10) Last Monday's New York Times cites The Future of Children as an Example ...
Increase union stability and father involvement in fragile families by building on and perhaps modifying marriage-education programs that have shown to be ...
blogs.princeton.edu/.../mondays-new-york-times-cites-the-futu...

And Helping Fragile Families
October 27, 9:00 am to 11:00 am

9) Marriage And Family Formation Among Low Income Couples: What Do We ...
The Challenges of Offering Relationship and Marriage Education to ... ... helpingunwed.pdf Dion, R. M ... fragile families and what do we know about them? ...
www.pdfchaser.com/.../Marriage-and-Family-Formation-Amo...

And Harry Benson’s paper

8)  MFS: Despite the fourfold increase in numbers of incarcerated ...
Voluntary relationship and marriage-education skills programs that aim .... and marriage education programming, but with a much lower level of funding and ...
https://www.appam.org/conferences/fall/.../4195.1.pdf

7) Marriage Lessons I Learned in Grad School (Part 1) | The Young ...
By Tara
I told you guys I was heading back to school to get a degree in Family Studies, which meant I would be spending my nights studying healthy families and strategies to make dysfunctional families whole again. I also said I'd share any ...
The Young Mommy Life - http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/

6) 15 Hard Truths About Divorce
Psychology Today (blog)
If your marital love was born out of a deep, abiding friendship, and your divorce rekindles that friendship, your children - and your own wellbeing - are ...

And How To Beat the Odds: Tips from the Very Married | Psych Central

5) Press Release: October 18, 2010 | National Responsible Fatherhood ...
U.S. Department of Health and Human Services' Administration for Children and Families, Office of Family Assistance, National Responsible Fatherhood ...
www.fatherhood.gov/about-us/press.../press-release-10182010

And http://fatherhoodchannel.com/2010/10/ and http://www.fatherhood.org/popsculture

And Videos Posted by EDSI: EDSI's Non-Custodial Program "Stepping Up ...
Please watch EDSI's video on our highly successful Non-Custodial Parent program in Pennsylvania: "Stepping Up to Fatherhood." ...
www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=122256217828676

And Foundation For Male Studies April 6 Conference To Focus on Deteriorating ...
San Francisco Chronicle
... PhD, Professor of Psychology at Florida International University, who will speak on the need for a national policy on fatherhood; Michael Gilbert, ...

4) http://www.suite101.com/content/the-importance-of-a-healthy-marriage-for-family-a161994

And The Iona Institute | 20 Oct 10 Limerick city's sky-high rate of ...
... outside of marriage even though it emphatically does matter. The need for a big , national pro-marriage education campaign has never been more obvious. ...

3) These 3 Minutes Can Change Your Marriage
HealthNewsDigest.com
For couples feeling overwhelmed with their marriage, this research is encouraging. After all, you don't have to do a total marriage make-over. ...

And 21 Ways to Say
'I Love You'
Forget flowers, try one of
these fun, thoughtful tips
real couples swear by.

2) MFCC Resource Guides at the following link:  http://deploymentpsych.org/resources/marriage-family

And thinkmarriage.org Online Store
Digital Marriage Education Checklist Click picture to open in separate window. Digital Marriage Education Checklist Click to enlarge ...

And October 27, 2010: Every Marriage Can Thrive! (Dr. Gary Smalley; Ted Cunningham) 2-3pm (EDT)

http://www.focusonlinecommunities.com/community/webcasts

1) Pinch yourself: SF Giants are in the World Series Read more: http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2010/10/25/SPC61G1D4T.DTL#ixzz13NrzqDXk

And I’ve been a fan since they were the NY Giants. Speaking of NY (hi Barbara, Joyce, et. al.,) http://www.nytimes.com/nyregion/nyregionspecial/

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org

Made my day!

Hey all,

I’m just back from a wedding downstairs in FE… and thought I would tell you about a special moment (accompanied by pictures).

First a little background….as most of you are aware, we decided awhile back to hold weddings for our couples downstairs on Friday mornings, as many of them were getting married at the courthouse, and or, they were overwhelmed at the cost of getting a nice place to have a wedding.  For us, it’s a time of celebration to reenergize our team that deals with the hard realities of many of our families lives all week, our way of collectively helping couples to make a public declaration of their commitment to one another, and a way for us to help some of our couples achieve their dreams to be married with dignity.  Of course couples can invite family and friends if they chose and it’s always nice to see that some of them have this kind of support.

So today.  The couple actually knew each other from high school.  He was crazy about her but she had other interests.  She has gone on to have other children before they got together but their FE child is a first for him.  They are very committed to each other and are working through all kinds of issues with the support of their FSC… I had a chance to talk to the FSC actually and she was so very proud of all they have accomplished and how they work together as a team to face more than most of us could imagine. They still have challenges to address, which we are helping them with, so today was not a day where we forgot that is still true, but it was a celebration of their commitment to address challenges together…to have a shared view of their future and their children’s future.

This couple, unlike most, had a lot of family here.  What a fun thing to see their children, and cousins all lined up down the table eating wedding cake.  (see attached photo). One of their children, the next to the youngest, was so darling I couldn’t stop talking pics of her (sharing one with you/see attached).   I know there is no way to share with you  all the specialness of these moments that we bump into every day, but I want to keep trying.

So here’s my moment for today.  I was sitting talking with the children at the table while they were eating cake…and I said, who knows the bride. A couple of them said at the same time, “she’s my mom”.  Really, I said, that’s great.  And one of them said, “yeah, my mom and dad love each other so they are getting married.”  Okay now envision about four other heads bobbling up and down in agreement. Wow.   It was a little thing that is such a big thing. What  a very different childhood memory this day was and what a big difference it just may make in their futures. Somehow I’m certain it wouldn’t have been quite the same at the courthouse, or if it had never happened at all.  Today was another family forming experience done well.

Anyway, special day.  We saw a mom and dad get married because they love each other, but equally important, we saw it matter to their children.

Have a great weekend.

Mary

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10) No Wedding, No Womb...No Future? - BCNN1
Recognizing that more than speeches are necessary for increasing awareness around single parenthood, Obama recently created the White House Fatherhood and ...

And http://www.futureofchildren.org/

9) 'Culture of Poverty,' once an academic slur, makes comeback
Honolulu Star-Advertiser
President Barack Obama, who was abandoned by his father, has repeatedly talked about “responsible fatherhood.” Conservatives also deserve credit, ...

And The "culture of poverty" myth returns

Salon - Alyssa Battistoni - ‎1 hour ago‎

The New York Times caused a stir earlier this week with its assertion that the "culture of poverty" theory of urban decline is back in ...

And 'Culture of poverty' begins at home

The Collegian - Anna Jacobsen - ‎7 hours ago‎

Learning about issues that affect our society is one of the most important aspects of the ...

And A Culture of Poverty
http://www.theatlantic.com/personal/archive/2010/10/a-culture-of-poverty/64854/

8) In a continued effort to show leadership in the call of President Obama's June address to raise the issue of Responsible Fathers and Mentoring; Fathers Incorporated has proclaimed 2011: THE YEAR OF RESPONSIBLE MEN. It is our goal to inspire the nation to engage in a year-long engagement, celebration and encouragement of responsible men. We are clear about two things. 1) Fatherlessness is one of the more devastating social ills of low income, underserved and disadvantage communities; and 2) because of it, these communities lack the presence of responsible mentors to fill the gap left by father absenteeism. As a result, children are left unprotected and vulnerable; single mothers are left with the added burden of raising children alone.

And http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=124092252

And Conference set for Friday and Saturday, Oct. 22 & 23, to focus on keeping ...
WHAS 11.com (subscription)
by Christine Wright (WHAS11) The Two-not-One Fatherhood Conference is set for Friday, Oct. 22 at Hotel Louisville and it's all about keeping families ...

And Ruckus - National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse
Call 877-4DAD411 or visit www.fatherhood.gov Disclaimer: brought to you by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, and the Ad Council. ...
www.fatherhood.gov/media/365

And http://womeninfatherhood.org/main/

7) to Print - www.ojjdp.gov
“Family Strengthening Approaches for the Prevention of Youth Problem Behaviors.” American Psychologist 58(6/7):457–65. Kumpfer, Karol L., Rose Alvarado, ...

And LiveClicks™ Full-Day Webinars | Introduction to The 7 Habits of ...
The 7 Habits of Successful Families workshop series is an engaging, family- strengthening program based on Stephen R. Covey's No. 1 bestsellers The 7 Habits ...
www.franklincovey.com/.../introduction-to-the-7-habits-of-hi...

And UCS teacher pens first book
Shelby Township Source Newspapers
Utica Community Schools teacher Darrin Millar recently released the book "Daddy Can You," a tale of fatherhood dedicated to his daughters, Emily, ...

6) State's lower teen-pregnancy rate doesn't tell whole story
Seattle Times
Washington state's teen birthrate overall is lower than the national average, according to a new report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, ...
See all stories on this topic »

5) The first cohort of Tribal Maternal, Infant, and Early Childhood Home Visiting Program grantees were awarded on September 28, 2010. http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/ccb/initiatives/hvgp/hvgp_grantees.htm

4) Love means having to say you're sorry
Jerusalem Post
Marital therapists report that authentic apology is a very important feature of a healthy marriage. Psychologists have reported that there are differences ...

3) Golden Rule key to healthy marriage
At every wedding, I wonder how the happy couple could ever end up divorced. The pastor speaks so eloquently about love and commitment.
www.daytondailynews.com/.../golden-rule-key-to-healthy-mar...

2) http://www.wrconference.net/index.aspx

The deadline for proposals has been extended to Friday, November 19, 2010

1)

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org

10) Ten Ways to Have a Really Great Marriage

And http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/daily_living/keeping_romance_alive/ten_secrets_to_a_successful_marriage.aspx

And http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainstorm/201010/10-hard-truths-about-marriage

9) Sociologists bring themselves to notice the obvious
Milwaukee Journal Sentinel (blog)
... in statements and reports to the nation that examine child and social well-being related to marriage, fatherhood, motherhood, and civil society. ...

And http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/250198/liberals-reexamining-culture-poverty-guess-again-robert-rector

8) The Beneficial Effects of Marriage - Laura's Strengthening ...
By Laura M. Brotherson
Marriage research is, of course, social science research, and even with the best methodological studies, (Glenn, 2001, pp. 44-45) research is clearly limited: obviously, no one is randomly assigning couples to marry and there are ...

And PREP Workshop Leaders
... state of Oklahoma and has paid close attention to the geographic distribution of
these leaders so that all citizens have access to marriage education workshops ...

And

7) 7 Things Your Marriage Needs That Money Can’t Buy http://www.engagedmarriage.com/

And The long, hard slog to value fatherhood
While motherhood might be the world's toughest job, fatherhood isn't far behind. Like all tough jobs, the end result is well worth it. ...

And http://www.parentdish.com/2010/10/19/heed-thee-the-words-of-tom-selleck-quit-being-a-jerk-wad-of-a-f/

And Loving support is what matters to those fighting cancer

And Helping men with the trauma of miscarriage.

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6) Listening Sessions Conducted by the Federal Interagency Working Group on Youth Programs
What is the single most important thing we can do to make a difference in the lives of youth? What are effective programs, strategies, and initiatives to improve youth outcomes? Are there program or policy gaps? What are the barriers to improving youth outcomes and how can these barriers be removed? Share your ideas on improving youth outcomes! Sessions are in the following cities: Denver, CO (October 19); Seattle, WA (October 19); New York, NY (October 26); Boston, MA (November 12); Orlando, FL (November 16); Houston, TX (November 18); Washington, DC (December 2). To register, click on the link below, or call 1-877-231-7843. If you can’t attend a listening session, you can share your ideas through the website, by visiting the link below and clicking on “Provide Your Input” in the box marked “Strategic Plan for Youth.” www.FindYouthInfo.gov 

And one of the programs at our CFC kickoff this morning was http://wjacademy.org

And http://familyscholars.org/2010/10/20/preliminary-2008-state-specific-teen-birth-data/

5) http://www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/in.america/black.in.america/

And The New Marriage Gap: Does Education Predict Conjugal Success?
Huffington Post (blog)
Perhaps most importantly, college graduates are more likely to be financially stable within those unions and less likely to divorce. ...

And Young Couples Know Each Other Best
The Fatherhood Channel
Fortunately, many relationship and marriage education classes that deliver evidence-based skills for improving communication, deepening empathy, ...

4) WashingtonWatch.com - Earmark Disclosure 71970, Healthy Marriage ...
US Congress: Earmark Disclosure 71970, Healthy Marriage Demonstration Project.

And Marriage Education's Roadmap for Relationships - Peter Casier ...
Marriage Education's Roadmap for Relationships - http://humanitariannews.org/ 2010101... 2 hours ago from Humanitarian News blogs - Comment - Like - Share ...

3) Stronger Families LIVE: Restored & Remarried

Thurs., Oct 21^st, 2010 from 7-8pm PST

 REGISTER NOW! The Live Broadcast is FREE (donations welcome).

And Asia PR Werkz to promote healthy marriages for NFC in Singapore ...
Asia PR Werkz to promote healthy marriages for NFC in Singapore. Cho Pei Lin, director, Asia PR Werkz. The local agency will develop a public relations ...

2) Power of Two So what are the areas you two have learned to "love your differences?"

And Thanksgiving Family Survival Guide, Part One    Thanksgiving Family Survival Guide, Part Two

http://fatherhoodchannel.com/2010/10/21/thanksgiving-family-survival-guide-part-three-021/

And http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/10/the-art-of-being-happily-married-part-2/

1) There is still time to register for this year's third annual conference on Sexuality, Integrity, and the University, to be held at Princeton University on November 12-13, 2010. The conference will feature sessions on family as the foundation for society, the meaning and value of marriage, restoring dignity to femininity and masculinity in today's culture, and how to be advocates for marriage, family, and sexual integrity on your campus, with a joint keynote address on the role of friendship in the hookup culture and marriage formation. The deadline to register is November 1st so visit our website and sign up now!

And HM Links & Clips (10/18/10) #127 - Coffin Corner
Marriage Education is increasingly touching the lives of greater numbers of ... Marriage education is helping men learn to support their wives through ...

And How New England Are You? (Hi Josie and Marilyn and Mary Ann, et.al..  Which link and/or clip would you like to forward to others in Region 1? Some regions forward the entire email.)

GO SF Giants!

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org

10) http://www.familyminute.com/article/10-ways-to-push-your-spouse-away

9) http://www.kansascity.com/2010/10/14/2314381/becoming-parents-programtm-curriculum.html

8) GAO: Defense domestic violence tracking remains flawed
By Norah Swanson

Audit finds the Pentagon's system for collecting data on abuse in military families hinders department's ability to analyze trends.

Full story: http://www.govexec.com/story_page.cfm?articleid=46335&dcn=e_gvet

And SAMHSA Seeking Stakeholder Feedback on Strategic Initiatives SAMHSA's recently-released plan Leading Change: A Plan for SAMHSA's Roles and Actions 2011 - 2014 builds on 8 strategic initiatives to focus the Agency's work. In conjunction with the Plan's release, SAMHSA is seeking comment on the initiatives in their ongoing efforts to increase public engagement, collaboration, and participation. The online forum is open for feedback and suggestions until October 22, 2010 at 5 p.m. EST. Access the online forum

7) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1321700/Lost-intimacy-driving-50s-divorce.html?printingPage=true

And http://www.marriagevine.com/events/

6)

 And HOW TO BE A DAD: Website launched for men to face first-time ...
HOW TO BE A DAD: Website launched for men to face first-time fatherhood...together. A unique new website and advice portal has been launched this week, with the specific aim of preparing, and supporting men through what will be the most ...

5) Blacks & Marriage! « WBAV – 101.9
By kla411
Is marriage dead? Are educated black women unrealistic? Is marriage a negotiation? Charlotte's Best Variety of Hits & Oldies.

And http://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Not-Enough-Moynihan-Life/dp/0465013570

4) 2010-09-FF "Family Structure Transitions and Changes in Maternal Resources and Well-Being" by Cynthia Osborne, Lawrence Berger and Katherine Magnuson

And Not our grantee but interesting none the less Marriage Retreat « ¿Qué Pasa @ ICC?
By Darcy
The teaching topics centered on the ingredients for a healthy marriage, with a special emphasis on sacrifice, communication and intimacy.

And American Heart Association revises CPR guidelines ...

The American Heart Association issued new guidelines Monday for CPR, making rapid chest compressions the mainstay. ...

3) Decoding Commitment: When Sally met Harry and http://www.jefftalks.com/2010/spouse/humor-in-marriage/

2) Love and the litmus test, Take 2: Have dating deal-breakers changed in 28 years? One...

And

1) Learn more about Ethnographic Video Online here.

And 'Culture of Poverty' Makes a Comeback
By PATRICIA COHEN
Decades after Daniel Patrick Moynihan, scholars are conceding culture and persistent poverty are enmeshed. (Over 370+ comments as of this morning--BC)

(A link to this article was provided in #10 yesterday)

And Reconsidering Culture and Poverty in the May 2010 issue of The ANNALS and The Moynihan Report Revisited (Jan 2009)-both available online now!

Bill Coffin

Special Assistant for Marriage Education

ACF/HHS

370 L’Enfant Promenade, SW Washington, DC  20447

(202)260-1550(o);

Bill.Coffin@acf.hhs.gov

…We, Government Leaders, invite colleagues and citizens from every political party to engage in renewed

efforts to pursue laws and public policies that promote the well-being of marriages and families…(Excerpt from http://www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp/proclamation/)

A Guide to Low-Cost Curricula and Resources: Marriage and Relationship, Fatherhood and Parenting,
and Financial Education available at http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/curricula_resources_guide_121509.pdf

 http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage 

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/doc/ACF_Curriculum_Assessment_Guide.doc

http://learning.hhs.gov/elearning/cop.asp

Why Marriage Matters, 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences

#1 Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with their children.

#26 A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk for child abuse.

http://center.americanvalues.org/?p=7

For previous editions of HM Links & Clips see http://billcoffin.org