Candidates for Friday Five

1
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Fathers learn to relate to their children through CA R3 Academy classes



 
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​3. ​
​
​
Why Stinky Socks May Bother Women More Than Men

​LEONARD SAX, M.D.

​https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/30/well/family/why-stinky-socks-may-bother-women-more-than-men.html?_r=0




4. Parents Building Trust Through Emotional Intelligence




​http://www.6seconds.org/2017/09/01/parents-building-trust-emotional-intelligence/?





5. U.S. Commission on Evidence-Based Policymaking Releases Report
​
​https://www.ncfr.org/news/us-commission-evidence-based-policymaking-releases-report




6.      A Manifesto to strengthen Families

More than 50 Tory MPs and peers are calling on the government to create a cabinet-level families minister post to better co-ordinate family policy across departments. The group, of 44 MPs and eight peers, including former Education Secretary Nicky Morgan, ex-Pensions Secretary Iain Duncan Smith and former children's minister Tim Loughton, also wants a senior minister in all government departments to measure how policies impact on families.

 

The group's Strengthening Families Manifesto wants to see a future Families Secretary's cross-governmental brief added to an existing cabinet post, such as Secretary of State for Work and Pensions, and backed by its own budget and civil service team. ​






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8
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State-Led Evaluations of Family Engagement: The Maternal, Infant, and Early Childhood Home Visiting Program










9
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Penn State’s 25th Annual Symposium on Family Issues to be held Oct. 23-24









 1​
0. ​
New research says this kind of daily prayer can change your marriage
 
Calah Alexander






11. 
How Do Close Relationships Lead to Longer Life?






12. 
Technical Specialist – Healthy Marriage and
​ ​
Families (

Job Number:

 1700003086)





 

Thanks Alysse

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Candidates for Friday Five

1. Japan Is No Place for Single Mothers

ALANA SEMUELS 

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/09/japan-is-no-place-for-single-mothers/538743/



​
2. Returning to the Rust Belt

Richard Florida

https://flipboard.com/@flipboard/-returning-to-the-rust-belt/f-5960bfae82%2Fcitylab.com




3. The March 2017 issue of Journal of Family Theory & Review is free and open to the public in the Wiley Online Library.

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jftr.2017.9.issue-1/issuetoc


OR


Call for Papers: Contemporary Perspectives in Family Research

The Work-Family Interface: Spillover, Complications, and Challenges







4. Dads influence teen daughters’ decisions on sex

https://www.mercatornet.com/family_edge/view/dads-influence-teen-daughters-decisions-on-sex/20375?





5.  The deadline has been extended to Friday, September 15th for the Call for Proposals for the 2018 Research and Evaluation Conference on Self-Sufficiency (RECS)! The next RECS will be held May 30 – June 1, 2018 at the Renaissance Hotel in Washington, DC. The Office of Planning, Research, and Evaluation (OPRE) invites proposals for individual presentations and for entire conference sessions. 
 

http://recsconference.net/proposals.htm





6. Iain Duncan Smith warns government over cuts to relationship counselling



https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2017/aug/30/iain-duncan-smith-warns-government-over-cuts-to-relationship-counselling





7. The occupations with the highest and lowest divorce rates in the US

https://twitter.com/LeahFessler




OR

Partnership shift. Men are now more likely to marry up

Marc Beaulieu






8. 
A Guy Read 50 Years Worth of Relationship Studies. He Came Up With 17 Strategies

By Belinda Luscombe

​http://motto.time.com/4927173/relationships-strategies-studies/​







9. Long hours and longings

Jennifer Baxter, Lyndall Strazdins and Jianghong Li

https://aifs.gov.au/publications/long-hours-and-longings-0





10. Marriage rate down, divorce rate up as more Chinese couples say ‘I don’t’ or ‘I won’t any more’
Viola Zhou
http://www.scmp.com/news/china/society/article/2109868/marriage-rate-down-divorce-rate-more-chinese-couples-say-i-dont



OR

​
China wants to talk its people into marriage and out of divorce


Echo Huang

https://qz.com/1070428/china-wants-to-talk-its-people-into-marriage-and-out-of-divorce/





11. Committee on Building an Agenda to Reduce the Number of Children in Poverty by Half in 10 Years

http://sites.nationalacademies.org/dbasse/bcyf/reducing_child_poverty/index.htm





Thanks Alysse




Candidates for Friday Five

1. To celebrate the first five years of Marriage Foundation, we have produced an easy-reading four-page briefing (click here to download) that summarises what we've achieved, where we are going next, our most important findings (see column right), and a brief outline of the case for marriage. 







2
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​
National Research Summit on Care, Services, and Supports for Persons with Dementia and Their Caregivers
October 16
​-
17, 2017 
Free
​ &​
open to the public





3
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The Science of Happiness


A free online course exploring the roots of a happy, meaningful life. Next session starts Sept. 5, 2017.








4
​. 
Preventing sexual violence starts with what we teach our boys
​
Maryjo Oster









5
​. 
Training benefits families of kids with limited speech

 Andy Henion-Michigan State








6
​. 
The 'silent epidemic': When your adult child cuts you out of their life
​
Zoe Reynolds
 








7
​. ​
As the national marriage rate continues to decline, a look at some young people’s decisions to tie the knot despite criticisms










 

Sarah Beth Thompson

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9
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Marriage a Blessing for Heart Attack Patients


Steven Reinberg




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10.
​ 
The 10 counties with the lowest marriage rates in N.J.


Disha Raychaudhuri | NJ Advance Media for NJ.com










11. ​
Do People Who Marry Late in Life Find Happiness?








​  Thanks Alysse​








Candidates for Friday Five

1. 
Integrating SEL into the 3 R's 
 Vicki Zakrzewski
 
K-12 teachers offer practical—and fun!—ways that social-emotional learning can be integrated into traditional lessons. 
 
Read more

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_social_emotional_skills_can_fit_into_school_curricula?



2. 

International Commission on Couple and Family Relations


http://iccfr.org/conference-2018-malta/


OR


Poverty and the Family
17 & 18 May 2018, University of Salzburg

http://www.workshop-poverty-philosophy.org/





3.   Child Poverty Reduction messaging Toolkit

 It is finalized and can be found here on the CPAG website.  We will be utilizing this messaging for activity around the Census poverty data.







4. 
Bridging the gap on military spouse unemployment
http://www.thebaynet.com/articles/0817/bridgingthegaponmilitaryspouseunemployment.html





5. The Surprising Demographic That's More Likely to Cheat in Marriage

 Kimberly Lawson

http://www.brides.com/story/the-surprising-demographic-thats-more-likely-to-cheat-in-marriage





6. National Association of Welfare Research and Statistics: 2017 Conference Presentations Available

https://peerta.acf.hhs.gov/content/national-association-welfare-research-and-statistics-2017-conference-presentations-available





7. 

Walking lifts your mood, even when you don’t expect it to

 Christian Jarrett

https://digest.bps.org.uk/2016/10/21/walking-lifts-your-mood-even-when-you-dont-expect-it-to/


OR

Want a better marriage? Share a sport
  • Craig Swalboski,

http://www.postbulletin.com/playbook/rec_sports/want-a-better-marriage-share-a-sport/article_69b8ebe6-66e2-525b-b4fa-d7a0f81b2f33.html





8. Bullying and internet safety are top health concerns for parents

http://mottnpch.org/reports-surveys/bullying-and-internet-safety-are-top-health-concerns-parents


OR

Ten Emotionally Intelligent Ways to Build Trust as a Parent


 

http://www.6seconds.org/2017/08/22/ten-emotionally-intelligent-ways-build-trust-parent/?





9. New research shows one kind of teenage friendship is more likely to result in a happier, healthier adulthood

Jenny Anderson@jandersonQZ

https://qz.com/1059666/having-a-stronger-closer-friendship-as-a-teenager-predicts-less-depression-as-a-young-adult/






10. Transactional marriages were once as common as marriage based on love

https://phys.org/news/2017-08-transactional-marriages-common-marriage-based.html

OR


America, Home of the Transactional Marriage

VICTOR TAN CHEN
 
https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/08/marriage-rates-education/536913/




Thanks Alysse




Candidates for Friday Five

1. Six Ingredients to an Effective Time-Out

 

MARYAM ABDULLAH

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_ingredients_to_an_effective_time_out?




2. AMERICA'S CHILDREN: KEY NATIONAL INDICATORS OF WELL-BEING, 2017

https://www.childstats.gov/americaschildren/index.asp





3. How to Talk to Kids About Race: Books and Resources That Can Help

by Olugbemisola Rhuday-Perkovich

http://www.readbrightly.com/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-race-books-and-resources-that-can-help/




4. Digital Tools and Distraction in School

Mary Beth Hertz

https://www.edutopia.org/blog/digital-tools-distraction-in-school-mary-beth-hertz





5. Independent Women

Susannah Wellford 

https://www.usnews.com/opinion/civil-wars/articles/2017-08-15/how-marriage-is-evolving-in-a-time-of-womens-independence

and/or

Military spouses share employment challenges during White House visit

http://www.moaa.org/Content/Publications-and-Media/News-Articles/2017-News-Articles/Military-spouses-share-employment-challenges-during-White-House-visit.aspx?





6. Paper examines links between parents’ earnings, gender roles, mental health

Sharita Forrest, Education Editor
 
https://phys.org/news/2017-08-paper-links-parents-gender-roles.html





7. Women, men report similar levels of work-family conflicts

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/07/170727102909.htm





8. Spouses must row marriage boat together

Ken Potts

http://www.dailyherald.com/entlife/20170810/spouses-must-row-marriage-boat-together





9. Dating and Mating in the Age of Ambiguity

Stanley NARME 2017 talk POSTED.pdf 

https://app.box.com/s/fyrqd9erm69n5fomdratr3byxq7sgfm1





10. Fatherhood Involvement

https://www.adcouncil.org/Our-Campaigns/Family-Community/Fatherhood-Involvement





11. Marriage Matters: Best friends with benefits?

James and Audora Burg

http://www.sturgisjournal.com/news/20170811/marriage-matters-best-friends-with-benefits





Thanks Alysse





Fwd: Marriage Minute: The power of empathy




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Empathy is feeling with people.
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The power of empathy

Brené Brown on Empathy

Empathy is the capacity to identify and share someone else’s emotions and experiences. As Brené Brown explains in the clip above, "empathy is feeling with people." 

It's the key to emotional attunement with your partner and it's essential to the Emotion Coaching style of parenting.

To have empathy is to really understand somebody, what they want, what they believe. And not just in the moment, but in general.

No wonder you're upset. 

That would make me mad, too. 

I understand how you feel. 

For more suggestions, pick up a copy of our new Expressing Empathy Card Deck. 

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1. Marriage in America is increasingly the province of the college-educated woman

Dan Kopf



https://qz.com/1048233/marriage-is-increasingly-the-province-of-the-college-educated-woman/?




2. The new minority on campus? Men

by JON MARCUS

http://hechingerreport.org/new-minority-campus-men/




3. International Youth Day 2017

https://www.ncfr.org/events/international-youth-day-2017




4. How to Reclaim Your Weekend


JILL SUTTIE


https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_reclaim_your_weekend?


OR

I Am the Reason My Husband Infuriates Me

CHRISTINE CARTER


https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/i_am_the_reason_my_husband_infuriates_me?





5. ISU study: new type of intervention successful in domestic violence cases

http://www.radioiowa.com/2017/08/07/isu-study-new-type-of-intervention-successful-in-domestic-violence-cases/






6. Frustrated with your spouse? These scientists suggest a specific kind of prayer

 Thomas Burnett 
​https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2017/08/07/frustrated-with-your-spouse-these-scientists-suggest-a-specific-kind-of-prayer/?utm_term=.d087b7a20c32
















7. Is Marriage ‘Evolving?’

Naomi Schaefer Riley

https://acculturated.com/is-marriage-evolving/






8. Parenting Is Not a “Job,” and Marriage Is Not “Work”

JONATHAN MALESIC

https://newrepublic.com/article/144254/parenting-not-job-marriage-not-work






9. For better learning in college lectures, lay down the laptop and pick up a pen

Susan M. Dynarski

https://www.brookings.edu/research/for-better-learning-in-college-lectures-lay-down-the-laptop-and-pick-up-a-pen/







10. 






Thanks Alysse

Bill

Final day in OBX this year. Headed to the beach!









Fwd: What Can the Brain Reveal about Gratitude?




---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Greater Good Science Center <greater@berkeley.edu>
Date: Wed, Aug 9, 2017 at 10:33 AM
Subject: What Can the Brain Reveal about Gratitude?
To: billcoffin68@gmail.com


 
Your Brain on Gratitude | Why Sex Is So Good for Your Relationship
 
 
 
 
Greater Good in Action - SCIENCE-BASED PRACTICES FOR A MEANINGFUL LIFE
 
August 9, 2017
 
twitter facebook youtube linkedin
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
By Glenn Fox
 
New research shows that feeling grateful involves the brain networks associated with social bonding and stress relief. 
 
 
 
 
 
By Susan Krauss Whitbourne
 
Find out what the happiness difference is between couples who have sex once a week vs. less than once a month.
 
 
 
 
 
By Tchiki Davis
 
Are you starting your happiness journey? Here are some tips for how to get off on the right foot.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
By Belinda Campos
 
American society would be stronger and safer if it embraced people of all ethnicities.
 
 
 
 
 
By Jenn Director Knudsen
 
According to a new study, children who live with parents with a sensory disability develop greater emotional skills.
 
 
 
 
Greater Good in Action: Practice of the Week
 
 
 
 
 
Fighting and arguing can introduce a lot of negativity into romantic relationship. But there are ways to make arguments emotionally easier and this exercise from Greater Good in Action can help.
 
 
 
 
The Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley
2425 Atherton St. #6070
Berkeley, CA 94720-6070
 
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Candidates for Friday Five

1. Published in Personal Relationships.
Hurt, Tera R., Shears, Jeffrey K., Oconnor, Margaret C. & Hodge, Sharon, B. (2017). "Married Black men's observation of fathers' teachings about husbandhood." Personal Relationships, 2017; doi: 10.1111/pere.12171




2. Surveying the Cultural and Economic Sources of America's Discontent

Jennifer A. Marshall@MarshallJenA

http://www.heritage.org/marriage-and-family/commentary/surveying-the-cultural-and-economic-sources-americas-discontent





3. Parents’ social media habits are teaching children the wrong lessons

Stacey Steinberg

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2017/07/31/parents-social-media-habits-are-teaching-kids-the-wrong-lessons/?utm_term=.7a8b9f1caec0





4. Auburn study: Black Americans sleep less than whites, leading to health problems

William Thornton
​ ​
wthornton@al.com

http://www.al.com/business/index.ssf/2017/08/auburn_study_black_americans_s.html





5. Grad Student Research on Unfaithful Millennials Garners National Coverage

http://tntoday.utk.edu/2017/08/01/grad-student-research-unfaithful-millennials-garners-national-coverage/





6. Talking baseball assists aging adults with dementia

Kenneth Best

https://medicalxpress.com/news/2017-08-baseball-aging-adults-dementia.html





7. New rules for Muslim minors who want to wed

Charissa Yong

http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/new-rules-for-muslim-minors-who-want-to-wed





8. Manatee County offers free course to help improve couples’ relationships

 CLAIRE ARONSON

caronson@bradenton.com

http://www.bradenton.com/news/local/article164140292.html




9. Half of those thinking of divorce reconsider a year later: University of Alberta study

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/edmonton/divorce-study-university-of-alberta-1.4230825




10. The places where people put off marriage the longest

Dan Kopf 



https://qz.com/1041379/the-places-where-people-put-off-marriage-the-longest/






11. 

You're Doomed to a Love/Hate Relationship With Your Siblings

Jacqueline Ronson

https://www.inverse.com/article/34950-sibling-rivalry-is-programmed





Thanks Alysee



Bill
OBX




Fwd: Have You Hurt Your Spouse?




---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Mike Tucker <mtucker@faithfortoday.tv>
Date: Sat, Jul 29, 2017 at 6:30 AM
Subject: Have You Hurt Your Spouse?
To: Bill Coffin <billcoffin68@gmail.com>


Hi Bill,

Most mistakes will have little to no long term effect on your marriage IF you follow these tips when they occur:

How to Handle Mistakes in Marriage
Don’t stick your head in the sand and hope for the best. 

Acknowledging the mistake is the right thing to do. Take responsibility, apologize, make things right.

Identify the Mistake
To learn from your mistake, identify it and seek to understand the root cause.

Often times, our loving spouse (though it might not seem that way at the time :) brings the mistake to our attention. 

But instead of feeling threatened, challenge yourself to do a bit of soul searching to learn and grow from the experience; become a better spouse.

Admit the Mistake
Tell the truth. Hiding and blaming will only make things worse.

If you’ve ever had someone refuse to admit fault when they so clearly wronged you, you know how hurtful it can be. 

You don’t want your spouse getting stuck on knowing you’re hiding something because this blocks the relationship from healing and moving forward. 

As long as your marriage is built on trust, you should feel safe enough to admit your wrongs to your spouse.

Also, admitting that your wrong goes a long way to defuse your partner’s anger.

Accept the Consequences
Mistakes have consequences. 

Just because you deserve to be forgiven doesn’t necessarily release you from facing the consequences of your actions. 

For instance, if you’ve done something to break your husband’s or wife’s trust, he or she may subject you to greater scrutiny the next time a similar situation arises.
Apologize
Apologizing effectively is a skill that every spouse must learn for a healthy relationship.

This involves taking full responsibility for your actions without making excuses or making it seem as if the situation was out of your control. 

It also involves making amends and not repeating the same mistake.

Make Amends
Making amends can be as simple as returning to the store for a forgotten item or as complex as having to rebuild broken trust in your marriage. 

If there is anything you can do to make things right, do it. 
Do Not Repeat
All the above steps are critical in the process of ensuring the mistake won’t be repeated. 

You’ll think twice about repeating a mistake for which you have suffered the consequences and had to go out of your way to rectify the situation. 

Remembering the pain and hurt you put your spouse through also helps to prevent the mistake from being repeated. 

The last thing you want after working hard to regain your partner’s trust is to break it and then seeing them hurt all over again. 

When you handle mistakes in your marriage correctly, you’re able to heal and save the most important relationship in your life. 

Until next time, this is Mike Tucker and the Mad About Marriage Crew and we want YOU to be mad about marriage. 


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