Google Alert - "healthy marriage"

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Resilience

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Resilience can be defined as the ability to bounce back from stress and hardship. According to Viktor Frankl, it was a key to surviving in the terrible death camps of the Nazis.

In his book, Man's Search for Meaning, he wrote, 

"Sensitive people who were used to a rich
intellectual life may have suffered much pain
(they were often of a delicate constitution), but the damage
to their inner selves was less. They were able to retreat from
their terrible surroundings to a life of inner riches and
spiritual freedom. Only in this way can one explain the
apparent paradox that some prisoners of a less hardy make­
up often seemed to survive camp life better than did those
of a robust nature."

Even in less dire circumstances, resilience is one aspect of emotional intelligence that supports success and happiness.

 



 

Part of resilience is the ability to keep your problems in perspective.

Did you know that the brain clusters memory by emotions? When you're sad, all you can remember is other sad memories. When you're angry, other angry memories. When you're happy, other happy memories. This explains why arguments can so easily descend into a long list of past offenses.

Teach your children and teens this concept. Let them know that when it seems like the end of the world, it's only the brain being unable to access memories from a different emotional state. If they wait a while and keep perspective, they will bounce back into a happier place again.

Paradox #1 from our upcoming eBook, "Journey through Paradox". Coming soon!
Factors that foster resilience include:
  • Relationships that offer care, support, and encouragement
  • Relationships that create love and trust
  • Self-confidence
  • Positive self image
  • Communication skills
  • The ability to manage strong feelings and impulses

 

This is the essence of resilience.
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Don't Redefine Marriage. Vote AGAINST Question 6.

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Sent: Thursday, November 01, 2012 2:22 PM
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Subject: Don't Redefine Marriage. Vote AGAINST Question 6.

Don't Redefine Marriage. Vote AGAINST Question 6.

 

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November 6, Election Day, is only a few days away.

Due to Hurricane Sandy, Governor O'Malley has extended early voting for Marylanders.  You may now vote early today (November 1) and tomorrow (November 2) from 8:00 am - 9:00 pm. For more details, visit the State Board of Elections.

To the hundreds if not thousands of you who have volunteered to uphold marriage and defeat Question 6 - getting signatures during the petition drive, making phone calls at a phone bank or signing up to work at a poll on Election Day - thank you.

To all: Please don't redefine marriage.  Vote AGAINST Question 6. Why?

It is not necessary to redefine marriage in order to provide rights and benefits to other couples.  Many of the rights and benefits sought by those who want to redefine marriage are already available to domestic partners in Maryland, such as:

  • Hospital visitation
  • Health care decision making
  • Exemption from state inheritance taxes and from recordation taxes
  • Health insurance coverage and life insurance coverage
  • End-of-life decisions
  • Organ donation priority
  • Nursing home room sharing
  • Funeral arrangements
  • Government employee health benefits
  • And more

If is not discrimination to believe that marriage is to be between a man and a woman.  We all know and love family members, friends and colleagues who are gay, but reserving marriage for one man and one woman recognizes the uniqueness of that relationship above all other relationships.

Marriage between one man and one woman has been recognized by both government and religion throughout time and across cultures because it is the only relationship capable of bringing children into the world and providing them with the love of a mother and a father.

Don't be fooled into thinking we can redefine marriage and protect religious freedom.  We've seen it too many times already - if marriage is redefined, churches, religiously affiliated institutions, private businesses and individuals will be exposed to lawsuits and harassment just for expressing their religious beliefs about marriage.

And don't take the Question 6 ballot language at face value. What the new law redefining marriage pretends to offer as religious protections, it then takes away in language that has not been included in what you will read at the polls.

According to the actual legislation, religious organizations that accept state or federal funds are excluded from certain religious liberty protections if they partner with the government to provide services to the community.

For more information and to view videos against redefining marriage, please visit our marriage page.

Again, thank you for all you have done and for your prayers.  Please get out and vote Tuesday - and vote AGAINST Question 6.

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Job Opening: Utah TANF Director

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Our state TANF program manager is retiring in December.  The position is open.  Please share with your networks or those who might be interested.
 
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National Center for Family & Marriage Research News and Notes - October 2012

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October 2012 

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Welcome

 

The National Center for Family & Marriage Research (NCFMR), established in 2007 at Bowling Green State University (BGSU), welcomes you to our monthly electronic newsletter News and Notes. 

 

News and Notes aims to inform you about the activities of the NCFMR. We will update you on current research findings, announce research opportunities, and provide registration details for upcoming conferences and workshops.


Women's Employment Rates Highest
Among the Divorced

 

Over half (53%) of women in the U.S. are currently employed. Rates differ only slightly by marital status. Divorced women have the highest percentage employed at 61% followed closely by currently married and never married women at 57% and 56%, respectively. Only 17% of widowed women are employed.

 

 

Employment Rate for Women Aged 16 and Older
by Marital Status, 2010

Bar Graph
Source: U.S. Census Bureau, American Community Survey,
1-Year Estimates, 2010.

 

What's New at the NCFMR...
 

Family Profiles

Original reports summarizing and analyzing nationally representative data with the goal to provide the latest analysis of U.S. families.  

  

Working Paper Series
    

A series of working papers written by faculty affiliates, researchers, and advanced graduate students examining family structure topics of interest to family scholars, policy makers, and practitioners.  

  • Brian Powell, Lala Carr Steelman, and Oren Pizmony-Levy
  • J. Bart Stykes, Wendy D. Manning, and Susan L. Brown
  • Amanda Geller and Irwin Garfinkel
  • Laura Tach
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    For a full list of NCFMR in the News items and for media links to each item, visit the NCFMR in the News webpage.

    • Unmarried Boomers More Vulnerable
  • Divorce in Later Life
  • Same-Sex Household Dynamics Sarah Burgoyne
  • Just Released
    • Census Bureau 2009-2011 American Community Survey Estimates 
  • National Health Statistics Reports
  • National Vital Statistics Reports
  • Princeton-Brookings Future of Children 2012 Fall Journal 
  • RAND Report on Military Deployments and Divorce
  • The Society for Research in Child Development (SRCD)

  • Upcoming Events 

     

     

    November 2012 

     

    Theory Construction and Research Methodology (TCRM) Workshop

    Dates: November 1-2

    Link to NCFR 

     

    Call for Proposals -- The Foundation for Child Development: Changing Faces of America's Children Young Scholars Program

    Date Due: November 1

    Link to Foundation for Child Development 

     

    Call for Papers -- The Journals of Gerontology, Series B: Psychological Sciences and Social Sciences
    Widows and Bereavement
    Date Due: November 1

    Call for Abstracts -- Centre for Research on Families and Relationships (CRFR)
    Innovations in Methods, Theory and Policy Relevance
    Due Date: November 2

    Eighth Biennial Meeting -- Society for the Study of Human Development
    (SSHD)
    Rethinking Developmental Science Across the Lifespan/Life Course: Theory, Methods, and Applications
    Dates: November 3-5
    Call for Proposals -- Annual Welfare Research and Evaluation Conference

    Date Due: November 9

    Link to WREC 2013 

     

    Postdoctoral Fellowships -- Harvard Center for Population Studies

    Date Due: November 30 

    • The David E. Bell Fellowship
  • The Mortimer Spiegelman Postdoctoral Fellowship in Demographic Studies
  • Call for Proposals -- Groves Conference for Marriage and Families, 2013

    "And Justice for All," Families and the Criminal Justice System

    Date Due: November 30

    Link to NCFR 

     

     

    December 2012

     

    Call for Papers -- Special Issue of Family Relations

    Families and Disabilities

    Date Due: December 14

    Link to NCFR 

     

    Request for Proposals -- The Stanford Center on Poverty and Inequality (CPI)

    Poverty, Inequality, & Mobility Among Hispanics

    Date Due: December 15 

    Link to CPI 

     

    Call for Submissions -- NCFR Report

    Families and Spirituality

    Date Due: December 21

     

     

    January 2013

     

    Call for Papers -- American Sociological Association (ASA) 

    2013 Interrogating Inequality: Linking Micro and Macro

    Date Due: January 9

    Link to ASA 

     

    Call for Papers -- Contemporary Perspectives in Family Research

    Visions of the 21st Century Family: Transforming Structures and Identities

    Date Due: January 10 

    Direct questions to the editors at...

    pnclaster@edinboro.edu 

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    Call for Applications -- Population Council 

    Fred H. Bixby Fellowships 

    Date Due: January 31

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    What is the best way to apologize?

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    Learn how to apologize

    Apologizing is one of the key skills necessary for a successful relationship. We all make mistakes and need to get our relationship "back on track."   Knowing how to apologize in a way that is successful will make a difference in your relationship.  Take a look at "The Five Languages of Apology" developed by Gary Chapman.  Then talk with your partner to discover what works for them.  We wish you a great conversation and relationship.     -Carolyn

    Apology Language #1

    Expressing Regret:
    "I am sorry"

    List the hurtful effects of your action.  Show remorse.  It doesn't count if you are only sorry that you got caught.  Not "I am sorry if...", but "I am sorry that..."   

    Apology Language #2

    Accepting Responsibility:
    "I was wrong"

    Name your mistake and accept fault.  Note that it is easier to say "You are right" than "I am wrong", but the latter carries more weight.

    Apology Language #3

    Restitution- Making Amends:
    "What can I do to make it right?"

    How are they now?  Is any debt owed or repayment due? How shall I make amends to you?  How can I restore your confidence that I love you- even though I was hurtful to you?

    Apology Language #4

    Repentance:
    "I'll try not to do that again"

    Repentance- literally means turning around 180 degrees. Engage in problem solving.  Don't make excuses for yourself. Instead, offer what you will change.

    Apology Language #5

    Requesting Forgiveness:
    "Will you please forgive me?"

    Be patient in seeking forgiveness and reconciliation. Your apology may not be accepted, but you will know that you have offered a sincere olive branch of peace.

    These apology languages should help us bravely list all that we have done wrong, show our concern for them, and explain what will truly be different next time. In order to give the most successful apologies, ask your partner what he or she likes to hear in an apology and you will be able to give targeted apologies.
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    Call for Presenters - Better Marriages Conference 2013

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    Better Marriages Conference 2013
    Educating Couples - Building Relationships

     

    July 11-14, 2013
    Hilton North Raleigh/Midtown

    Raleigh, NC

    Deadline for applications: December 1, 2012

    • Move beyond simply marketing to other service providers. Meet and network with a new market: hundreds of couples from the U.S. and beyond who need and want what you have to offer         
    • For couples of all ages and stages of relationship and the professionals/educators that serve them (relationship coaches, therapists, developers of curricula, founders of programs, authors, relationship educators, clergy, lay leaders, fatherhood program providers, federal grantees, military personnel, etc.)        
    • Education for healthy marriages, responsible fathers, and strong families  
    • For Fatherhood and Healthy Relationship, Marriage and Family providers  
    • Pre-Conference Institutes and TOOB programs - offer training of your curricula or program for couples and professionals/educators    
    • Enroll in training and become certified to lead best-practices events and programs by nationally-known experts in the field of marriage education and marriage enrichment          
    • CEUs available
       
    Presenter Applications and     Registration now Available     

     

     

    Deadline for applications: December 1, 2012

     

    Applications for Exhibits, Advertising and Pre-Conference Institutes  

    available soon 


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    Benefits of Religion to individuals and civil society -- from the Marriage and Religion Research Institute

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    U.S.

    federal data make repeatedly clear that the practice of religion is a great public as well as private good. Worship’s benefits flow over to all the other major institutions of the nation: the family, education, the marketplace and income, and government. Worship’s rewards are visible, for example, in education and human capital development, sexual behavior, relational strength, psychological and physical well-being, and in a significant decrease in a variety of social ills.

     

    In 95 Social Science Reasons for Religious Worship and Practice, we address religion’s specific benefits for marriage and family, education, personal health, and culture in general.

     

    To read the full report, click here.

     

     

    Better Marriages Conference 2013 - Registration Now Open

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    Registration is Now Open
    Get in on the Early Bird Rate!


     
    Better Marriages Conference 2013
    Educating Couples - Building Relationships 

    July 11-14, 2013
    Hilton North Raleigh/Midtown

    Raleigh, NC

    Headliner: Gary Chapman, bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages and The Languages of Apology


    Participate in a city-wide Ultimate Date Night with
    Jay and Laura Laffoon

    The health and wellness website RealAge has ranked Raleigh-Durham No. 6 among its 10 best cities for a happy marriage.
    Join us and discover why!

    Join us in Raleigh and:
    • Grow closer as a couple
    • Leave saying, "If I had it to do all over again, I would still choose you!"  
    • Add relationship skills to your relational tool-kit that will ensure you have a strong, healthy, mutually-satisfying marriage  
    • Meet hundreds of couples from around the world who value their relationships  
    • Receive education for healthy marriages, responsible fathers, and strong families       
    • For couples of all ages and stages of relationship and the professionals/educators that serve them (relationship coaches, therapists, developers of curricula, founders of programs, relationship educators, clergy, lay leaders, fatherhood program providers, federal grantees)       
    • Pre-Conference Institutes and Teach-out-of-the-Box programs - become trained and certified to lead best-practices events and programs by nationally-known experts in the field of marriage education and marriage enrichment       
    • CEUs provided for professionals



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    Power and Control in Relationships | FTF eNews October Vol. 2

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    First Things First eNews
    October 2012    Volume 2 

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    FTF Classes


     Passionately Married*

    Bring "sexy" back to your marriage.

     

    November 1 & 8  

    (Thursdays)

    5:30 p.m. to 9:30 p.m.  

    New Covenant Church
    1326 N. Moore Road
    Chattanooga, TN 37411

    Click here to register 

     

    Dinner or Lunch provided by First Things First

     

    Visit firstthings.org for additional classes

     

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    A class for new and expectant fathers

     

    November 17  

    (Saturday)

    9:00 a.m. to Noon

    Erlanger Women's East

    1751 Gunbarrel Road

    Chattanooga, TN 37421

     

     

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    and Human Services,

    Administration for Children

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    FAMILIES ON THE RUN
    December 1

    SECRET KEEPER GIRL LIVE!
    January 26, 2013

    CELEBRATE MARRIAGE WITH DR. PAT LOVE
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    Power and Control in Relationships
    Dating violence is when one partner in a relationship tries to have power or control over the other partner. Research shows that one in three teens has experienced dating violence on some level.  The article below describes one college student's story and offers advice to get help.

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    Delight your family, friends, clients and employees with a delicious holiday gift of Betsy's Cheese Straws from Chattanooga Bakery. These premium gifts come wrapped and ready to go just in time for the holiday season. Thanks to the generosity of Betsy's, a portion of each purchase you make will support the life-changing work of First Things First. Individual orders can be picked up at First Things First.  Corporate, bulk or any orders outside the greater Chattanooga area will be shipped directly from Betsy's. 

    Beat the holiday rush and place your orders today!

    Families on the Run

    Holiday Fun for the Whole Family!
    It's time for the 8th annual Families on the Run on Saturday, December 1.  This holiday family event includes competitive 5K and 10K races, a non-competitive Kiddie K Fun Jog and the fun-for-all-ages Santa Stroll!  The course begins and ends at the Hunter Museum of American Art.  Registration includes race entry, a long-sleeved t-shirt, a goody bag and a delicious hot breakfast.  Enter as an individual, or as family or couple teams. Groups of 10 are encouraged to participate and receive a special rate!


      

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