Book ‘The All-or-Nothing Marriage’

Alexandra Silets

http://chicagotonight.wttw.com/2017/10/09/relationships-under-review-new-book-all-or-nothing-marriage





7. Nonprofit View: MREC helps couples prepare for marriage

Amy Gilford — Marriage and Relationship Education Center

http://www.baltimoresun.com/cc-op-nonprofit-mrec-20171009-story.html




8. Dads are often having fun while moms work around the house

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/10/171009084345.htm




9. Can you afford to get married? In the US, it's increasingly the privilege of the rich

Lucy Rock


https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/oct/07/marriage-america-privilege-rich




10. IS YOUR MARRIAGE GOOD…OR JUST GOOD ENOUGH?

http://www.americasfamilycoaches.com/podcast/2017/10/6/is-your-marriage-good-or-just-good-enough


OR

The Fierce Marriage Podcast

By Ryan and Selena Frederick


https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fierce-marriage-podcast/id1292084760?mt=2



11. The share of Americans living without a partner has increased, especially among young adults

 RICHARD FRY




Candidates for Friday Five

1. Nine Charts about Wealth Inequality in America (Updated)









2
​. 
How might we inspire experiences and expressions of gratitude in the workplace?
​




       
OR


 
Raising Caring, Courageous Kids
 

The GGSC is excited to announce a new funding opportunity for schools, faith-based groups, and other community-based organizations that want to help parents raise caring, courageous kids. The grants we award will range from $25,000 to $150,000. Our request for proposals will be open until December 11!

 
Learn more
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3
​. 

Coping in the Wake of the Las Vegas Shooting, and Incidents of Mass Violence and Terrorism

NCFR members and staff mourn the loss of life following the Las Vegas mass shooting, now being called the deadliest in modern U.S. history. We give thanks to all the first responders who care for people on the scene of violence and tragedy. For the professionals who work with families in the aftermath of these events, we have gathered resources for helping individuals and families cope, and also to help children understand and process these events. NCFR will continue to update these collections as new materials become available and relevant.

find resources

​





4
​. 
Sharing the parenting duties could be key to marital bliss: study
​







5
​. ​
Father engagement from three months strengthens infants’ cognitive development

Vaheshta Sethna

https://childandfamilyblog.com/engagement-dad-cognitive-development/






6
​. 
IDS SHOULD CHAMPION MARRIAGE, NOT RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING
​
Harry Benson, Marriage Foundation








7
​. 
To bicker less, try getting some more sleep
Well-rested couples better able to argue constructively, study shows. 

By Tara Parker-Pope New York Times
​









8
​. 
Age Variation in the Divorce Rate, 1990-2015





9
​. 
2016 ACS 1-year estimates are available in American FactFinder and the API.​






10. 
NATIONAL RESEARCH SUMMIT ON CARE, SERVICES AND SUPPORTS FOR PERSONS WITH DEMENTIA AND THEIR CAREGIVERS







11. 
Marriage as a training ground

Examining change in self-control and forgiveness over the first 4 years of marriage

Show all authors
Tila M. Pronk, Asuman Buyukcan-Tetik, Marina M.A.H. Iliás, ...
First Published July 24, 2017 Research Article
​




1​
2. ​
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  1. INDYLOVE

DIVORCE RUNS IN FAMILIES AND COULD BE GENETIC, STUDY FINDS

DAVE MACLEAN
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/divorce-runs-in-family-genetic-parents-children-split-up-marriage-study-a7984081.html


T
​hanks Alysse

​

Candidates for Friday Five

1. Parenting and Family Structure After Divorce: Are They Related?

Bastaits, Kim and Mortelmans, Dimitri
Journal of Divorce & Remarriage (2017). Published online first DOI:10.1080/10502556.2017.1345200

Read more http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10502556.2017.1345200?journalCode=wjdr20





2. 
 
 
By Maryam Abdullah
 

This is a time of intense political partisanship. How can we avoid feeding hate and distrust in our children?

 





3. 

Mom – and parenting policy – can learn from Dad


Natasha J. Cabrera






4. How Did Marriage Become a Mark of Privilege?







5. What’s behind Declining Male Labor Force Participation

Fewer Good Jobs or Fewer Men Seeking Them?

Scott Winship






6. Home Care Aides and the Search for Hours






7. 6 Secrets to a Healthy Marriage (From Old Couples)

Jon Miltimore







8. What Are You Reading…On Marriage








9. Playgroups in Australia: building the evidence base






10. Since 2013, minorities and Americans without high school diplomas showed greatest gains in wealth, Federal Reserve report shows









11. Millennials, marriage, and the ‘success sequence’

JOSEPH SUNDE






Jenna Jonaitis









Bill

Candidates for Friday Five

1. September 22, 2017

The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy


http://www.heritage.org/marriage-and-family/event/the-transformation-men-marriage-and-monogamy




2. Fights Well With Others: Tips for Collaborative Parenting 

http://www.6seconds.org/2017/09/20/trust-tips-for-collaborative-parenting/?




3. US: House Ways and Means advances legislation to reauthorize home visitation program (Press release)
National Association of Counties (NACO) - September 19, 2017
On September 13, members of the House Ways and Means Committee voted to advance H.R. 2824, the Increasing Opportunity and Success for Children and Parents through Evidence-Based Home Visiting Act. The bill would reauthorize the Maternal, Infant and Early Childhood Home Visiting Program (MIECHV) Program at its current level of $400 million per year for Fiscal Years 2018 - 2022. H.R. 2824 will require a vote on the House floor and consideration in the Senate before becoming law.
http://www.naco.org/blog/house-ways-and-means-advances-legislation-reauthorize-home-visitation-program





4. 

APPLY TO BE A BETTER ANGELS MODERATOR!

https://better-angels.org/volunteer/




5. 

Couples weather bickering with a little help from their friends

Source:
University of Texas at Austin
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/09/170915144138.htm





6. CAN   MARRIAGE    BE    SAVED?

https://cicdc.org/th_gallery/can-marriage-saved/





7. Women Know Better What Other Women Think and Feel: Gender Effects on Mindreading across the Adult Life Span

Renata Wacker1,2*, Sven Bölte3 and Isabel Dziobek2

EDITED BY Mariska E. Kret Leiden University, Netherlands

http://journal.frontiersin.org/article/10.3389/fpsyg.2017.01324/full?





8. Americans see men as the financial providers, even as women’s contributions grow

 KIM PARKER AND RENEE STEPLER

http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/?





9. Adults who opt not to have kids cause ripple effects in U.S. housing market

Adina Solomon 

https://www.washingtonpost.com/realestate/adults-who-opt-not-to-have-kids-cause-ripple-effects-in-us-housing-market/2017/09/14/67428d44-4b91-11e7-a186-60c031eab644_story.html?utm_term=.45639f0226bf

OR


Are wild teens a thing of the past? ‘I can’t imagine them doing what we did.’

Petula Dvorak

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/are-wild-teens-a-thing-of-the-past-i-cant-imagine-them-doing-what-we-did/2017/09/21/951df590-9ed5-11e7-9c8d-cf053ff30921_story.html?




10. Six points on race and culture in America. Camille Busette, Richard V. Reeves, and Eleanor Krause share key takeaways from a recent conversation on race, class, and culture in America with J.D. Vance, author of "Hillbilly Elegy" and William Julius Wilson, author of "The Truly Disadvantaged."





11. Married, Bored, and Confused
An all-too-modern look at monogamy.

SEP 25, 2017 | By NAOMI SCHAEFER RILEY



http://www.weeklystandard.com/married-bored-and-confused/article/2009696




Thanks Alysse



Bill





Candidates for Friday Five

1
​.
 
Fathers learn to relate to their children through CA R3 Academy classes



 
​   

​





​3. ​
​
​
Why Stinky Socks May Bother Women More Than Men

​LEONARD SAX, M.D.

​https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/30/well/family/why-stinky-socks-may-bother-women-more-than-men.html?_r=0




4. Parents Building Trust Through Emotional Intelligence




​http://www.6seconds.org/2017/09/01/parents-building-trust-emotional-intelligence/?





5. U.S. Commission on Evidence-Based Policymaking Releases Report
​
​https://www.ncfr.org/news/us-commission-evidence-based-policymaking-releases-report




6.      A Manifesto to strengthen Families

More than 50 Tory MPs and peers are calling on the government to create a cabinet-level families minister post to better co-ordinate family policy across departments. The group, of 44 MPs and eight peers, including former Education Secretary Nicky Morgan, ex-Pensions Secretary Iain Duncan Smith and former children's minister Tim Loughton, also wants a senior minister in all government departments to measure how policies impact on families.

 

The group's Strengthening Families Manifesto wants to see a future Families Secretary's cross-governmental brief added to an existing cabinet post, such as Secretary of State for Work and Pensions, and backed by its own budget and civil service team. ​






​








8
​.
​
State-Led Evaluations of Family Engagement: The Maternal, Infant, and Early Childhood Home Visiting Program










9
​.​
Penn State’s 25th Annual Symposium on Family Issues to be held Oct. 23-24









 1​
0. ​
New research says this kind of daily prayer can change your marriage
 
Calah Alexander






11. 
How Do Close Relationships Lead to Longer Life?






12. 
Technical Specialist – Healthy Marriage and
​ ​
Families (

Job Number:

 1700003086)





 

Thanks Alysse

​











Candidates for Friday Five

1. Japan Is No Place for Single Mothers

ALANA SEMUELS 

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/09/japan-is-no-place-for-single-mothers/538743/



​
2. Returning to the Rust Belt

Richard Florida

https://flipboard.com/@flipboard/-returning-to-the-rust-belt/f-5960bfae82%2Fcitylab.com




3. The March 2017 issue of Journal of Family Theory & Review is free and open to the public in the Wiley Online Library.

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jftr.2017.9.issue-1/issuetoc


OR


Call for Papers: Contemporary Perspectives in Family Research

The Work-Family Interface: Spillover, Complications, and Challenges







4. Dads influence teen daughters’ decisions on sex

https://www.mercatornet.com/family_edge/view/dads-influence-teen-daughters-decisions-on-sex/20375?





5.  The deadline has been extended to Friday, September 15th for the Call for Proposals for the 2018 Research and Evaluation Conference on Self-Sufficiency (RECS)! The next RECS will be held May 30 – June 1, 2018 at the Renaissance Hotel in Washington, DC. The Office of Planning, Research, and Evaluation (OPRE) invites proposals for individual presentations and for entire conference sessions. 
 

http://recsconference.net/proposals.htm





6. Iain Duncan Smith warns government over cuts to relationship counselling



https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2017/aug/30/iain-duncan-smith-warns-government-over-cuts-to-relationship-counselling





7. The occupations with the highest and lowest divorce rates in the US

https://twitter.com/LeahFessler




OR

Partnership shift. Men are now more likely to marry up

Marc Beaulieu






8. 
A Guy Read 50 Years Worth of Relationship Studies. He Came Up With 17 Strategies

By Belinda Luscombe

​http://motto.time.com/4927173/relationships-strategies-studies/​







9. Long hours and longings

Jennifer Baxter, Lyndall Strazdins and Jianghong Li

https://aifs.gov.au/publications/long-hours-and-longings-0





10. Marriage rate down, divorce rate up as more Chinese couples say ‘I don’t’ or ‘I won’t any more’
Viola Zhou
http://www.scmp.com/news/china/society/article/2109868/marriage-rate-down-divorce-rate-more-chinese-couples-say-i-dont



OR

​
China wants to talk its people into marriage and out of divorce


Echo Huang

https://qz.com/1070428/china-wants-to-talk-its-people-into-marriage-and-out-of-divorce/





11. Committee on Building an Agenda to Reduce the Number of Children in Poverty by Half in 10 Years

http://sites.nationalacademies.org/dbasse/bcyf/reducing_child_poverty/index.htm





Thanks Alysse




Candidates for Friday Five

1. To celebrate the first five years of Marriage Foundation, we have produced an easy-reading four-page briefing (click here to download) that summarises what we've achieved, where we are going next, our most important findings (see column right), and a brief outline of the case for marriage. 







2
​.
​
National Research Summit on Care, Services, and Supports for Persons with Dementia and Their Caregivers
October 16
​-
17, 2017 
Free
​ &​
open to the public





3
​. ​
The Science of Happiness


A free online course exploring the roots of a happy, meaningful life. Next session starts Sept. 5, 2017.








4
​. 
Preventing sexual violence starts with what we teach our boys
​
Maryjo Oster









5
​. 
Training benefits families of kids with limited speech

 Andy Henion-Michigan State








6
​. 
The 'silent epidemic': When your adult child cuts you out of their life
​
Zoe Reynolds
 








7
​. ​
As the national marriage rate continues to decline, a look at some young people’s decisions to tie the knot despite criticisms










 

Sarah Beth Thompson

​







9
​. ​
Marriage a Blessing for Heart Attack Patients


Steven Reinberg




O
​R 








 
10.
​ 
The 10 counties with the lowest marriage rates in N.J.


Disha Raychaudhuri | NJ Advance Media for NJ.com










11. ​
Do People Who Marry Late in Life Find Happiness?








​  Thanks Alysse​








Candidates for Friday Five

1. 
Integrating SEL into the 3 R's 
 Vicki Zakrzewski
 
K-12 teachers offer practical—and fun!—ways that social-emotional learning can be integrated into traditional lessons. 
 
Read more

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_social_emotional_skills_can_fit_into_school_curricula?



2. 

International Commission on Couple and Family Relations


http://iccfr.org/conference-2018-malta/


OR


Poverty and the Family
17 & 18 May 2018, University of Salzburg

http://www.workshop-poverty-philosophy.org/





3.   Child Poverty Reduction messaging Toolkit

 It is finalized and can be found here on the CPAG website.  We will be utilizing this messaging for activity around the Census poverty data.







4. 
Bridging the gap on military spouse unemployment
http://www.thebaynet.com/articles/0817/bridgingthegaponmilitaryspouseunemployment.html





5. The Surprising Demographic That's More Likely to Cheat in Marriage

 Kimberly Lawson

http://www.brides.com/story/the-surprising-demographic-thats-more-likely-to-cheat-in-marriage





6. National Association of Welfare Research and Statistics: 2017 Conference Presentations Available

https://peerta.acf.hhs.gov/content/national-association-welfare-research-and-statistics-2017-conference-presentations-available





7. 

Walking lifts your mood, even when you don’t expect it to

 Christian Jarrett

https://digest.bps.org.uk/2016/10/21/walking-lifts-your-mood-even-when-you-dont-expect-it-to/


OR

Want a better marriage? Share a sport
  • Craig Swalboski,

http://www.postbulletin.com/playbook/rec_sports/want-a-better-marriage-share-a-sport/article_69b8ebe6-66e2-525b-b4fa-d7a0f81b2f33.html





8. Bullying and internet safety are top health concerns for parents

http://mottnpch.org/reports-surveys/bullying-and-internet-safety-are-top-health-concerns-parents


OR

Ten Emotionally Intelligent Ways to Build Trust as a Parent


 

http://www.6seconds.org/2017/08/22/ten-emotionally-intelligent-ways-build-trust-parent/?





9. New research shows one kind of teenage friendship is more likely to result in a happier, healthier adulthood

Jenny Anderson@jandersonQZ

https://qz.com/1059666/having-a-stronger-closer-friendship-as-a-teenager-predicts-less-depression-as-a-young-adult/






10. Transactional marriages were once as common as marriage based on love

https://phys.org/news/2017-08-transactional-marriages-common-marriage-based.html

OR


America, Home of the Transactional Marriage

VICTOR TAN CHEN
 
https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/08/marriage-rates-education/536913/




Thanks Alysse




Candidates for Friday Five

1. Six Ingredients to an Effective Time-Out

 

MARYAM ABDULLAH

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_ingredients_to_an_effective_time_out?




2. AMERICA'S CHILDREN: KEY NATIONAL INDICATORS OF WELL-BEING, 2017

https://www.childstats.gov/americaschildren/index.asp





3. How to Talk to Kids About Race: Books and Resources That Can Help

by Olugbemisola Rhuday-Perkovich

http://www.readbrightly.com/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-race-books-and-resources-that-can-help/




4. Digital Tools and Distraction in School

Mary Beth Hertz

https://www.edutopia.org/blog/digital-tools-distraction-in-school-mary-beth-hertz





5. Independent Women

Susannah Wellford 

https://www.usnews.com/opinion/civil-wars/articles/2017-08-15/how-marriage-is-evolving-in-a-time-of-womens-independence

and/or

Military spouses share employment challenges during White House visit

http://www.moaa.org/Content/Publications-and-Media/News-Articles/2017-News-Articles/Military-spouses-share-employment-challenges-during-White-House-visit.aspx?





6. Paper examines links between parents’ earnings, gender roles, mental health

Sharita Forrest, Education Editor
 
https://phys.org/news/2017-08-paper-links-parents-gender-roles.html





7. Women, men report similar levels of work-family conflicts

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/07/170727102909.htm





8. Spouses must row marriage boat together

Ken Potts

http://www.dailyherald.com/entlife/20170810/spouses-must-row-marriage-boat-together





9. Dating and Mating in the Age of Ambiguity

Stanley NARME 2017 talk POSTED.pdf 

https://app.box.com/s/fyrqd9erm69n5fomdratr3byxq7sgfm1





10. Fatherhood Involvement

https://www.adcouncil.org/Our-Campaigns/Family-Community/Fatherhood-Involvement





11. Marriage Matters: Best friends with benefits?

James and Audora Burg

http://www.sturgisjournal.com/news/20170811/marriage-matters-best-friends-with-benefits





Thanks Alysse





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The power of empathy

Brené Brown on Empathy

Empathy is the capacity to identify and share someone else’s emotions and experiences. As Brené Brown explains in the clip above, "empathy is feeling with people." 

It's the key to emotional attunement with your partner and it's essential to the Emotion Coaching style of parenting.

To have empathy is to really understand somebody, what they want, what they believe. And not just in the moment, but in general.

No wonder you're upset. 

That would make me mad, too. 

I understand how you feel. 

For more suggestions, pick up a copy of our new Expressing Empathy Card Deck. 

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